Name: 更好地交談：S.E.A. 小談話法 (Have Better Conversations: The S.E.A. Small Talk Method)
Uploaded: 2025-06-17T16:46:21.000Z
Duration: 15 min 55 s

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Hey, look, E on the C. He's a seaman, he's got a little boat, I think he's in the American

嘿，看，C號上的E，他是個海員，他有一艘小船，我想他在美國

Well, today is a specific method working on small talk.

好了，今天就是一個具體的方法，在閒聊中發揮作用。

You might be thinking, what is small talk, why is it important?

您可能會想，什麼是閒聊，它為什麼重要？

I need to do big conversations and big presentations, and I need to make friends, and I want to get a partner, all of these involve big talk or a lot of talk, serious talk.

我需要做大型談話和大型演講，我需要交朋友，我想找一個合作伙伴，所有這些都涉及到大型談話或大量談話，嚴肅的談話。

I got to tell you a little secret, and the secret is this, anything that goes big starts out from something small.

我要告訴你一個小祕密，這個祕密就是：任何大事都是從小事開始的。

Small talk is the talk that you have with someone that gets them interested in you to want to have more conversations.

閒聊是指你與他人交談時，讓對方對你產生興趣，從而想與你進行更多交談。

Now, if you're an introvert and you speak English, this is something we need to work on as native speakers, but if you're also a language learner learning English, small talk is your way to get into these larger conversations, because someone who's really good at small talk invites bigger, better conversations because the people think you're capable of them.

現在，如果你是一個內向的人，而且你會說英語，這是我們作為母語使用者需要努力的地方，但如果你也是一個學習英語的語言學習者，小範圍交談是你進入這些大範圍交談的途徑，因為一個真正擅長小範圍交談的人，會邀請更大、更好的交談，因為人們認為你有能力進行這些交談。

Now, E, we got the C method, right, S-E-A method, and there's three steps for this, which leads to an easy conversation for you, good conversation starter, or how to go from one conversation, small one, to a larger one.

現在，E，我們有了 C 方法，對吧，S-E-A 方法，這有三個步驟，為你帶來輕鬆的對話，很好的對話開端，或者說如何從一次對話，小對話，到更大的對話。

What I want to address is how we're going to use our small talk.

我想說的是，我們該如何利用我們的閒聊。

There's many different ways of getting to small talk, asking questions about something someone's wearing and other things.

閒聊的方式有很多種，比如詢問別人的穿著等。

Today, I want to really focus in on stories.

Because stories, humankind, mankind, people have for thousands of years sat around fires, you know, you can imagine there's a fire, the cold's going up, and the people sitting there, it's dark at night, and they hear the wolves, so they're in a circle, huddled, you know, holding together, and then someone would tell a story.

因為故事，人類，人類，幾千年來人們都圍坐在火堆旁，你知道，你可以想象有一堆火，寒氣逼人，人們坐在那裡，夜色漆黑，他們聽到了狼的叫聲，於是他們圍成一圈，擠在一起，你知道，抱在一起，然後有人會講一個故事。

A long time ago, when the great moon came down, and our fathers... and it brought the people together.

很久很久以前，當偉大的月亮降臨時，我們的祖先......它讓人們走到了一起。

So, stories create connection, bringing different people together.

是以，故事創造了聯繫，將不同的人聚集在一起。

The other thing about stories, when we tell stories, we can take the everyday, and I meant it this way, the everyday means regular day, not every day, Monday, Tuesday, but your regular day, and we can make it extraordinary.

關於故事的另一件事是，當我們講故事的時候，我們可以把日常的事情，我是這個意思，日常的意思是普通的一天，不是每天，星期一、星期二，而是你普通的一天，我們可以讓它變得不平凡。

Because in a story, you take an everyday event, and we take a regular person and we make them special.

因為在一個故事裡，你會看到一個日常事件，而我們則會看到一個普通人，並讓他們變得特別。

Now, when you do that in small talk, you make the person you're speaking to feel special.

現在，當你在閒聊中這樣做時，你會讓對方覺得自己很特別。

Well, we have three steps, and as you can see, we're missing them, but I'm going to fill them in and explain them to you so you will be able to start making your own stories and making the everyday extraordinary with small talk.

好吧，我們有三個步驟，正如你所看到的，我們缺少了這三個步驟，但我會把它們補上，並解釋給你聽，這樣你就能開始創造自己的故事，用閒聊讓日常變得不平凡。

The first one is S, and after it says simple one-sentence story.

第一個是 S，後面是簡單的一句話故事。

Well, if you have a simple one-sentence story, it's going to be short.

好吧，如果你有一個簡單的一句話故事，那它就會很短。

You're nervous using this language, talking to people, so if you have a big story in your head and you make mistakes and you're getting it wrong, what's going to happen is you get more nervous and you might forget parts of the story and you're going to lose the person's interest.

使用這種語言與人交談，你會感到緊張，是以，如果你腦子裡有一個大故事，而你又犯了錯誤，把故事講錯了，那麼你會變得更加緊張，可能會忘記故事的某些部分，從而失去對方的興趣。

So, why don't we make a story very, very short?

那麼，我們為什麼不把故事寫得非常非常短呢？

In marketing and advertising, they call this type of thing an elevator pitch, and if you're wondering what an elevator pitch is, you know when an elevator moves at a certain speed going up or going down, and they would say you should be able to tell your story between the floors.

在市場營銷和廣告中，他們把這種類型的東西叫做 "電梯演講"，如果你想知道什麼是 "電梯演講"，你就會知道當電梯以一定的速度上行或下行時，他們會說你應該能夠在樓層之間講述你的故事。

So, if you're going from the first floor to the second floor, if you were trying to sell something to someone, you should give them all the information they need within that movement.

是以，如果你要從一樓到二樓，如果你想向別人推銷東西，你就應該在這個動作中向他們提供他們需要的所有資訊。

And if you can do that, that's called an elevator pitch.

如果你能做到這一點，這就是所謂的 "電梯演講"。

要簡明扼要，也就是短小精悍。

It will be informative, it'll have information, and it will get them interested.

內容豐富，信息量大，能引起他們的興趣。

All of these things in a short period of time.

所有這些都是在很短的時間內完成的。

That's what a TV commercial does, and that's what you're going to do.

這就是電視廣告的作用，也是你要做的。

We're going to make a short story that's one sentence, simple, so you can remember it.

我們要寫一個小故事，一句話，簡單，這樣你就能記住它。

A story without emotion is like a house without colour or food without seasoning.

沒有情感的故事就像沒有色彩的房子或沒有調味料的食物。

It's there, but you're not going to get much joy from it.

它就在那裡，但你不會從中得到多少快樂。

是以，我們希望情感能帶來這種色彩。

In fact, what I've written here is emotion creates a picture that gets them involved.

事實上，我在這裡寫的是情感，創造了一幅讓他們參與其中的畫面。

In our brains, we have something called mirror neurons.

在我們的大腦中，有一種叫做鏡像神經元的東西。

It's cells in our head that helps us to understand other people.

它是我們頭腦中的細胞，幫助我們理解他人。

And when we put emotion in a story, the other person's mirror neurons, it's like looking in a mirror.

當我們在故事中加入情感時，對方的鏡像神經元就會像照鏡子一樣。

他們能在你的故事中看到自己。

Because they can see themselves in your story, they think it's not them, but it's you are them.

因為他們能在你的故事中看到自己，他們認為這不是他們，而是你就是他們。

And they're, oh, I'm interested because this is happening to me.

他們會說，哦，我很感興趣，因為這就發生在我身上。

Using a bit of psychology here to get them involved in your story, and emotion creates that.

在這裡運用一點心理學知識，讓他們參與到你的故事中來，情感就會產生這種效果。

Emotion creates a picture for them to get involved in.

情感為他們創造了一幅畫面，讓他們融入其中。

Because when you're scared, they want to know why, because they're feeling scared, too.

因為當你感到害怕時，他們想知道原因，因為他們也感到害怕。

Now, how we make this even stronger is we want to add something that's going to create energy.

現在，我們要讓它變得更強，就需要添加一些能產生能量的東西。

Have you ever been at home lying down on your chair for, I know you have, five, six, seven, eight hours, and then you think, I should get up and exercise.

你有沒有在家裡躺在椅子上五、六、七、八個小時，我知道你有過，然後你會想，我應該起來運動一下。

And then you think, no, I'm not going to.

然後你會想，不，我不會去的。

Or you've ever slept in bed for too long, instead of getting out of bed, you stay there, hit the alarm, hit the alarm, hit the alarm, you want to go back to sleep.

或者你曾經在床上睡得太久，你沒有下床，而是呆在床上，按鬧鐘，按鬧鐘，按鬧鐘，你想繼續睡覺。

That's because you're missing an important ingredient, because once you have this, this thing creates more and more energy and gets you more and more excited, and will help with the emotion, and that is action.

這是因為你缺少了一個重要的因素，因為一旦你擁有了這個因素，這個東西就會產生越來越多的能量，讓你越來越興奮，也會幫助你產生情感，這就是行動。

I'm in action moving my hands, speaking, looking, all these g-i-n-g words we're using.

我在行動，我的手在動，我在說話，我在看，所有這些我們正在使用的 gi-n-g 詞語。

Eating, sleeping, walking, playing, running.

吃飯、睡覺、走路、玩耍、跑步。

Every time we do a little bit of it, we get a bit more energy to keep doing it.

每做一點，我們就會有更多的精力繼續做下去。

If you add action-right?-the energy with the emotion being involved, in a short story you have an unbelievably powerful way to connect and communicate with people, making the everyday extraordinary.

如果在短篇小說中加入 "行動"（action-right?

So, I'm going to give you some examples of how you could use what I've just shown you, because you're like, James, you talk about I've got to get action in this story, I've got to get energy, I've got to...

所以，我會給你一些例子，告訴你如何使用我剛才給你展示的內容，因為你會想，詹姆斯，你說過我必須在這個故事中有所行動，我必須獲得能量，我必須......

I barely speak English, but that's the point.

我幾乎不會說英語，但這就是重點。

Because you don't have great English skills, we're going to keep it simple.

因為你的英語水平不高，所以我們就簡單點。

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