每日口說挑戰什麼是自信？為什麼我們容易失去自信？ (Confidence)

[Transcript]

Intro:
Hi guys, I have a question for you - Are you a confident person? Do you believe in yourselves? What does it even mean – having self-confidence? I believe that confidence comes from the inside, it’s not something that needs to be shown to other people. In fact, more often than not, people who try to act like they are confident, don’t have much at all. For example – you must know a few people that like to brag about themselves and talk down to others. Maybe they think this behavior makes them look stronger and more confident, but they are trying to hide their insecurity. You’d be surprised to know that truly confident people are often quiet. They like to listen more than they speak. They are willing to admit their mistakes and are not afraid of being criticized. Do you know anyone like that? Today’s video is about confidence - where it comes from originally and how easily you can lose it. But first, let’s have a look at the sentence of the day:

[1'38''] Sentence of the Day:
"We should feel compassionate about where those defensive parental messages came from; they were a protection, a survival strategy, and an escape from humiliation."
「我們應該同理這些具有防禦性的根本想法從何而來：他們是一種保護機制、避免遭到羞辱的生存策略。」

[2'31'']Pronunciation tips:
- defensive
- strategy
- parental (來自 “parent” /ˋpɛrənt/, 重音放在第二個音節 )
- and an escape (我覺得最難唸的是 and an escape。 唸比較快的時候會把這三個字都連起來。若你沒有辦法把它唸的清楚，也可以在and後面稍微停頓一下, 再繼續。

[3'36'']Vocabulary:

1. Compassionate KK: [kəmˋpæʃənet] IPA: [kəmˈpæʃənɪt]
Adj. 富有同情心的 Showing sympathy and sadness for others’ suffering.
Companssionate’s example sentence:
Children can be compassionate at an early age. For example, when a kid cries, the other might feel sorry for him.
小朋友在早期就富有同情心的。舉個例子來說，當有個小孩哭了，另一個就會替他難過。
Sympathy
N. 同理心 The feeling of caring for other’s feelings.

Kathy is a compassionate person.
凱西是一位富有同情心的人。
She has great sympathy for animals and has adopted several stray dogs.
她對動物很有同理心，已經認領了好幾隻流浪狗。

2. Defensive KK: [dɪˋfɛnsɪv] IPA: [dɪˈfɛnsɪv]
Adj. 防衛性的 To prepare himself/herself from attacking.

He claimed that punching the thief was a defensive action.
他宣稱揍小偷的那一拳是為了防衛。

You can also use protective as a synonym.

3. Humiliation KK: [hju͵mɪlɪˋeʃən] IPA: [hju(ː)ˌmɪlɪˈeɪʃən]
N. 羞辱 It’s the embarrassment and shame you feel when someone makes you appear stupid, or when you make a mistake in public.

I think the way our boss humiliated John in front of everyone was way too harsh, the humiliation he’s given to John is too much. 我覺得老闆在大家面前羞辱 John 實在太苛薄了。他給John的羞辱太超過了。

[5'40''] Outro:

Okay, this is it guys – now we know what it means to be a confident person. I think that it shows that we can all benefit from being confident. Confident people are probably more relaxed and healthy, because they are not trying to prove themselves to others all the time. Do you have any tips on how to boost confidence? Or perhaps there is someone in your life that would be interested in today’s video and could learn from it. Leave me a comment and share your thoughts, I’d love to hear from you.

So until next time, take care and stay positive!

See ya soon!

We should feel compassionate(/kəmˈpæʃ.ən.ət/有同情心的) about where those defensive(/dɪˈfen.sɪv/防禦性的) parental(/pəˈren.təl/父母的) messages(/ˈmes.ɪdʒ/中心思想n.) came from; they were a protection, a survival(/səˈvaɪ.vəl/生存n.) strategy(/ˈstræt.ə.dʒi/策略n.), and an escape(/ɪˈskeɪp/逃脫n.) from humiliation(/hjuːˌmɪl.iˈeɪ.ʃən/羞辱n.).
我們應該同理為人父母者的這些防禦性想法的由來。這些想法是一種保護機制，而且是能避免遭到羞辱的生存策略。

Hi guys, I have a question for you - Are you a confident person? Do you believe in yourselves? *What does it even mean(到底是什麼意思)– having self-confidence? I believe that confidence comes from the inside, it’s not something that needs to be shown to other people. In fact, *more often than not(通常), people who try to act like they are confident, don’t have much at all. For example – you must know a few people that like to brag(吹噓v.) about themselves and *talk down to others(以居高臨下的語氣對某人說話). Maybe they think this behavior makes them look stronger and more confident, but they are trying to hide(隱藏v.) their insecurity(/ˌɪn.səˈkjʊr.ə.t̬i/缺乏信心n.). You’d be surprised to know that truly confident people are often quiet. They like to listen more than they speak. They are willing to admit(承認v.) their mistakes and are not afraid of being criticized(被批評). Do you know anyone like that? Today’s video is about confidence - where it comes from originally and how easily you can lose it. But first, let’s have a look at the sentence of the day.

◆ more often than not : 往往，多半 = most of the time
More often than not, a student will come up with the right answer. 學生多半會作出正確的回答。

more often than/as not : 通常，常常，一般 = usually
More often than not when I make the effort to visit her, I wonder why I even bothered. 常常是當我很費勁去探望她的時候，我就不明白我為甚麼要找這麻煩。

◆ talk down to sb : (phr.) 以居高臨下的語氣對（某人）說話
I wish politicians wouldn't talk down to us as if we were idiots. 我希望政客們不要以那種居高臨下的語氣跟我們講話，好像我們都是白癡似的。

1.1 compassionate [kəmˋpæʃənet] a. 富有同情心的 = Showing sympathy and sadness for others’ suffering
Children can be compassionate at an early age. For example, when a kid cries, the other might feel sorry for him.

1.2 sympathy (n.) 同理心 = The feeling of caring for other’s feelings
Kathy is a compassionate person. She has great sympathy for animals and has adopted(領養v.) several *stray dogs(流浪狗).

2. defensive [dɪˋfɛnsɪv] a. 防衛性的 = protective
= To prepare himself/herself from attacking
He claimed that punching(用拳猛擊v.) the thief was a defensive action.

3. humiliation [hju͵mɪlɪˋeʃən] n. 羞辱
It’s the embarrassment(尷尬n.) and shame(羞辱n.) you feel when someone makes you appear(呈現v.) stupid, or when you make a mistake in public.
I think the way our boss humiliated(/hjuːˈmɪl.i.eɪt/羞辱v.) John in front of everyone was way too harsh(/hɑːrʃ/嚴厲的), the humiliation he’s given to John is too much.

Okay, this is it guys – now we know what it means to be a confident person. I think that it shows that we can all benefit(有益v.) from being confident. Confident people are probably more relaxed and healthy, because they are not trying to prove themselves to others *all the time(一直;不停). Do you have any tips on how to boost(增強v.) confidence? Or perhaps there is someone in your life that would be interested in today’s video and could learn from it. Leave me a comment and share your thoughts, I’d love to hear from you. So until next time, take care and stay positive(正向的)!

We should feel compassionate about where those defensive parental messages came from; they were a protection, a survival strategy, and an escape from humiliation.

☺We should feel compassionate about where those defensive parental messages came from; they were a protection, a survival strategy, and an escape from humiliation.
我們應該同理父母們這些具有防禦性的想法是從何而來：這些想法是一種保護機制、一種生存策略、同時也是迴避羞辱的一個方式。
【心得】很多習慣和思考模式是從小就養成的，我的自信心是從小就被打擊的:p
■compassionate [kəmˋpæʃənət] (adj.) 富有同情心的、憐憫的、慈悲的[(+toward)]
■defensive [dɪˋfɛnsɪv] (adj.) 防禦性的、防衛性的；防禦的；保護的、防護用的；保衛的；(比賽中)防守性的、防守的
■humiliation [hju͵mɪlɪˋeʃən] (n.C or U) 屈辱；羞辱；丟臉；蒙羞
■parental[pəˋrɛnt!] (adj.)父母的；父親的；母親的；{植物}親本的、親代的

Compassion is something the society is losing right now. I've seen so many at work who always talk down to others, making themselves look stronger and more confident, but I can see who they really are, a species lacking everything but a shield of self-protection.

什麼防衛機制的想法我隨時都可以盯勾機啦

We should feel compassionate about where those defensive parental messages came from; they were a protection, a survival strategy, and an escape from humiliation.
我們應該同理這些具有防禦性的根本想法從何而來：他們是一種保護機制、避免遭到羞辱的生存策略。