每日口說挑戰該如何放下那個始終放不下的他？(How to Get Over Someone)

The way to unfixate is not to tell ourselves that we never like the person; it's to get very serious and specific about what the attraction was based on, and then to come to see that the qualities we had admired in the ex must necessarily exist in other people who don't have the set of problems that make the original relationship impossible.

The way to unfixate is not to tell ourselves that we never like the person. It's to get very serious and specific about what the attraction was based on. And then come to see that the qualities we had admireD in the ex, must necessarily exist in other people who don't have the set of problems that make the original relationship impossible.

今天的我也唸N遍才順，然後錄完又掛惹一次! 重錄應該會講的更好 (正面思考XD)

■fixate (on sth) [ˋfɪkset] 對…無法釋懷/念念不忘
■come to do sth 開始/著手做
The way to unfixate is not to tell ourselves that we'd never liked the person. It's to get very serious and specific about what the attraction was based on and then to come to see that the qualities we had admired in the ex must necessarily exist in other people who don't have the set of problems that made the original relationship impossible.
讓自己對前任不再留念的方法，並不是告訴我們自己說：「我從來沒有愛過這個人」。而是很認真、具體地去發覺前任對我們的吸引力何在。然後進一步瞭解到前任所吸引我們的特質，其他人身上必然也找得到，而且這些人並沒有這一連串讓我們前段關係無法走下去的問題。

Day 207

這篇文章很好，前任絕對不要一直掛在嘴邊，不然老是拿來跟現任比較，只會讓感情的路走得更波折。
而且前任的好，有時候只是在記憶裡被美化了，真的那麼好就不會分開了啊！

今天的文章，有部分修正。早上要錄音的時候就已經有神人幫忙修正過了，在這裡搭個順風車，把修正過的完整版放上來。
感謝Andy和Leeway的耳朵啦！

The way to unfixate is not to tell ourselves that we never like the person; it's to get very serious and specific about what the attraction was based on, and then to come to see that the qualities we admired in the ex must necessarily exist in other people who don't have the set of problems that make the original relationship impossible.

先來練習單字。昨天居然傳錯，今天不能再犯同樣的錯了。
我發現用網頁版錄完，沒有先試聽就直接送出，有時候會把前一次錄的傳出去 @_@

unfixate
ourselves
specific
the attraction
based on
qualities
in the ex
must necessarily exist
the original relationship

再把句子稍微切割一下，借用Leeway的標示喔！我覺得這樣標示更清楚。
我標示的是我自己習慣的停頓位置，可能和Leeway的不太一樣，大家可以去看看自己適合怎麼唸。

The way to unfixate // is not to tell ourselves // that we never like the person; // it's to get very serious and specific // about what the attraction // was based on, // and then to come to see that the qualities we admired in the ex // must necessarily exist in other people // who don't have the set of problems // that make the original relationship impossible.

Thx Kristi! 晚錄的好處，就是把大家更正過的精華都拿來~~~聽完樓上諸仙的錄音后，很快就能唸好啦~~~ #雖然圖書館沒什麼人，但也不好意思大聲唸啊

The way to unfixate is not to tell ourselves that we never like the person; it's to get very serious and specific about what the attraction was based on, and then to come to see that the qualities we admired in the ex must necessarily exist in other people who don't have the set of problems that made the original relationship impossible.

背景歌曲Need You Now。今天主題是分手分不乾淨，就找這首描述深夜喝酒後想打電話給前任的歌。

昨天的教學影片大家熱烈的回應真是出乎我意料之外，連主持人Kristi都幫我把影片傳到VT來了。謝謝大家的鼓勵。我還在學怎麼把影片做的更好。以後有機會會再發一些其他的影片囉。

The way to unfixate is not to tell ourselves that we never like the person. It's to get very serious and specific about what the attraction was based on. And then come to see that the qualities we had admire in the ex, must necessarily exist in other people who don't have the set of problems that make the original relationship impossible.

解除這種迷戀的方法並不是告訴我們自己我們從來沒有愛過這個人。而是很認真仔細地思考他們為什麼對我們有這麼大吸引力。然後看到我們所欣賞前任具有的好特質，其他人必然也要有。他們會讓這段感情成為可能。

1 . fixated 念念不忘的

fixated [fɪkˋsetɪd] (adj.) 念念不忘的
Ever since he has been to Paris, he has been fixated on the onion soup.
他去過巴黎之後一直念念不忘巴黎的洋蔥湯。

fixate [ˋfɪkset] (v.) 注視
He has his eyes fixated on hers.
他雙眼注視著她。

2 . specific 特殊的

specific [spɪˋsɪfɪk] (adj.) 特殊的
Don’t test her limit! I think she has been really specific about not going to the basement.
我們不要再探她的底線了，因為她非常明確的跟我們說她不要進地下室。

specify [ˋspɛsə͵faɪ] (v.) 具體指定
That man ordered a bacon cheese burger and specified no cheese.
那個人點了一個培根起司漢堡卻具體指定著說他不想要起司。

3 . attraction 吸引力

attraction [əˋtrækʃən] (n.) 吸引力、著名的景點、觀光勝地
The Statue of Liberty and Rockefeller Center are both famous attractions in New York.
自由女神像和洛克斐勒中心都是紐約的觀光勝地。

attract [əˋtrækt] (v.) 吸引
The lollipop on the table has attracted a dozen of ants.
放在桌上的棒棒糖吸引來了很多很多隻螞蟻。

attractive [əˋtræktɪv] (adj.) 有吸引力的
I feel like I’ve never noticed how attractive she is without makeup.
我從來沒有注意過原來她不化妝是這麼吸引人的。

4 . quality 品質

quality [ˋkwɑlətɪ] (n.) 品質
I think the quality of this translation is poor.
我認為這部影片翻譯的品質非常的不好。

qualify [ˋkwɑlə͵faɪ] (v.) 使合格
I think my periods of experiences and my abilities qualify me for this position.
我認為以我過去的經驗再加上我的能力會讓我勝任這個職位。

quantity [ˋkwɑntətɪ] (n.) 量
There is a small quantity of water left in the bottle .
瓶子裡還剩下少量的水。

quantitative [ˋkwɑntə͵tetɪv] (adj.) 量的；用量表示的；與數量有關的
quantitative research量化分析

qualitative [ˋkwɑlə͵tetɪv] (adj.) 質的；性質上的
qualitative research質化分析

5 . admire 欣賞

admire [ədˋmaɪr] (v.) 欣賞
I truly admire his consistency.
我認為他貫徹始終的態度非常令人欣賞。

admirable [ˋædmərəb!] (adj.) 令人尊敬的
You standing out for the bullied girl was really admirable.
你為那個被霸凌的女孩挺身而出真的是非常令人尊敬。

其實沒那麼複雜，也沒那麼有邏輯～
就......業障吧...

#今天後面念的20遍都是「退步的空間」
#以下雙斜線是可換氣處

The way to unfixate // is not to tell ourselves // that we never like the person.

It's to get very serious and specific // about what the attraction // was based on.

And then TO come to see that the qualities we ADMIRED // in the ex, // must necessarily exist // in other people // who don't have the set of problems // that make the original relationship impossible.

英式好難啊~~~不自覺的壓低聲音XD(心裡想著屎內補教授)
話說那個we admired我後來聽還是覺得是we had admired耶?
The way to unfixate is not to tell ourselves that we never like the person; it's to get very serious and specific about what the attraction was based on, and then to come to see that the qualities we had admired in the ex, must necessarily exist in other people who don't have the set of problems that made the original relationship impossible.
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■fixate (v.) 注視；固定；【心】早期停止性的成熟
[An infant with normal vision will fixate on a light held before him. 一個有正常視力的嬰兒會注視他面前的光亮]
■fixated (adj.) 念念不忘的；迷戀的
[He seems to be fixated on this idea of travelling around the world. 他似乎對環遊世界這一想法十分迷戀]

■quality
(n.) 品質；特質；才能
[He examined the quality of the furniture carefully. 他仔細檢查傢俱的品質]
[He shows quality of leadership. 他表現出領導才能]
(adj.) 優質的、高級的；棒極了；上流社會的
[These shoes are made of quality leather. 這些鞋是用高級皮革製成的]
["What was the film like?" "Quality!"「這部電影怎麼樣？」「棒極了！]
[quality people 上流人士]
[people of quality 素質好的人]
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【中途被換的心酸 之吉米的自白】
(不專業Demo) 註：*為台語

記憶它真囂張 照片扎在心上
我在這裡有過多少次想像
已經打包好內心深處行囊
準備飛翔

寄宿家庭的被換 *為何白人會變成黑人
快樂煉成淚水是一種勇敢
*幾天前的期待 *幾天後的惡夢
為何要換不找我商量
別提那兄弟 Jimmy受不了這樣

修煉情緒的心酸 剛開始不爽非常正常
傳過那些訊息要忘記多難
別怕那場怒火 用它燒成吉飯
*不管黑人還是白人
未來的回憶 我都要自己去創

吃下這一碗 滿滿的大吉米飯
好好入睡 這 美好晚上
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唱台語接國語的時候一度轉不過來XDD
變超台語調哈哈釀成NG八百次慘劇QQ
雖然還是有彈錯而且聲音就是聽起來肚子超餓沒力氣XD要趕快去吃飯惹！see ya~~