Name: 我希望在 20 多歲時就知道的 3 個教訓（作為一名內向型職場人） (3 Lessons I Wish I Knew in My 20s (as an Introvert at Work))
Uploaded: 2025-08-19T17:52:30.000Z
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I spent my entire high school and university trying to get the best grades, sacrificing my sleep, sacrificing hobbies, and even friendships, all for one thing.

我在整個高中和大學期間都在努力取得最好的成績，犧牲睡眠，犧牲愛好，甚至犧牲友誼，這一切都是為了一件事。

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And that was to land a stable, prestigious career.

那就是找到一份穩定而有聲望的工作。

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Because I was raised to believe that just work hard, put your head down, study hard, and once you get that job, once you get that career, you'll be set for life.

因為我從小就相信，只要努力工作、埋頭苦幹、勤奮學習，一旦找到了工作，一旦找到了事業，你的人生就會一帆風順。

And obviously, many of us are now realizing that that's not true, that that belief is completely outdated.

顯然，我們中的許多人現在都意識到，事實並非如此，這種想法已經完全過時了。

And on top of that, what I learned about myself was being an A student actually did not prepare me well to be successful in the corporate world.

此外，我對自己的認識是，作為一名 A 級學生，我實際上並沒有為在企業界取得成功做好充分準備。

Because being an A student meant that I was constantly anxious, constantly struggling with self-doubt, at least for me, because I felt that I continuously had to work harder, work harder, work harder.

因為作為一名 A 級學生，我經常感到焦慮，經常在自我懷疑中掙扎，至少對我來說是這樣，因為我覺得我必須不斷地努力、努力、再努力。

I wasn't naturally book smart, I had to study hard in order to get my grades.

我不是天生的書呆子，我必須努力學習才能取得好成績。

And so I applied that same thinking into the corporate world, that I just have to work hard, work hard, work hard.

於是，我把這種想法應用到了企業界，我只需要努力工作、努力工作、再努力工作。

And I ended up realizing that that caused me to struggle when I was in the workplace, because I didn't have the confidence and the communication skills to do all the other things that I needed to do to be successful in the corporate world.

最後我意識到，這讓我在職場上舉步維艱，因為我沒有自信，也沒有溝通技巧，做不了在企業界取得成功所需要做的其他事情。

And so this is relevant for you if you're someone who's like me, who was an A student through school, you studied really hard, and you thought, that's all I need if I just get that good job and I work really hard in my job, then I'll feel successful, I'll be living my happily ever after.

如果你和我一樣，在學校裡是個優等生，學習非常努力，你會想，我只要找到一份好工作，在工作中非常努力地工作，我就會覺得自己成功了，我就會過上幸福的生活了。

If you're realizing that that's not how you're feeling right now, and you've led this life up until now with this sort of mindset, then this video will be helpful for you because I want to share with you the three lies that we were raised to believe growing up as students and going into the work world that actually caused us to be insecure and full of self-doubt once we got to the work world.

如果你意識到這不是你現在的感受，而你到現在為止一直以這種心態生活，那麼這段視頻會對你有所幫助，因為我想與你分享我們在學生時代和進入職場後被灌輸的三個謊言，這三個謊言實際上導致我們在進入職場後缺乏安全感，充滿自我懷疑。

Because if you understand that these are lies, that these are false beliefs, then hopefully it'll help you to shift out of them.

因為如果你明白這些都是謊言，這些都是錯誤的信念，那麼希望它能幫助你擺脫它們。

And this is all coming from the book that I've written that is now going to be available very soon called The Quiet Achiever, and I have the manuscript right here.

這一切都源於我寫的一本書，這本書很快就會面世，書名叫《安靜的成就者》，手稿就在我這裡。

And I want to read part of my book to you because I think it's going to be really relevant for what we're talking about in this video.

我想把我書中的部分內容讀給你們聽，因為我認為這與我們在視頻中談論的內容非常相關。

Many quiet achievers, particularly those who have spent years forging ahead, inevitably experience this feeling.

許多默默無聞的成功者，尤其是那些多年來不斷進取的人，難免會有這種感受。

The quiet dread that creeps in on Sunday night, the countdown to the weekend before Monday even begins, the way we drag ourselves through each day doing what's expected, but feeling like we're running on empty.

週日晚上悄悄襲來的恐懼，週一還沒開始就已經進入的週末倒計時，我們每天拖著疲憊的身軀做著期待的事情，卻感覺自己在空跑。

We show up, we deliver, we function, but the spark that once made it feel meaningful is gone.

我們出現，我們交付，我們發揮作用，但曾經讓人感覺有意義的火花卻消失了。

Life looks fine on the outside, it's not that anything is terribly wrong, but underneath there's a steady hum of discontent, a low-grade sense of fatigue, restlessness, and the lingering question, is this all there is?

生活表面上看起來很好，並沒有出現什麼大問題，但在內心深處卻有一種持續的不滿情緒，一種低級的疲憊感、躁動不安，以及一個揮之不去的問題：這就是全部嗎？

The reason why I write about this is because I've experienced this.

我之所以寫這篇文章，是因為我有過這樣的經歷。

This is exactly what I experienced once I got to a certain level of success in my career, and also recognizing and realizing that a lot of it had to do with my own confidence issues and self-worth issues.

這正是我在事業上取得一定成功後所經歷的，同時我也認識到並意識到，這很大程度上與我自己的自信問題和自我價值問題有關。

Now, before we get into the three lies, I do want to say that my book, The Quiet Achiever, is going to be out very soon, and I want to offer you some special bonuses if you decide to pre-order right now.

現在，在談這三個謊言之前，我想說的是，我的新書《安靜的成就者》很快就要出版了，如果你現在決定預購，我想為你提供一些特別的獎勵。

So I'm going to be offering some free live workshops on how to communicate with confidence and speak up in meetings and all those types of things at work that I think will really help you.

是以，我將提供一些免費的現場研討會，講授如何在工作中自信地溝通、如何在會議上大聲發言，以及所有這些類型的事情，我認為這些真的會對你有所幫助。

They're going to be live, so you can join me on Zoom and I'll teach those techniques to you.

他們將進行現場直播，所以你可以在 Zoom 上加入我，我將向你傳授這些技巧。

I will also be offering a PDF that talks about how to communicate confidently with coworkers, specifically making small talk, making connections.

我還將提供一份 PDF 文件，介紹如何自信地與同事溝通，特別是如何閒聊、建立聯繫。

So all of this is going to be available to you if you just simply put in the words Quiet Achiever down in the comments below, and I'll send you the link as to how you can pre-order my book, The Quiet Achiever.

所以，只要你在下面的評論中寫下 "安靜的成就者 "這幾個字，我就會給你發送鏈接，告訴你如何預購我的新書《安靜的成就者》。

Again, if you pre-order, you will get access to all of the bonuses and all the freebies that I'm going to be giving up until the book becomes available.

同樣，如果你預購了這本書，你就可以獲得所有的獎勵和免費贈品，這些都是我在這本書上市之前準備贈送的。

So myth number one is assuming that because I was a good student, that would mean I would be a good employee too.

所以，第一個誤區就是認為我是個好學生，就意味著我也會是個好員工。

I honestly believed that just because I was good in school, that that would mean I will be good in the corporate world at work.

我真的相信，只要我在學校表現出色，就意味著我在企業工作中也會表現出色。

And that could not be further from the truth than it is because at school, it was all about marks and grades and getting awards, whereas in the workplace, it's about are you sharing your opinions in meetings?

這與事實相去甚遠，因為在學校裡，一切都與分數、成績和獲獎有關，而在工作場所，一切都與你是否在會議上分享你的觀點有關。

Are you making sure you perform in a way that your boss recognizes you?

你是否確保自己的表現能得到老闆的認可？

Are you speaking to your coworkers in a way that they understand your value?

你對同事說話的方式是否能讓他們理解你的價值？

All of these things that we did not have to do when we were students.

所有這些事情，我們在學生時代都不需要做。

When we were students, we just had to work.

當我們還是學生的時候，我們只需要工作。

We had to just make sure we understood what was in front of us and just do that.

我們必須確保我們瞭解眼前的一切，並做到這一點。

And then our work spoke for itself through our grades.

然後，我們的工作通過成績來說話。

But that's not how it works in the work world.

We know that just showing up and doing your job is the bare minimum of how to be successful, unfortunately.

不幸的是，我們都知道，僅僅露面和做好本職工作是取得成功的最起碼條件。

And if you're someone that is feeling this way, where you're working so hard in your job, but you're not feeling confident, you're not feeling comfortable, you don't feel as though you're using your voice and adding value in other ways, then it's likely because you still hold onto this belief that because you were a good student, it means that you would be good at your job too.

如果你有這樣的感覺，你在工作中如此努力，卻沒有自信，感覺不舒服，覺得自己沒有在其他方面發揮自己的聲音和價值，那麼很可能是因為你仍然堅持這樣的信念：因為你是一個好學生，所以你在工作中也會很出色。

Yes, you are good at your job, but there are other skills.

是的，你擅長你的工作，但你還有其他技能。

There are other things that you need to recognize about yourself that you need to work on if you genuinely want to move ahead.

如果你真的想向前邁進，你還需要認識到自己需要努力的其他方面。

And so a lot of the clients that I work with are just like me, quiet, introverted.

是以，我的很多客戶都和我一樣，安靜、內向。

They were very good students growing up and they got good jobs as a result.

他們從小就是非常優秀的學生，也是以找到了好工作。

但現在你覺得自己不屬於這裡。

You feel confused a lot of the time, sometimes.

有時，你會在很多時候感到困惑。

I know I was always confused when I was working at the big four accounting firm.

我知道我在四大會計師事務所工作時總是感到困惑。

Even though I was a good student and I studied hard, I just, for whatever reason, I didn't really get the work.

儘管我是個好學生，學習也很努力，但不管出於什麼原因，我就是沒有真正完成作業。

我將在另一個視頻中討論這個問題。

But for you, it might be, yes, you understand the work, but you're also feeling as though you're working really hard.

但對你來說，可能是，是的，你理解這些工作，但你也覺得自己工作得非常辛苦。

You're firing on all cylinders and no one's noticing it.

No one is acknowledging you for the value that you bring.

And so it's really important to get down to the level of, what am I believing?

是以，深入到 "我在相信什麼 "這個層面真的很重要。

Do I genuinely believe that working hard is all I have to do?

我真的相信努力工作就是我所要做的一切嗎？

And the truth is, if that's what you're believing, you have to recognize that there's more.

而事實是，如果這就是你所相信的，你就必須認識到還有更多。

And I don't want to push you and say, oh, you have to do more, but you have to recognize that you're putting so much energy into just one thing, which is working hard, when really it's about opening yourself up, being more available to make connections with others, being able to use your voice, speak from a place of authenticity, sharing your ideas, making connections.

我不想逼你說，哦，你必須做得更多，但你必須認識到，你把這麼多精力都放在了一件事上，那就是努力工作，而實際上這是為了讓你敞開心扉，更多地與他人建立聯繫，能夠使用你的聲音，從一個真實的地方說話，分享你的想法，建立聯繫。

That will then allow you to feel more comfortable and less anxious.

這樣你就會感覺更舒服，也不會那麼焦慮。

Because when you put all your focus on just the one thing, which is your work, and just doing a perfect job at your work, it can be very aggravating when you don't get credit for it, or when others don't notice you for it, because you didn't do the other things that were necessary to make sure that your hard work becomes seen and is visible.

因為當你把所有的注意力都集中在一件事上，也就是你的工作上，只是把你的工作做得盡善盡美時，當你沒有是以而獲得榮譽，或者當別人沒有是以而注意到你時，你可能會感到非常委屈，因為你沒有做其他必要的事情來確保你的辛勤工作被人看到，被人注意到。

And just to add on to that, there were these other aspects of social networking and personal branding that when I first started my career in my early 20s, I still had that student mindset.

此外，在社交網絡和個人品牌建設的其他方面，當我 20 歲出頭剛開始工作時，我還抱著學生心態。

I didn't know about having to show up a certain way.

我不知道必須以某種方式出現。

I just approached work like I approached as a student.

我只是像對待學生一樣對待工作。

And I just thought, if I just work hard, I'll get the results.

我就想，只要我努力，就一定會有結果。

And that's when, over time, I realized that's not the case, and that's not how it works, and that you do have to know how to share your opinions.

這時，隨著時間的推移，我意識到情況並非如此，事情也並非如此，你必須知道如何分享你的觀點。

You have to know how to speak positively about yourself.

你必須知道如何正面評價自己。

You have to know how to speak up in meetings.

你必須知道如何在會議上發言。

You have to know how to make connections with people.

你必須知道如何與人建立聯繫。

Those are all things that I was too full of self-doubt, too insecure to be able to even attempt to do when I was in my early 20s.

這些都是我在 20 歲出頭時充滿自我懷疑、缺乏安全感，甚至不敢嘗試去做的事情。

And I've since then have learned a lot about all of that, especially running my own business.

從那時起，我學到了很多東西，尤其是經營自己的企業。

And so this is something that I just want to bring to your attention, that is something that you will likely have to work on right now if it is something that you still struggle with.

是以，我只想提請你們注意，如果你們還在為此而掙扎，那麼你們現在就必須努力解決這個問題。

The second myth that I believed was the idea that being an introvert is not an issue in the corporate world.

我相信的第二個神話是 "性格內向在企業界不是問題"。

You know, there's lots of introverts in the corporate world.

要知道，公司裡有很多內向的人。

But in the job that I was in, even though it was an accounting job or an auditor job, it still negatively impacted me.

但在我所從事的工作中，儘管那是一份會計或審計員的工作，它仍然對我產生了負面影響。

And I don't want to say this in a way where, oh, because we're introverts, that's a bad thing.

我不想以一種 "哦，因為我們是內向的人，所以這是一件壞事 "的方式來說這件事。

But what I actually want to say more is you have to recognize and be very self-aware of your boundaries as an introvert, how you approach the world as an introvert, and make sure that you do it in a way that is still cohesive and aligned and peaceful with the working corporate world.

但其實我更想說的是，你必須認識到自己作為一個內向者的界限，以及作為一個內向者如何對待這個世界，並確保你這樣做的方式仍能與企業的工作環境保持一致與和平。

And I'm not saying here, go and be an extrovert.

我在這裡並不是說，去做一個外向的人。

What I am saying is don't only identify as an introvert and then show up and just hide, right?

我想說的是，不要只認定自己是個內向的人，然後一出現就躲起來，對嗎？

And just shy away and just keep everyone at a distance because that's not going to work for you.

而你卻躲得遠遠的，與所有人都保持距離，因為這對你來說是行不通的。

If you want to thrive in your career, if you want to thrive in your life, even though you're an introvert, you have to acknowledge and know with my limited energy, because introverts, we have limited energy.

如果你想在事業上茁壯成長，如果你想在生活中茁壯成長，即使你是一個內向的人，你也必須承認並知道我的精力有限，因為內向的人，我們精力有限。

We have this amount of energy, let's say, in a day.

比方說，我們一天有這麼多能量。

And as we have interactions, that energy goes down, down, down, down, down.

隨著我們的互動，這種能量會下降、下降、下降、下降、下降。

Whereas for extroverts, they have zero energy.

而對於外向型的人來說，他們的能量為零。

They start their day with zero energy, but as they interact with people, it grows their energy.

他們開始一天的工作時精力充沛，但當他們與人交流時，精力就會增加。

So we have to acknowledge that about ourselves and we have to know, okay, I have a finite amount of energy.

是以，我們必須認識到這一點，我們必須知道，好吧，我的能量是有限的。

And so what am I going to spend my energy towards today as an introvert to make sure that I'm getting the best bang for my buck, that I'm using my energy in the right places rather than just, I'm going to preserve all my energy by hiding away from everyone.

那麼，作為一個內向的人，我今天要把精力花在什麼地方，才能確保我的錢花在刀刃上，確保我的精力用在正確的地方，而不是躲避所有人，保存我所有的精力。

Because we know that that's not going to help you.

因為我們知道，這對你沒有任何幫助。

So it's really important to just acknowledge, okay, if you are an introvert like I am, then you want to understand how you're going to maneuver and use your energy in the best way every single day, because it's going to help you to feel more at ease, more confident, more self-aware.

所以，重要的是要承認，好吧，如果你像我一樣是個內向的人，那麼你要明白自己每天要如何以最好的方式操縱和使用自己的能量，因為這會讓你感覺更自在、更自信、更有自我意識。