Name: 7個跡象表明你非常孤獨，即使你不覺得它是孤獨的 (7 Signs You are Extremely Lonely, Even If You Don't Feel Like It)
Uploaded: 2022-11-01T19:00:43.000Z
Duration: 5 min 24 s

chinese philosopher Lao Tsu once said, ordinary men hate solitude, but the master makes use of it embracing his aloneness and realizing he is one with the whole universe.

中國哲學家老蘇曾經說過，普通人討厭孤獨，但大師卻利用孤獨來擁抱他的孤獨，意識到他與整個宇宙是一體的。

But of course, while many of us understand that loneliness is sometimes necessary for us to come back to ourselves, reflect and grow.

但當然，雖然我們很多人都明白，孤獨有時是我們回到自己身邊、反思和成長所必需的。

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It doesn't make the journey of getting there any less scary, painful and confusing psychology defines loneliness as a distressing feeling that accompanies the perception that one's socio emotional needs are not being met by the quality of one's inter and interpersonal relationships.

這並沒有使到達那裡的旅程變得不那麼可怕、痛苦和混亂。心理學將孤獨定義為一種痛苦的感覺，它伴隨著一個人的社會情感需求沒有被他的人際關係品質所滿足的感覺。

Numerous studies show that chronic loneliness can have a number of detrimental effects on our mental health, life satisfaction and overall well being, fortunately recognizing loneliness is the first step towards overcoming these feelings and moving forward to a more fulfilling life with.

眾多研究表明，長期的孤獨感會對我們的心理健康、生活滿意度和整體福祉產生一些不利影響，幸運的是，認識到孤獨感是克服這些感覺的第一步，並向更充實的生活邁進。

That said, here are seven of the most easily overlooked signs that you're feeling extremely lonely even if it doesn't seem like it.

也就是說，這裡有七個最容易被忽視的跡象，表明你感到非常孤獨，即使它看起來並不像。

Number one materialism, Do you find yourself wanting more material possessions lately?

第一物質主義，你是否發現自己最近想要更多的物質財富？

Have you started to feel that having certain status symbols in your life such as a new car, a bigger house or a higher figure salary is the only way you can be happy if so this newfound materialism you may be feeling could be because of extreme loneliness.

你是否開始覺得在你的生活中擁有某些地位的象徵，如新車、更大的房子或更高的數字工資是你獲得幸福的唯一途徑，如果是這樣，你可能感到的這種新發現的物質主義可能是由於極度的孤獨。

In fact, it's actually very common for materialism and loneliness to compound and exacerbate one another, simply put the lonelier you are, the more materialistic you tend to be and vice versa.

事實上，物質主義和孤獨感相互複合和加劇是非常常見的，簡單地說，你越是孤獨，你就越傾向於物質主義，反之亦然。

Number two, social media addiction, do you spend hours and hours on end just mindlessly scrolling through your feed, even though it doesn't make you feel better?

第二，社交媒體成癮，你是否花了好幾個小時，只是無意識地滾動瀏覽你的飼料，儘管這並沒有讓你感覺更好？

Well that's because too much social media exposure has actually been proven to increase feelings of loneliness, isolation, inadequacy, envy and self centeredness.

這是因為過多的社交媒體曝光實際上已被證明會增加孤獨感、孤立感、不足感、嫉妒和自我中心感。

Not only that social media has also become something of a crutch that people turn to whenever they feel bored, lonely or upset, which stunts their emotional growth and keeps them from developing healthy coping mechanisms and mental resilience.

不僅如此，社交媒體還成為人們在感到無聊、孤獨或不安時求助的柺杖，這阻礙了他們的情感成長，使他們無法發展健康的應對機制和心理復原力。

Number three NV another often overlooked warning sign of extreme loneliness is strong feelings of envy towards others and their success.

第三號NV另一個經常被忽視的極端孤獨的警告信號是對他人及其成功的強烈羨慕之情。

Because jealousy is rooted in low self esteem and a neurotic need for social acceptance.

因為嫉妒的根源在於低自尊和對社會接受的神經質需求。

We feel jealous of other people because we want what they have, so pay close attention to who you can't help but envy and why if it's someone well liked with a lot of friends in popularity, be it online or in real life You might be feeling really lonely.

我們對其他人感到嫉妒，因為我們想要他們所擁有的東西，所以密切注意你忍不住羨慕的人，以及為什麼如果是一個深受歡迎的人，有很多朋友在歡迎，無論是在網上還是在現實生活中 你可能真的感到孤獨。

# four eating weight, sleeping problems from the outside looking in loneliness can seem a lot like depression.

# 四個人的飲食體重，睡眠問題，從外面看，孤獨似乎很像抑鬱症。

So it tends to mimic a lot of the same symptoms too.

所以它往往也會模仿很多相同的症狀。

And since weight gain weight loss, insomnia and oversleeping are all common side effects of depression.

而且由於體重增加體重下降，失眠和睡過頭都是抑鬱症的常見副作用。

The same can be said for extreme loneliness.

People who are extremely lonely might find it hard to fall asleep at night because of it or they might do the opposite and you sleep as an escape from their problems.

極度孤獨的人可能會是以發現晚上很難入睡，或者他們可能會反其道而行之，你把睡覺作為逃避問題的一種方式。

They could gain weight because of too much comfort eating or lose it because loneliness is making them neglect themselves and skip meals.

他們可能因為過多的安慰性飲食而增加體重，或者因為孤獨感使他們忽視自己，不吃飯而減少體重。

Number five, constant boredom or restlessness similar to the last point, feeling extremely lonely but not even realizing it can easily be mistaken for boredom and restlessness.

第五，持續的無聊或躁動與上一點類似，感到極度孤獨但卻沒有意識到這一點，很容易被誤認為是無聊和躁動。

You find it hard to have fun or enjoy doing anything and spend your days aimlessly chasing whatever random and momentary pleasure you can find to distract you from an aching emptiness inside that you don't understand.

你發現很難有樂趣或喜歡做任何事情，整天漫無目的地追逐任何隨機的、一時的快樂，以分散你對內心痛苦的空虛的注意力，而你卻不明白。

This feeling comes from a lack of engagement, challenge, change and opportunities for self growth in one's life which could be caused by or is causing you extreme loneliness.

這種感覺來自於一個人的生活中缺乏參與、挑戰、變化和自我成長的機會，這可能是由於或正在導致你的極端孤獨。

Number six out of control emotions, How many times have you lost your temper or burst into tears these past few weeks?

第六個失控的情緒，在過去的幾周裡，你有多少次發脾氣或淚流滿面？

Are you feeling more emotionally volatile and unstable lately?

你最近是否感到情緒更加波動和不穩定？

But don't know why being emotionally out of control is a very telltale sign that you are struggling with your mental health.

但不知道為什麼情緒失控是一個非常明顯的跡象，表明你正在與你的心理健康作鬥爭。

And feeling extreme loneliness could be the reason why.

而感到極度的孤獨可能是原因所在。

Studies say that when we are struggling with loneliness, it puts our brains in a constant state of emotional distress that impairs our ability to regulate our emotions.

研究說，當我們在孤獨中掙扎時，它使我們的大腦處於持續的情緒困擾狀態，損害了我們調節情緒的能力。

And number seven, inability to be alone with yourself.

Finally, but perhaps most importantly, if you find yourself unable to be alone with yourself and with your own thoughts, always needing to be around other people, even when you don't like them or don't enjoy spending time with them, then you're likely struggling with extreme loneliness because being comfortable in your own company takes a lot of inner peace, mental strength and self acceptance.

最後，但也許是最重要的，如果你發現自己無法與自己獨處，無法與自己的思想獨處，總是需要與其他人在一起，即使你不喜歡他們或不喜歡與他們相處，那麼你很可能在與極端的孤獨感作鬥爭，因為在自己的公司裡感到舒適需要大量的內心平靜、精神力量和自我接受。

After all, there's a reason why they say being alone isn't the same as being lonely.

畢竟，他們說孤獨和寂寞是不一樣的，是有原因的。

So do you relate to any of the things we've mentioned here?

那麼你是否與我們在這裡提到的任何事情有關？

Have you ever experienced any of these subtle signs of extreme loneliness?

你是否曾經歷過這些極度孤獨的微妙跡象？

 If you're struggling with your mental health in any way, the best thing you can do for yourself is to seek help, reach out to a mental health care professional today and take the next step towards emotional wellness. 

如果你正以任何方式與你的心理健康作鬥爭，你能為自己做的最好的事情就是尋求幫助，今天就去找心理健康護理專家，為情感健康邁出下一步。

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