Name: 如何真正提升自信心！ (How to actually gain self esteem)
Uploaded: 2025-12-29T17:12:56.000Z
Duration: 5 min 10 s

情態副詞

到底要怎麼做才能真正建立自尊呢？

Well, priority number one, become your own best friend.

嗯，第一優先，就是成為你自己的最佳損友。

If you're your own best friend, this will shift your mindset, give you confidence and empower you.

如果你成為自己的最佳損友，這會改變你的心態，給你信心，並賦予你力量。

And other people will subconsciously sense it.

And it'll start reflecting in every relationship in your life.

這會開始反映在你生活中的每一段關係裡。

What does being your own best friend look like in practice?

成為自己的最佳損友，實際執行起來是什麼樣子呢？

It means treating yourself like you would treat any of your friends.

這代表你要像對待任何一位朋友一樣對待自己。

Keeping promises, giving and having amicable self talk.

信守承諾，給予並擁有和睦的自我對話。

So keeping promises to yourself, it can be very basic, right?

所以，信守對自己的承諾，這可以是很基本的事情，對吧？

I'm gonna make sure I go to the gym consistently.

Cause I know I'll feel stressed, strong and confident and healthy.

因為我知道我會感覺到壓力減輕、強壯、有自信而且健康。

And the endorphins will help with my depression.

When I'm anxious, I'm gonna take myself for a walk.

當我感到焦慮時，我會帶自己去散步。

I'm gonna make sure that I eat enough because I know that when I get stressed out, that totally curbs my appetite.

我會確保我吃足夠的食物，因為我知道當我壓力大的時候，那會完全抑制我的食慾。

You can also start tackling more challenging promises.

你也可以開始挑戰更難的承諾。

Like, I'm gonna devote an hour a day to my passion project.

像是，我會每天投入一小時在我的熱情項目上。

I'm gonna take a class that I've always been afraid to try.

我會去上我一直不敢嘗試的課程。

I'm gonna put myself out there romantically, even though I know it means I have to be vulnerable and I'm potentially opening myself up to rejection and hurt.

我會試著在感情上敞開心扉，即使我知道這意味著我必須變得脆弱，而且我可能會是以面臨被拒絕和受傷。

Giving to yourself can also be a variety of things.

It can mean giving yourself a celebration for your success, giving yourself experiences you've always wanted to try, or just giving yourself a really nice lunch somewhere.

這可能意味著為你的成功給予自己一場慶祝，給予自己一直想嘗試的體驗，或者只是給自己一頓很棒的午餐。

It also means taking care of yourself in the simplest of ways, whether that's giving yourself a full night of sleep or giving yourself a gym membership to build a foundation of health.

這也意味著用最簡單的方式照顧自己，無論是給你一個完整的睡眠，還是給你一張健身房會員資格來建立健康的基礎。

Look, I know it's eye roll inducing, but like, this is the base layer of health.

聽著，我知道這聽起來有點老套，但這就是健康的基礎。

And the good news is self esteem can be built by the repetition of these very simple caring gestures.

好消息是，自尊可以透過這些非常簡單的關懷舉動不斷重複來建立。

Because you're communicating the message you're worth taking care of and that you have always got your own back and your best interests at heart.

因為你傳達了一個訊息：你值得被照顧，而且你永遠都會支持自己，並且以你的最佳利益為重。

Now, your self talk and your inner dialogue should be the way you would talk to your best friend.

現在，你的自我對話和內在的對話應該就像你跟你最好的朋友說話一樣。

I know a lot of us have a tendency to have overtly negative self talk, but

我知道我們很多人都有過度負面的自我對話的傾向，但是

Would you tolerate that kind of dialogue from an actual other person?

你會容忍別人這樣跟你說話嗎？

So when you talk to yourself, yes, lift yourself up, support yourself.

所以當你跟自己說話時，沒錯，要鼓勵自己，支持自己。

But you can also be real about where you can improve.

但你也可以誠實面對可以改進的地方。

You don't have to figure all this out right now, you've got time to gain self esteem.

你不需要現在就想通所有事情，你有時間建立自尊。

If you take action that leads to your own growth, whether that's emotional, intellectual, professional, you will have yourself to thank for it.

如果你採取了能讓你成長的行動，無論是情感上、智力上、專業上，你都會感謝自己。

Like, what things could you do today, right now that you would thank yourself for?

像是，你今天、現在可以做些什麼事，讓你感謝自己呢？

If you want to see someone who's fantastic at this, just look at this speech by Snoop Dogg.

如果你想看個很厲害的範例，看看 Snoop Dogg 的這段演講。

I want to thank me for doing all this hard work.

我要感謝自己做了這麼多努力。

I want to thank me for having no days off.

I want to thank me for always being a giver and trying to give more than I receive.

我要感謝我自己，因為我總是樂於付出，並且努力付出比我收穫的更多。

I want to thank me for trying to do more right than wrong.

我要感謝我自己，因為我努力做對的事情，而不是做錯的事情。

I want to thank me for just being me at all times.

我要感謝我自己，因為我始終如一地做我自己。

And the best way to grow is to just give yourself permission to become better, Detach from your ego and give yourself permission to just be bad.

而成長的最好方式，就是給自己一個變得更好的許可，放下你的自我，允許自己變得不完美。

Whatever it is that you personally want to improve.

無論是你個人想要改進的任何事情。

Whether it's a skill, your career, or just relational dynamics, allow yourself the freedom to not compare yourself to others, to not define yourself by your past and know that you're completely on your own journey.

無論是技能、事業，或是人際關係，都請允許自己自由地不與他人比較，不被過去定義，並且知道你完全走在自己的旅程上。

And finally, to gain self esteem radically.

You don't need to have all of your goals be achieved to have this external factor in order to validate yourself, to choose yourself and know that you're worthy of your own unconditional love.

你不需要達成所有目標，才能獲得外部認可來肯定自己，選擇自己，並知道你值得自己無條件的愛。

You can accept where you are while still striving to expand your consciousness with other experiences, growing your skillset and pushing your own boundaries and reaching out of your comfort zone.

你可以在接受現狀的同時，透過其他體驗來擴展你的意識，提升你的技能，挑戰自己的極限，並走出舒適圈。

Self esteem is about this beautiful balance of accepting where you are, defining where you're going and enjoying getting there.

自尊在於一種美麗的平衡：接受你現在的狀態，定義你將前往的方向，並享受過程。

It's about knowing deep down we're a meat suit with a computer brain propelled by some energy or consciousness we don't understand and maybe never will.

這是關於深刻地知道，我們只是一個肉體，裝著一臺電腦大腦，由某種我們不理解，也許永遠也不會理解的能量或意識驅動。

It's about embracing the idea of fucking up, of being fearless when it comes to other people's opinions, and

這是關於擁抱犯錯的想法，無畏於他人的意見，並且

of celebrating your own impression perfection.

And it's knowing this is a process that never ends.

It goes on for the rest of your life and then you die.

它會持續你的一生，然後你就會死去。

So realize that this journey is all we got, that it's your job to enjoy it, to take care of yourself and to be kind.

所以要意識到，這趟旅程是我們擁有的全部，你的任務就是享受它，照顧好自己，並善待他人。

Thank you to the Patreons who supported today's video.

感謝 Patreon 的支持，讓今天的影片得以製作。

And as always, thank you to my father, my biological daddy, Squarespace for sponsoring today's episode.

當然，也要感謝我爸，我的親生爸爸，Squarespace 贊助了今天的節目。

Daddy Squarespace makes it easy for creators to monetize their content and expertise in a way that fits their brand with member areas.

Squarespace 讓創作者能以符合品牌形象的方式，透過會員專區來將他們的內容和專業知識變現。

You can unlock a new revenue stream for your business and free up time in your schedule by selling access to gated content like videos, online courses or newsletters.

你可以為你的事業開拓新的收入來源，並透過販售影片、線上課程或電子報等付費內容的存取權，來節省你的時間。

Plus they have online booking and scheduling making it easier than ever for clients to schedule classes or sessions.

此外，他們還有線上預約和排程功能，讓客戶預約課程或諮詢比以往任何時候都更方便。

They have easy access to your availability and can reschedule online taking the hassle out of coordinating calendars.

他們可以輕鬆查看你的空檔時間，並線上重新安排，省去協調行事曆的麻煩。

如果你像我一樣是個內容創作者。

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透過影片，他們有 videostudio，你可以輕鬆製作專業級的影片，並分享引人入勝的內容來訴說你的故事、拓展你的觀眾、帶動銷售。前往 squarespace.com 進行免費試用，準備好上線時，請前往 squarespace.com/anna 並使用代碼 Anna，即可在首次購買網站或網域時享有 10% 的折扣。

我是 Baby，也是 Squarespace 的 Daddy。