Do you dread small talk?

你害怕閒聊嗎？

Do you avoid it at all costs?

你會不惜一切代價避免嗎？

Worry about how to get out of the awkward silence?

擔心如何擺脫尷尬的沉默？

Well, Psych2Go is here to help you.

那麼，Psych2Go 就是來幫你的。

It can be hard for introverts to enjoy small talk.

內向的人很難喜歡閒聊。

And even if you're not an introvert, small talk can be pretty unexciting.

即使你不是一個內向的人，閒聊可能很平淡無奇。

So we've gathered a few tips to help you take on small talk, one conversation at a time.

所以我們收集了一些小撇步來幫助你一次一次地進行閒聊。

Here is "How to Survive Small Talk."

以下是「如何在閒聊中生存」守則。

Number one, attempt to relax and meditate first.

第一，先試著放鬆和冥想。

Do you get nervous when small talk begins and you're unsure of what to say next to keep the conversation going?

當閒聊開始時，你是否會感到緊張，並且不確定接下來該說什麼才能讓談話繼續下去？

Well, try taking a deep breath and try to relax.

那就深呼吸，試著放鬆。

There are plenty of people who can become anxious when socializing.

有很多人他們在社交時會變得焦慮不安。

If you're one to become anxious before social events, address these feelings.

如果你是一個在社交活動前會變得焦慮的，解決這些感受吧。

Acknowledge how you're feeling and try to assure yourself anything can happen.

承認自己的感受，並試著向自己保證任何事情都有可能發生。

That means good things along with any mistakes you may be worried about.

這意味著好事以及你可能擔心的任何錯誤。

But odds are no one will remember that little mistake you made at a party one time five years ago, right?

但很可能沒有人會記得你五年前在一次聚會上犯的那個小錯誤，對嗎？

Right.

沒錯。

Reassurance.

保證。

Try meditating before an event and relax your body and mind.

嘗試在活動前冥想，放鬆身心。

So when the event does start, you're prepared and calm.

這樣，當活動開始時，你就能做好準備，保持冷靜。

Number two, ask questions.

第二，提出問題。

Do you feel nervous when the questions are placed on you?

當問題擺在你面前時，你會感到緊張嗎？

Suddenly, they're asking what you ate for breakfast and you can't remember if it was lasagna or a banana salad.

他們突然問你早餐吃了什麼而你卻記不得是千層麵還是香蕉沙拉。

Wait, banana salad?

等等，香蕉沙拉？

Is that even a thing?

有這回事嗎？

And why would you have lasagna for breakfast?

早餐為什麼要吃千層麵？

That was last Tuesday's dinner.

那是上週二的晚餐。

The point is, if you're not looking to talk about yourself too much, and the conversation's been on you for quite awhile, ask questions about them.

關鍵是，如果你不想談論你自己說得太多了，話題一直在你身上有一段時間了，就問問他們的情況。

Simple, right?

很簡單吧？

But it's true.

但這是事實。

Show some curiosity and ask about them and their hobbies, or if they've seen any of your favorite shows or new shows.

表現出好奇心，詢問他們的情況和愛好、或者他們是否看過你最喜歡的節目或新節目。

Let the talking commence.

讓我們開始討論吧。

Number three, ask follow-up questions.

第三，提出後續問題。

So you asked some questions, but it's time to really get curious.

所以你問了一些問題，但現在是時候真正好奇起來了。

Ask follow-up questions to keep the conversation going.

提出後續問題，讓對話繼續下去。

Do your best to ask questions you're genuinely curious about.

盡力提問你真正好奇的東西。

For example, a question like who's your favorite character on the show?

例如，這樣的問題：你最喜歡劇中的角色是誰？

We all know the classic, "How's your day been?"

我們都知道那句經典的「今天過得怎麼樣？」

But instead of asking it like it's a polite, routine question, dig into your curiosity and sound like you have a soul.

但不要把它當作一個禮貌的、例行公事的問題來問，而是要挖掘你的好奇心，讓自己聽起來像你有靈魂。

You do have one, right?

你有靈魂，對嗎？

Right.

很好。

Reassurance, people!

大家放心！

Number four, ask open-ended questions too.

第四，也要提出開放式問題。

Have you been asking questions when small talking?

在閒聊時，你有沒有問問題？

Have you been asking follow-up questions?

你有沒有提出後續問題？

Well, now it's time for open-ended questions.

好了，現在是開放式問題時間。

Open your mind and start asking.

敞開心扉，開始詢問。

It's best to avoid just asking yes or no questions, or questions they can simply provide a one-word response to.

最好不要只問是或不是，或他們只需提供一個字回答的問題。

Give them something to chew on.

給他們一些可以思考的東西。

Make them wanna think about their answer.

讓他們想一想自己的答案。

If you ask an interesting and open-ended question perhaps about why they like the character that you just mentioned, they'll have an easier time providing a more elaborative answer.

如果你問一個有趣且開放式的問題，也許是關於他們為什麼喜歡你剛才提到的角色，他們會更容易提供更詳盡的答案。

And number five, avoid only short responses.

第五，避免只做簡短回覆。

Have you been asking questions all night?

你整晚都在問問題嗎？

Have you responded to questions with only short responses?

你對問題的回答是否簡短？

It's time to elaborate and get into some fun detail.

是時候詳細介紹一些有趣的細節了。

As much as we're focused on asking questions, it's also extremely important to equally provide some answers yourself.

儘管我們專注於提出問題，但自己同樣提供一些答案也非常重要。

Don't close off your responses, dive into the reasons why you chose that answer, if appropriate.

不要結束你的回答，如果合適的話，請深入探討你選擇該答案的原因。

If someone compliments your mood or outfit, explain why you're feeling that way or add where you bought said outfit.

如果有人稱讚你的心情或服裝，請解釋你為什麼有這樣的感覺或添加你在哪裡購買所述服裝。

Adding an extra sentence or two into your responses to routine questions opens up the conversation and invites the other person in to continue talking.

在常規問題的回答中添加一兩句話可以打開對話並邀請對方繼續交談。

Even if it is only small talk.

哪怕只是閒聊。

So how will you handle small talk?

那麼，你將如何處理閒聊呢？

Let's hope you handle it with care and ease.

希望你能小心謹慎、從容應對。

Waite, ease and care?

輕鬆與關懷？

Let's just hope that you have a comfortable and fun conversation, and we'll see you next time.

希望你能有一個舒適的我們下次再見。

We hope you enjoyed this video.

希望你喜歡這段影片。

And if you did, don't forget to click the like button and share it with a friend.

如果你喜歡，別忘了按讚並與朋友分享。

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訂閱 Psych2Go、並開啟小鈴鐺，瞭解更多類似內容。

And as always, thanks for watching.

一如既往，感謝收看。