of today be your realities of tomorrow is one that I say at the ends of all my shows.

Well, there's a fantasy that some of you may have that you haven't quite achieved and we're

going to talk about that. I'm the author of "Boomer Girls: A Boomer Woman's Guide to Men

and Dating." The fantasy that you may not have achieved is the one of forgiving. You

can forgive and maintain your dignity. Just because you've forgiven someone for what they

did, does not mean that you have to again associate with them. Sometimes, we have to

forgive ourselves, and we have to associate with ourselves, and the way to forgive ourselves

is simply to put it behind us. Don't carry the baggage. And the same is true with the

other. When you have you been slighted, you have been really, really possibly persecuted

in a situation, then you forgive, you don't have to forget, but it relieves you of the

burden you are carrying. So it's really about you, because if you constantly relive, that

pain, the person that you're living the pain from wins, and you want to win. For example,

someone who has wronged you has died, and that keeps working on you over and over and

over. So they reach out from the grave, and they're affecting your life. Get rid of the

baggage, toss it over your shoulder, right into the sea, over the bridge. That baggage

is gone. By doing that, you've forgiven that person, not forgetting it, but you've forgiven

that person for your own reasons, because you don't want to carry the burden. This is

Dr. Paul, and may your fantasies of today be your realities of tomorrow.