But that's now how I feel when I think about my student loans.

但現在我一想到我的助學貸款就會有這種感覺。

Oh cool, and only 25 more years to go.

哦，酷，而且只剩下25年了。

And I still like playing with toys...

我還是喜歡玩玩具... ...

OH MY GOSH BB8 IS SOOOO CUTE!

哦，我的天哪，BB8太可愛了!

And sometimes I feel like a mess.

有時候，我覺得自己像一個爛攤子。

I'M A GROWN ASS MAN…WHY DO I HAVE A ZIT?!?!

我是個長屁股的男人......為什麼我有個痘痘！？

Adulthood isn't about all that - it's really about your brain, the culture you live in, and how you function.

成年不是關於所有這些--它實際上是關於你的大腦，你所生活的文化，以及你如何運作。

Neurologically speaking, your brain doesn't finish developing until your mid 20s.

從神經學上講，你的大腦要到20多歲才會完成發育。

That's when the prefrontal cortex, the part of your brain that plans and controls emotions, is good to go.

這時，你大腦中計劃和控制情緒的部分--前額葉皮層就好辦了。

Every culture defines adulthood differently, but a new category of development has come up across the world in industrialized nations: emerging adulthood.

每種文化對成人的定義都不一樣，但在全世界工業化國家中出現了一個新的發展類別：新興的成人。

It's a period from 18 to 30 where the goal is to figure out who you want to become.

從18歲到30歲，這段時間的目標是弄清楚你想成為誰。

Things are unstable

事情是不穩定的

People move around, have different jobs, and don't really commit to any one thing.

人們四處奔波，有不同的工作，並沒有真正致力於任何一件事。

Why is there a new stage of emerging adulthood?

為什麼會出現新的成年階段？

People spend more time in school and are getting married and having kids later... or not at all.

人們把更多的時間花在學校裡，以後再結婚生子... ...或者根本不結婚。

Some scientists don't think emerging adulthood is a thing, and if is it's hard to know if we'll still be talking about it in the future.

有的科學家認為新興的成年人並不是一個東西，如果是的話，那就很難知道未來我們還會不會談論它。

I mean… this is what we thought 2015 would look like back in the 80s.

我是說......這就是我們在80年代以為的2015年的樣子。

So yeah, in 2045, maybe we'll have a completely different understanding of being an adult.

所以啊，到了2045年，也許我們對成人的理解會完全不同。

The standards of previous generations don't work anymore.

上一代人的標準已經行不通了。

30 is the new 20.

30是新的20。

This gets me to last part of becoming an adult - function.

這讓我想到了成為一個成年人的最後一部分--功能。

You have to be able to do certain things on your own in order to become an adult.

你要想成為一個成年人，必須要能自己做某些事情。

These are called developmental milestones.

這些被稱為發展的里程碑。

Adult developmental milestones can include staying healthy, controlling your emotions, defining your identity, developing relationships, finishing your education, holding a job, becoming financially independent.

成人發展的里程碑包括保持健康、控制情緒、定義身份、發展人際關係、完成學業、擁有一份工作、經濟獨立。

That's a lot of stuff.

這是一個很大的東西。

It's intimidating, especially when everyone seems to have all their shit together.

這很嚇人，尤其是當每個人似乎都有他們所有的狗屎在一起。

But no emerging adult has it ALL together.

但是，沒有一個新興的成年人能夠一帆風順。

It took me 11 years to finish my education.

我花了11年時間才完成學業。

I was totally dependent on my parents and student loans.

我完全依靠父母和助學貸款。

I got pretty good at living on my own and connecting with others, but I knew nothing about finances, and I wondered if I should become a psychologist.

我自己的生活和與他人的交流都很好，但我對財務一竅不通，我想我是不是應該成為一名心理醫生。

I spent a few years dabbling with photography, which now that I think about it, helped me make this show.

我花了幾年時間涉獵攝影，現在想來，這對我做這個節目有幫助。

The experience is different for everyone.

每個人的體驗都不一樣。

Some have to start working at a young age.

有的人年紀輕輕就得開始工作。

Others have the luxury of going to school for a long time.

還有的人則是奢望能長期上學。

But becoming an adult is like a video game — eventually your character is going to beat the level, but everyone gets to the end their own way.

但成為一個成年人就像電子遊戲一樣--最終你的角色是要打通關卡的，但每個人都會以自己的方式來結束。

The maturity of becoming an adult is understanding your strengths and weaknesses, practicing the things you struggle with, and getting help when you need it.

成年人的成熟是瞭解自己的優勢和劣勢，練習自己掙扎的事情，並在需要時得到幫助。

Choose a goal that's just beyond what you can do on your own.

選擇一個目標，只是超出自己的能力範圍。

Find a mentor.

找一個導師。

That's what psychologist called the zone of proximal development: people learn best when they experience a challenge and get support.

這就是心理學家所說的近端發展區：當人們經歷挑戰並獲得支持時，他們的學習效果最好。

Parents, your job is to help this process along, and as your child begins to function more like an adult, back off!

家長們，你們的工作是幫助這個過程，當你的孩子開始更像一個成年人的功能時，請退後!

Otherwise, your young adult might be stuck in a state of arrested development.

否則，你的小大人可能會停留在一個被捕的發展狀態。

What are your thoughts on becoming an adult?

對於成為大人，你有什麼想法？

Let me know in the comments below.

請在下面的評論中告訴我。

I'm @alimattu on Twitter. Be sure to like THE PSYCH SHOW on Facebook and click on BB8 development.

我在Twitter上是@alimattu。請一定要在Facebook上喜歡THE PSYCH SHOW，並點擊BB8的發展。