每日口說挑戰擁抱自己的「反抗期」 (Embrace your villain era)

[Transcript]


Intro:
Hi guys, hope your week is off to a great start! We have quite an interesting topic today, one which I think I can totally relate to. Growing up as the eldest of three siblings, I naturally developed a strong independent personality. My family immigrated to New Zealand in 1992 and my mother gave birth to my little brother that year. I saw that things were tough for my mum, since my dad was still working and living in Taiwan most of the time. I tried my best to help her as much as I could in the house, and also made sure I took care of myself including my schoolwork as she wasn’t really able to help me anyway (I even wrote and signed all of the parent-teacher correspondence on her behalf). 

Fast forward 30 years, I realized I’ve been too hard on myself for all these years. I tried to take care of everything and everyone around me,  it’s almost a toxic habit that’s hard to break. I think only in the last 5 years, I began to realize that I should put my needs first. It’s MY turn to embrace my villain era! Our challenge sentence today explains what the villain era is, let’s check it out now:  

Sentence: 
When a chronic people pleaser starts to communicate their wants and needs clearly, prioritize themselves and assert and maintain boundaries,

Pronunciation Tips:
chronic 
prioritize 
assert
boundaries

Let me break the sentence up into sections and please try and read along with me, ok?

Next up, let’s have a look at our vocabulary words. 
 
Vocabulary:
1. chronic (adj)  長期的 KK [ˋkrɑnɪk] IPA /ˈkrɑː.nɪk/
Def: (especially of a disease or something bad) continuing for a long time

Example: 
He has been suffering from chronic back pains for many years, so I suggested getting a firmer mattress. 

他多年來一直患有慢性背痛，所以我建議買一個硬一點的床墊。

2. prioritize (v) 確定（事項的）優先次序 KK [praɪˋɔrə͵taɪz]   IPA /praɪˈɔːr.ə.taɪz/
Def: to decide which of a group of things are the most important so that you can deal with them first.

Example: 
I have a lot of projects to finish this week, so I need to prioritize my time and perhaps skip a couple of dinner dates with my friends. 

這禮拜我有好幾個案子要完成，所以我需要優先安排我的時間，並且可能會錯過幾次跟朋友的聚餐。

3. assert (v)主張  KK[əˋsɝt] IPA /-ˈsɝːt/
Def: to do something to show that you have power

Example: 
I shouldn't let people push me around so much. I really need to assert myself a bit more. 
我不應該讓別人對我發號施令。我真的需要更堅持住自己的立場。

Outro: 

Usually, I don’t let people push me around too much, but at the same time, I don’t think I assert my own opinions enough. I’m learning that my needs are just as important as everyone else’s, so it’s not selfish to prioritize myself sometimes.    

Setting personal boundaries is important. It’s okay to tell your coworkers that you’re unavailable after work hours. Make sure you give yourself enough time to rest and recharge your body. Getting enough rest will also help reduce stress. Everything is very much linked, if you take good care of yourself, you are then able to take care of others.  So listen to your inner voice when making decisions for yourself and trust your intuition. You should totally embrace your villain era!! 

Alright, it’s time to wrap up today’s episode. Thank you all for listening and don’t forget to record your challenge sentence. See you guys again next week! Bye bye for now.

☺When a chronic people pleaser starts to communicate their wants and needs clearly, prioritize themselves and assert and maintain boundaries, this is not gonna well received by the people around you.
當一個長期討好別人的人開始清楚表達出他們的需求、以自己為優先、表明並維護自己的界線時，周遭的人會無法接受這樣的轉變。
■assert [əˋsɝt] (vt.)斷言、聲稱[+that]；維護，堅持；主張
■prioritize [praɪˋɔrə͵taɪz] ={英式拼法} prioritise 把事情優先順序排好；優先考慮；按優先順序處理

When a chronic people pleaser starts to communicate their wants and needs clearly, prioritize themselves and assert and maintain boundaries, this is not gonna be well received by the people around you. 當一個習慣性討好別人的人開始清楚地說出並且把他們的願望和需求擺在優先位置，並主張保持界限，此時旁人不一定能接受他們的改變。
◆ pleaser /ˈpliː.zɚ/ (n.)討好者,取悅者,希望取悅他人的人;給人帶來快樂的事物
◆ chronic [ˋkrɑnɪk] (adj.)慣常的,習慣性的;(病)慢性的,(人)久病的;長期的,不斷的;[英口]很糟的,很不好的
◆ prioritize [praɪˋɔrə͵taɪz]
(vt.) 確定(事項的)優先次序,按優先順序處理,給予…優先權
(vi.)把事情優先順序排好;故意輸球以取得選秀優先權
◆ assert [əˋsɝt] (vt.)斷言,聲稱;維護,堅持,主張擁有;顯示,確立

When a chronic people pleaser starts to communicate their wants and needs clearly, prioritize themselves and assert and maintain boundaries,

When a chronic people pleaser starts to communicate their wants and needs clearly, prioritize themselves and assert and maintain boundaries, this is not going to be well received by people around you.

When a chronic people pleaser starts to communicate their wants and needs clearly, prioritize themselves and assert and maintain boundaries,