Name: 當愛不容易 (When Love Isn't Easy)
Uploaded: 2025-07-28T18:15:33.000Z
Duration: 2 min 50 s

You're up in the middle of the night and again, you're in trouble in love.

你半夜醒來，又一次陷入了愛情的困境。

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You tried to get them to see that sometimes because of X, you do Y and they respond with Z and it's unpleasant.

你試圖讓他們明白，有時因為 X，你做了 Y，而他們的反應是 Z，這讓人不愉快。

And they countered, at first politely and then with mounting irritation, that even though A, you think B and that's why C is maddening to them.

他們先是禮貌地反駁，後來越來越惱火，說即使是 A，你也認為是 B，所以 C 才讓他們抓狂。

Both of you tried, pretty valiantly, to get your points across with calm and kindness.

你們倆都非常勇敢地試圖用冷靜和善意來表達自己的觀點。

Both of you managed to be more or less polite, more or less restrained, more or less grown up.

你們倆都或多或少地表現出了禮貌，或多或少地表現出了剋制，或多或少地表現出了成熟。

And by the end of two hours of conversation, you parted in an almost affectionate way and went to sleep in different rooms.

兩個小時的談話結束後，你們以一種近乎親暱的方式分手，分房而睡。

但這還不夠，你也知道這一點。

That's why you're up at 3am hearing the rainfall.

這就是你凌晨 3 點聽到降雨聲就起床的原因。

Do you even belong together with this obviously very nice person?

你和這個明明很好的人在一起，你會有歸屬感嗎？

You briefly wonder what it would be like to leave.

你曾短暫地想過離開會是什麼樣子。

The horror of starting all over again with someone new.

There used to be, until quite recently, considerable hope.

直到最近，人們還抱有很大的希望。

If only there was someone to speak to, a wise, kind person who would know how to cut through this.

如果有一個人可以傾訴，有一個睿智、善良的人知道如何化解這一切就好了。

Then you realise that more than a solution, what you really want is someone who could understand how hard it is that there isn't one.

然後你意識到，比起解決方案，你真正想要的是有人能理解沒有解決方案有多難。

Someone who would just say, I know, I know.

一個只會說 "我知道，我知道 "的人。

有時，我們並不需要解決方案。

We need to know that we're not idiots for having the challenges we have.

我們需要知道，我們並不是遇到困難的傻瓜。

That other sensible people have been here too.

That it could almost be okay to have this difficulty forever.

這種困難幾乎可以一直存在下去。

That's when a bracing, pessimistic philosophy is called for.

這時候，就需要一種冷靜、悲觀的哲學。

The sort that says, of course you're miserable.

You wanted to sort this out perfectly, the way you like to sort out other things perfectly, at work, in domestic life.

你想完美地解決這件事，就像你喜歡完美地解決工作和家庭生活中的其他事情一樣。

But this isn't a cupboard or an accounting document.

但這不是櫃子，也不是會計憑證。

The number of people who have this area of life properly sorted out is minuscule, perhaps below 1%.

在生活的這一領域得到妥善解決的人微乎其微，可能不到 1%。

你在這裡失敗了，這是肯定的。

But you're not exceptionally stupid for that.

You're averagely mad, averagely emotionally perturbed and what you're trying to do is something exceptionally, extraordinarily, dementedly hard.

你是個普通的瘋子，普通的情緒焦慮者，而你要做的事情卻異常、格外、瘋狂地艱難。

你很可憐，我們大家都很可憐。

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當愛不容易 (When Love Isn't Easy)

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