Name: 如何用英語為自己辯護 (How to Defend Yourself in English)
Uploaded: 2025-07-17T09:06:07.000Z
Duration: 15 min 56 s

Doo-doo-doo, doo-doo-doo, doo-doo-doo, doo-doo-doo, hi, yeah, okay, hi, James from engVid.

嘟-嘟-嘟 嘟-嘟-嘟 嘟-嘟-嘟 嘟-嘟-嘟 嗨，好的，嗨，來自 engVid 的詹姆斯。

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Today I want to teach you some English for self-defense in a way, like karate, jiu-jitsu, Krav Maga.

今天，我想教大家一些自衛英語，比如空手道、柔術、Krav Maga。

People think it's not a martial art, but it is.

人們認為這不是一種國術，但它確實是。

And he's wearing his black belt from doing karate.

Well, not that long ago, but I had a student, and although I had many great stories to tell about students, this one was a sad story because I really liked this student, and he was one day in the subway, and he said he noticed someone that was similar to himself, similar cultural background, trying to ask for help from one of the workers at the subway.

不久前，我有一個學生，雖然我有很多關於學生的精彩故事，但這個故事很悲傷，因為我真的很喜歡這個學生，有一天他在地鐵裡，他說他注意到有一個和自己相似的人，相似的文化背景，試圖向地鐵裡的一個工作人員尋求幫助。

And that person, he could tell was being rude to them, but he didn't know what to say, he didn't have the words, because unfortunately, in his English classes, we were teaching him verbs, nouns, adjectives, adverbs, how to use them in proper speech and context, and nobody taught him the skills that he would naturally have in his own language, and that we naturally have, we all have when you speak the language.

他可以看出那個人對他們很無禮，但他不知道該說什麼，他沒有詞，因為不幸的是，在他的英語課上，我們教他動詞、名詞、形容詞、副詞，教他如何在適當的語境中使用它們，沒有人教他在他自己的語言中自然擁有的技能，我們自然擁有的技能，當你說這門語言時，我們都擁有。

And I'm going to use a common word, like a comeback, but really it's a...

我想用一個普通的詞，就像東山再起，但實際上它是......

It's a phrase or a sentence to let someone know that just because I'm learning the language doesn't mean I'm ignorant, I mean, I don't know.

這是一個短語或句子，讓別人知道我在學習語言並不意味著我無知，我是說，我不知道。

I don't know you're being rude to me and you're being disrespectful, and I don't like it.

我不知道你在對我無禮，你在不尊重我，我不喜歡這樣。

So this lesson is to teach five ways that you can engage with people to let them know, hey, I may not be, you know, perfect in your language, but I understand you're being disrespectful or you're not being intelligent at this point in time, and I want to let you know.

是以，這節課要教給大家五種與人交往的方法，讓他們知道：嘿，我可能不懂你的語言，但我知道你不尊重人，或者你現在不聰明，我想讓你知道。

The best thing about it is if your language skills in English are a little bit weak and you say something like this, they're going to be so shocked that I doubt most of them will want to do anything disrespectful to you in the future, because they'll be afraid of what might come out of your mouth next.

最好的一點是，如果你的英語語言能力稍弱，你說出這樣的話，他們會非常震驚，我懷疑他們中的大多數人今後會不會想對你做任何不敬的事，因為他們會害怕你接下來會說出什麼。

Now, if you're ready for that, let's go to the board.

現在，如果你們準備好了，我們就開始吧。

We've got Mr. E going to hiya, and the first one is about respect.

E先生要去 "嗨呀"，第一個主題是 "尊重"。

So what I want to do here, oops, is I want to put a point down, because we want to talk about boundaries and kindness, okay?

所以，我想在這裡，哎呀，是我想放下一個點，因為我們想談談界限和善良，好嗎？

So what I'm doing with this one, I'm going to say something like, I'm going to say, I'm not used to being talked to in that way.

所以，我想說的是，我不習慣別人用這種方式跟我說話。

I don't like being spoken to in a disrespectful way, but I do feel that whatever's happening is making you upset or sad, and I'd like to talk about it.

我不喜歡別人用不尊重我的方式跟我說話，但我確實感覺到，不管發生了什麼事，都讓你不開心或難過，我想跟你談談。

The first one is I don't like being spoke to in disrespect, which means I will end this conversation if you continue this way.

首先，我不喜歡別人對我不敬，也就是說，如果你繼續這樣說，我就結束談話。

I'm saying don't talk to me this way, that is a boundary.

我是說不要這樣跟我說話，這就是界限。

You talk to me this way, the conversation's over.

你這樣跟我說話，談話就結束了。

But there is an element of kindness because I'm respecting the fact that you're human and you're upset about something, and I want to work with you to make you feel better.

但這其中也有善意的成分，因為我尊重你是人的事實，你對某些事情感到不安，我想和你一起努力，讓你感覺好一些。

So even though I'm saying this is a boundary, I'm saying as long as you respect my boundary and don't speak to me in that way, I will help you or try to help you feel better or try and make this work.

所以，即使我說這是一個界限，我也是在說，只要你尊重我的界限，不以那種方式跟我說話，我就會幫助你，或試著讓你感覺好些，或試著讓這件事順利進行。

So it talks about respect, respect for the other person and respect for yourself.

是以，它談的是尊重，對他人的尊重和對自己的尊重。

You're asking them to respect you, and you will respect them and help resolve the problem or situation.

你要求他們尊重你，你也會尊重他們，並幫助他們解決問題或情況。

And this is, you know, can be used almost any time, and it should be the first line of defense, talking about respect for each other, right?

你知道，這幾乎可以在任何時候使用，它應該成為第一道防線，談論彼此尊重，對嗎？

Because we want to have good communication, and that happens when we respect the fact that the other person you're speaking to is human like you.

因為我們希望有良好的溝通，而當我們尊重對方和你一樣也是人這一事實時，就會有良好的溝通。

Number two is about humor, and I'll show you why.

第二點是幽默，我會告訴你為什麼。

Now, humor in Canada is spelt this way, before I hear anybody say, oh, you put a U, I'm like, eh, I'm in Canada.

現在，加拿大的幽默是這樣拼寫的，在我聽到有人說 "哦，你加了一個 U "之前，我就想，誒，我在加拿大。

United States, they don't have the extra U, but that's humor.

美國，他們沒有多餘的 "U"，但這就是幽默。

所以，幽默就是哈哈哈，搞笑。

So you might say something like, well, that was unexpected.

所以你可能會說，這真是出乎意料。

Because I want to show them I'm unaffected.

因為我想讓他們知道我不受影響。

See, if you can laugh at a situation when someone's trying to be rude to you, and you're like, oh, that was unexpected.

你看，如果有人想對你無禮，而你卻覺得 "哦，真是出乎意料"，這時你就會笑出來。

I'm glad you're here to keep things interesting.

我很高興你在這裡，讓事情變得有趣。

It's like, I heard what you said, but it doesn't really bother me or do anything to me, so what?

就好像，我聽到了你說的話，但它並沒有真正困擾我，也沒有對我做什麼，那又怎樣？

That is disarming, because if someone's trying to be rude to you to make you feel bad, and you're laughing, going, okay, well, that was cool, whatever, I guess you're a bit of a joker, that disarms them, because they're like, you're not hurt.

這就是解除武裝，因為如果有人想對你無禮，讓你感覺不好，而你卻笑著說，好吧，好吧，這很酷，不管怎樣，我猜你有點愛開玩笑，這就解除了他們的武裝，因為他們覺得，你沒有受傷。

See, I'm very confident, so I don't take that seriously.

你看，我很自信，所以我不會把這當回事。

That means make them not as aggressive towards you, and no one wants that.

這意味著讓他們不再對你咄咄逼人，而這是誰都不想看到的。

That's the key for them being disrespectful, and you're taking that away by saying, okay, whatever, didn't affect me.

這就是他們不尊重別人的關鍵所在，而你卻說，好吧，不管怎樣，這對我沒有影響，從而剝奪了他們的權利。

So this is the first one where we're moving from being kindness, and we're maybe not being kind anymore, but we're saying you didn't bother me by that comment.

所以，這是我們從善意的角度出發的第一個問題，我們也許不再是善意的，而是說你的評論沒有打擾到我。

When something goes like this, we call it an escalation.

當事情發展到這一步時，我們稱之為升級。

So you might have noticed here's kindness, no kindness, but humor, but now I'm going to talk about responsibility.

所以，你可能已經注意到了這裡的仁慈，不是仁慈，而是幽默，但現在我要說的是責任。

Sometimes when people are being rude, they're trying to put responsibility or blame on you, because they don't want to take blame for something.

有時，當人們表現得粗魯無禮時，他們會試圖把責任或指責推給你，因為他們不想為某些事情承擔責任。

So like, I didn't do it, your fault, it was your responsibility, blah, blah, blah, and they can be very rude.

比如，不是我乾的，是你的錯，是你的責任，等等等等，他們可能會非常粗魯。

In fact, I know a situation that happened recently with someone I work with, someone came to them and said, don't tell people that I did this, I'm not responsible, when they actually did it, and the other person was like, back up, don't try and get me in trouble for what you have done.

事實上，我知道最近發生在我同事身上的一種情況，有人來找他們說，別告訴別人是我乾的，我不負責，但實際上是他們乾的，對方就說，退後，別想因為你做的事給我惹麻煩。

So here's what you can say to somebody who's trying to make you responsible, or trying to blame you, or trying to blame you for something that they actually have done.

如果有人想讓你承擔責任，或者想責怪你，或者想把他們所做的事情歸咎於你，你可以這麼說。

You can say something like this, okay, don't try and make me responsible for X, Y, and  X, Y, and Z means whatever they're saying.

你可以這樣說：好吧，不要試圖讓我對 X、Y 和 X、Y 和 Z 負責，他們說什麼就是什麼。

I'm as responsible as your parents were irresponsible for having you.

我有責任，就像你父母生下你一樣不負責任。

You're kind of slapping them, and their parents, and their grandparents in the face for having such an idiot.

你這是在打他們的臉，打他們父母的臉，打他們祖父母的臉，因為他們有這樣一個白痴。

Don't let people make you responsible for their faults or mistakes.

不要讓別人讓你為他們的缺點或錯誤負責。

You can admit what you've done, but don't take the blame for others, because what happens after a while is they start trying to make you what we call the fall guy, make you look stupid all the time so they can escape their own bad decisions and lack of responsibility.

你可以承認自己做了什麼，但不要替別人背黑鍋，因為過一段時間後，他們就會開始試圖讓你成為我們所說的替罪羊，讓你一直看起來很愚蠢，這樣他們就可以逃避自己的錯誤決定和缺乏責任感。

So that's not a nice one, and you might get, what we say, a little pushback, people might not be happy with that, but you know what?

是以，這不是一個好主意，你可能會得到我們所說的一點反彈，人們可能對此不滿意，但你知道嗎？

If they're being that rude, they kind of deserve it.

如果他們那麼粗魯，那也是活該。

I like this one, I really do, but it's mean.

我喜歡這個，真的喜歡，但它太刻薄了。

My dad, and I hope he's watching, love my dad, said something when I was a kid I never liked it, but when I grew older, I find myself saying it.

我的父親，我希望他能看到，我愛我的父親，在我小時候說過一句話，我從來都不喜歡這句話，但當我長大後，我發現自己也會說這句話。

I hear my dad saying, you not listen, you feel.

我聽到爸爸說，你不是在聽，而是在感受。

So some of you who aren't West Indian won't understand what that means, so I'll explain it.

你們中有些人不是西印度人，不會明白這意味著什麼，所以我來解釋一下。

If someone is doing something silly and they look at you, you can say...

如果有人在做傻事時看著你，你可以說...

我可以去，啊，下一個達爾文獎。

So for some of you now, you're going, that's two things you said, Darwin Award and you not listen, you feel.

所以，對你們中的一些人來說，你現在要做的是，你說了兩件事，達爾文獎和你不聽，你感覺。

Well, there is this award that is given out every year for the dumbest way to die and leave life.

每年都會頒發一個獎項，表彰以最愚蠢的方式離開人世的人。

So you've left humanity and you've died in a stupid way.

所以你離開了人類，以一種愚蠢的方式死去。

It's called the Darwin Award because people are happy to give it because you're no longer in the evolutionary pool, so you're no longer in humanity, so you will not reproduce.

之所以叫達爾文獎，是因為人們樂於頒發這個獎項，因為你不再是進化池中的一員，所以你不再是人類，所以你不會再繁衍後代。

So if you get a Darwin Award, it means you're dead for doing something stupid.

所以，如果你獲得了達爾文獎，就意味著你因為做了蠢事而死了。

So when I say I'm looking at the next Darwin Award, I'm trying to tell you what you're doing is so stupid, you're probably going to get hurt from this.

所以，當我說我正在尋找下一個達爾文獎時，我是想告訴你，你正在做的事情太愚蠢了，你很可能會是以受到傷害。

Well, my father would say, you not listen, you feel.

我父親會說，你不是在聽，而是在感受。

If you don't listen, you will feel the consequence.

如果你不聽，你就會感受到後果。

So, most people wouldn't understand you not listen, you feel.

所以，大多數人都不會理解你不聽，你覺得。

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