Name: 人生再也不虛度！頂尖幸福專家揭露終極方法！ (How To *ACTUALLY* Stop Wasting Your LIFE! | The No.1 Happiness Expert)
Uploaded: 2025-11-14T16:41:38.000Z
Duration: 8 min 43 s

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Carl Jung said that the basis of happiness is figuring out what you believe and acting according to it, living according to it.

卡爾·榮格說，幸福的基礎是弄清楚你相信什麼，並據此行動，活出自己。

That the basis of unhappiness is living not in accord with your own morals.

而不幸的基礎是活得不符合自己的道德。

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In other words, I believe these things are right and wrong and I'm systematically violating them.

換句話說，我相信這些事是對是錯，但我卻系統性地違背它們。

When I talk to a young woman or man and I say, for example, what do you think is a decent way to treat a member of the opposite sex when you're on a date?

當我跟年輕女性或男性哈拉時，我會問，例如，你認為在約會時，對異性成員採取什麼樣的態度才算得體？

And they'll tell me, and I say, are you acting according to that?

他們會告訴我，然後我會問，你正在這樣做嗎？

And like, no, I said, that's why you're unhappy.

他們會說，沒有，我說，這就是你感到不幸的原因。

According to Carl Jung, but also according to common sense.

根據卡爾·榮格的說法，但也符合常識。

Once you know what that is and say, I'm gonna start acting and living according to my own principles, your life starts to change.

一旦你知道那是什麼，然後說，我會開始根據自己的原則行動和生活，你的人生就會開始改變。

Say someone right now is, for example, cheating on their partner, but they know and they're against cheating.

假設現在有人，例如，對伴侶不忠，但他們知道而且他們反對這種行為。

It's because everybody's against cheating, by the way.

順帶一提，這是因為每個人都反對這種行為。

Everybody's against betraying somebody you love.

每個人都反對背叛你所愛的人。

That's making them unhappy because that's doing violence to their own sense of propriety.

那樣會讓他們不幸福，是因為那樣是在破壞他們自己的禮儀感。

You know most ancient wisdom traditions and religious traditions when they talk about sin, you know, in Islam and Christianity and Judaism and Hinduism and name the religion, there's a concept of sin.

你知道，大多數古代的智慧傳統和宗教傳統在談論罪的時候，你知道，在伊斯蘭教、基督教、猶太教、印度教，還有任何宗教，都有罪這個概念。

Sin in almost every religious tradition is not offending God.

幾乎所有宗教傳統中的罪，並不是冒犯神。

You're doing something not in accord with the way that you want to live.

你做的事情不符合你想要的生活方式。

And in so doing you're weakening yourself.

You're making it harder for you to understand, understand yourself as a good person, as a person of integrity, as an upright person, which we actually need.

你讓自己更難理解，更難理解自己是個好人、一個有誠信的人、一個正直的人，而這其實是我們需要的。

Go back to the social psychology research on this.

回到這方面的社會心理學研究。

It goes back to your point as well about helplessness and agency.

這也回到了你關於無助感和主體性的觀點。

因為如果我知道那樣做是錯的，但是

I can't seem to stop myself doing it, I'm telling my that I'm low agency and I'm helpless.

我卻停不下來，這是在告訴自己，我的主體性很低，我很無助。

And so this is one of the reasons that people will be like, I hate how I eat.

這也是為什麼有些人會說，我好討厭我的飲食習慣。

They're not saying that I hate, you know, I mean, like, I'm a sugar fiend.

他們不是在說，我討厭，你知道的，我是個嗜糖如命的人。

It doesn't offend my sense of propriety, to be sure.

But I could get to the point where I'm so unhealthy that I hate that about myself because I'm actually hurting, hurting myself, but

但我可能會變得非常不健康，然後討厭這樣的自己，因為我其實正在受苦，傷害自己，但是

This getting in line with your own views and making a plan.

這就是讓你與自己的想法一致並制定計畫。

And this is where the New Year's resolutions about taking off the weight actually makes sense.

這也是為什麼新年立志減重變得有意義。

It's about being morally consistent with your own view of the person that you want to be is what this comes down.

這是關於你想要成為的那個人，你的道德觀念是否一致，這才是重點。

But you can't do it till you lay it out, until you actually put it in black and white.

但你必須先把它條列出來，把它寫下來，才能做到。

Write down your moral philosophy and say, make a plan to start living according to it.

寫下你的道德哲學，然後說，制定一個計畫來開始實踐它。

The second part is a contemplative tradition, is contemplation.

第二個部分是沉思的傳統，就是沉思。

You need more contemplation such that you can experience transcendence.

你需要更多的沉思，這樣你才能體驗到超脫。

Now, there's a bunch of different ways to do this.

現在，有很多不同的方法可以做到這一點。

This is why everybody wants to do mindfulness meditation.

這也是為什麼大家想做正念冥想。

That's all that is basically, is sitting still without your phone and focusing on being alive.

這基本上就是這樣，就是靜靜地坐著，不看手機，專注於活著。

My colleague Ellen Langer, if you had her on the show.

我的同事 Ellen Langer，如果你有訪問她的話。

She actually was the one who brought the concept of mindfulness to the west about 30 years ago.

大約 30 年前，她其實是把正念這個概念帶到西方的人。

She was the first woman tenured in the psychology department at Harvard.

她是哈佛心理系第一位獲得終身職的女性。

She's phenomenal, and she's just absolutely frustrated.

她超厲害的，而且她覺得很無奈。

And she says that mindfulness is best practiced if you're sitting on the train by putting away your phone, putting your hands in your lap, and

她說，練習正念最好的方式是坐在火車上，把手機收起來，雙手放在膝蓋上，然後

Can they listen to this podcast while they do that?

他們可以一邊聽這個 Podcast 一邊做嗎？

Because now you should listen to the podcast, but

因為現在你應該要聽 Podcast，但是

not during those periods and start with five minutes of just simple contemplation of life.

在那些時候不要聽，然後從五分鐘開始，單純地沉思人生。

現在，也有其他方法可以做到。

Prayer is a really good way to do it, too.

Religious traditions are excellent at doing it, but people in a distracted world don't do that at all.

宗教傳統在這方面做得很好，但身處在這個分心的世界裡，人們根本不會這麼做。

You need to stop distracting yourself and systematically stop distracting yourself.

你需要停止讓自己分心，並且有系統地停止分心。

Because in your default mode, network, you'll actually start to think about things that actually matter, including the things that are in the fundamental moral basis that you've started to formulate.

因為在你預設模式網路裡，你會開始思考真正重要的事，包括那些你開始建立的、在根本道德基礎裡的事。

I don't know why I was thinking about this, but this is how weird I am.

我不知道為什麼我會想到這個，但這就是我這麼奇怪。

I was thinking about why I don't pray anymore because I grew up in a Christian faith until the age of about 18.

我在想為什麼我不再祈禱了，因為我從小到大約18歲都是在基督教信仰中長大的。

And every time we had dinner for my whole childhood family sit around the table, one of us would pray and we'd just basically get thanks for things we're grateful for.

在我整個童年時期，每次我們吃晚餐時，全家人都會圍坐在餐桌旁，其中一人會帶領祈禱，我們基本上就是感謝我們所感激的事物。

And I stopped praying because I no longer have the Christian faith.

而我停止祈禱是因為我不再有基督教信仰了。

But I was thinking last night, it doesn't mean I need to give up the prayer, which is just an exercise in gratitude, to be thankful for the nature of my life.

但我昨晚在想，這不代表我需要放棄祈禱，祈禱其實就是一種練習感恩，感謝我生命中的美好。

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