每日口說挑戰什麼樣的人才值得深交？真正朋友的特質（Signs of a real friend）

“Friends are those rare people who ask how we are and then wait to hear the answer.” - Ed Cunningham

Hey folks, it’s your friendly neighborhood host, Hubert wth Pronunciation Challenge! Today, I’m presenting you with a video about friendships! What qualities do you consider when you’re evaluating who or who isn’t a good friend? Perhaps the qualities you actually value don’t align with the friends you currently have and you have no idea! Y’know for me, I grew up trying to fit in with the “cool” kids and was often shamed for the hobbies I had like watching anime, playing video games, and for being a fan of Hong Kong cinema! I grew up in Toronto so I was sometimes teased for being a “FOB” which means Fresh off the Boat. It was a negative category to be put into back in the day meaning I was perhaps too “Asian”. However, whenever I went to comic book conventions, I felt like I fit in immediately. I didn’t feel like I had to explain myself. Everyone just understood me. This is called finding your “tribe” which means finding your own group of people who have the same values as you. The video we’ll be watching today lists some questions you can ask yourself to see whether or not this person is worthy of being your “true” friend. Watch on for today’s featured sentence and then come back to me so I can talk about how I found my “tribe”.

Today’s featured sentence:
“Movies, books, music. They all advocate this highly romanticized idea of love without any mention of compromise, communication, rupture and repair, feeling bored sometimes, how it's natural to be attracted to other people.”

I’ll say that again.

“Movies, books, music. They all advocate this highly romanticized idea of love without any mention of compromise, communication, rupture and repair, feeling bored sometimes, how it's natural to be attracted to other people.”

Ok, now time for the Pronunciation Tips.


For the first word, we have
Romanticized row·man·tuh·sized
Four syllables.
“ROW” sounds the same as a “rowboat”. “MAN” is also the same as the word “Man”. “TUH” has a short “U” sound and “SIZED” sounds the same as the word “SIZE” but with a “D” ending. Romanticized.

Next word.
Advocate
Three syllables.
“AD” sounds exactly like the word “AD. “VUH” has a short “U” sound and “KATE” has the same sound as the name “KATE”. Advocate.

And our last one would be,
Rupture ruhp·chr
Two syllables.
“RUP” sounds like “UP” but with a “R” in front. “CHR” has the “ER” sound but with a “CH” sound in front. Rupture.




Moving onto Vocabulary!

The first word is:
1. Rupture
Definition
to publicly support or suggest an idea, development, or way of doing something
Used in a sentence you could say,
“He had to go to the hospital because there was a rupture in one of his main blood vessels.”

Next word,
2. Compromise
Definition
an agreement in an argument in which the people involved reduce their demands or change their opinion in order to agree
Used in a sentence you could say,
“My girlfriend and I had to make a compromise on the design of our living room plans.”


And lastly,
3. Romanticize
Definition:
to talk about something in a way that makes it sound better than it really is, or to believe that something is better than it really is
Used in a sentence you can say:
“A lot of rap songs romanticize the idea of violence nowadays.”

Outro
So did any of you guys realize that you “might” have some toxic friendships going on? Y’know growing up, I wanted to be liked by everyone around me. If I knew somebody didn’t like me then I would go out of my way to try to change their opinion. I even changed the way I dressed just to get their approval. As I grew older, I realized that their opinion of me had nothing to do with me at all. Oftentimes it was actually a reflection of them and not me. The turning point for me was when I moved out on my own to Hong Kong at the age of 20. It was such a scary experience living in another country with a totally different culture and yet, I felt welcomed. For the first time in my life, I felt that people cared about me. People would invite me to gatherings, to dinners, and pretty much just go out of their way to care for me. I was a stranger to them and they took me in. I always got teased for the things I liked but in Hong Kong, it seemed like everyone else had the same hobbies as I did! This was the moment I felt I found my “tribe” and I’m still close friends with a handful of people in Hong Kong today. I hope you guys find that too if you haven’t already. It’s truly life changing to feel that you are enough.
Alright folks, it’s time to do your recordings. Next video, I’ll be presenting a video with 100 people talking about their most painful experiences! Make sure you come back for that one! Every person’s definition of “pain” is different! Until the next episode, peace!

☺Movies, books, music. They all advocate this highly romanticized idea of love without any mention of compromise, communication, rupture and repair, feeling bored sometimes, how it's natural to be attracted to other people.
電影，書籍，音樂，這些作品都把愛情過度浪漫化了，完全沒有提到其中還會包括彼此妥協、 溝通、分裂和修復、還會經歷到倦怠期，而且會被其他人吸引也是很自然的事。
【心得】人類偏愛看美化過的事物、聽美化過後的話語。所以網路修圖、化妝醫美、花言巧語才會那麼流行囉!
【Fun Sing一下】鄧福如-一點點喜歡(音樂確實把愛情過度浪漫化了XD)
■advocate [ˈæd.və.ket] or [ˋædvəkɪt] (vt.) 擁護、支持、提倡、主張[+v-ing]
(n.C)主張者、提倡者、支持者、擁護者[(+of)]；辯護者；辯護律師
■compromise [ˋkɑmprə͵maɪz](vi.) 妥協、讓步、折衷[(+on)]
(vt.) 放棄；背離、違背；降低；損害、危及
(n.C or U) 妥協、和解[(+between)]
(n.C)妥協方案、折衷辦法；折衷物
(n.S)連累、危及[(+of)]；放棄[(+of)]
■romanticize ={英式拼法} romanticise [rəˈmæn.tɪ.saɪz] (vi.&vt.) (使)浪漫化；(使)使理想化
(vi.)以浪漫的方式說話；浪漫地刻畫、描述

Movies, books, music. They all advocate this highly romanticized idea of love without any mention of compromise, communication, rupture and repair, feeling bored sometimes, how it's natural to be attracted to other people.

#超理性者說：這些情節都是假造出來的，有什麼好跟著哭的（˶‾᷄ ⁻̫ ‾᷅˵）
Movies, books, music. They all advocate(/ˈæd.və.keɪt/主張v.) this highly romanticized(/roʊˈmæn.t̬ə.saɪzd/理想化的) idea of love without any mention(/ˈmen.ʃən/提及n.) of compromise(/ˈkɑːm.prə.maɪz/妥協n.), communication, rupture(/ˈrʌp.tʃɚ/破裂n.) and repair(/rɪˈper/修補n.), feeling bored sometimes, how it's natural(/ˈnætʃ.ɚ.əl/自然而然的) to be attracted to other people.
電影，書籍，音樂。他們都主張這種高度浪漫化的愛情觀，完全不提及任何妥協、 溝通、分裂、修復、感覺厭倦，或是如何自然而然被別人吸引。

Day 77

Movies, books, music. They all advocate this highly romanticized idea of love without any mention of compromise, communication, rupture and repair, feeling bored sometimes, how it's nature to be attracted to other people.

Movies, books, music. They all advocate this highly romanticized idea of love without any mention of compromise, communication, rupture and repair, feeling bored sometimes, how it's natural to be attracted to other people.
電影，書籍，音樂。他們都主張這種高度浪漫化的愛情觀，完全不提及任何妥協、 溝通、分裂和修復、 厭倦期，或是如何自然而然被別人吸引。

Movies, books, music. They are all advocate this highly romanticized idea of love without any mention of compromise 錯一個