Name: The problem with always looking on the bright side | Kate Bowler
Uploaded: 2026-03-31T18:05:35.000Z
Duration: 3 min 57 s

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Even the most well-intentioned kinds of optimism really does have a dark side.

即使是最善意的樂觀，其實也有黑暗的一面。

Toxic positivity, by definition, is about a stubborn optimism that refuses reality.

毒性樂觀的定義，就是一種固執的樂觀，拒絕面對現實。

Toxic positivity is an aggressive belief that only optimism and hopeful emotions are going to serve you.

毒性樂觀是一種強勢的信念，認為只有樂觀和正面的情緒才能幫助你。

It fundamentally resists contradictory information.

它從根本上就抗拒相反的資訊。

Things are going to get better." And it is one of the most dominant emotional registers in our culture today.

一切都會好起來的。」而這也是我們文化中目前最主要的情緒模式之一。

Toxic positivity is like self-help titles: "Good vibes only," "Don't worry, be happy." When I got cancer, people often told me that everything happens for a reason, and

毒性樂觀就像自助類標題：「只接收正面能量」、「別擔心，開心點」。我得到癌症時，人們常告訴我凡事皆有因，

what they meant was that I will learn important lessons that will eventually enrich my life if it doesn't kill me.

他們的意思是，如果這不會要我的命，我將會學到重要的課程，最終豐富我的人生。

But some things happen for no good reason.

Sometimes in life we have to step up to the edge of the great mystery,

有時候人生就是得站在偉大之謎的邊緣，

and in the face of mystery we can't always say, "We will know why." If we don't have a wider range than a toxic positivity, we threaten to stigmatize negative emotions and then eventually start to pathologize our own humanity.

在面對謎團時，我們無法總是說「我們會知道原因」。如果我們的選擇不比毒性樂觀來得寬廣，我們就會冒著汙名化負面情緒的風險，最終病態化我們自身的人性。

American culture is a very fix-it, hyper-individualistic, very solutions-oriented culture.

美國文化是一種非常解決導向、極度個人主義、非常強調解決方案的文化。

And so in the face of pain they will bright-side a future in which everything will work out.

所以面對痛苦時，他們會往好處想，期待一個一切都會好轉的未來。

Entire models of healthcare have been grappling with this forever as people have been trying to figure out just what level of optimism is useful and at what point does it no longer serve us.

整個醫療模式一直在努力解決這個問題，人們試圖弄清楚哪種程度的樂觀是有益的，又在何時會不再對我們有幫助。

Most of the best work around end-of-life patient care, like hospice, has been about moving toward comfort care and produce very loving results for patients who need to accept their own mortality.

大部分關於臨終病患照護的優秀工作，像是安寧療護，都是在朝緩和醫療邁進，並為需要接受自己死亡的病患帶來充滿愛的結果。

Instead of a version of heroic medicine in which suffering then becomes key for the person going through a difficult experience to demonstrate their attempt at self-mastery to conquer the pain.

而不是英雄式醫療那樣，痛苦成為正在經歷困難體驗的人，用來展現其自我掌控、克服痛苦的嘗試的關鍵。

Our culture of just look on the bright side is not making us happier for a couple reasons.

我們這種只看好處的文化，有幾個原因讓大家沒有更開心。

One, crowding all of our feelings to one end of the emotional spectrum is life-denying and reality-denying because reality will always creep in.

第一，把我們所有的感受都擠到情緒光譜的一端，是扼殺生命、否定現實的，因為現實總會滲透進來。

There will always be a complicated relationship in the family, a job that isn't working out the way you want to.

家裡總會有複雜的關係，工作也不會如你所願。

The other would be because it really never addresses the social conditions that make us deeply unhappy in the first place.

另一個原因，是我們這種只看好處的文化，從來沒有真正處理那些讓我們深感不快的社會條件。

If you want to look at the happiest countries on Earth, they're not really talking about happiness.

如果你想看看世界上最快樂的國家，他們其實不是在談論「快樂」。

It's more about ordinary trust that makes people feel at ease, like they don't have to scramble to secure the conditions that they're belonging.

他們更多的是在談論一般的信任，讓大家感到安心，像是他們不必為了確保自己所屬的條件而爭搶。

Our ability to access affordable daycare, housing, proximity to parks, freedom to worship.

我們能否獲得負擔得起的日間托育、住房、靠近公園、自由崇拜的權利。

A culture that's obsessed with mood management is not likely going to be a very happy culture in the end.

一個痴迷於情緒管理的文化，最終不太可能成為一個非常快樂的文化。

Sometimes it helps me to say, "You are devastated because it was devastating." The faster I can name a difficult emotion and experience, the more I feel settled and grounded in reality.

有時候，我會告訴自己：「你之所以心力交瘁，是因為這件事確實令人心力交瘁。」我越快能說出一個困難的情緒和體驗，我就越覺得自己安於現實、腳踏實地。