To start off, we'd like to thank you all for the support that you've given us.

首先，我們想感謝大家的支持。

Psych2Go's mission is to make psychology and mental health more accessible to everyone.

Psych2Go 的使命是想讓每個人都能輕鬆獲取精神及心理健康。

Now, let's begin.

讓我們開始吧。

Are you trying to find the one? You have trouble figuring out whether your partner is right for you?

還在努力尋找真命天子嗎？弄不清伴侶是否適合自己？

While there are many factors that lead to a healthy relationship,

雖然想促成一段健康的關係需要許多因素，

there are also some qualities to look out for in your partner that are beneficial in fostering a long term healthy relationship.

有些特質是尋找伴侶時可以注意的，有利於培養長期健康關係的特質。

And even though the ones we will mention aren't the only qualities to look out for,

雖然重要的特質並不只限於接下來會提到的這些，

they are some of the major ones that would be most beneficial to a healthy relationship.

但它們卻是對健全關係最重要，也最有益的幾個特質。

So, if your partner has these nine qualities, you should not let them go.

所以，如果你的伴侶擁有這九項特質，千萬別放開他們。

Number one, they're supportive.

第一，他們很支持你。

Does your partner encourage your dreams, validate your feelings, and make you feel secure?

你的伴侶是否鼓勵你的夢想、承認你的感受並給予你安全感？

Having a supportive partner who can provide you with the emotional and mental support you need is essential for a lasting relationship.

有個支持你的伴侶，能提供你所需要的情感和精神支持，對長久的關係至關重要。

Researchers from Carnegie Mellon University had even found that supportive spouses played a role in increasing a person's chances of success.

卡內基美隆大學研究人員甚至發現，有支持自己的配偶能增加一個人成功的機會。

Their reassurance and support had encouraged their partner to take on more challenging and rewarding tasks.

伴侶給的信心和支持能鼓勵其伴侶承擔更具挑戰性和回報性的任務。

In the long run, these couples showed an increase in personal growth and happiness.

長遠來看，這些情侶的個人成長和幸福感都有所增加。

Number two, they engage in your personal growth.

二，參與你的個人成長。

Do you have a partner who encourages new experiences that allow you both to grow as individuals and develop new perspectives?

你的伴侶是否會鼓勵你體驗新事物，協助雙方成長並拓展新視野？

Another important determinant for a successful relationship is self expansion, which is the desire to strengthen or increase your potential efficiency.

另一個成功關係的重要決定因素是自我擴張，也就是加強或提高你潛在效能的欲望。

Experiencing new things together, makes you feel happier with your partner and more committed to them.

一起體驗新事物，會讓你覺得和你的伴侶在一起更快樂，並對他們更忠誠。

Even if you don't have time to engage in new hobbies or activities with them, simply witnessing their self expansion can boost your level of happiness too.

即使你沒時間與他們一起培養新愛好或體驗新活動，單單見證伴侶的自我發展也可以提高你的幸福感。

Three, they're emotionally intelligent.

三，情商高。

Is your partner an effective communicator who can express their emotions and understand yours?

你的伴侶是否能與人有效溝通，表達自己的情緒並理解你的情緒？

Emotional intelligence is the ability to use, understand, and manage your emotions.

情商是使用、理解和管理自己情緒的能力。

People who are emotionally intelligent often have great social skills,

情感豐富的人往往善於社交，

acknowledgement and regulation of their own emotions, and an understanding of how others feel.

能承認和調節自己的情緒，並理解他人感受。

Licensed mental health counselor, Kerri Anne Brown, even states

專業心理諮商師凱莉·安·布朗指出，

that emotional intelligence in a relationship can help couples express and manage difficult emotions that they may confront,

關係中的情商可以幫助情侶表達及管理兩人可能面臨的困難情緒，

which helps forge a strong and lasting relationship.

有助於建立強大而長久的關係。

Four, they are understanding.

四，善解人意。

Is your partner able to relate and empathize with what you're going through?

你的伴侶是能理解並同理你正在經歷的事嗎？

As mentioned by Dr Bernstein in his self-help book, understanding between couples is vital to a relationship.

如伯恩斯坦博士在他的自助書中提到的，夫妻之間的理解對一段關係至關重要。

A partner who truly understands what you're saying and expressing can connect with you at a deeper level and strengthen the bond in your relationship.

一個真正理解你想表達什麼的伴侶可以在更深的層面上與你聯繫，加強雙方連結。

Number five, they are kind.

第五，善良和慷慨。

Is your partner kind and generous towards you?

你的伴侶對你仁慈、慷慨嗎？

Psychologist John God um studied newlyweds and found that the key to a long term healthy relationship is rooted in kindness and generosity.

心理學家約翰·戈姆對新婚夫婦進行了研究，發現健康的長期關係關鍵植根於善良和慷慨。

Couples who are kind to each other were able to foster an environment of love, trust, and intimacy.

夫妻之間相互善待，能培養通滿愛、信任和親密的環境。

It allows couples to emotionally connect and become comfortable with each other,

這能促使夫妻雙方建立情感聯繫，彼此感到舒適，

which helps them overcome conflicts and disputes and maintain a healthy and loving relationship.

這有助於他們克服衝突和糾紛，保持健康有愛的關係。

Number six, they're respectful.

第六，他們很尊重人。

Does your partner respect your opinions, experiences, and boundaries?

你的伴侶是否尊重你的意見、經驗和界限？

It's crucial to a relationship that you and your partner see each other as equals.

雙方平等的關係是很重要的。

You each have your own interests, opinions, and feelings that are valid and should be respected.

每個人都有自己的興趣、意見和感受，這些都是真實的，應該得到尊重。

An unhealthy relationship, however, will involve one partner dominating the other.

然而，一個不健康的關係會涉及到一方支配另一方。

They disrespect any ideas or opinions that go against theirs by telling them that their opinions are crazy, dumb or worthless.

他們不尊重任何與自己相反的想法或意見，會告訴對方，他們的意見很瘋狂、愚蠢或毫無價值。

Therefore, the ability for both of you to speak on equal terms and be listened to is vital for a long term healthy relationship.

是以，雙方能平等的說話並接受傾聽是長期健康關係的關鍵。

Number seven, they know how to compromise.

第七，能夠妥協。

Are you and your partner able to meet each other halfway when you're in a disagreement?

你和伴侶遇到分歧時，是否能夠滿足對方的要求？

Compromising does not mean that one person wins and the other loses.

妥協並不意味著一個人贏，另一個人輸。

Both partners need to be heard and understood to reach a happy medium, especially when confronting a particularly difficult problem.

雙方都需要被傾聽和理解，以達成一個折衷的辦法，特別是面對特別艱難的問題時。

You and your partner both deserve to be heard, and a healthy compromise helps you and your partner become the most authentic versions of yourself.

你和你的伴侶都值得受到傾聽，健康的妥協有助於雙方成為最真實的自己。

It promotes each other's personal growth and leads to overall happiness in the relationship.

這促進了彼此的個人成長，並達成關係幸福。

Number eight, they accept your flaws.

第八，他們接受你的缺陷。

Is your partner accept your flaws and differences without judgment or annoyance?

你的伴侶能接受你的缺陷和不同，不多加評判或感到厭煩嗎？

Someone who accepts you and your flaws is open and emotionally honest and is able to see the perfect in your imperfections.

接受你缺陷的人情感上是開放、誠實的，能在你的不完美中看到完美。

There is less resentment and more peace in relationships where partners accept each other.

在伴侶相互接受的關係中，怨恨會較少，關係較平和。

This acceptance can also encourage more personal growth and high levels of self esteem in yourself and your partner.

這種接受也可以鼓勵你和你的伴侶有更多的個人成長和更高的自信心。

And number nine, they share your core values.

第九，共享核心價值。

Do you and your partner share the same set of values?

你和伴侶擁有相同價值觀嗎？

While it's normal to disagree on the minor things, such as your favorite show or take out order,

在一些小事上，如最喜歡的節目或外賣點什麼有分歧很正常。

It's much more important you share the same core values.

但是否擁有相同核心價值觀更為重要。

Where they stand on topics like marriage, family, and religion can be important in determining the compatibility and durability of the relationship.

對方在婚姻、家庭和宗教等話題上的立場會影響這段關係的兼容性和持久性。

If you and your partner have opposing core values and are unwilling to compromise on most of these topics, future conflicts may arise.

如果你和伴侶有對立的核心價值觀，且不願意在多數這些話題上做出妥協，未來可能會出現衝突。

Does your partner show any of the qualities we mentioned?

你的伴侶是否有上述提到的這些特質？

Tell us about it in the comments below.

在下方評論告訴我們吧。

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如果你喜歡這支影片，請按讚並分享給可能會覺得這隻影片有幫助的人。

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