Name: 當你迷失人生目標時該怎麼辦？- Chris Bumstead (What to do When You’ve Lost Purpose in Life - Chris Bumstead)
Uploaded: 2026-02-06T10:35:55.000Z
Duration: 13 min 18 s

What would you say to anybody that's lost direction in life in the way that you have?

如果有人像你一樣對人生方向感到迷惘，你會跟他說 什麼？

I would say I'm still in the midst of it, but

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我相信這一切都會是為了更好的發展。

I knew when I was on it wasn't the best for me.

我知道當初走在那條路上時，對我來說並不是最好的。

So if I stayed on that path, it might not.

所以如果我繼續走下去，可能不會。

Might not be lost, but I'm not discovering anything else.

可能不會迷失，但我也不會發現任何新的東西。

And at least in being lost, you might discover something new that's better or different, but still good.

至少在迷失的時候，你可能會發現一些更好或不同的新事物，但仍然是好的。

你知道，「更好」這個詞是很主觀的。

I guess nothing will be like the Olympia, but things will be incredible in my life.

我猜大概沒有什麼能比得上奧林匹克運動會，但我的生活裡會有很棒的事情發生。

And I would say actively, like I said, the gym has been, like, the thing for me of when I'm lost, it's always there.

所以，我會說積極地，就像我說的，健身房一直是我迷失時的依靠，它總是在那裡。

So having a constant in your life, having something within your control, when things feel out of control, to just go do, just to give you that little postural upkeep, I think is so crucial.

所以，生活中擁有一個恆定的事物，擁有一個在你掌控中的事物，當事情感覺失控時，你可以去做，給你一點體態維持，我認為這非常重要。

And again, that's why, like, young kids were like, I don't know.

再次強調，這就是為什麼，像是，年輕的孩子們會說，我不知道。

Just go work out, go lift weights, Start there.

就去運動，去舉重，從那裡開始。

Obviously, you can't just get jacked, figured it out from.

很明顯，你不能只是練得健壯，然後就從那裡搞定一切。

But I think understanding that a lot of people don't feel lost their whole life, but

但我認為理解到很多人並不是一生都感到迷失，但是

they're just stuck in this, like, box until they're 70, and

他們只是被困在一個框框裡，直到七十歲，然後

他們會想：「我怎麼會在這裡？」

You know, because they had such a clearly defined path for them, and

你知道嗎，因為他們的人生有條非常明確的路，然後

也許那條路並不是他們真正想要的。

So being lost is an opportunity to stop and slow down and reflect.

所以迷失其實是一個停下來、慢下來、好好反思的機會。

And that's what I'm trying to use that for right now, being like, oh, it's time to do this, that, that, that.

這也是我現在正在做的，我會想說，哦，是時候做這個、做那個、做那個了。

It's like people are like, what are you going to do next?

就像大家會問：「你接下來要做什麼？」

我會說：「現在，什麼都不做。」

I'm not adding anything to my life because I'm trying to figure out what that is.

我沒有為我的人生增加任何東西，因為我正在試圖弄清楚那是什麼。

And it's okay to be lost right now, telling myself, it's okay to be lost right now.

現在迷失也沒關係，我告訴自己，現在迷失也沒關係。

Dear Christopher, it's okay to be lost right now.

親愛的 Christopher，現在迷失也沒關係。

It will get better, and you'll figure it out and just do what you can.

情況會好轉的，你會弄清楚的，盡力而為就好。

Learn who you are in the season of life, and just trust that whatever will come, will come.

在人生的這個階段認識自己，相信一切該來的都會來的。

Isn't it poetically ironic that the thing you walked away from was the Thing that you needed to give you structure after you'd walked away from it.

你當初離開的，竟然是你離開後所需要的結構，這不是很詩意又諷刺嗎？

The gym was the kind of the thing that I left behind.

健身房是我曾經放棄的那種東西。

And when I worked out what it was that I needed to do in order to get myself at least back in a good state of mind, it was go back to the gym again.

當我弄清楚我需要做什麼才能讓自己至少回到一個良好的心態時，就是再次回到健身房。

Everyone needs some kind of constant in their life.

每個人生命中都需要一些恆定的東西。

And the true cheat code is relationships.

Just the ability to be seen by someone else, I feel like, is such a cheat code for life.

我覺得，能夠被別人看見，這本身就是人生的超強祕訣。

If you're feeling lost, you feel alone, there's like the genuine the word lost.

如果你感到迷失，感到孤單，那種迷失的感覺真的很真實。

Would you rather be in a forest by yourself or with someone else who is lost with you?

你寧願獨自在森林裡，還是跟另一個和你一樣迷失的人一起？

And I feel like that being able to be with someone through hard times and understanding, it's like I'm dealing with all these issues of identity.

我覺得能夠和別人一起經歷困難時期並互相理解，就像我在處理所有這些身分認同的問題。

別人是因為這樣才喜歡我的嗎？

Is this going to still be a part of my life?

But when I go home, my wife doesn't treat me different.

但我回家時，我老婆對我的態度沒有改變。

She doesn't see me different, she just sees what I'm going through and loves me the exact same no matter what I'm doing externally, whatever success I have, it's like can't define it better than a cheat code for life.

她沒有看我不同，她只是看到我正在經歷的一切，並且愛我如初，不管我對外是什麼樣子，不管我有什麼成就，這就像是人生的祕訣。

There's no better confidence and ability to believe in yourself than when someone else says and when they see you no matter what, and

沒有什麼比別人說，而且他們看到你不管怎樣，都能讓你更有自信和相信自己的能力，

you feel safe to be whatever you need to be with them, whether you win, whether you lose, whether you stop, whether you keep going, yeah, I'm still am.

你覺得可以自在地做任何你想做的事，不管輸贏，不管停下或繼續，是的，我還是我。

Where does your self worth come from now?

你現在的自我價值感來自哪裡？

If there's challenges with sort of the structural side.

People don't care about me so much anymore.

Where do you think about self worth coming from post retirement?

你覺得退休後的自我價值感，是從哪裡來的呢？

I would say by genuinely knowing and believing that I'm living up to what my most important values are.

我會說，是透過真心瞭解並相信自己正活出我最重要的價值觀。

Like, for example, if I want to be a good father, if I know I'm showing up as being a good father, that's my value, that's within my control, then I feel good.

比如說，如果我想當個好爸爸，而我知道自己正展現好爸爸的樣子，那就是我的價值，那是我能控制的，我就會感覺很好。

But the difference of that is like Oh, I want my daughter to love me or be happy with me or whatever it might be.

但這跟「喔，我希望我女兒愛我、開心跟我在一起，或是任何其他情況」就不同了。

Something like that is out of your control in the moment.

那種事情在當下是你無法控制的。

And those are what I would worry for where if my daughter looked at me and she's like, I hate you, dad, which probably will inevitably happen at some point.

而這些，就是我會擔心的，像是如果我女兒看著我說「爸，我恨你」，這大概總有一天會發生。

And then my self worth is attached to her not hating me.

然後我的自我價值就繫於她不恨我。

So then I have a crumble and I believe it and then I act in a certain way rather than being able to dissociate with that and be like, what are my values?

這樣我就會崩潰，相信這件事，然後做出某些行為，而不是能夠抽離，然後說「我的價值觀是什麼？」

Yes, I know I have been being a good dad.

是的，我知道我一直以來都是個好爸爸。

My self worth is attached to her not saying she hates me.

我的自我價值繫於她不說她恨我。

And in believing in my character and who I'm being.

在於相信我的品格和我正在成為的樣子。

So when she says I hate you dad, I can not react to that and be able to be like, something's going on with her, what is she experiencing?

所以當她說「爸爸，我恨你」時，我不會對此做出反應，而是能像這樣說：「她現在發生了什麼事？她正在經歷什麼？」

And I don't have to have the selfish response of, well, I need to get her to love me now.

而我不必有那種自私的回應，像是「嗯，我現在得讓她愛我。」

It's like, no, she's hurting right now, let me be there for her.

就像是，「不，她現在很受傷，讓我陪在她身邊。」

And I feel like that is, I mean, that's the double cheat code of being a good dad and having controlled self worth.

我覺得那就是，我的意思是，這就是成為好爸爸和擁有受控的自我價值的雙重祕訣。

But learning to apply your values or learn what your values are and live by them in a way that they're within your control.

但是學習應用你的價值觀，或是瞭解你的價值觀是什麼，並活出它們，讓它們在你掌控之中。

Well, I mean, how wonderful it would be if people could do that in the Olympia.

嗯，我的意思是，如果在奧林匹克運動會上大家都能這樣做，那該有多好。

I didn't win this year, but I did my best.

我今年沒有贏，但我已經盡力了。

我已經豁出去了，我做了所有該做的。

Yeah, it seems like, I don't know, I'm trying to work out what the difference is between those two pursuits.

對啊，感覺就像，我不知道，我試著弄清楚這兩件事之間的差別是什麼。

成為好爸爸是一個過程，養育女兒。

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