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  • It's often hard not to feel envious of them - as they ascend the stage to collect another

    很難不去嫉妒他們一步一步登上舞台,得到各種榮耀

  • prize, float their start-up company, are promoted a decade ahead of their peers or dominate

    剛創業就一飛沖天、大幅度領先同期對手、

  • the music charts or bestseller lists. Over-achievers torment us rather a lot.

    稱霸音樂排行榜與暢銷榜,「過度成功者」總是讓我們自嘆不如

  • But we should, more rightly, combine our envy with a little compassion. It is likely that

    但除了嫉妒,我們也應該放入一點同情心

  • these gifted souls are paying an oddly elevated price for their extraordinary successes, so

    因為很可能這些靈魂正為他們的卓越付出很高的代價

  • much so that - once their full psychological profiles are in view - we should start to

    以至於當我們看到了他們的心理概況,

  • feel a bit sorry for the trajectory of their lives.

    可能會開始為他們的生活軌跡感到有點抱歉

  • What distinguishes over-achievers from the simply highly talented or driven is what powers

    過度成功者及一般高才能、高自我要求者的差別是驅使他們工作的原因

  • them in their work. They labour principally or primarily not because they uniquely enjoy

    過度成功者有紀律、使盡全力的工作並不是因為特別享受工作

  • what they do or have more urgent material demands than the rest of us, but because they

    或是有比我們有更多的客戶要求,而是因為

  • are subject to unusually intense internal, psychological pressures. Behind their relentless

    他們臣服於異於常人緊繃的內心及心理壓力,讓他們日以繼夜工作的是

  • activity lies an emotional rather than professional burden. It may look as if they simply want

    精神負擔而不是工作負擔。也許表面上他們只是想多賣幾本書、

  • to sell more books, accumulate more shares or have their name in lights. But these over-achievers

    取得更多股份或是讓自己聲名大噪,但真相是

  • are all the while trying to secure something far more tricky, unusual and unmentioned:

    過度成功者其實一直嘗試去守護那些更難處理、超乎常理及不曾被提起的秘密

  • they are trying - through their work - to correct an aspect of a troubled emotional

    他們透過工作來導正充滿問題的過去

  • past. They are trying to impress a father who felt withholding and severe around them

    也許是為了感動一位在 30 年前冷淡嚴厲的父親

  • three decades before. They're hoping their triumphs will compensate a parent they loved

    過度成功者希望這些卓越成就可以彌補深愛的雙親

  • for the loss of a sibling in childhood. They are hoping to assuage a feeling of catastrophe

    因為他們曾失去了一個孩子,希望可以減輕因為自己的誕生

  • they experienced in the deprived chaotic home of their birth.

    而使家庭支離破碎的悲痛

  • In other words, over-achievers are trying to solve a range of psychological problems

    也可以說,過度成功者正在嘗試經由各種苦難

  • through material or worldly means. This is why their efforts must, in a deep sense, always

    去解決一連串心理層面的難關,這也是為什麼不論已經付出多少努力

  • be doomed to failure - even when it appears to most of the world as if they are succeeding

    在他們的眼中總是不夠,即使在大部份人的眼中

  • beyond measure.

    他們的成績早已超乎想像

  • Because success is the moment when over-achievers are likely to notice the doomed nature of

    過度成功者在成功前都要先承受自己的野心所帶來的巨大壓力

  • their ambition, it is a particularly troubling and dangerous eventuality. Depression may

    這是特別危險及難以處理的部分

  • set in just after the company is sold; the star will fall into a crisis just after they

    他們可能在公司被賣出時罹患憂鬱症,明日之星在紅遍全球的同時

  • finally gain worldwide recognition. At exactly the point when their work is acclaimed or

    也隨時可能殞落,在他們打出了自己的知名度的同時,

  • finds its audience, over-achievers are at risk of severe breakdown. So long as they

    過度成就者也把自己推到了崩潰的邊緣,只要再多前進一步

  • are merely running, they can forget to notice that their goal is misaligned with their true

    他們就會很容易掉入深淵,忘記這一切已經偏離了初衷

  • inner ambition. They must wait for success to reveal the fateful nature of their life's quest.

    他們必須等待成功來帶出自己對人生的渴望

  • The cure for over-achievement involves pausing to address the psychological wounds that made

    能夠拯救過度傑出者的解藥,包括暫時不再為了心理創傷

  • hard work feel like the only defence against intolerable trauma. It means returning to

    而使全力工作成為對抗痛苦創傷的最後一道防線。這代表著重新

  • the situations that made achievement feel life sustaining. It means a confrontation

    找回當初自己達到那份成就的感動

  • with moments of loss, disconnection, lack of love, sadness and humiliation.

    這代表著要再次面對過去的失去、空虛感、孤寂感、悲傷與羞恥感

  • The recovering over-achiever should allow themselves to feel compassion for their earlier

    復原中的過度成功者應該為過去的自己產生憐憫感

  • self, acknowledging how much they wish could have gone differently and grasping how their

    承認自己多麽希望當時自己能夠做出不同的抉擇,瞭解一直以來

  • parent so-call successful personality has been shaped as a response to grave wounds

    追求父母們口中的「成功人格特質」,已成為自己心中傷口的無聲回應

  • The cure for over-achievement lies in mourning and analysis in an atmosphere of love.

    過度成功者的解藥,就是在充滿愛的環境下釋放情緒,及仔細思考一切

  • The over-achiever may eventually come to believe that they deserve a place on the earth whether

    然後他們也許會開始相信,不論有沒有工作,這世界永遠會為自己留一個位置

  • they work or not. They aren't there just to perform. The greater need is to connect

    他們的存在不單單只為了滿足他人。我們需要更多人與人之間的連結

  • and to understand.

    及互相理解

  • We live in a world very interested in huge achievements and very uninclined to notice

    我們生存的世界重視高成就,卻非常不願意去注意

  • the trauma behind them. We are equally not encouraged to note the way in which contentment

    這些高成就背後的傷痛,我們也不鼓勵輕易對現有成就感到感足

  • with modest achievement can be a sign that things have gone very well for someone emotionally.

    卻沒發現到,適當的成就其實就可以帶給人們心靈上很大的滿足

  • It is evidence of health to have no particular wish to be famous and not to mind too much

    不刻意追求名聲、不過份介意財富都是是健康的象徵

  • if one doesn't have a fortune; to be able to have a so-called ordinary life, to take

    我們應該都有權利去過所謂平凡的生活

  • pleasure in holidays and to place friendship and love at the center of things. We should,

    一個可以享受假日,去交朋友,去真實的享受一切的生活

  • on occasion, dare to feel rather sorry for over-achievers - even if that can mean starting

    偶爾,我們應該為過度成功者感到抱歉,即使這可能也意味著一個

  • to feel sorry for ourselves.

    為我們自己感到抱歉的開始

  • We hope you enjoyed this film. If you want to learn more about Self-Knowledge, follow the link on your screen now.

    我們希望你享受這部影片,如果想學習更多關於自我認識的議題,請點選螢幕上的連結

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成就過高不一定是好事!(The Problem With Over-achievement)

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    Samuel 發佈於 2018 年 06 月 18 日
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