Name: 4 個你絕對不能聽信的毒雞湯語錄！ (4 Toxic Quotes You Should NEVER Follow)
Uploaded: 2025-12-24T21:01:10.000Z
Duration: 5 min 44 s

Since the dawn of social media, encouraging and optimistic motivational quotes have cheered us up whenever we need them.

自從社群媒體出現以來，鼓舞人心、充滿正能量的勵志語錄，總是在我們需要時替我們打氣。

Our Instagram and TikTok feeds do their best to raise our self-esteem by telling us, you got this.

我們的 Instagram 和 TikTok 動態不斷告訴我們：你做得到。

But do you think this trend always succeeds in spreading positivity?

但你是否覺得，這樣的趨勢真的總是能帶來正向影響嗎？

In some cases, those inspirational quotes might actually overgeneralize the problem and stop us from feeling any negative emotion.

在某些情況下，這些勵志語錄反而可能過度簡化問題，讓我們無法感受任何負面情緒。

This is when, instead of motivational, they become toxic.

也正是在這時，它們從「激勵人心」變成了「有毒」。

It's important to think critically about the things you read online.

對於你在網路上看到的內容，保持批判性思考非常重要。

What are some toxic quotes you should never follow?

那麼，有哪些你不該盲目遵循的有毒語錄呢？

"If you really love someone, never let them go."

「如果你真的愛一個人，就永遠不要放手。」

In the sea of love advice, this quote seems to resurface quite often.

在浩瀚的愛情建議中，這句話經常一再出現。

And if we were in a rom com, it would sound like perfect advice.

如果是在浪漫喜劇裡，這聽起來或許是完美的建議。

Just think of your favorite romantic movie.

想想你最喜歡的一部愛情電影。

Two main characters, madly in love, go through some hardships and fight for their love.

兩位深愛彼此的主角，經歷重重困難，為愛奮鬥。

They never let each other get away and continue living happily ever after.

他們從不放手，最後幸福快樂地生活在一起。

But the real world might not be so romantic.

There may be some cases when the two lovebirds simply don't go well together.

有時候，兩個相愛的人其實並不適合彼此。

When that happens, not letting someone go, even if you clearly are not compatible,

當這種情況發生時，即使明知道彼此不合卻仍不放手，

makes your relationship toxic and codependent.

反而會讓這段關係變得有毒，甚至形成共依附關係。

Codependency is defined by the American Psychological Association as

美國心理學會將「共依附」定義為——

a dysfunctional relationship pattern in which an individual is psychologically dependent on or controlled by another person.

一種失衡的關係模式，個體在心理上過度依賴或被他人控制。

In a romantic relationship, you may commit all your time and efforts into this relationship,

在感情關係中，你可能把所有時間與精力都投入其中，

feel like you depend on each other for happiness, and lose a sense of self.

把快樂建立在對方身上，逐漸失去自我。

Licensed psychologist Dr. Renee Exelbert said for VeryWellMind that this dynamic has also been referred to as a relationship addiction

心理學家 Renee Exelbert 博士在 VeryWellMind 表示，這樣的關係也被稱為「感情成癮」。

because people with codependency often form relationships that are one-sided, emotionally destructive, or abusive.

因為共依附者往往會陷入單向、情緒破壞性，甚至帶有虐待性的關係。

And even if deep down you both know it's toxic, you just can't do what's best.

即使你們內心深處都知道這段關係有毒，卻仍無法做出正確選擇。

"If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve my best."

「如果你無法接受最糟的我，就不配擁有最好的我。」

It's normal to not be a perfect partner 24/7.

沒有人能 24 小時都是完美伴侶，這很正常。

But after the bad days are gone, it's our responsibility to work on ourselves and correct the behavior that we know is wrong.

但當低潮過後，我們有責任反省並修正那些明知不對的行為。

Well, not everyone is ready to admit their mistakes and fix their bad behaviors.

然而，並不是每個人都願意承認錯誤並改變。

That's where the quote "If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best" comes to play.

Do you think that this quote encourages those who say it to avoid taking responsibility for their actions?

你是否覺得，這句話其實是在鼓勵人們逃避責任？

This might be a sign of narcissistic partners.

According to a 2021 paper published in the journal Psychiatria Danubina,

根據 2021 年刊登於《Psychiatria Danubina》期刊的研究，

people with narcissistic personality disorder believe they are superior and unique compared to others,

自戀型人格障礙者往往認為自己比他人優越且獨一無二，

and they expect to be recognized and treated as such.

They think they're the best, perfect partners.

They might be reluctant to admit their flaws, but

即使承認缺點，也覺得那沒什麼大不了。

even if they do, they don't believe it's such a big deal.

因此，如果有人要求你忍受他們最糟的一面，

So if someone says you should tolerate them at their worst, you might want to rethink that relationship.

Persistence is naturally important for success.

Would the Harry Potter books even have been published if J.K. Rowling took no for an answer and gave up trying after getting rejected by publishers?

如果 J.K. 羅琳在被出版社拒絕後就放棄，《哈利波特》還會誕生嗎？

But when it comes to relationships, romantic or platonic,

但在人際關係中，不論是友情或愛情，

some may take this quote a bit too far, right into the territory of crossing people's boundaries.

這句話有時會被過度解讀，甚至侵犯他人的界線。

Psychotherapist Sharon Martin wrote on her webpage that boundaries are imaginary lines that separate you from other people.

心理治療師 Sharon Martin 指出，界線是區分你與他人的心理界線。

They separate your feelings, needs and responsibilities from others, and

它劃分了你的情緒、需求與責任。

also ensure that others know what's acceptable to you.

也讓他人知道什麼是你能接受的。

And when someone won't take no for an answer, they're actually stepping over your boundaries.

當有人不接受「不」作為答案時，其實就是在跨越你的界線。

A study published in the Journal of Occupational Health Psychology found that these people are often in positions of power,  like our superiors.

《職業健康心理學期刊》的研究發現，這類人往往身處權力位置，

Or people with narcissistic personalities who often manipulate and control others.

或是具有操控與控制傾向的自戀型人格。

So when it comes to their boundaries, no should probably be taken as a definite answer.

因此，當涉及界線時，「不」應該被當作最終答案。

You might think positive vibes only is great advice to live by, and

這句話聽起來或許很美好，若對你有效，那當然很好。

但有時，過度排斥負面情緒反而有害心理健康。

But in some cases, the emphasis on only allowing yourself to be positive and completely ignore the negative vibes might be detrimental to your mental health.

Sadness is an emotion that has been around since the beginning of our species.

它是構成人性的基本情緒之一。

It's one of the primary emotions that makes us human.

Everyone gets sad sometimes, and suppressing that sadness might not be the best idea in the long run.

A 2018 study published in Journal of Personality and Social Psychology

2018 年刊登於《人格與社會心理學期刊》的研究指出，

suggests that even if some emotions aren't really pleasant, we still need to feel them and deal with them openly and honestly.

即便情緒不舒服，我們仍需要正視並處理它們。

That's what brings us closer to acceptance and psychological health.

這正是走向心理健康與接納的關鍵。

So when we're bombarded by a positive vibes only attitude, we're actually met with toxic positivity.

當我們被「只要正能量」轟炸，其實面對的是「有毒的正向思考」。

A psychosocial rehabilitation specialist, Kendra Cherry, wrote for VeryWellMind that this approach to life not only discards all negative emotions, but

心理復健專家 Kendra Cherry 指出，這種態度不僅否定負面情緒，

also denies you the support you need to cope.

So remember, negative vibes are not so bad from time to time.

所以，偶爾有負能量並不是壞事。

So do you agree that these quotes might be toxic in certain situations?

你是否同意，這些語錄在某些情境下其實很有毒？

Or maybe you know some other phrases that make you roll your eyes as soon as you see them on your screen?

或者你也有一看到就忍不住翻白眼的句子？

We'd love it if you shared your thoughts in the comments.

And if nothing comes to mind, check this video for 12 more phrases that are actually toxic.

如果你一時想不到，這裡還有 12 句同樣有毒的語錄。