Name: 習慣貶低自己？掌握這 5 個說話心法，讓你不再顯得毫無自信 (5 Speaking Traps That Make Smart People Look Insecure)
Uploaded: 2026-02-26T08:53:18.000Z
Duration: 14 min 33 s

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There are five communication traps that even the most intelligent people fall into without realizing.

有五種溝通陷阱，即使最聰明的人也會不知不覺地掉進去。

And these traps don't just make you look unprepared or unqualified, they make you look insecure.

這些陷阱不只讓你顯得準備不足或不夠格，還會讓你顯得沒自信。

Because even as a communication skills and public speaking expert for over the last decade, I still fall into these traps.

因為過去十年來，我一直是溝通技巧和公眾演講專家，但我自己也會掉進這些陷阱。

And if you don't become aware of these traps, you keep wondering why people overlook your ideas, why they interrupt you, and

如果你沒有意識到這些陷阱，你就會一直納悶為什麼別人會忽略你的想法、為什麼他們會打斷你，還有

why they only listen when someone else repeats the exact same point you've already made.

為什麼只有當別人重複你已經說過的相同觀點時，他們才會聽進去。

But imagine walking into a meeting, knowing exactly what habits quietly destroy your authority, and

但想像一下，走進會議時，你清楚知道哪些習慣正在悄悄摧毀你的權威，

then removing them so people instantly take you seriously.

然後將它們移除，讓人立刻認真看待你。

So in this video, I'm going to uncover five communication traps, the deeper reasons why you do it, why I used to do it, what it signals to others, and

所以在這支影片裡，我將揭露五種溝通陷阱，以及你為什麼會這樣做的深層原因、我過去為什麼會這樣做、這會向他人傳達什麼訊息，還有

this one is the hardest for smart people to see in themselves.

這個陷阱對聰明人來說，最難察覺。

Trap number one, the delivery blind spot.

第一個陷阱，就是表達的盲點。

Some of the most brilliant minds of our generation will remain completely invisible to the world.

我們這世代一些最聰明的頭腦，將會完全不為人知。

Because when they speak, 100% of their cognitive capacity goes into what they say, and

因為他們說話時，百分之百的認知能力都放在說什麼，

卻有百分之零放在他們實際怎麼說。

I mean, for the next 15 seconds, just have a listen to this clip of this brilliant physicist sharing something deeply profound.

接下來 15 秒，大家可以聽聽看這段影片，一位傑出的物理學家在分享非常深刻的見解。

So the last statement means what I've given you is only a hint of this fact.

所以最後這句話的意思是，我給你的只是一個關於這個事實的提示。

But deeper investigations from the starting point show that somehow the notion of what space and time is at short distances is quite different in string theory from what it is.

但是從起點進行更深入的研究顯示，在短距離下，空間和時間的概念在弦論中，不知何故與我們所知的有所不同。

Did you also struggle to get through that?

They were so focused on the content, what they were saying, and

他們太專注在內容、他們說了什麼，

they were paying no attention to their delivery, how they were saying it.

卻完全沒注意到他們的表達方式、他們是怎麼說的。

And that is what causes a lot of smart people to lose authority, the reason why they stay invisible, because they haven't learned the art of engagement, the art of effective communication.

這就是讓很多聰明人失去權威的原因，讓他們保持隱形的原因，因為他們沒有學會互動的藝術、有效溝通的藝術。

And this is the fascinating reason why most people don't focus on their delivery.

這就是大多數人都不專注於自己表達方式的迷人原因。

Many people grew up their entire lives being rewarded for their expertise, for their technical knowledge and for their skills, not their communication.

很多人從小到大，一直因為他們的專業、他們的技術知識和他們的技能而受到獎勵，而不是因為他們的溝通能力。

讓這句話在你心裡好好沉澱一下。

At school, at university, even early in your career, you were graded on technical knowledge and technical ability, not delivery, not communication.

在學校、大學，甚至職涯初期，你都是因為專業知識和技術能力被評分，而不是因為表達能力、溝通能力。

So you subconsciously develop this belief.

所以你潛意識裡就會產生一個信念。

If the idea is good enough, delivery shouldn't matter.

「只要我的想法夠好，表達方式就不重要。」

Because if you don't focus on delivery when you speak, they're going to think you don't believe in what you say.

因為如果你講話時不注重表達方式，大家就會覺得你對自己說的話沒信心。

Even if you do, they'll think you're boring, even if you think you're not.

就算你很有信心，大家還是會覺得你很無聊，就算你自己不這麼認為。

And they'll feel as if you're not confident in what you're saying.

而且大家會覺得你說話時沒自信。

With your technical skills, you're a genius.

你的技術能力，你就是個天才。

But if your communication skills are a three out of 10, people will find it hard to listen to you.

但如果你的溝通技巧只有10分之3，大家會聽不下去。

Remember that initial physicist that I showed you from before?

還記得我之前給你看的那位物理學家嗎？

The one that was a little boring who didn't focus on delivery.

就是那位有點無聊、不注重表達方式的。

Now I want you to watch a physicist like Neil Degrasse Tyson, who's an incredible expert, but

現在我要你看看像 Neil Degrasse Tyson 這樣的物理學家，他是一位很棒的專家，但是

In textbooks, they have to fit the moon on the same page as the Earth.

在課本裡，他們必須把月亮放在跟地球同一頁。

So you think moon is much closer than it actually is.

所以你會覺得月亮比實際距離近很多。

If you drew earth as a natural 3 inch size circle on a textbook page, the moon would have to be several pages back from that.

如果你在課本頁面上把地球畫成一個自然的 3 英吋圓圈，月亮就得在好幾頁之後。

And wasn't that much more easy to listen to?

50% of your time goes into you focusing on the words.

你 50% 的時間要專注在講的內容上。

And then the other 50% you need to focus on your delivery.

然後另外 50% 要專注在你的表達方式上。

And the easiest way to do this is by using the vocal, visual and verbal framework.

而最簡單的方法就是運用聲音、視覺和口語的架構。

When you're talking about something serious, speak with a lower pitch.

當你講嚴肅的事情時，語氣要放低一點。

But when you want to convey passion, speak with a higher pitch.

但如果你想傳達熱情，語氣就要提高。

這樣聲音的變化會讓大家更投入。

Now visually match your facial expressions to the tone of your words.

現在，在視覺上，讓你的臉部表情配合你說話的語氣。

If you're talking about something fascinating, show that fascinated look on your face and verbally simplify your words.

如果你說的是很吸引人的事，臉上就要露出那種著迷的表情，並且用簡單的語言來表達。

Stop using complex jargon to try to sound smart.

別再用複雜的術語來試圖讓自己聽起來很聰明。

這是一個很大的不安全感訊號。

This is just the generic list of behaviors that you can apply to your communication immediately.

這只是一個通用的行為清單，你可以立刻應用到你的溝通上。

But if you want a more personalized list of behaviors that's specific to your communication style, I created a free three part video series that's going to help you identify those specific behaviors that are specific to you, that you can use and apply to yourself to improve.

但如果你想要一份更個人化、針對你溝通風格的行為清單，我製作了一個免費的三部曲影片系列，會幫助你找出那些專屬於你的、可以應用來改善自己的特定行為。

And if you want access to that, just click the link in the description below or check out the QR code.

如果你想取得那個，點擊下方的連結或掃描QR Code就可以了。

Trap number two, the imposter disclaimer.

第二個陷阱，冒牌者免責聲明。

This trap shows up when people start their sentences like this.

這個陷阱會在人們這樣開頭時出現。

I'm not the best person to answer this, but.

我不是最適合回答這個問題的人，但是。

或是他們會說，這聽起來可能有點笨，但是。

I haven't really thought this through, but this is you disqualifying yourself even before you speak.

我還沒真正仔細想過，但是這等於是你還沒開口就先否定自己。

When you use it in the wrong context, it sounds like this, I can't listen.

當你用錯情境講，聽起來就像這樣：我聽不下去。

I'm probably not the best bomb technician in the world.

我可能不是世界上最厲害的炸彈技術員。

I'm probably wrong with this one, but I'm just gonna go cut the red one.

這個我可能搞錯了，但我還是要去剪紅色的。

Did we unnecessarily buy a smoke machine just for this scene?

我們是不是為了這場戲，不必要地買了煙霧機？

那現在我們還在試圖合理化這件事嗎？

Okay, I know that's a very dramatic example, but I'm a dramatic kind of person.

好的，我知道這是一個很戲劇化的例子，但本人就是個戲劇化的人。

Now, obviously you're not defusing bombs in your job every day, but

當然，你們的工作日常不是在拆炸彈，

emotionally, it has the same impact when you pre disqualify yourself like that.

但當你這樣預先否定自己時，情緒上會有同樣的影響。

At the start of a meeting or before an idea, before a suggestion, people panic a little on the inside.

在會議開始前或提出一個想法、一個建議之前，大家心裡都會有點慌。

They think to themselves, wait, if you don't trust your answer, why should we?

他們心裡會想，等一下，如果你自己都不相信你的答案，那我們為什麼要相信？

And suddenly your idea loses credibility before it even leaves your mouth.

於是你的想法還沒說出口，就已經失去可信度了。

Now, why do some of the smartest people do this?

那為什麼有些最聰明的人會這樣做呢？

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