Name: 為什麼你總覺得孤單？(還有解決辦法！) (Why You Feel So Lonely (And How to Fix It))
Uploaded: 2025-12-08T05:13:28.000Z
Duration: 3 min 46 s

未來簡單式

Into Google, the first thing that comes up is, will I ever find love?

輸入 Google，第一個跑出來的是「我會不會找到真愛？」

第三個是「我的淨資產會不會（有）？」

But behind that initial question, will I ever find love?

但在「我會不會找到真愛？」這個最初的問題背後，

Is one of our deepest human fears, being alone.

藏著我們最深層的人類恐懼：孤單。

And the fear of being alone was instilled in us at an early age.

而孤單的恐懼，其實從小時候就種植在我們心裡了。

Remember that kid who played alone in the playground?

還記得那個在遊樂場自己玩的小孩嗎？

If you had a birthday party and the cool kids didn't show up, up, you were considered unpopular.

如果你辦生日派對，但那些受歡迎的小孩沒來，你就被認為不受歡迎。

And today, even as an adult, if you go to a wedding without a plus one, everyone looks at you like, oh, poor you.

而且到了今天，即使是成年人，如果你沒有另一半去參加婚禮，大家都會用那種眼神看你，喔，可憐的你。

即使我們獨處時，我們也不是真的孤單。

Studies show we consume up to 34 gigabytes of data per day.

研究顯示，我們每天會消耗高達 34 GB 的資料。

One post online said, that's like reading the Hobbit every single day.

網路上有篇文章說，這就像每天讀一本《哈比人》。

Now, if you're not a Hobbit fan, it's like streaming 25 episodes of Stranger Things.

現在，如果你不是《哈比人》迷，那就等於每天追 25 集《怪奇物語》。

If you're not a Stranger Things fan, it's like playing over 15,000 hours of Fortnite per day.

如果你不是《怪奇物語》迷，那就像每天玩超過 15,000 小時的 Fortnite。

And if you don't like Fortnite, it's like scrolling 94 hours on TikTok every single day.

如果你又不是 Fortnite 迷，那就像每天在 TikTok 上滑 94 小時。

我們並不孤單，即使獨處的時候也是。

Philosopher Paul Tillich once wrote that in the English language, there are two words for being alone, but

哲學家保羅·提利希曾寫道，在英文裡，有兩個詞可以形容孤獨，但

But there's another word that we rarely use.

但還有一個詞，我們比較少用。

The difference between loneliness and solitude is the lens through which we see our time alone.

孤獨和獨處的差別，在於我們看待獨處時光的視角。

Monks and sages and wisdom keepers for thousands of years have talked about the importance of spending time in silence and in stillness alone.

幾千年來，僧侶、聖人和智者都談論過獨處、安靜和沉思的重要性。

In one study, men and women were asked if they wanted to be alone with their thoughts for 15 minutes or give themselves an electric shock.

在一項研究中，男性和女性被問到，他們是想獨處 15 分鐘，還是要接受電擊。

27% of women chose an electric shock and 65% of men chose an electric shock because they didn't want to be alone with their thoughts.

27% 的女性選擇了電擊，65% 的男性選擇了電擊，因為他們不想獨處思考。

Being alone with our thoughts can be scary.

So I want to give you three experiments to try over the next 30 days.

所以我想提供三個實驗，讓你在接下來的 30 天裡嘗試。

Number one, try and schedule at least 10 minutes every single day for the next 30 days that you spend by yourself.

第一項，試著在接下來的 30 天裡，每天至少安排 10 分鐘獨處的時間。

Not with your phone, not with a laptop out, not with an iPad, not in front of a screen, not even reading a book.

不要滑手機，不要開筆記型電腦，不要用 iPad，不要看螢幕，甚至連書都不要看。

See which thoughts arise and then after it.

看看會浮現什麼想法，然後在之後。

Take the moment to reach out to a friend, a family member, or a person that you're close to in order to share what came up for you.

花點時間聯繫一位朋友、家人，或是你親近的人，來分享你內心的感受。

See if you can muster up the courage to go on a solo dinner date to to go and watch a movie that you've really wanted to see by yourself.

看看你是否能鼓起勇氣，一個人去吃晚餐，或是去看一部你一直很想自己一個人看的電影。

Giving yourself that experience to enjoy your own company.

給自己一個享受自己陪伴的體驗。

To sit in the discomfort of what other people might think and what might they project on you because of what you're doing.

去感受別人可能會怎麼想，以及他們可能會因為你這樣做而對你投射什麼。

I promise you that this builds resilience and confidence.

我保證這能培養你的韌性和自信。

That discomfort is so important for self discovery.

那種不舒服的感覺對自我探索非常重要。

And number three, Sit with this question.

What's something that's really important to you that you've been devaluing lately?

有什麼對你來說非常重要，但最近你卻一直在貶低它的價值？

What's a priority in your life that somehow has been deprioritized?

你生命中有什麼優先事項，不知怎麼地被降低了優先順序？

Sit with that question in stillness and silence and see what comes up for you.

在寧靜和沉默中好好思考這個問題，看看會有什麼想法浮現。

任何浮現到最頂端、升起的事物。

Make that your focus for the next seven days.

在接下來的七天裡，就以此為你的焦點。

I can't wait to see what you learn from this experiment.

我迫不及待想看看你從這個實驗中學到什麼。

Share your answers in the comments below and I'll see you on the next video.

在下方的留言區分享你的答案，我們下個影片見。

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