Name: 誰渴望最偉大的愛？（答案出乎你意料！） (Who Dreams of the Greatest Love? (it's not who you expect))
Uploaded: 2026-03-04T16:48:15.000Z
Duration: 4 min 25 s

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It's natural to imagine that those who expect most from love, those who dream most intensely of one day alighting on, as it were, a prince or a princess who will answer all their needs, must also be those who've already enjoyed the most promising experiences of relationships.

我們很自然地會想像，那些對愛情抱有最高期望、最熱切夢想著有一天能遇見能滿足他們所有需求的王子或公主的人，一定也曾經歷過最有希望的關係。

情態助動詞 B1

Idealism must, we suppose, be the fruit of a pre existing surplus of very satisfying moments.

我們猜想，理想主義一定是源自於先前累積了許多非常令人滿意的時刻。

The greatest idealists in love are not, as we might think, those who've had the most blessed passage through their love lives.

最偉大的愛情理想主義者，並非如我們所想，是那些在愛情路上最順遂的人。

It's precisely those who've been most starved of affection, who have often been most lonely, who go on to expect most of other people.

反而是那些最渴望情感、最常感到孤獨的人，反而對別人抱持著最高的期望。

Deprive someone of love at the start, and

如果一開始就剝奪某個人的愛，

you will generate an adult who wants only the greatest love, the highest love, the most perfect love.

你就會培養出一個只想要最偉大、最高尚、最完美的愛的成人。

You will breed an idealist, which also means someone who finds most relationships, probably all those they've had until now, disappointing.

你會培養出一個理想主義者，這也意味著他們會覺得大多數的關係，大概是他們到目前為止的所有關係，都令人失望。

Someone very inclined to leave partnerships in search of something better and higher, closer and deeper.

一個非常傾向於離開伴侶關係，去尋找更好、更高、更親近、更深入的東西的人。

Cut someone off from love and you breed not someone who will be grateful for whatever comes their way, but

剝奪某個人的愛，你培養出來的不是一個會對任何來到他們身邊的事物心存感激的人，而是

someone who threatens never to be content with what earthly existence can provide.

一個威脅說永遠不會對現世的生存所能提供的感到滿足的人。

Imagine a lonely boy growing up isolated in a tall apartment building in a large city.

想像一個孤獨的男孩，在一個大城市的がっしりした公寓裡長大，與世隔絕。

His parents are absent, mocking and punitive.

他的父母缺席，嘲笑和懲罰他。

Back from school, he often gazes out of the window at a threadbare park below.

放學回家後，他經常從窗戶望著下面一個破舊的公園。

Somewhere out there, away from the bullies and the jocks, is a friend.

在外面某個地方，遠離了霸凌者和運動員，有一個朋友。

Not just a casual friend, not just any old friend, but a very perfect friend.

不是一個普通的朋友，不是任何一個老朋友，而是一個非常完美的朋友。

They want to play the same games all the time.

They feel all the same losses, all the same sadness.

他們感受一樣的失落，一樣的悲傷。

Later on, the dream shifts to relationships.

Somewhere in the vast new university, there is the perfect person.

在廣闊的新大學裡，有著那個完美的人。

Blue eyes, ringlets in her hair, tenderness, kindness.

藍色的眼睛，捲捲的頭髮，溫柔，善良。

There is simply laughter, communion and gentleness.

The great idealists are those who have, for the longest time, had no one to play with.

偉大的理想主義者，就是那些很長一段時間，都沒有人可以一起玩的人。

In turn, tragically, idealism becomes its own prison.

結果，理想主義反而成了自己的牢籠。

One has no time for what is there and is half good.

沒有時間去欣賞眼前、已經很不錯的事物。

Because one has been deprived, one can't forgive, one can't tolerate the compromise, whatever lip service one might pay to it.

因為被剝奪了，所以無法原諒，無法容忍妥協，即使嘴上說得再好聽。

One keeps the dream alive in secret, as one had to in childhood.

像小時候一樣，只能偷偷地維持著夢想。

That's why one rejects the slightly overweight person who is distinctly sweet, the slightly irritating person, who is nevertheless bright, the one who doesn't get everything but does understand a few things.

這就是為什麼會拒絕那個有點胖但非常可愛的人，那個有點煩人但卻很聰明的人，那個不是什麼都懂但卻能理解一些事情的人。

Why aren't there enough crisps in the larder?

為什麼儲藏室裡的洋芋片不夠？

There are many flies indeed in the ointment.

When one's been starving, one doesn't fantasize about a sandwich.

當一個人快餓死了，他不會幻想一個三明治。

The answer to all this is simple enough to sketch, to loosen one's grip on the dream of a flawless being.

這一切的答案很簡單，簡單到可以畫出來，可以讓我們鬆開對完美存在的夢想。

Not because one has to or it's entirely silly, but

並不是因為非得如此，或是完全很傻，

because one understands where the dreams came from and that they just aren't overly helpful.

而是因為我們明白夢想從何而來，而且它們其實沒什麼太大的幫助。

They were what one's young mind invented to stop one going crazy from loneliness.

是我們年輕的心靈為了不再因孤獨而瘋掉所發明的。

But now one can realize that one doesn't need this adaptation.

但現在我們可以體認到，我們不需要這種適應。

One's an adult, someone who can deal with imperfection in oneself too.

我們是成年人了，是個能處理自己不完美的人。

Someone who knows how to laugh at the gap between hopes and reality.

是個知道如何嘲笑希望與現實之間差距的人。

So what if they're always a bit late and don't always understand?

所以，就算他們總是遲到，也不總是理解，那又怎樣？

One can develop into someone who has the inner resourcefulness to cope with the half crappiness of most things and most people.

我們可以成長為一個擁有內在資源來應對大多數事物和大多數人半吊子狀況的人。

Someone who can love and be nourished by what is imperfect, that is, someone who can love on this earth.

一個能夠去愛，並從不完美中汲取養分的人，也就是說，一個能在這現世的生存中去愛的人。