Name: 研究表明，人們真正想要的伴侶是什麼？ (What people really want in a partner, according to research)
Uploaded: 2025-07-28T17:27:18.000Z
Duration: 4 min 30 s

Welcome, researchers. It is I, The Washington Post.

歡迎您，研究人員。我是《華盛頓郵報》。

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What do men and women really look for in a mate?

男人和女人在擇偶時真正看重的是什麼？

Economist Raymond Fisman from Columbia University.

來自哥倫比亞大學的經濟學家雷蒙德-菲斯曼。

My colleagues and I did a speed dating event with a sample size of 392 heterosexual men and women collecting ratings on attractiveness, intelligence, and ambition of each date.

我和同事們做了一個快速約會活動，對 392 名異性戀男女進行了抽樣調查，收集他們對每個約會對象的吸引力、智力和抱負的評分。

Our data shows that both sexes care a lot about attractiveness, with men caring slightly more.

我們的數據顯示，兩性都非常在意吸引力，而男性的在意程度略高。

What? I could have told you that for free.

We also found that women care about intelligence roughly twice as much as men.

我們還發現，女性對智力的關注度大約是男性的兩倍。

Okay, again, we needed science to tell us that.

好吧，還是那句話，我們需要科學來告訴我們。

I was hoping for, like, more interesting results, you guys.

我還希望能有更有趣的結果呢。

Hi, Mr. Post. I represent a team of psychologists at the University of Pennsylvania.

你好，波斯特先生我是賓夕法尼亞大學心理學家小組的代表

We had a much larger sample size, 10,526 participants in a commercial dating service.

我們的樣本量要大得多，有 10526 人参加了商業約會服務。

Okay, hit me with something interesting, Pennsylvania.

好吧，說點有趣的，賓夕法尼亞州。

We concluded that the outcomes of most dates were largely determined by physical attributes such as height, weight, age, and overall attractiveness.

我們得出的結論是，大多數約會的結果在很大程度上是由身高、體重、年齡和整體吸引力等身體素質決定的。

So, it is our professional opinion that obsessing about appearance may be worth the effort for those of you who are looking for a date.

是以，我們的專業意見是，對於那些正在尋找約會對象的人來說，糾結於外表可能是值得的。

Appearance matters to people looking for a mate?

外貌對尋找伴侶的人很重要嗎？

哦，我們還有一些令人沮喪的消息。

Men valued women's intelligence only until it matched their own.

男人只重視女人的智力，直到她們的智力與自己的智力相匹配。

And then they actually found women whose ambition exceeded theirs to be a little off-putting.

然後，他們居然發現那些野心超過自己的女人有點令人反感。

Okay, yeah, literally, again, you guys, none of this is surprising at all.

好吧，是的，從字面上看，還是那句話，夥計們，這些一點都不令人驚訝。

Does anyone have any interesting findings from their studies?

有誰在研究中有什麼有趣的發現嗎？

Team of economists at Chicago here, we have supportive research that really echoes what Raymond from Columbia is saying.

芝加哥的經濟學家團隊在此進行了支持性研究，與哥倫比亞大學的雷蒙德所言不謀而合。

We did a study that showed when women out-earned their husbands, marital satisfaction is lower and divorce is more likely.

我們曾做過一項研究，結果表明，當女性的收入超過丈夫時，婚姻的滿意度就會降低，離婚的可能性也會增加。

All of you with degrees and teams spent a ton of taxpayer money to find that people care about attractiveness when dating, men feel threatened by a woman's ambition and intellect, and that if women earn more money than their husbands, they're more likely to divorce?

你們這些擁有學位和團隊的人花了納稅人一大筆錢，發現人們在約會時會在乎吸引力，男人會因為女人的野心和智慧而感到威脅，如果女人比丈夫掙得多，她們就更有可能離婚？

This is it. This is the science. Is that right?

就是這樣。這就是科學是這樣嗎？

我們還發現，呃，哦，又來了。

We also found that women prefer men and raised in more affluent zip codes, whereas men just truly don't give a fuck.

我們還發現，女性更喜歡在富裕地區長大的男性，而男性則根本不在乎。

Uh, women also drastically are more interested in partners of their own race, while men show no such in-group preference.

女性對同族伴侶更感興趣，而男性則沒有這種群體內偏好。

And men's standards remain unchanged whether they meet 10 or 20 potential partners.

而男性無論遇到 10 個還是 20 個潛在伴侶，他們的標準都不會改變。

But women, y'all get a little pickier the more partners that are on the market.

但是女人啊，市場上的伴侶越多，你們就越挑剔。

Casting those nets with a little bit more discernment.

None of this feels groundbreaking or revelatory or cohesive at all, but go off.

這一切都不具有突破性、啟示性或連貫性，但還是要繼續下去。

你是認真的嗎？你在開玩笑嗎？

Thank you to Squarespace for sponsoring today's episode.

感謝 Squarespace 贊助今天的節目。

So my father, Squarespace, makes it easy for creators like myself to monetize their content and expertise in a way that fits our brand.

是以，我的父親 Squarespace 可以讓像我這樣的創作者以適合我們品牌的方式輕鬆實現內容和專業知識的貨幣化。

So with Member Areas, you can unlock a new revenue stream for your business and free up time in your schedule by selling access to gated content like videos, online courses, or newsletters about what's up.

是以，有了會員專區，您就可以通過出售視頻、在線課程或新聞簡報等門禁內容的訪問權限，為您的業務開闢新的收入來源，並騰出時間來安排日程。

Plus they have online booking and scheduling, making it easier than ever for your clients to schedule or reschedule classes or sessions, freeing up more time since you don't have to coordinate with their calendars.

此外，它們還提供在線預訂和日程安排功能，讓您的客戶比以往任何時候都更容易安排或重新安排課程或療程，從而騰出更多時間，因為您不必協調他們的日程安排。

If you're a content creator like myself using Video, they have Video Studio now where you can create pro-level videos effortlessly.

如果你和我一樣是使用 Video 的內容創作者，他們現在有了 Video Studio，你可以毫不費力地創建專業級視頻。

And their Video Studio app helps you make and share engaging content so that you can tell your story, grow your audience, and drive sales.

他們的 Video Studio 應用程序可幫助您製作和分享引人入勝的內容，這樣您就能講述自己的故事、增加閱聽人並促進銷售。

請訪問 squarespace.com 免費試用。

And whenever you're ready to launch, go to squarespace.com slash Anna and use code Anna for 10% off your first purchase of a website or daddy or domain.

當你準備好啟動網站時，請訪問 squarespace.com slash Anna，使用代碼 "Anna "在首次購買網站、爸爸或域名時享受九折優惠。

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