Name: 如果您的父母已年過半百，您需要觀看此片... (If Your Parents Are 50+, You Need to Watch This...)
Uploaded: 2025-07-28T19:00:40.000Z
Duration: 8 min 30 s

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If your parents are 50 or older, there's something you need to know before it's too late.

如果您的父母已經 50 歲或以上，您需要知道一些事情，以免為時已晚。

基礎被動語態

This video was inspired by Kanto Tamando who shared how learning Mandarin to connect with his grandfather became one of the most meaningful things he ever did, just months before his grandpa passed away.

這段視頻的靈感來自 Kanto Tamando，他分享了就在爺爺去世前幾個月，學習國語與爺爺溝通如何成為他做過的最有意義的事情之一。

That story struck a chord with us, and we want to dive deeper into why small gestures of love and connection with our aging parents or grandparents matter more than we think.

這個故事引起了我們的共鳴，我們想深入探討為什麼與年邁的父母或祖父母之間愛的小舉動和聯繫比我們想象的更重要。

The Psychology of Connections in Later Life As your parents grow older, they may quietly start to feel overlooked or disconnected.

晚年生活中的聯繫心理學 隨著父母年齡的增長，他們可能會悄悄地開始感到被忽視或失去聯繫。

It's not always something they say out loud, but the truth is, many older adults experience this, and more often than we realize.

他們不一定會大聲說出來，但事實上，很多老年人都有這種經歷，而且比我們意識到的要頻繁得多。

In fact, research highlighted shows that around 1.9 million older adults in the UK often feel ignored and invisible in their daily lives.

事實上，有研究表明，英國約有 190 萬老年人在日常生活中經常感到被忽視和看不見。

That sense of social isolation doesn't just weigh on their hearts, it can lead to self-neglect and a growing sense of hopelessness.

這種與世隔絕的感覺不僅讓他們感到沉重，還可能導致他們自暴自棄，愈發感到絕望。

What's more, research published reveals that socially isolated older adults, especially those living alone, are at a higher risk of seeing aging in a negative light.

更重要的是，已發表的研究顯示，與社會隔離的老年人，尤其是獨居老年人，更有可能從消極的角度看待衰老。

And when that happens, their sense of self-worth and well-being takes a real hit.

一旦出現這種情況，他們的自我價值感和幸福感就會受到真正的打擊。

But here's the good news, small, meaningful interactions with family aren't just nice, they're vital.

但好消息是，與家人進行微小而有意義的互動不僅美好，而且至關重要。

A systemic review and meta-analysis found that psychological support from family significantly boosts the emotional and cognitive health of older adults.

一項系統回顧和薈萃分析發現，來自家庭的心理支持能顯著促進老年人的情緒和認知健康。

Simple acts of love, learning your parents' native language, sharing their favorite music, asking about their younger years, or just listening without rushing, can become emotional lifelines.

簡單的愛的行動，學習父母的母語，分享他們喜歡的音樂，詢問他們年輕時的情況，或者只是不急不躁地傾聽，都可以成為情感的生命線。

These gestures remind them that they still matter, and their stories are worth hearing, and that they're not being left behind in a world that often forgets about the aging.

這些舉動提醒他們，他們仍然重要，他們的故事值得傾聽，他們沒有被這個經常遺忘老年人的世界遺忘。

What We Regret The Most One of the hardest truths about losing a parent is the regrets often aren't about what we did, but what we didn't do.

我們最後悔的是什麼 失去父母后最難接受的事實之一是，後悔的往往不是我們做了什麼，而是我們沒有做什麼。

Not having those meaningful conversations or holding back from showing how much you care can quietly create emotional wounds, ones that become harder to heal with time.

不進行這些有意義的對話，或不表現出你有多在乎，會悄悄地造成情感創傷，隨著時間的推移，這種創傷會變得越來越難以癒合。

In fact, research highlights just how central family relationships are to our well-beings, not just when we're young, but throughout our entire life.

事實上，研究表明，家庭關係對我們的福祉至關重要，不僅在我們年輕時如此，在我們的一生中也是如此。

When we neglect those connections, it's not just them who feel the loss, we do too, and all too often that loss turns into lasting regret.

當我們忽視這些聯繫時，感受到損失的不僅僅是他們，還有我們自己，而這種損失往往會變成永久的遺憾。

So here's something to think about, what's one simple thing you could do today to remind your parents or grandparents that they matter?

是以，我們不妨思考一下，今天您可以做一件什麼簡單的事情來提醒您的父母或祖父母他們很重要？

Taking that step now might not seem like much, but one day it could mean everything.

現在邁出這一步可能看起來沒什麼，但有一天它可能意味著一切。

Why being there matters more than you think?

為什麼身臨其境比你想象的更重要？

Small intentional acts of connection, like learning a loved one's language or asking about their childhood and young adulthood, can bring immense joy to aging parents.

有意識地建立聯繫的小舉動，比如學習親人的語言或詢問他們的童年和青年時期的情況，都會給年邁的父母帶來無盡的歡樂。

These simple gestures help bridge emotional gaps from the past.

這些簡單的舉動有助於消除過去的情感隔閡。

Research reveals that perceived family support has a significant positive impact on emotional, social, and psychological well-being, highlighting how engaging with your parents in meaningful ways fosters not just their happiness, but your own.

研究表明，感知到的家庭支持對情感、社交和心理健康有顯著的積極影響，這突出說明了以有意義的方式與父母交往不僅能促進他們的幸福，還能促進自己的幸福。

This two-way healing process reminds us that in nurturing their hearts, we often end up healing parts of ourselves we didn't realize needed it.

這個雙向的治療過程提醒我們，在培育他們心靈的過程中，我們往往最終治癒了我們自己的某些部分，而我們自己卻沒有意識到需要這樣做。

If this message is hitting home, take a second to engage with this video, like, share, and drop a comment below.

如果您對這一資訊感同身受，請花點時間觀看這段視頻，點贊、分享並在下面發表評論。

What's one thing you've done or wish you've done to connect with your parents or grandparents?

為了與父母或祖父母建立聯繫，您做過或希望做的一件事是什麼？

Your story might inspire someone else to reach out while they still can.

你的故事可能會激勵其他人在他們還有機會的時候伸出援手。

Hearing that story made me reflect on my own experience, and I wanted to share something personal.

聽了這個故事，我反思了自己的經歷，想和大家分享一些個人的感受。

2017年12月24日，我失去了奶奶。

She loved me deeply, and I genuinely enjoyed spending time with her, especially during her last years.

她深深地愛著我，我真心喜歡和她在一起，尤其是在她最後的歲月裡。

We're Nigerian and Yorubas, but my grandma spoke a unique dialect, different from the general Yoruba language.

我們是尼日利亞人，也是約魯巴人，但我奶奶說的是一種獨特的方言，不同於一般的約魯巴語。

Even though we share the same culture, we didn't completely share the same language.

儘管我們擁有相同的文化，但我們的語言並不完全相同。

I was a teenager then, and to be honest, I didn't think much of it.

那時我才十幾歲，老實說，我也沒多想。

I didn't ask about her life, her adventures, or her stories.

我沒有問她的生活、她的冒險或她的故事。

I thought there would always be more time, or maybe I just didn't care enough to ask back then.

我以為總會有更多的時間，或許我當時只是不夠關心，沒有問出口。

But now, as a young adult, I realize how amazing grandma really was.

但現在，作為一個年輕人，我意識到奶奶真的很了不起。

She lived in the city with us, had eight children, countless grandchildren, my siblings and me included, and even great-grandchildren.

她和我們一起住在城裡，有八個孩子，無數的孫子孫女，包括我和我的兄弟姐妹，甚至還有曾孫。

She accomplished so much compared to many of her peers who grew up in the village.

與許多在村裡長大的同齡人相比，她的成就實在太大了。

And now, I wonder, what incredible stories did I miss out on?

現在，我想知道，我錯過了哪些令人難以置信的故事？

What wisdom did she have that I never got to hear?

她有什麼智慧是我從未聽到過的？

What advice could I really use now as I navigate adulthood, that I'll never have the chance to receive?

在我步入成年的過程中，有什麼建議是我現在真正需要的，而我卻永遠沒有機會得到的？

My Reflection I've come to realize I was just a kid then, and I can't change that.

我的反思 我逐漸意識到自己當時只是個孩子，這一點我無法改變。

But what I can do is make sure I don't make the same mistake with my parents.

但我能做的是確保我不會重蹈我父母的覆轍。

Both of my parents are still alive, educated, successful, and full of experiences I haven't taken the time to truly understand.

我的父母都還健在，受過教育，事業有成，他們的經歷我還沒來得及真正瞭解。

And sometimes, they complain that we speak too much English at home.

有時，他們會抱怨我們在家裡說太多英語。

I used to brush that off, but now I'm starting to wonder.

以前我不以為然，但現在我開始懷疑了。

Could our constant disagreements about faith, culture, politics, and even mental health have less to do with the topics themselves, and more to do with the fact that I'm having these conversations in English instead of the language they grew up with but were faced to abandon because of me?

我們在信仰、文化、政治、甚至心理健康等問題上始終存在分歧，會不會與這些話題本身關係不大，而與我用英語進行這些對話，而不是他們成長過程中使用但因我而不得不放棄的語言有關？

I'm starting to ask myself, what depth of relationship bonding and life lessons am I The language that feels most natural and familiar to them.

我開始問自己，我是在用他們感覺最自然、最熟悉的語言來講述什麼深度的關係紐帶和人生道理。

Kanto Tamando's video reminded me that connection is often about more than what we say, it's about how we say it, and the effort we make to meet our loved ones where they are.

Kanto Tamando 的視頻提醒我，人與人之間的聯繫往往不僅僅在於我們說了什麼，還在於我們如何說，以及我們如何努力去滿足我們所愛的人的需求。

I made the mistake with my grandma, I won't make it with my parents.

我和我奶奶犯了錯，我不會和我父母犯錯。

Not just with language, but with everything else I'll have to reflect on and discover.

不僅是語言，還有其他一切，我都要去反思和發現。

So if you're watching this, maybe it's time to ask yourself, what small thing could you do to truly connect with your parents and grandparents while you still can?

是以，如果您正在觀看這部影片，也許是時候問問自己：在您還能做的時候，您可以做哪件小事來真正與父母和祖父母建立聯繫？

It doesn't take something grand, sometimes just showing up, asking questions, or learning a part of their world can create memories that last a lifetime.

這並不需要多麼偉大的事情，有時只要出現在他們面前，提出問題，或瞭解他們世界的一部分，就能創造出終生難忘的回憶。

If this message resonated with you, maybe today's the day to make that call.

如果這條資訊引起了你的共鳴，也許今天就是你打電話的時候了。

Ask that question, or say, I love you, you'll never regret trying.

問這個問題，或者說 "我愛你"，你永遠不會後悔嘗試過。

And if you're not sure where to start, here are a few questions that could open up a whole new world with your parents.

如果您不確定從何開始，以下幾個問題可以為您和父母打開一個全新的世界。

Ask about their stories, what was their childhood really like?

問問他們的故事，他們的童年到底是什麼樣的？

Ask how they're navigating the rapid societal changes unfolding daily.

詢問他們如何應對每天都在發生的快速社會變革。

Take time to understand their unique backgrounds and challenges they had to overcome to arrive where they are.

花點時間瞭解他們的獨特背景，以及他們取得今天的成就所要克服的挑戰。

Try to see their inner child in them, their dreams, their regrets, their hopes.

試著看到他們內心的童真、夢想、遺憾和希望。

Empathize with their fear of aging and mortality.

同情他們對衰老和死亡的恐懼。

Do your best for them, not out of obligation, but out of love.

為他們盡最大努力，不是出於義務，而是出於愛。

Make no excuses, spend as much time with them as you can.

不要找任何藉口，儘可能多地陪伴他們。

One day you'll look back and realize these small moments were the big moments.

終有一天，你會回首往事，發現這些微小的時刻才是最重要的時刻。

If this video spoke to you, don't just scroll away, take action, like, share, and subscribe for more content that reminds us of what really matters.

如果這段視頻對你有啟發，請不要只是滾動瀏覽，而是採取行動，點贊、分享和訂閱，以獲取更多提醒我們什麼才是真正重要的內容。

And if you're willing, drop a comment below.

What's one thing you'll do differently with your parents or grandparents starting today?

從今天起，您將與父母或祖父母一起做什麼不同的事情？