每日口說挑戰不健全家庭的8個常見特徵 (8 Common Characteristics of a Dysfunctional Family)

☺When perfectionism is highly regarded, and children have to bear their parents' unrealistic expectations, they may grow up with self-image and self-esteem issues, believing they'll never be good enough.
當完美主義高度被看重，小孩就必須背負父母不切實際的期望，在成長的過程中，可能造成自我形象和自尊上的問題，總覺得自己永遠都不夠好。
【心得】在亞洲社會應該很多這樣的小孩。
■regard [rɪˋgɑrd] (v.) 把…看作、把…認為[(+as)]；(常用於否定句)注重、注意、考慮；看待；注視，凝視[(+with)]；與…有關；尊敬，尊重
(n.U) 注重、注意、考慮、關心[(+to/for)]；尊敬、尊重、器重[(+for)] 注視、凝視；關係、事項
(n.P) 問候、致意
■bear [bɛr] (vt.) 忍受、經得起[+to-v][+v-ing][+that]；承擔；容許；佩帶；擁有；具有；寫有、印有、帶有；懷有、對…抱有[(+for/against)]；生(孩子)；結(果實)；開(花)；生(利息)；值得、需要；(與oneself連用)表現透過賣空使行情下跌
(vi.) 轉向；承受重量(或壓力)；用力推(或擠、壓)；開花結果；(依一定方向)延伸；做空頭
(adj.) 賣空的、行情下跌的
(n.C) 熊；似熊的動物；{口語}(年齡較大、身材魁梧且多毛的)同性戀男人；(股市中)做空頭者；(對行情)看跌的人
■unrealistic [͵ʌnrɪəˋlɪstɪk] (adj.)不切實際的；不實事求是的；不現實的
■self-esteem [͵sɛlfəsˋtim] 自尊

Introduction
‘Sup VoiceTubers? How are we doing?

So, we’re talking about dysfunctional families today. Dysfunctional means something that isn’t working right, basically, and with dysfunctional families, naturally, comes a lot of drama. It’s one of my favourite things to see on screen. But it isn’t as fascinating or intriguing when it’s real, when it’s real, it’s just maddening and sad.

Our video today talks about 8 signs of a dysfunctional family, perfectionism being one of them:

Sentence
When perfectionism is highly regarded, and children have to bear their parents' unrealistic expectations, they may grow up with self-image and self-esteem issues, believing they'll never be good enough.
當完美主義被高舉，小孩就必須背負父母不切實際的期望，在成長的過程中，可能造成自我形象和自尊上的問題，總覺得自己永遠都不夠好


Pronunciation tips

perfectionism
unrealistic
expectations



Vocabulary
regard /rɪˈɡɑːrd/
v. 考慮，思考；將…認為；看待
to consider or have an opinion about something or someone


Example:
Diana is often regarded with respect due to her charity work.
Diana 常因她的慈善服務被他人以尊敬的眼光看待。


Footnotes:
Synonyms - treat, perceive



Bear /ber/
v. 忍受；容忍；經受；承擔
to accept, tolerate, or endure something, especially something unpleasant


Example:
Turn the music off, I cannot bear another second of this monstrosity.
把音樂關掉，這種可怕的東西我無法再忍受任何一秒。

Footnotes:
Chip on my shoulder/burden/baggage 負擔



unrealistic /ˌʌn.riː.əˈlɪs.tɪk/
adj. 不切實際的；不實事求是的；不現實的
having a wrong idea of what is likely to happen or of what you can really do; not based on facts

realist
n. 現實主義者；務實的人；注重實際的人
someone who hopes for or accepts only what seems possible or likely, and does not hope for or expect more




Example:

Jason’s mother warns him to steer clear of unrealistic notions, she doesn’t want to get his hopes up.
Jason 的媽媽警告他遠離不切實際的想法，她不想害他過於期待。


Footnotes:

Synonyms - idealistic, impractical
Antonyms - practical, rational




Self-esteem /ˌself.ɪˈstiːm/
n. 自尊
belief and confidence in your own ability and value

low /high self-esteem


Example:
It’s easy for people to develop low self-esteem with social media constantly providing unrealistic expectations.
因為社群軟體的時常灌注不切實際的期望，人們現在很容易發展出卑微的自尊心。





Outro
As we come to the end of today’s episode, I’ve gotta mention these two amazing films that feature dysfunctional families. First, Netflix’s original series, Umbrella Academy is a stunner in action/magical realism and the next, Knives Out is a brilliant thriller/comedy/mystery. All that good stuff. I hope you enjoy it! Don’t forget your recordings and I’ll catch you next time!

When perfectionism(/pɚˈfek.ʃən.ɪ.zəm/完美主義) is highly regarded(/rɪˈɡɑːrd/看重v.), and children have to bear(/ber/背負v.) their parents' unrealistic(/ˌʌn.riː.əˈlɪs.tɪk/不切實際的a.) expectations(/ˌek.spekˈteɪ.ʃən/期望n.), they may grow up with self-image(/ˈɪm.ɪdʒ/形象n.) and self-esteem(/ɪˈstiːm/尊重n.) issues( /ˈɪs.juː/問題n.), believing they'll never be good enough.
(以下翻譯取自unickname) 當完美主義高度被看重，小孩就必須背負父母不切實際的期望，在成長的過程中，可能造成自我形象和自尊上的問題，總覺得自己永遠都不夠好。

0:27 ‘Sup VoiceTubers? How are we doing? So, we’re talking about dysfunctional(/dɪsˈfʌŋk.ʃən.əl/失常的a.) families today. Dysfunctional means something that isn’t working right, basically, and with dysfunctional families, naturally, comes a lot of drama(/ˈdrɑː.mə/戲劇性事件). It’s honestly one of my favourite things to see on screen(n.螢幕). But it isn’t as fascinating or intriguing(/ɪnˈtriː.ɡɪŋ/非常有趣的a.) when it’s real, when it’s real, it’s just maddening(/ˈmæd.ən.ɪŋ/惱火的a.) and sad. Our video today talks about 8 signs of a dysfunctional family, perfectionism being one of them. 8 Common Characteristics(/ˌker.ək.təˈrɪs.tɪk/特徵n.) of a Dysfunctional Family

■ intriguing /ɪnˈtriː.ɡɪŋ/ a. 非常有趣的；引人入勝的；神秘的
She has a really intriguing personality.
她的個性極具魅力。

■ maddening /ˈmæd.ən.ɪŋ/ a. 使人惱怒的
She has a maddening habit of interrupting me when I'm talking to her.
和她說話時她老是打斷我，這個毛病讓我十分惱火。

1.1 regard /rɪˈɡɑːrd/ v. 考慮，思考；將…認為；看待 = to consider or have an opinion about something or someone
Diana is often regarded with respect(n.尊重) due to her charity(/ˈtʃer.ə.t̬i/慈善事業n.) work.

1.2 treat /triːt/ v. 對待
I treat something with respect.
+My parents treated us all the same when we were kids.
小時候，父母對我們一視同仁。

1.3 perceive /pəˈsiːv/ (v.) 認為；看待；視為
+How do the French perceive the British?
法國人是如何看待英國人的？

2.1 bear /ber/ v. 忍受；容忍；經受；承擔 = to accept, tolerate, or endure something, especially something unpleasant
Turn the music off, I cannot bear another second of this monstrosity(/mɑːnˈstrɑː.sə.t̬i/巨大而醜陋的東西).

■ monstrosity /mɑːnˈstrɑː.sə.t̬i/ n. 巨大而醜陋的東西
+The new office building is a real monstrosity.
新的辦公大樓真是個龐大的怪物。

2.2 chip(木塊n.) on my shoulder：重擔；重責大任
I have a huge chip on my shoulder.
我肩膀上有一個很大的重擔。

■ have a chip on your shoulder
（因覺得受委屈或不如別人優秀而）生氣，耿耿於懷；心裡有根刺，懷恨在心；心裡不平衡
He's got a chip on his shoulder about not having been to university. 他因上不到大學而耿耿於懷。

My co-worker always has a chip on his shoulder because the boss didn't give him a promotion.
我的同事因為老闆沒給他升職而懷恨在心。

2.3 burden /ˈbɝː.dən/ n. 負擔，重擔
+the burden of responsibility : 責任的重擔

2.4 baggage /ˈbæɡ.ɪdʒ/ n. 思想包袱；行李
+ We all carry a lot of emotional baggage around with us.
我們每個人都有許多感情的負擔。

3.1 unrealistic /ˌʌn.riː.əˈlɪs.tɪk/ adj. 不切實際的；不實事求是的；不現實的 = having a wrong idea of what is likely to happen or of what you can really do; not based on facts
Jason’s mother warns him to steer(掌握方向v.) clear(adv.不靠近地) of unrealistic notions(/ˈnoʊ.ʃən/想法), she doesn’t want to *get his hopes up.
Jason 的媽媽警告他遠離不切實際的想法，她不想害他過於期待。

■ get (one's) hopes up : 抱持希望
Sadie has gotten her hopes up about going to the carnival(/ˈkɑːr.nə.vəl/嘉年華n.) tonight, so I think she'll be disappointed(a.失望的) if we don't go.

3.2 realist (n.) /ˈriː.ə.lɪst/ 現實主義者；務實的人；注重實際的人 = someone who hopes for or accepts only what seems possible or likely, and does not hope for or expect more
+ I'm a realist - I knew there was no way I could win, so I swam for a good finish, for points.
我是個現實主義者——我知道我根本贏不了，所以我只想著盡可能快地游到終點，拿到積分。

3.3 idealistic /ˌaɪ.diː.əˈlɪs.tɪk/ 理想主義的；空想的
+ When I was young and idealistic I believed it was possible to change the world.

3.4 impractical /ɪmˈpræk.tɪ.kəl/ a.（安排、想法或方法）不切實際的，不現實的
+ It's impractical to have so many people all trying to use this equipment at the same time.
要讓這麼多人同時使用這個設備是不切實際的。

3.5 practical /ˈpræk.tɪ.kəl/ a. 實際的；實做的；有實際經驗的
+ Qualifications are important but practical experience is always a plus.
資歷固然重要，但實際經驗總是個優勢。

3.6 rational /ˈræʃ.ən.əl/ a. 頭腦清醒的；理智的
+ There must be some rational explanation for what happened.
對發生的事一定有一個理性的解釋。

4. self-esteem /ˌself.ɪˈstiːm/ n. 自尊 = belief and confidence in your own ability and value
low /high self-esteem : 高/低自尊
It’s easy for people to develop(v.發展) low self-esteem with social media(社群媒體) constantly(持續地adv.) providing(提供v.) unrealistic expectations.

As we come to the end of today’s episode, I’ve gotta(=have got to) mention(v.提起) these two amazing films that feature(v.以…為特色) dysfunctional families. First, Netflix’s original series, Umbrella Academy(譯:雨傘學院) is a stunner(魅力十足者) in action and magical realism(現實主義風格) and the next is Knives Out(譯:鋒迴路轉) which is just brilliant, it’s a thriller(驚悚戲劇), comedy(喜劇) and mystery(神秘) all together, all that good stuff.

【shoot from the hip】心直口快、有話直說
- speak directly or bluntly, without caring for consequences
- react quickly or impulsively
- act recklessly, without considering the effects
・Don’t feel bad about what he said. He has a habit of shooting from the hip, but he means no harm.
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When perfectionism is highly regarded, and children have to bear their parents' unrealistic expectations, they may grow up with self-image and self-esteem issues, believing they'll never be good enough.

現在竟然還有發音分析功能 Σ(ಠ_ಠ)
有人用過嗎

我是覺得，都不一定耶～
人生，很難說的準。

父母高期待，但是有可能小孩天生叛逆反骨，偏偏不從。

嘎油
When perfectionism is highly regarded, and children have to bear their parent’s unrealistic expectations, they may grow up with self-image and self-esteem issues, believing they’ll never be good enough.

When perfectionism is highly regarded, and children have to bear their parents' unrealistic expectations, they may grow up with self-image and self-esteem issues, believing they'll never be good enough.