Name: 不專業解釋什麼是「朋友區」 (Casually Explained: The Friend Zone)
Uploaded: 2025-05-27T02:58:32.000Z
Duration: 2 min 35 s

情態副詞

So, fundamentally, the friend zone is a bit of a relationship purgatory where, although it's not exactly gender exclusive.

所以從根本上說，「朋友區」有點像戀愛煉獄。

基礎被動語態

It's more often than not when a guy's sexual interest in a girl is met with only platonic friendship.

雖然這不是完全的性別排斥，但當一個男生對一個女生產生性趣時，往往得到的只是柏拉圖式的友誼。

程度副詞

And realistically, it's totally fine for a girl to like a guy's personality, but not really be interested in a relationship.

現實生活中，一個女孩喜歡一個男人的個性，但對戀愛並不感興趣，這完全沒有問題。

The trouble usually comes from the fact that a lot of the time, guys don't even realize they've been friend zoned.

麻煩通常來自於這樣一個事實：很多時候，男生甚至沒有意識到他們已經被朋友區點讚了。

And this can happen for a lot of reasons, but sometimes, even though a girl might not be interested, a guy can misinterpret the signals she's giving off and get too attached.

發生這種情況的原因有很多，但有時，即使一個女孩可能並不感興趣，男人也會誤解她發出的信號，從而過於依戀她。

So if you're a girl, try to avoid being in the same room, looking in our general direction, or winking both eyes at the same time.

所以，如果你是女生，儘量避免同處一室，朝我們的大方向看，或者同時眨巴兩隻眼睛。

And sometimes, if the guy really doesn't get it, you might have to clearly tell him that you're only friends, or he's probably going to end up with hurt feelings at one point or another.

有時，如果對方真的不明白，你可能必須明確告訴他你們只是朋友，否則他可能會在某一時刻受傷。

Like I was recently at Starbucks and there was a really cute girl taking my order, so we chatted for a second and she asked for my name to write on the cup.

就像我最近在星巴克，有個非常可愛的女孩在幫我點餐，我們聊了一會兒，她問我要不要把名字寫在杯子上。

Then when I got my drink, I saw that my name had two hearts around it.

然後，當我拿到飲料時，我看到我的名字周圍有兩顆心。

That was honestly one of the best feelings of my life and I was about to say something when I saw that she also drew a couple of hearts for a guy named Aaron right behind me.

老實說，這是我一生中最美好的感覺之一。我剛想說什麼，就看到她還為我身後一個叫亞倫的人畫了幾顆心。

Now, I'm sure some of you are wondering if you're in the friend zone right now.

現在，我相信你們中的一些人一定在想，自己現在是不是在朋友區裡。

And it usually progresses in stages, so you can see which one you might fall into.

而且它通常是分階段發展的，所以你可以知道自己可能會陷入哪一個階段。

The first stage is denial, which is believing you aren't in the friend zone.

第一個階段是否認，即相信自己不在朋友區裡。

The second stage is anger, which is coming to the realization that maybe you are.

第二個階段是憤怒，也就是意識到自己可能就是這樣的人。

The third stage is bargaining, which is begging to take her on a date even though she's always showing you pictures of other guys.

第三個階段是討價還價，也就是懇求你帶她去約會，即使她總是給你看其他男人的照片。

The fourth stage is depression, which is realizing she was showing you those pictures because she thought you were gay.

第四個階段是抑鬱，也就是意識到她給你看那些照片是因為她認為你是同志。

And finally, the fifth stage is acceptance.

Just realizing that one of them's pretty cute and what do you have to lose?

只是意識到其中一個很可愛，你又有什麼損失呢？

Now, the most important question of all is, can you get out of the friend zone?

現在，最重要的問題是，你能走出朋友區嗎？

And interestingly not too long ago, I was reading that a few psychologists at Penn State actually compiled a practical guide for men to get out of the friend zone.

有趣的是，不久前，我讀到賓夕法尼亞州立大學的幾位心理學家編撰了一本實用指南，幫助男性走出朋友區。

Of course, the first thing is identifying you're actually in the friend zone, then you execute the following steps.

當然，首先要確定自己真的在朋友區裡，然後再執行以下步驟。

It's worth mentioning while this guide is certainly effective, it can be kind of difficult to implement and at least takes a bit of time.

值得一提的是，這個指南固然有效，但實施起來可能有點困難，至少需要一點時間。

So, one last piece of advice I was given a while ago was if you ever in doubt, ask the girl out.

那麼前不久有人給了我最後一個建議：如果你有任何疑問，就約女孩出來。

The logic being that she either says yes and that's great, or she says no and you have your answer.

這樣做的邏輯是，她要麼說「是」，這很好；要麼說「不」，你就有了答案。

But I've realized that this saying greatly underestimates my power for debilitating retrospection,

但我意識到，這句話大大低估了我衰弱的回顧能力，

which is why next time we're talking about how to get out of the friend zone into the friend with benefits zone, where nothing goes wrong and no one gets too attached.

這就是為什麼下次我們要討論如何走出朋友區，進入「有好處的朋友區」，在那裡不會出任何差錯，也不會讓人過於依戀。