Name: 當你面對逆境的時候...這三個字能幫到你 ► 簡單三個字，就能改變一切...- Hal Elrod 哈爾.埃爾羅德（中英字幕） (當你面對逆境的時候... 這三個字能幫到你 ► 簡單三個字，就能改變一切... - Hal Elrod 哈爾.埃爾羅德（中英字幕）)
Uploaded: 2025-08-25T16:35:31.000Z
Duration: 4 min 38 s

過去簡單式

I'd set the timer on my phone for five minutes, and for five minutes, I'd bitch, moan, complain.

我會把手機上的計時器設定為五分鐘，在這五分鐘裡，我會發牢騷、呻吟、抱怨。

Give yourself five minutes to feel all the emotions.

給自己五分鐘的時間去感受所有的情緒。

如果你感到沮喪，那就去感受它。

If you want to cuss, if you want to punch a wall, whatever, like, feel it.

如果你想罵人，如果你想捶牆，不管怎樣，你都可以去感受。

After five minutes, you say three very powerful words.

五分鐘後，你說三個非常有力的詞。

It's an acknowledgement that I can't change what happened five minutes ago, so now I have two choices.

這是一種承認，我無法改變五分鐘前發生的事情，所以現在我有兩個選擇。

I can continue to resist reality, wish it didn't happen, and be frustrated, angry, upset, sad, whatever it is, because I'm not willing to accept it.

我可以繼續抗拒現實，希望它不發生，沮喪、憤怒、不安、悲傷，不管是什麼，因為我不願意接受它。

Or you can choose to accept it fully, to say this happened, I can't change it, so I can choose to accept it, be at peace with it, and focus 100% of my energy on what I can control.

或者，你可以選擇完全接受它，說這已經發生了，我無法改變它，所以我可以選擇接受它，平靜地對待它，把 100%的精力放在我能控制的事情上。

When I first learned this, I thought, five minutes?

當我第一次瞭解到這一點時，我想，五分鐘？

I'm not gonna stop being upset because a timer goes off.

我不會因為計時器響了就不高興。

Like, and five minutes is not enough time.

就像，五分鐘的時間是不夠的。

Can I get like a five-hour rule, you know, for some things, like a five-day rule?

我能不能規定某些事情必須在五小時內完成，比如五天？

I remember, I was in my apartment, and I had a lady cancel her appointment, and it was like at nine at night, so it was too late.

我記得，我當時在公寓裡，有位女士取消了預約，當時好像是晚上九點，所以太晚了。

Set my timer for five minutes, and I'm pacing around my apartment.

我把計時器設定為五分鐘，然後在公寓裡踱來踱去。

Like, you know, I'm just going on and on.

就像，你知道，我只是在不停地說個不停。

And the timer went off, and I go, I'm still pissed off, just like I thought.

定時器響了，我走了，我還是很生氣，就像我想的那樣。

Five minutes isn't enough, and I hit the timer again.

五分鐘不夠，我又按下了計時器。

Once you start practicing this mindset, and you become aware, because eventually you get to a place where it might have taken me 10 minutes, maybe 15, but eventually I go, all right, I guess I can't change that she, like, right?

一旦你開始練習這種心態，你就會意識到，因為最終你會到達一個地方，它可能會花我10分鐘，也許15分鐘，但最終我會去，好吧，我想我不能改變她，喜歡，對不對？

And eventually you go, okay, I'm gonna accept it, I can't change it.

最後你會想，好吧，我接受它，我無法改變它。

I only have four appointments tomorrow instead of five.

明天我只有四個約會，而不是五個。

I'm gonna just get on the phone in the morning.

And now I'm at peace because I accepted it.

現在我很平靜，因為我接受了它。

我花了 15 分鐘，但還是接受了。

And now I'm teaching myself, oh, I actually am in control of the emotional pain I experience.

現在，我開始教育自己，哦，其實我是可以控制我所經歷的情感痛苦的。

當我接受的時候，我就心平氣和了。

You think about like having a heartbreak when you were younger, right?

你會想起年輕時的心碎經歷，對嗎？

Or you're in sixth grade, you got your heart broken, you thought life's over, we were supposed to get married.

或者你才六年級，你的心碎了，你以為生活結束了，我們本該結婚的。

But eventually when you get to acceptance, you're like, well, okay, I guess we're not, I thought I could get in her back.

但最終當你接受的時候，你會想，好吧，我想我們不是，我想我可以在她的背上。

And so after a few weeks, I remember this was a worst adversity in the sales world, which is it was Sunday night, orders were due Monday morning, and my biggest order of the week, biggest order I'd ever had, she calls at nine at night and says, hey, my husband came home, he was super upset.

幾周後，我記得這是銷售界最糟糕的一次逆境，當時是週日晚上，週一早上要交訂單，我一週最大的訂單，也是我有史以來最大的訂單，她晚上九點打來電話說，嘿，我丈夫回來了，他超級不高興。

Like I'd already in your mind, I hit my goal, great.

就像我已經在你心裡想的那樣，我達到了我的目標，很好。

而現在，她卻把它從我身邊奪走了。

And I get off the phone and I set the timer for five minutes.

我掛了電話，把計時器設定為五分鐘。

This is the biggest order I've ever had the night before orders are due.

這是我在訂單到期前一晚接到的最大訂單。

我走了，我不能相信她取消了。

Like, oh my God, and I don't have my goal.

我的意思是，我想我無法改變它。

I just gotta get on the phone and make more calls.

And I pick up my phone and there's four minutes and I can see the phone.

我拿起手機，還有四分鐘，我就能看到手機了。

There's four minutes and 32 seconds left.

And I go, why don't I just accept it now?

我想，我為什麼不現在就接受呢？

What's the value in me feeling bad about it for another four and a half minutes?

我再難過四分半鐘又有什麼意義呢？

And I turned it off and I go, can't change it.

我把它關了，然後就再也改不了了。

是以，第一步就是五分鐘規則。

給自己一個緩衝的時間去感受它。

Step two is get to can't change it as fast as is healthy for you, right?

第二步是不能以對你健康有利的速度改變它，對嗎？

Don't rush it, but get there as fast as you can.

不要操之過急，但要儘快到達目的地。

Now, to be really clear, Tom, I believe every emotion serves a purpose.

湯姆，我想說清楚，我相信每種情緒都有其作用。

I feel sadness, there's a purpose in anger.

我感到悲傷，憤怒是有目的的。

Every emotion serves a purpose, but only to the point where it's beneficial for us.

每種情緒都有其作用，但僅限於對我們有益的程度。

And most people, their emotions control them to the point of detriment.

而大多數人，他們的情緒控制著他們，甚至到了有害的地步。

And then the third step, the third evolution of this mindset is accept life before it happens, which is once you've practiced it for a few weeks and you go, oh, I don't ever have to feel any unhealthy emotional pain.

然後第三步，這種心態的第三次進化是在它發生之前接受生活，也就是當你練習了幾個星期之後，你會發現，哦，我再也不用感受任何不健康的情感痛苦了。

無論何時到達那裡，你都是自由的。

You're liberated from the emotional pain that resistance creates.

你將從抗拒所帶來的情感痛苦中解脫出來。