每日口說挑戰你的另一半是控制狂嗎？淺談情緒勒索 (My Boyfriend Is A Control Freak And He's Way Out Of Line)

Thank you, Heather.

我覺得雙方在談感情的時候，有遇到讓自己覺得彆扭的部分，一定要提出來討論，不要一味接受到最後無法忍受才爆發，而且還會讓對方覺得你這樣爆發很莫名其妙。

But he should have dealt with his insecurities before starting a relationship.

[swamped]
I'm swamped with work. = too much work, are overloaded with work

[rose-colored glasses / rose-tinted glasses]

When you look at a person/situation through rose-colored glasses, you see only their good point or pleasant situation. Therefore, your view of them is unrealistic

☺But he should've dealt with his insecurities before starting a relationship.
但他在要開始談戀愛之前，就應該先解決自己缺乏安全感的問題。
【心得】自己的問題還沒解決就談戀愛只會衍生更多新的問題。
■deal with sth/sb. 處理、解決…；對待、應付、討論；與…打交道；關於、與…相關
■insecurity [͵ɪnsɪˋkjʊrətɪ] 缺乏信心/自信；無把握；不安全感
不安全；不牢靠；不穩定
■relationship [rɪˋleʃənˋʃɪp] (人們彼此間的)關係；感情/親屬/姻親關係；關係、關聯
■step/be out of line 犯錯、行為不當、越軌
out of line不成一行、不成一條直線
be out of line with sth與…不同

1+1>2 ；0.5+（-0.5）=0

I have been pretty swamped(濕地).
=I have tons of things to do.有源源不決的事情要做
/
But he should have dealt*with his insecurities before starting a relationship.
但他不應該在沒有解決自己缺乏安全感的問題前就貿然開始一段關係。

deal(v.)
deal with
(to take action in order to achieve something or in order to solve a problem.)

No one wants to deal with their problems, people usually choose avoid it or run away from it.

insecurity(n.)缺乏信心/自信的；無把握的
(a feeling of lacking confidence and not being sure of your own abilities or of whether people like you.)

We have the most insecurities during our teenage years.

relationship
(a close romantic *friendship between two people.)

I’m not sure what kind of relationship we are in.

“Rose-colored glasses “玫瑰色的眼鏡
(鬼遮眼~)
this terms it’s commonly use when people are in a relationship to mean that they’re only seeing things in the positive side and not seeing things very clearly cause they’re ignorant all the negative things that might be appeared.

dependent | independent

小心情緒勒索~~~

[NOTE]

But he should have dealt with his insecurities before starting a relationship.

但他不應該在沒有解決自己缺乏安全感的問題前就貿然開始一段關係。

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1. _
* deal [dil] (v.) 處理
- take action in order to achieve something or an order to solve a problem
- No one wants to deal with their problems people usually choose to avoid it or run away from it.
+ 沒有人願意處理他們通常選擇避免或遠離它的問題。
+ =>

2. _
* insecurity [͵ɪnsɪˋkjʊrətɪ] (n.) 缺乏信心/自信的；無把握的
- it means a feeling of lacking confidence and not being sure of your own abilities or whether people like you.
- We have the most insecurities during our teenage years.
+ 在我們十幾歲的時候，我們最缺乏信心。

3. _
* relationship [rɪˋleʃənˋʃɪp] (n.) 感情關係
- A romantic relationship between two people
- I'm not sure what kind of relationship we are in
+ 我不確定我們的關係是什麼樣的

#但很多人的確是在關係中尋找安全感啊？
But he should have dealt with his insecurities before starting a relationship.

覺得媽媽的控制欲比較重，有種冷叫媽媽覺得冷，媽媽的溫度感知決定我們穿衣服的厚度...

DAY946
安全感真的很難建立
超佩服那些可以讓另一半自由去玩樂 自己還能很安心的人

不太懂這個邏輯，有的人的壓力是一段關係後才開始的

Day 297

But he should◡ have dealt with his◡ insecurities/ before starting a relationship.

should have Vpp before ... 在那...之前就該

A control freak 控制狂
Be way out of line 越線、不得體、不洽當