Name: 失敗後我才懂的溝通心法，比成功更有價值！(What My Failures Taught Me About Communication)
Uploaded: 2025-09-23T11:51:53.000Z
Duration: 1 min 34 s

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I really think it's best to learn from someone who has failed at something,

我真的覺得，最好是向那些曾經失敗過的人學習，

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and discovered something in that failure that helped them to become a better person.

並且從那次失敗中發現一些東西，幫助他們成為更好的人。

You guys learn from my failures every day.

你們每天都在從我的失敗中學習。

I wasn't always this emotionally intelligent communicator you see here.

我並不總是像現在這樣具有情商的溝通者。

There's a reason why my videos on conflict strategy are 90 seconds long.

我的衝突策略影片之所以只有 90 秒，背後是有原因的。

I love insight, but not the emotional detours people often take to get there.

我喜歡洞察力，但不喜歡人們常常為了到達洞察而繞遠路的情緒化過程。

我也不太喜歡聲明或免責說明。

Talking slowly and being empathetic are not my default.

慢慢說話、表現同理心並不是我的默認方式。

And for years, doing that felt like coddling.

多年來，這樣做對我來說感覺像是在嬌縱別人。

And I privately resented people in conversation.

我私底下對談話中的人心懷不滿。

And look, I'm not saying I'm proud of it, I'm just saying this is how far I've come.

我不是在說我為此感到自豪，我只是說這是我走到今天的程度。

But even today, many conversations feel like social cardio.

即使是今天，很多對話仍然感覺像是社交有氧運動。

But the exhausting repetitive effort of translating my thoughts into other people's emotional language is draining.

不斷地將自己的想法翻譯成別人的情緒語言，確實很累。

But I'm also emotionally intelligent and I understand pro social and socio normative behavior.

但我同時也具備情商，了解親社會行為和社會規範行為。

I know that I can't use my preferred style of communication in many interactions.

我知道在許多互動中，我不能只用自己偏好的溝通方式。

Like I've had to stretch myself into styles that feel unnatural at times.

有時我不得不把自己拉進一些感覺不自然的溝通方式裡。

If I want to be understood, I have to learn to make emotional room for others and then I can decompress at home.

如果我想被理解，我必須為別人留出情緒空間，然後回家才能釋放自己。

It's the reason I develop programs like the Art of Tact.

這也是我開發《得體溝通的藝術》課程的原因。

I built programs and products for people like me.

我建立課程和產品，是為像我這樣的人設計的。

People like me who have to learn how to have hard conversations without leaving with hard feelings.

像我這樣的人，需要學會如何進行艱難對話，而不留下負面情緒。

And if you're like me, just know I still make mistakes.

如果你也像我一樣，要知道我仍然會犯錯。

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