Name: 讓你瞬間獲得尊重的 1% 頂級祕密！ (Top 1% Secrets To Make ANYONE Respect You Instantly)
Uploaded: 2026-01-09T02:55:31.000Z
Duration: 13 min 9 s

If you want to be respected, liked and taken seriously, your actions matter more than anything.

如果你想被尊重、被喜歡、被認真看待，你的行為比什麼都重要。

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You see, I spent years working with the top business owners and starting my own multimillion dollar business.

你知道嗎，我花了多年時間與頂尖的企業家合作，並創辦了我自己的數百萬美元的生意。

So I've seen firsthand the differences between the people who get respect versus those who get overlooked.

所以我親眼見證了那些獲得尊重的人和那些被忽略的人之間的差異。

So these are the five ways to make anyone respect you.

所以這五種方法能讓你贏得任何人的尊重。

Do you want to be respected or do you want to be liked?

你是想被尊重，還是想被喜歡？

I am a natural people pleaser and I think this should shocks people who meet me today because I don't have traditional people pleasing qualities any longer.

我是個天生的人際取悅者，我想這可能會讓現在認識我的人感到驚訝，因為我已經沒有傳統的人際取悅的特質了。

And that's because I have made active choices for the last decade to not choose to be liked more than I want to be respected.

這是因為在過去十年裡，我做出了主動的選擇，不再選擇被喜歡勝過被尊重。

See, when you don't know which one of the two you're going after, you can get confused.

你看，當你不知道自己追求的是哪一個時，你可能會感到困惑。

Because when you're meeting people and you want to please people, you can end up pleasing the wrong people.

因為當你認識新朋友，又想討好他們時，你可能會最後討好到錯誤的人。

And I can honestly say that until my early 20s, I always prioritized people liking me and what people thought about me more than choosing the right people to respect me.

我必須說，直到我二十出頭，我總是優先考慮別人喜不喜歡我，以及他們對我的看法，勝過選擇真正尊重我的人。

And what happens when you prioritize people liking you is you compromise.

而當你優先考慮別人喜不喜歡你時，你會做出妥協。

You spend time around people who do things that you actually disagree with, but

你會花時間跟那些做著你其實不同意的事情的人在一起，

because you want to be liked, not respected, you don't say anything.

但因為你想被喜歡，而不是被尊重，所以你什麼都不說。

You don't change the environment, heaven forbid, you don't correct them.

你不會改變環境，天哪，你更不會糾正他們。

You just keep going on agreeing to things that actually make you feel like you're compromising in order to be respected.

你只是繼續同意那些讓你覺得在妥協才能被尊重的事情。

The first person who has to respect you is you.

第一個必須尊重的人就是你自己。

So when you think about who you spend your time with today, are you making compromises?

所以當你思考今天跟誰在一起時，你是否在做妥協？

Are you feeling like you have to make people happy or like they have to like you over the things that you know you need to do in order to respect yourself?

你是否覺得為了尊重自己，你必須讓別人開心，或者讓他們喜歡你，勝過你真正需要做的事？

When I first went to college, I wasn't really the partying type.

我剛上大學的時候，我其實不是那種派對類型的人。

However, the friends that I was hanging out with did like to party and they liked to drink more than I like to drink.

不過，我當時認識的朋友們很愛跑趴，而且他們比我更愛喝酒。

But I didn't know how to stop spending time with them because.

但我不知道該怎麼停止跟他們來往，因為

So I just fell into this role where I would be there, I would always be the sober one.

所以我自然而然就扮演了那個角色，我會待在那裡，我總是那個清醒的人。

But I was wasting all of my time trying to get them to like me or think that I was cool because I was still in the environment.

但我卻把所有時間都浪費在試圖讓他們喜歡我或覺得我很酷，因為我還處在那個環境裡。

It took me longer than it should have to extract myself from that environment.

我花了好長一段時間才從那個環境裡擺脫出來。

And not that there's any judgment that I have for people trying to figure their lives out while in college, but

並不是說我對那些在大學裡努力規劃自己人生的人有任何評判，但

I know that for me, I was making decisions at that time based off of what somebody else thought and what somebody else wanted me to do instead of prioritizing the decisions that I knew would allow me me.

我清楚知道，那時候我的決定都是基於別人怎麼想、別人希望我怎麼做，而不是優先考慮那些我知道會讓我自己的決定。

Remember, without respect, your voice just gets drowned out and your authority will be entirely ignored, no matter how friendly or charming you actually are.

記住，沒有尊重，你的聲音就會被淹沒，你的權威也會完全被忽略，不管你實際上多麼友善或有魅力。

You have to establish clear boundaries, show competence, communicate with authority to start to earn respect.

你必須建立明確的界線，展現能力，有權威地溝通，才能開始贏得尊重。

Consistency over long periods of time creates confidence.

持之以恆的長期堅持能建立自信。

It is easy to just go into the gym for a couple of days and you get all excited about it and you buy your cute workout clothes and you start to think, man, I'm gonna finally take control of my health and wellness journey.

很容易就去健身房幾天，然後你對此感到非常興奮，你買了可愛的運動服，然後開始想，天哪，我終於要掌控我的健康和養生之旅了。

But if you fast forward two weeks and you're no longer in the gym, your confidence in your ability to stick to your word goes down.

但如果你快轉兩週，你不再去健身房，你對自己信守承諾的能力的信心就會下降。

That is the exact same thing that happens with the people in your life when you tell them that you are going to show up for them and you are going to make it to dinner and you back out last minute because you don't feel like it, you don't want to, you don't feel good, you are not going to build confidence that you're the type of person that does what they say that they're going to do.

這跟你對生命中的人們說你會支持他們、你會去吃晚餐，然後因為你不想、你不舒服、你感覺不好而臨時取消，會發生一樣的事，你不會建立起自己是個說到做到的人的信心。

So every decision that you make when whether it's consistent or inconsistent, is giving somebody an understanding of how much confidence they can have in you.

所以你做的每一個決定，無論是持續的還是不持續的，都在讓別人瞭解他們能對你有多大的信心。

Now extrapolate this to the work that you do.

現在把這個概念套用到你的工作上。

Whether you're a team member, you own a business.

無論你是團隊成員，還是擁有自己的事業。

When you say that you're going to get something done, do you do it by that time?

當你說你會完成某件事時，你會在那之前完成嗎？

When you say that you're going to follow up, do you actually follow up?

當你說你會跟進時，你真的會跟進嗎？

You see, people learn by how you follow up, by how you show up over long periods of time if they can or can't count on you.

你看，人們透過你如何跟進、如何長期展現自己來學習，他們是否能依靠你。

I know instantly who I can and can't count on.

我馬上就知道我能、不能依靠誰。

And the people who I count on are the people who always follow up with me.

而我能依靠的人，就是那些總是會跟我回報的人。

And if they follow up with me consistently for six months, if they happen to miss something, I'm not that worried about it because I know by their actions that they are a consistent person.

如果他們連續六個月都跟我回報，即使偶爾漏掉一件事，我也不會太擔心，因為我知道他們的行為告訴我，他們是個可靠的人。

But if they sometimes follow up, sometimes don't follow up, sometimes do what they say they're going to do, sometimes they don't say what they're going to do, I'm just going to bypass them.

但如果他們有時候回報，有時候不回報，有時候說到做到，有時候又說話不算話，我就會直接跳過他們。

And when you bypass somebody in an organization, all of a sudden you start to ask yourself, well, why do I need this person if I'm going to end up having to do their job?

當你在組織裡跳過一個人時，你就會開始問自己，如果最後我還是得做他們的工作，那為什麼還需要他們？

And yet when you talk to the person, all they want is more opportunity.

然而，當你跟那個人談話時，他們想要的只是更多的機會。

They want to be trusted with more, they want to handle more, they want to make more money, they want to do big things, but

他們想要被託付更多，想要處理更多事情，想要賺更多錢，想要做大事，但是

they can't even handle what's in front of them.

他們連眼前的事情都處理不好。

This is actually why respect doesn't just happen overnight.

這其實就是為什麼尊重不會一蹴可幾。

If you say that you're going to do something.

And what's also cool is you don't have to commit to something.

還有很酷的一點是，你不用承諾做某件事。

If you have no intention to do it, that's fine too.

如果你根本沒打算做，那也沒關係。

你必須設定清晰、明確的界線。

One of the hardest lessons I've had to learn is not just setting boundaries, but

我學到最困難的功課之一，不只是設定界線，

is actually getting other people to respect those boundaries.

而是要讓別人真正尊重這些界線。

The first is creating them, the second is enforcing them.

第一步是建立界線，第二步是執行界線。

When it comes to setting boundaries, the first thing that you have to ask yourself is what are you not willing to tolerate in your environment?

談到設定界線，你首先要問自己的是，在你的環境中，你無法忍受什麼？

Pull out a piece of paper or maybe the notes app on your phone and list the types of behaviors that you will not tolerate from people who work with you, who spend time with you, who are friends with you, what are the things that are absolute no's for you.

拿出紙張，或是手機裡的筆記應用程式，列出你無法容忍來自與你共事、與你相處、與你交友的人的行為類型，對你來說絕對不行的事情有哪些。

From that list, you can then start to create the list of characteristics that you would expect of the greatest people who would come into your life.

從這份清單中，你就可以開始列出你期望進入你生命中最棒的人所具備的特質。

所以你有一份絕對不行的事情清單，但

then you also have a list of this is what I would expect of the best people, people that might not even know who I am to represent and bring into my life.

你也有另一份清單，是關於你期望最棒的人應該有的樣子，那些甚至可能不認識我，但卻能代表我並進入我生命中的人。

Once you have that list, you then have to look at how do I spend my time and do I spend my time?

一旦有了這份清單，你接著要看看你如何運用你的時間，以及你是否真的有在運用你的時間？

這份時間運用是否與這份清單一致。

Because if you don't have great people in your life, it might be because you aren't living in the same value set as the people that you want to bring in your life.

因為如果你的生命中沒有很棒的人，那可能是因為你並沒有活在你想要吸引進來的人的價值觀裡。

So of course they're never gonna wanna spend time with you.

所以他們當然永遠都不會想跟你一起花時間。

When I first started wanting to spend time with Elena Cardone, I realized that if she hung out with me for a day, I would have to tell her and talk to her about things that I was interested in and things that I was doing at the time.

當我一開始想跟 Elena Cardone 互動時，我意識到如果她跟我待一天，我必須告訴她、跟她聊我當時感興趣的事，以及我正在做的事。

I didn't hold myself accountable to goals that I was setting.

我沒有為自己設定的目標負責。

I was wishy washy about what I did or didn't want for my future.

我對於自己想要或不想要未來感到猶豫不決。

I wasn't able to clearly communicate the personal goals that I had for myself.

我無法清楚地溝通我為自己設定的個人目標。

And so I spent six months Becoming the type of person that Elena would want to be friends with.

所以我花了六個月的時間，成為 Elena 會想交朋友的那種人。

So that when I did have the opportunity to meet her, to spend time around her, we had similar shared interests.

這樣當我有機會認識她、跟她相處時，我們就有相似的共同興趣。

When she wanted to go to the gym on the very first trip that we took together, I wasn't embarrassed by how out of shape I was because I had already started to go to the gym.

當我們第一次一起旅行時，她想去健身房，我不會因為我身材走樣而感到尷尬，因為我已經開始去健身房了。

So you have your list of the things that you want, and

所以你有一份你想要的事物的清單，

when it comes to the list of things that you don't want, here's the challenge.

當你列出你不想要的東西時，挑戰就來了。

When it comes to the things that you don't want and the boundaries that you are setting where you would kick somebody out of your life for violating those boundaries, it can be incredibly difficult to draw a hard line.

當你列出你不想要的東西，以及你設定的界線，你會為了違反這些界線而將某人踢出你的生活，但要劃下一條明確的界線可能非常困難。

I can't tell you how many people have, to my face, made disrespectful comments, have laughed at me, have lessened my role, have not taken me seriously.

我無法告訴你，有多少人在我面前說過不尊重人的話、嘲笑我、貶低我的角色、不認真看待我。

It's challenging to actually say, you no longer get a spot here because they're already there for a reason.

要真正說出「你不再有資格待在這裡」是很有挑戰性的，因為他們已經因為某些原因在那裡了。

他們在那裡是因為他們是家人。

They're there because you've known them for a while, because you hired them.

他們在那裡是因為你認識他們很久了，因為你僱用了他們。

You thought that they were gonna help you, and they were responsible for something.

你以為他們會幫助你，而且他們對某件事負責。

And I have always found that if somebody is violating a boundary that I have and I get rid of them in my life, my life has never gotten worse.

我一直發現，如果有人違反了我設定的界線，而我將他們從我的生活中移除，我的生活從未變得更糟。

But if you think that things are gonna get worse, be challenging, everything's just gonna meltdown.

但是如果你覺得事情會變得更糟，充滿挑戰，一切都會崩潰。

When you get rid of people that aren't respecting you, then you're not going to get rid of them.

當你擺脫那些不尊重你的人，你就不會失去他們。

But I can promise you, just trust me on this.

把他們趕走，看看會發生什麼。

You are going to be amazed because you will not go backwards.

You will actually springboard forward because you don't have somebody constantly invalidating you.

你實際上會向前衝刺，因為沒有人不斷地否定你。

Now we're on to number four, one of my favorites.

現在我們來看第四點，我最喜歡的其中一點。

The easiest way to get respect is to be great at something.

獲得尊重的最簡單方法就是把某件事做得非常出色。

If you aren't great at anything, hard to think about.

如果你什麼都不擅長，很難想像。

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