Name: 不知道怎麼開口約別人出去嗎？教你五招成功邀約技巧！ (5 Ways to Ask Someone Out)
Uploaded: 2020-01-07T21:01:30.000Z
Duration: 4 min 32 s

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We just want to take the time to thank you for all your kind support.

我們由衷感謝你們的大力支持。

We are a team of dedicated, passionate, and hard-working individuals who come together every day with one goal in mind.

我們團隊裡的每個人都抱持著熱誠，努力地朝共同目標邁進。

We want to make psychology come alive for you.

我們希望讓心理學變得平易近人。

We are self-funded and recently launched our Patreon.

我們的經費都是出自於自己，而最近我們發起了群眾募資的活動。

If you enjoy the work we do and find it meaningful, please stick around until the end of the video for information on how to get more involved with us and all the cool rewards you can get from us.

如果你喜歡我們的創作，請一定要看到最後來了解募資的詳細資訊，以及你將會獲得什麼回報。

Asking someone out can be downright scary.

主動邀約別人可說是件極可怕的事。

Your heart may be racing right now just thinking about your crush.

光是想著暗戀對象就足以讓心臟撲通撲通狂跳。

You keep telling yourself that today will be the day you do it, whether it's when you both have physics class together, through a text message during your lunch break, or a phone call right before you head to bed.

你總是告訴自己今天一定成功約到他，可能是在物理課的時候、午餐時間用訊息密他或是睡前打通電話給他。

One common misconception about our dating culture is that the awkwardness and sweaty palms only happen in our teenage years.

許多人對「約會文化」都有個誤解，那就是狂流手汗和尷尬感只會發生在青少年時期。

But many adults can find it just as nerve-wracking, and struggle with it.

不過，就算隨著歲數增長，主動約人出去依舊是件難事。

We understand how intimidating it is to put yourself out there and want to help you practice being open and vulnerable.

我們了解這件事有多麼困難，因此想教大家如何大方邀約他人。

Before asking someone out, It's important to find out whether you two have something in common.

在開口邀約他人之前，先找到彼此的共同嗜好。

Instead of making generic small talk, you can delve into topics that help you get to know each other better.

與其談論些普通的小話題，不如聊聊可以深入了解對方的事。

For instance, you can talk about recent movies or books that made an impact on your life if you know that they have also seen or read them.

舉例來說，你可以聊你覺得具有人生意義的電影或書籍，前提是你知道對方也有看過或讀過。

You can also ask them about what their passions, interests, hobbies, and dreams are.

或者你也可以問問對方的興趣、嗜好和夢想等等。

Once you find something that the two of you share, you can converse with them on a deeper level, rather than having dead-end conversations that prevent the both of you from growing closer.

當你找到共同興趣後，你可以更進一步延伸此話題來拉近彼此關係，而不要讓它成為個句點式對話。

Pick an activity that allows the both of you to bond and have a good time.

挑個能夠促進彼此關係的活動。

Going out for coffee or drinks, a walk in the park, or a museum are safe options that aren't too overwhelming.

一起去喝咖啡、公園散步、去博物館逛逛都是很安全又合適的約會行程。

Make sure that the location you pick isn't too crowded or noisy that prevents you from hearing each other speak.

此外，還要確保約會地點不會人擠人或是吵雜，以免你們聽不清楚對方講話。

This is especially important for introverts.

這一點對於個性內向的人尤其重要。

你的暗戀對象是個內向的人嗎？

Check out our video, "5 Dating Tips For Introverts" for more helpful information.

你可以觀看這部「五個與內向者約會的技巧」來獲得相關資訊。

It's commonly advised not to go to the movie theater as a first date because it doesn't give you a chance to interact as much.

第一次約會最好不要去看電影，因為在看電影的時候比較沒有機會互動。

But if the two of you decide to have ice cream and talk about the film later, it can act as an icebreaker and give you something to talk about.

不過如果你們兩個決議好看完電影要去吃冰淇淋邊聊電影內容的話，那麼看電影就會是個增加話題的破冰行程。

3. It's Cliche And Overused, But Be Yourself.

第三個方法是老套的廢話，但請做自己。

You hear this line all the time, but there's a reason why it's true.

你可能常常聽到這句話，我就來告訴你為何這句話是真的。

When you're in a relationship with someone, it's not about constantly telling each other how great you are that leaves you no room to be yourself on your bad days.

當你正和某人談戀愛，不代表你就要無時無刻誇獎對方有多棒。因為這麼做將會使得你在心情不好時也沒有個人空間。

而這道理也可以應用在邀約他人上。

你必須避免自己像個銷售人員。

所以，你應該要拿出你的真心誠意。

Let the other person know that you think they're interesting and that you're willing to learn more about them.

讓對方知道你對他有興趣，而且想要進一步認識他。

但是，記得不要咄咄逼人，給對方壓力。

After all, you can't make someone return the same feelings.

畢竟，你不能要求他人也要回報給你同等的感受。

Respecting each other's space and boundaries is important.

尊重對方的自我空間和底線是件極為重要的事。

4. Figure Out Where You Want to Ask Them.

第四，想清楚你要在哪裡進行邀約。

In this day and age, we can text, email, or call our crushes when we want to ask them out.

在這個時代，你可透過傳訊息、電子郵件或是電話來邀約暗戀對象出去。

Asking someone out in person is also an option, but it may be used less often nowadays because of how intimidating it can be.

當面邀約也是選擇之一，不過因為這是件令人緊張害怕的事，所以越來越少人這麼做。

Depending on how long you have known the person, and whether or not the two of you have exchanged phone numbers, added each other on social media, or have mutual friends, figure out which method works best for you.

這要取決於你認識對方多久，你有沒有他的手機號碼、有沒有在社群網站上加他好友、有沒有共同好友之類的，好好地思考這些問題並找出最適合自己的方法。

Keep in mind that each platform has its own pros and cons.

要記得每個方法都有它的優缺點。

For instance, asking someone out in person doesn't give you a chance to retype a message.

譬如，當面邀約的話你就不能像傳訊息一樣，刪掉訊息再重新傳。

But it does allow you to see their reaction, and their answer will be immediate, rather than waiting to hear back from a text.

不過，當面你才可以看到對方的真實反應，也能夠馬上得到答覆，不會像傳訊息一樣需要苦苦等待。

第五，不要想太多，勇敢地去做吧！

不要猶豫不決，不敢有所行動。

It's scary putting your heart on the line, but you never know what may happen if you don't try.

雖然「主動邀約」會讓你緊張得直冒冷汗，但如果你不試，你永遠都不知道會發生什麼事。

Constantly letting your fears and thoughts dwell up inside of you will only allow your walls to grow higher.

再說，持續累積恐懼和負面想法只會使心牆越積越高。

It's better to take a chance than look back with regrets and what-ifs.

放手一搏總比事後後悔來得好。

There will be times they'll be rejected, but, remember that this only brings you closer to the person you're meant to be with.

也許會被拒絕好幾次，但你只要想著每個拒絕都讓你更接近你命中注定的另一半就好。

Do you have trouble working up the courage to ask someone out?

你覺得鼓起勇氣，邀約他人很困難嗎？

Please share your thoughts with us below.

請在底下留言和我們分享你的想法。

Also, don't forget to subscribe for more content from Psych2go and check out our Patreon!

還有，不要忘記訂閱我們的頻道並去 Patreon 上查閱關於群眾募資的資訊。

We started it because we want to grow into a bigger platform that reaches more people who are in need of help.

我們之所以會發起群眾募資活動是因為我們想要接觸到更多需要幫助的人。

With your contribution, you can receive our psy pendant, T-shirt, issues of our magazine, and many more membership benefits!

為了回報你的貢獻，你將會收到我們的周邊商品，例如項鍊、T-shirt、雜誌等更多會員專屬好禮。

Your funding will help us produce quality scripts writing, voice overs, and animation that makes our content both entertaining, and educational.

你提供的資金將會幫助我們創作出更多高品且富有教育內涵的影片，無論在內容、配音或是動畫上都會有更大的進展。

We want to make sure our community members get the best, and only the best.

我們會確保我們的頻道會員獲得最好的回饋。

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