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It's often hard not to feel envious of them - as they ascend the stage to collect another
prize, float their start-up company, are promoted a decade ahead of their peers or dominate
the music charts or bestseller lists. Over-achievers torment us rather a lot.
But we should, more rightly, combine our envy with a little compassion. It is likely that
these gifted souls are paying an oddly elevated price for their extraordinary successes, so
much so that - once their full psychological profiles are in view - we should start to
feel a bit sorry for the trajectory of their lives.
What distinguishes over-achievers from the simply highly talented or driven is what powers
them in their work. They labour principally or primarily not because they uniquely enjoy
what they do or have more urgent material demands than the rest of us, but because they
are subject to unusually intense internal, psychological pressures. Behind their relentless
activity lies an emotional rather than professional burden. It may look as if they simply want
to sell more books, accumulate more shares or have their name in lights. But these over-achievers
are all the while trying to secure something far more tricky, unusual and unmentioned:
they are trying - through their work - to correct an aspect of a troubled emotional
past. They are trying to impress a father who felt withholding and severe around them
three decades before. They're hoping their triumphs will compensate a parent they loved
for the loss of a sibling in childhood. They are hoping to assuage a feeling of catastrophe
they experienced in the deprived chaotic home of their birth.
In other words, over-achievers are trying to solve a range of psychological problems
through material or worldly means. This is why their efforts must, in a deep sense, always
be doomed to failure - even when it appears to most of the world as if they are succeeding
beyond measure.
Because success is the moment when over-achievers are likely to notice the doomed nature of
their ambition, it is a particularly troubling and dangerous eventuality. Depression may
set in just after the company is sold; the star will fall into a crisis just after they
finally gain worldwide recognition. At exactly the point when their work is acclaimed or
finds its audience, over-achievers are at risk of severe breakdown. So long as they
are merely running, they can forget to notice that their goal is misaligned with their true
inner ambition. They must wait for success to reveal the fateful nature of their life's quest.
The cure for over-achievement involves pausing to address the psychological wounds that made
hard work feel like the only defence against intolerable trauma. It means returning to
the situations that made achievement feel life sustaining. It means a confrontation
with moments of loss, disconnection, lack of love, sadness and humiliation.
The recovering over-achiever should allow themselves to feel compassion for their earlier
self, acknowledging how much they wish could have gone differently and grasping how their
parent so-call successful personality has been shaped as a response to grave wounds
The cure for over-achievement lies in mourning and analysis in an atmosphere of love.
The over-achiever may eventually come to believe that they deserve a place on the earth whether
they work or not. They aren't there just to perform. The greater need is to connect
and to understand.
We live in a world very interested in huge achievements and very uninclined to notice
the trauma behind them. We are equally not encouraged to note the way in which contentment
with modest achievement can be a sign that things have gone very well for someone emotionally.
It is evidence of health to have no particular wish to be famous and not to mind too much
if one doesn't have a fortune; to be able to have a so-called ordinary life, to take
pleasure in holidays and to place friendship and love at the center of things. We should,
on occasion, dare to feel rather sorry for over-achievers - even if that can mean starting
to feel sorry for ourselves.
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成就過高不一定是好事!(The Problem With Over-achievement)

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Samuel 發佈於 2018 年 6 月 19 日    Kevin Tsai 翻譯    Evangeline 審核
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