Name: 不愛過生日的人，其實有這樣的心理傾向… (Psychology of People Who Treat Their Birthday Like a Normal Day)
Uploaded: 2025-10-20T21:01:10.000Z
Duration: 3 min 22 s

Have you ever noticed how some people go all out for their birthday?

你有沒有發現有些人對自己的生日超重視？

Big parties, balloons, endless posts on social media.

大派對、氣球、社群媒體上滿滿的發文。

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沒有蛋糕、沒有派對，連晚餐都沒有。

Why do some people treat their birthday like any other day?

為什麼有些人會把生日當成一般日子過？

Or maybe something much deeper in their psychology?

還是說，這在他們的心理學裡，有更深層的原因？

Because what you'll discover might even explain your own attitude toward birthdays.

因為你會發現，這甚至可能解釋你對生日的態度。

For some, the story is simple but painful.

對某些人來說，這個故事很簡單，但也很痛。

They don't celebrate because they don't feel celebrated.

他們不慶祝，是因為他們覺得自己不被重視。

You're younger and nobody really remembers your birthday.

你小時候，沒什麼人記得你的生日。

Psychologists call this learned helplessness,

when repeated disappointment trains you to stop expecting good things altogether.

當一再的失望讓你不再期待任何好事。

So eventually, the birthday becomes just another day.

所以最後生日就變成一個普通的日子。

Not because they don't care, but because caring hurts too much.

不是因為他們不在乎，而是因為在乎太痛了。

Then there's another group, the people who are simply caught in the fast pace of life.

另外還有一群人，就是單純被快節奏的生活淹沒。

Work, deadlines, studies, family responsibilities.

工作、截止日期、學業、家庭責任。

The birthday arrives, and before they even look up, the day is halfway gone.

生日到了，他們還沒抬頭，一天就過了一半。

It's that modern life creates time blindness.

When your brain gets so overloaded with tasks, special days stop feeling special.

當你的大腦被任務塞爆，特殊日子就變得不特別了。

For them, the birthday isn't ignored, it's just squeezed out by everything else.

對他們來說，生日不是被忽略，而是被其他事情擠掉了。

They just don't feel the need to celebrate it.

他們只是覺得沒什麼必要慶祝。

This isn't loneliness, it's not busyness.

It's actually a kind of emotional independence.

Studies in psychology show that people who tie their self worth to external validation,

心理學的研究顯示，那些把自我價值建立在外在驗證上的人，

like parties, gifts or public attention, are often less emotionally stable.

像是派對、禮物或公開關注，他們的情緒往往不太穩定。

But those who find validation within themselves, they don't need a date on the calendar to feel loved or alive.

但那些從自己身上找到驗證的人，他們不需要日曆上的某個日期來感到被愛或充滿活力。

This mindset is linked to what psychologists call self determination theory.

這種心態與心理學家所說的自我決定論有關。

The idea that true well being comes from autonomy, competence and inner satisfaction.

這個理論認為，真正的幸福感來自自主性、能力和內在滿足。

For them, maturity means realizing, I don't need others to prove my value with candles and cake.

對他們來說，成熟意味著體認到，我不需要別人用蠟燭和蛋糕來證明我的價值。

People who treat their birthday like a normal day often carry the same mindset into life.

那些把生日當成平常一天過的人，常常把這種心態帶到生活中。

那是不是說他們從來不感到孤單？

But they've trained themselves to see every day as special instead of waiting once a year to feel alive.

但他們已經訓練自己，讓每一天都變得特別，而不是一年才等一次來感受生命。

So whether you throw a huge party or treat your birthday like nothing at all.

所以，無論你是舉辦盛大的派對，還是把生日看成一件小事。

這兩者都揭露了關於你的一些事。

對某些人來說。對另一些人來說，這關乎優先順序。

And for many, it's about maturity and peace.

對許多人來說，這關乎成熟與平靜。

Do you need the celebration, or have you already found celebration within yourself?

你需要慶祝，還是你已經在自己內心找到了慶祝？

If this made you think differently about birthdays, you'll love the other psychology topics we cover here.

如果這讓你對生日有了不同的想法，你一定會喜歡我們在這裡探討的其他心理學主題。

Hit subscribe so you don't miss the next video.

記得訂閱，才不會錯過下一支影片。

We dive deep into the kind of psychology that actually explains you.

我們深入探討能真正解釋你的心理學，

And if you want to go even deeper, join our Discord community.

如果你想更深入，就加入我們的 Discord 社群吧。

If you It's a place where we share ideas, mindset shifts, and grow together.

在那裡我們會分享想法、心態轉變，一起成長。

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