Name: 這種流行的情感建議可能會適得其反 (This popular emotional advice might backfire)
Uploaded: 2025-09-03T18:17:47.000Z
Duration: 2 min 39 s

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There are many common beliefs about emotion regulation that I think are more accurately characterized as myths rather than truths.

關於情緒調節，有許多常見的觀念，我認為更準確地說，它們是迷思而不是真理。

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We know that venting your emotions can be really good for strengthening the friendship and relational bonds between people, but we also know that if all you do is vent about a problem in a conversation, you often leave that conversation feeling worse or just as bad as you started.

我們知道，發洩情緒確實有利於加強人與人之間的友誼和關係紐帶，但我們也知道，如果你在談話中只是發洩問題，那麼你離開談話時的感覺往往會更糟，或者和開始時一樣糟糕。

So venting doesn't lead long-term to effective outcomes.

是以，發洩並不能帶來長期有效的結果。

另一個神話是，逃避總是有毒的。

You don't have to choose between either always avoiding or always approaching your emotions.

你不必在總是迴避或總是接近自己的情緒之間做出選擇。

Being flexible in that way can be useful.

以這種方式靈活行事會很有用。

For example, giving your psychological immune system some time to temper the emotional response.

例如，給心理免疫系統一些時間來緩和情緒反應。

You then come back to the problem and you either find that the problem isn't as big as it felt initially, or you can approach it from a calmer and more deliberate point of view.

然後，你再回到問題上來，你會發現問題並不像最初感覺的那麼大，或者你可以從更冷靜、更深思熟慮的角度來解決問題。

We often hear that we should strive as much as possible to live in the moment.

我們經常聽說，我們應該儘可能努力活在當下。

This is a directive that I fear we have taken to an extreme.

我擔心我們已經將這一指令發揮到了極致。

The human mind didn't evolve to be perpetually in the moment.

人類的大腦並不是為了永遠停留在當下而進化的。

Going into the future allows me to simulate and plan.

展望未來可以讓我進行模擬和規劃。

It also allows me to fantasize about the good experiences that lie on the horizon.

它還能讓我幻想即將到來的美好經歷。

I can also go back in time to learn from the mistakes that I've made, so I don't repeat them again.

我還可以回到過去，從我犯過的錯誤中吸取教訓，以免重蹈覆轍。

I can also go back in time to savor past positive experiences.

我還可以回到過去，回味過去的積極經歷。

Most of our experiences follow a specific time course.

我們的大部分經歷都有一個特定的時間過程。

Something happens, our emotions get triggered, and then as time goes on, they eventually fade.

有些事情發生了，我們的情緒被觸發，然後隨著時間的推移，情緒最終會消退。

Now, when we are experiencing intense emotions, we often lose sight of the fact that as time goes on, we're going to feel better.

現在，當我們體驗到強烈的情緒時，我們常常會忽略一個事實，那就是隨著時間的推移，我們會感覺更好。

We are so hungry for one-size-fits-all solutions.

我們太渴望一刀切的解決方案了。

That's simply not how emotion regulation works.

You want to show up for every situation with a phenomenal toolbox of skills.

你希望在任何情況下都能展現出驚人的技能。

而這正是科學可以指導我們的地方。