Name: 臺灣父母打拼脫貧實現美國夢；女兒搬回臺後盼能鼓舞臺灣人勇於發聲克服面子文化 (台灣父母打拼脫貧實現美國夢；女兒搬回台後盼能鼓舞台灣人勇於發聲克服面子文化)
Uploaded: 2025-04-16T02:49:56.000Z
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For it to affect my husband or possibly my children, that made me sad.

如果它影響到我的丈夫，或者可能影響到我的孩子，那會讓我很難過。

I'm originally from the Bay Area and have been living in Taipei for about four and a half years.

我來自灣區，在臺北生活了大約四年半。

My parents are from Taiwan, Taipei and the other, Qingshui.

我的父母來自臺灣，一個在臺北，一個在清水。

They moved to the States when they were about 20 and attended college.

他們在 20 歲左右搬到美國，上了大學。

Dad is a robotic engineer and my mom, she runs her own business, well not anymore, she retired, distributor of tools throughout the Midwest.

我爸爸是機器人工程師，我媽媽自己做生意，現在已經退休了，她是整個中西部地區的工具經銷商。

Do you feel like that they tried to raise you more like in a Taiwanese fashion or more of an American?

你覺得他們是想把你培養成臺灣人還是美國人？

Sometimes they would be speaking Taiwanese when they didn't want us to understand anything.

有時候，他們不想讓我們聽懂什麼，就會說臺語。

Some Taiwanese values were taught to us, so we needed to be Xiao Sun, listen to our parents.

臺灣的一些價值觀是教給我們的，所以我們要做小孫，聽父母的話。

But the thing I remember most is my mom wanting us to be independent, strong individuals with a focus on education, earning our own money and speaking our minds.

但我印象最深的是，媽媽希望我們成為獨立、堅強的人，注重教育，自己掙錢，說出自己的想法。

Yeah, you know, growing up in the Midwest, I was probably one of three or four people in my school that were Asian.

是的，你知道，我在中西部長大，可能是學校裡三四個亞裔中的一個。

But you know, my mom was a very strong figure in our community that left a lasting impression on me of how brave and strong we can be as Asians, even though we were the minority.

但是你知道，我媽媽在我們社區是一個非常堅強的人，她給我留下了深刻的印象，讓我知道作為亞洲人，我們可以多麼勇敢和堅強，儘管我們是少數族裔。

It didn't make me feel like, oh, I need to be quiet or feel any negative aspect to it.

它沒有讓我覺得，哦，我需要安靜下來，也沒有讓我感覺到任何消極的方面。

So freshman year, I actually went to University of Michigan.

所以大一那年，我真的去了密歇根大學。

My mom actually really wanted me to try for Wharton and I got in and it was the best decision.

實際上，我媽媽非常希望我去沃頓商學院試試，我被錄取了，這是最好的決定。

我愛賓夕法尼亞大學，也愛沃頓商學院。

It really just gave me so much confidence to reach my potential, being an entrepreneur or learning how to manage people, learning how you can make an impact on the world.

它真的給了我很大的信心，讓我能夠發揮自己的潛能，成為一名企業家或學習如何管理他人，學習如何對世界產生影響。

And it gave me more appreciation for my roots as an Asian person, as a Taiwanese person.

這讓我更加珍惜自己作為亞洲人、臺灣人的根。

And that has set the stage of who I am today.

這為我今天的成就奠定了基礎。

Do you feel like going to an Ivy League school like that afforded you certain benefits?

你覺得上這樣的常春藤名校對你有什麼好處嗎？

I mean, there's definitely a leg up in the beginning.

我的意思是，一開始肯定是有優勢的。

So you might have access to interviews at prestigious firms, but in the long run, any job or what you do is dependent on who you are and what you have to offer.

是以，你可能有機會去知名企業面試，但從長遠來看，任何工作或你所做的事情都取決於你是誰，你能提供什麼。

As an Asian American, sometimes people are pigeonholing you to do certain jobs.

作為一名亞裔美國人，有時人們會讓你從事某些工作。

Maybe from my parents, you know, like finance, I shouldn't have chosen that.

也許從我父母那裡，你知道，比如金融，我不應該這樣選擇。

You know, it's really funny, and I don't know if my mom would like me saying this, but when I first transferred to Wharton, my parents were like, oh, you should also double in biochemistry.

你知道嗎，這真的很有趣，我不知道我媽媽會不會喜歡我這麼說，但當我第一次轉學到沃頓商學院時，我父母就說，哦，你也應該兼修生物化學。

And I called my parents and I was like, I can't do this, it's too much, I don't want to.

我給父母打了電話，說我不能這麼做，這太難了，我不想這麼做。

And they immediately were like, forget it.

And like I said, my family were very open and they quickly realized that that was not my calling.

就像我說的，我的家人非常開明，他們很快就意識到那不是我的使命。

No, they realized that they really need to get to know each child.

不，他們意識到，他們真的需要了解每個孩子。

在新加坡的一家公關公司找到了一份工作。

From there, I moved back to the Bay Area, worked at Cisco.

之後，我搬回灣區，在思科工作。

After that, I got married, had kids, and became a full-time mother.

之後，我結婚生子，成為一名全職母親。

Had the country changed at all in your impression from when you were a kid?

在你的印象中，這個國家與你小時候相比有什麼變化嗎？

You know, growing up, I spent a lot of time at my grandma's house, and their homes are very traditional.

要知道，在我的成長過程中，我經常待在外婆家，他們的家非常傳統。

Actually, my father grew up in a very poor setting.

事實上，我父親是在非常貧窮的環境中長大的。

That's kind of what, in my memories, of what Taiwan is like.

I'm not sure underdeveloped is the right word, but sometimes it brings me to tears just hearing their stories because my dad would say his parents were so busy trying to make a living.

我不確定 "欠發達 "這個詞是否恰當，但有時我聽著他們的故事就會流淚，因為我父親會說他的父母為了生計忙得不可開交。

His older sister would have to take care of him and she was maybe like five years old.

他的姐姐必須照顧他，她大概只有五歲。

It blows my mind how far my parents have come from that setting to being successful business owners or entrepreneurs.

我的父母從那樣的環境中走出來，成為成功的企業主或企業家，這讓我大吃一驚。

And it was through scholarships and studying really hard that he was able to move to the States, get an education.

通過獎學金和刻苦學習，他才得以移居美國，接受教育。

From there, landed a job at FANUC, which is one of the leading robotic companies in the world.

之後，他在世界領先的機器人公司 FANUC 找到了一份工作。

Worked up the ranks to become, basically led the R&D team.

通過不斷努力，他基本上成為了研發團隊的上司。

這一切，都是通過辛勤的工作換來的。

My mom, similarly, poor setting, and paid her way through college.

我媽媽也是一樣，家境貧寒，自費讀完了大學。

Got a entry-level job at this distribution firm.

在這家分銷公司找到了一份初級工作。

Worked her way to become president and then owner.

她通過自己的努力先後成為總裁和所有人。

And then she became really involved in different organizations that promoted women in business, promoted Taiwan and U.S. economic ties.

之後，她開始真正參與到不同的組織中，促進商界女性的發展，促進臺灣和美國的經濟聯繫。

They set a really good example for me and my siblings to be independent, strong, and also make an impact on the community.

他們為我和我的兄弟姐妹們樹立了一個非常好的榜樣，讓我和我的兄弟姐妹們變得獨立、堅強，並對社會產生影響。

And then you guys decided to stay, though?

One of the things I love about Taiwan is that there's so much support for young families, young kids, babies, toddlers.

我喜歡臺灣的一點是，這裡為年輕家庭、幼兒、嬰兒和學步兒童提供了很多支持。

I mean, they have these play centers in every district.

我是說，每個區都有這樣的遊戲中心。

Having grown up in the States and going to Chinese school every weekend, my Chinese is still terrible.

我在美國長大，每個週末都去上中文學校，但我的中文仍然很糟糕。

Have there been any instances where you're like, oh, raising children here is different than in the States?

有沒有什麼情況讓你覺得，哦，在這裡養育孩子和在美國不一樣？

When I first sent Toby, and this is different from the school he goes to now, the teacher mentioned, oh, your son asks a lot of questions.

我第一次送託比去學校時，老師說，哦，你兒子問了很多問題，這和他現在去的學校不一樣。

And teachers had previously in the States, they had mentioned that, but in a positive way, like, oh, he's so curious.

以前在美國，老師們也提到過，但都是正面的，比如 "哦，他太好奇了"。

But here was more like, oh, he asks a lot of questions.

但這裡更像是，哦，他問了很多問題。

So it caught me off guard because in my mind I'm like, isn't that a good thing?

這讓我措手不及，因為在我看來，這難道不是一件好事嗎？

But I quickly realized that might be the culture here.

但我很快意識到，這可能就是這裡的文化。

Yeah, I was gonna ask, because that openness and assertiveness and confidence that you've taken from the States, does that sometimes act against your interests here?

是的，我想問的是，你從美國學來的開放、自信和自信，有時會不會對你在這裡的利益不利？

Oh, it totally doesn't suit me well here.

There was an instance, as it relates to my child's extracurricular, I noticed that the way they were teaching the kids wasn't in the best interest of all the kids.

有一次，在我孩子的課外活動中，我發現他們教育孩子的方式並不符合所有孩子的最佳利益。

Things like preferential treatment that inadvertently led to bullying that was ignored by management.

比如優待，無意中導致了管理層忽視的欺凌行為。

I was really confused as to why parents would be okay with that.

我真的很困惑，為什麼父母會同意這樣做。

But as I was speaking to the families individually, I learned that actually they weren't okay with it and nothing was done.

但當我與這些家庭逐一交談時，我瞭解到他們其實並不同意這樣做，也沒有采取任何行動。

So I did my research to educate myself more about this extracurricular.

是以，我做了一些研究，以進一步瞭解這種課外活動。

I sent all the information that I learned to all the parents and to the management team because in the barrier, I'm really used to parents and teachers being collaborative to positive and negative feedback.

我把學到的所有資訊都發給了所有家長和管理團隊，因為在屏障中，我真的習慣了家長和老師對積極和消極反饋的合作態度。

After so many parents individually messaged me or talked to me in person and said, I'm so glad you brought this up.

有很多家長單獨給我發資訊或當面跟我說，我很高興你提出了這個問題。

I'm so glad someone had the guts to bring it.

I didn't even think it was gutsy, to be honest, but they said that.

老實說，我甚至不覺得這有什麼膽量，但他們就是這麼說的。

And they also said, can you also bring up this and that, but keep me anonymous?

他們還說，你能不能也提出這樣那樣的問題，但不要透露我的姓名？

That was shocking to me that they were scared to voice their opinions because my education and training is you don't just follow a process for the sake of following it.

他們不敢發表自己的意見，這讓我很震驚，因為我所接受的教育和培訓是，不能為了遵循程序而遵循程序。

If the process doesn't make sense, you question it and you try to come up with solutions that is better.

如果程序不合理，你就會提出質疑，並嘗試提出更好的解決方案。

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