Name: 當你面對逆境時，這段話能幫到你 ► 簡單三個字，就能改變一切....- Hal Elrod 哈爾.埃爾羅德（中英字幕） (當你面對逆境時，這段話能幫到你 ► 簡單三個字，就能改變一切... - Hal Elrod 哈爾.埃爾羅德（中英字幕）)
Uploaded: 2025-04-16T07:35:48.000Z
Duration: 4 min 27 s

未來簡單式

I told my dad, I promise I'll be the happiest person you've ever seen in a wheelchair.

我告訴爸爸，我保證我會成為你見過的坐在輪椅上最幸福的人。

過去簡單式

I've learned something in my training from my manager called the five minute rule.

在培訓中，我從我的經理那裡學到了一個叫做 "五分鐘法則 "的東西。

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So when things go wrong, we have a rule, it's okay to be negative, but not for more than five minutes.

是以，當事情出錯時，我們有一個規則，消極是可以的，但不能超過五分鐘。

Give yourself five minutes, set your timer on your phone.

給自己五分鐘時間，在手機上設置計時器。

He would literally teach us set the timer.

You get five minutes to bitch, moan, complain, cry, even punch a wall, whatever.

你有五分鐘的時間發牢騷、呻吟、抱怨、哭泣，甚至捶牆，什麼都行。

And after five minutes, you take a deep breath and say three really powerful words, can't change it.

五分鐘後，你深吸一口氣，說了三個非常有力的詞 "無法改變"。

And it's simply an acknowledgment that I can't change what's already happened, so there's no value in wishing it were different.

這只是承認我無法改變已經發生的事情，所以希望它有所不同也沒有任何價值。

And so, in the span of five minutes, I woke up, I was told I would never walk again, you know, eleven broken bones.

就這樣，在短短的五分鐘內，我醒了過來，我被告知我再也不能走路了，你知道，我的骨頭斷了11根。

Uh permanent brain damage and I went, well, can't change it.

呃，永久性腦損傷，我就去了，好吧，不能改變它。

And the doctors thought I was delusional because I was so happy.

醫生認為我有妄想症，因為我太開心了。

And I told my dad, I said, Dad, there's two possibilities, number one, the doctors are right and I'll never walk again.

我告訴我爸爸，我說，爸爸，有兩種可能，第一，醫生是對的，我再也不能走路了。

And I said, and I've already decide I've imagined that possibility, okay, I'm in a wheelchair the rest of my life, I'm gonna be happy, I'll be grateful.

我說，我已經決定了，我已經想象過這種可能性，好吧，我下半生坐在輪椅上，我會很開心，我會心存感激。

Why be miserable just because that's my unchangeable circumstance?

為什麼要因為這是我無法改變的環境而痛苦呢？

And I said, possibility number two is, I will walk again.

我說，第二種可能性是，我會重新走路。

And I don't even know if it's possible, but I do know that that's what I want, so I've accepted the worst case scenario.

我甚至不知道這是否可能，但我知道這就是我想要的，所以我接受了最壞的情況。

And all of my energy is going into walking again.

我所有的精力都用在了走路上。

I think about it every day, I visualize it, I pray about it.

我每天都想著它，想象它，祈禱它。

And a week later, the doctors came in with routine x-rays and they said, we don't know how to explain this, but your body is healing so quickly, we're gonna let you take your first step tomorrow.

一週後，醫生帶著常規 X 光片來了，他們說，我們不知道該怎麼解釋，但你的身體癒合得太快了，我們明天就讓你邁出第一步。

And that was three weeks after the accident.

It went from like never walking again, and I'm thinking maybe like in a year, not in three weeks.

從再也不能走路到現在，我想也許是一年後，而不是三週後。

And then I took my first step the next day.

So I share that kind of back story because every adversity that I've had since then, I'm able to leverage the lesson of, hey, if I can't change it, the only intelligent choice I have, if I want to be happy, is to accept it.

所以，我分享這樣的背景故事，是因為從那時起，我遇到的每一個逆境，我都能從中吸取教訓：嘿，如果我無法改變它，如果我想快樂，我唯一明智的選擇就是接受它。

Now we say this to the audience, I go, how many of you think this is really a powerful idea, it makes a lot of sense, but it's easier said than done.

現在我們對觀眾說，我去，你們中有多少人認為這確實是一個強大的想法，很有道理，但說起來容易做起來難。

And everybody's hand goes up like, yeah, this is crazy, right?

每個人都舉起手來，說："是啊，這太瘋狂了，對吧？

I like, yeah, I get it, but I don't how I can't do that.

我想，是的，我明白，但我不知道我怎麼就做不到。

And it's because we're simply we've programmed ourselves over our entire lives, the way we respond to adversity is the way we respond to adversity, right?

這是因為我們一生都在為自己編程，我們應對逆境的方式就是我們應對逆境的方式，對嗎？

So for example, traffic is usually a low level of adversity, if you're running late, and you leave late, cause you woke up late, or kids were get whatever it was.

是以，舉例來說，交通通常是一個低水平的逆境，如果你遲到了，你離開晚了，因為你起床晚了，或者孩子們得到了不管它是什麼。

So let's say it's normally a 30 minute drive to work and it takes us 45 or whatever because of traffic.

比方說，正常情況下，我們開車 30 分鐘就能到公司，但由於交通堵塞，我們需要 45 分鐘或更長時間。

You live in LA, you right, you know it better than anybody.

你住在洛杉磯，沒錯，你比任何人都瞭解洛杉磯。

Um, but we spend that entire 45 minutes literally killing ourselves, right?

嗯，但我們花了整整 45 分鐘，簡直是在自殺，對嗎？

Being that we're we're stressed out, we're tense, we're frustrated.

我們有壓力，我們緊張，我們沮喪。

We're riding the car in front of us like, does that work?

我們騎著前面的車，這樣行嗎？

So, people think, well, I'm upset because of this thing.

所以，人們會想，好吧，我是因為這件事才不開心的。

Of course I'm angry, look at what she did.

我當然生氣，看看她都幹了些什麼。

我當然傷心，看看我失去了什麼。

Of course I'm frustrated, I need to be at work in half an hour and this is gonna take me 45 minute, right?

我當然很沮喪，我必須在半小時內趕到工作地點，而這需要 45 分鐘，對嗎？

And when I realize it's it's it's never the thing.

而當我意識到這一點時，它就永遠不是問題了。

So when I I I was like anybody, I hit it traffic and I'd be frustrated or upset or you know, mad at myself that I left late.

是以，當我和其他人一樣，遇到交通堵塞時，我會感到沮喪或心煩意亂，或者你知道，我會因為遲到而生自己的氣。

Or mad at the person that made me late or whatever.

或者生那個讓我遲到的人的氣什麼的。

I actually used up these wristbands that said can't change it that uh.

實際上，我已經用完了這些寫著 "不能更改 "的腕帶。

I used to give out to high school students after my speeches.

我曾經在演講結束後送給高中生。

And I'd be driving and I would go, I'd see my wristband and I'd go.

我一邊開車一邊走，看到我的腕帶就走。

哦，對了，等等，這個也適用。

I'd take a deep breath and I would just go, I'm gonna enjoy the ride.

我會深吸一口氣，然後說，我要好好享受這趟旅程。

Like I'm go and I would turn the radio on and enjoy.

就像我要走了，我會打開收音機，盡情享受。

And so all of a sudden traffic had zero control over my emotional state.

是以，突然之間，交通對我的情緒狀態的控制力為零。

And so whether it's traffic or it's being in a horrific car accident, we are completely in control of our emotional state and the the the key that unlocks the door to emotional invincibility if you will.

是以，無論是交通事故還是可怕的車禍，我們都能完全控制自己的情緒狀態，而這把鑰匙就是開啟情緒無敵之門的鑰匙。