unavailable
US /ˌʌnəˈveləbəl/
・UK /ˌʌnəˈveɪləbl/
B1 中級
adj.形容詞得不到的：不近便的：不能利用的：無用的
I’m sorry but the doctor is unavailable right now
adj.形容詞未婚
I am unavailable this afternoon because I have a dentist appointment
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為什麼我們談戀愛需要慢慢來？❤️ (Why We Need to Take It Slowly in Love)
- In our youngest years, we may have had to acclimatise ourselves to a very uneven supply of affection. Perhaps mother was unavailable and father was violent. There might have been a lot of sarcasm and not much patience for our sorrows or opinions. And therefore, the only way to survive would have been to withdraw, to learn to play alone and to make our peace with a restricted emotional diet. So when someone arrives in adulthood promising us a banquet, when someone lays out dish after dish of generosity and care, when someone promises us unlimited kindness and tenderness, our first response may not be joy but nausea, not delight but panic. We may be unable to absorb or metabolise any of the rich nutrients before us and, without quite knowing why, in order to maintain our poise, may have no option but to turn on our kind hosts, blame them for being weak or odd and run away. We might wish to tell them, please be so kind as not to be too kind, please be generous enough not to overwhelm me, please let me find my own way to reciprocation. On the other side of the ledger, we, the so-called generous ones, the banquet givers who like to move fast, should also be brave enough to question our behaviour. It may look as if we are being purely and simply romantic, Paris on the second date, nicknames after a week. But we may turn out to be, beneath our bold gestures, something rather more complicated and sad, untenably and unhelpfully anxious. We lose our minds if we haven't heard from them in two hours.
在我們年幼的時候，我們可能不得不適應非常不均衡的親情供應。也許母親不在身邊，父親又很粗暴。他們可能會對我們冷嘲熱諷，對我們的悲傷或意見沒有多少耐心。是以，唯一的生存之道就是退縮，學會獨自玩耍，在有限的情感飲食中求得安寧。是以，當成年後有人來到我們身邊，許諾給我們一場盛宴，當有人擺出一盤又一盤慷慨和關懷的菜餚，當有人承諾給我們無限的善意和溫柔，我們的第一反應可能不是喜悅，而是噁心，不是高興，而是恐慌。我們可能無法吸收或新陳代謝我們面前的任何豐富營養，而且不知道為什麼，為了保持我們的風度，我們可能別無選擇，只
- Perhaps mother was unavailable and father was violent.
挑選伴侶技巧大提升！ (Getting Better at Picking Lovers)
- And we may do so because our childhood strongly versed us in the need to accommodate ourselves to a difficult or unavailable parent.
這是因為我們的童年，強烈地讓我們學會了要適應一位難搞或無法陪伴的父母。
- And we may do so because our childhood strongly versed us in the need to accommodate ourselves to a difficult, unavailable parent.
這是因為我們的童年，強烈地讓我們學會了要適應一位難搞或無法陪伴的父母。
你不是真的想要愛情，你只是渴望被選中，才能感覺自己有價值！ (You Don’t Want Love—You Want to Be Picked So You Feel Worthy)
- Because being picked by someone you had to earn, especially someone emotionally unavailable, chaotic, hard to impress, that feels like redemption.
因為被一個你必須贏得的人選中，尤其是被一個情感缺失、混亂、難以打動你的人選中，那感覺就像是救贖。
- Because being picked by someone you had to earn, especially someone emotionally unavailable, chaotic, hard to impress, that feels like redemption.
不是這樣的。
為了逃避愛，我們能有多拼命？！ (The Lengths We Go To Avoid Love)
- Or perhaps our parental figure was constantly at the office or unavailable behind a locked study door. They might have had a violent, unpredictable temper or left us somehow feeling that we were just never good enough for them. As a result, to an extent we may not even have realised, we became experts at independence. We came to associate safety with a high degree of self-protective isolation. We might have become big readers or fascinated by the animal world or obsessed with music or computer games. Without quite knowing we had done so, we learnt never to trust a flesh-and-blood, three-dimensional human again. Our experiences may not have affected the strength of our longing for love, but they have heavily impacted our capacity to endure mutually satisfying relationships. We may now, as adults, tell ourselves that we want closeness and surrender. We will sob sincerely when we lose love, but we are continually taking steps to ensure we will never be at any sustained risk of finding it. The true terror for us is not that love should fail, but that it should, by some oversight on our part, succeed. For this would ask of us a level of defencelessness and exposure to another person and to a chance of happiness that has no precedent in our lives and poses immense, ego-shattering challenges to the armoured way our personalities have been structured.
又或者，我們的父母常年在辦公室，或者在緊鎖的書房門後無暇顧及我們。他們可能脾氣暴躁、難以捉摸，或者讓我們莫名其妙地覺得自己永遠配不上他們。是以，在某種程度上，我們甚至沒有意識到，我們成了獨立專家。我們開始將安全與高度的自我保護隔離聯繫在一起。我們可能變得喜歡閱讀，對動物世界著迷，對音樂或電腦遊戲著迷。在不知不覺中，我們學會了不再信任有血有肉、立體的人類。我們的經歷也許並沒有影響我們對愛的渴望，但卻嚴重影響了我們維持相互滿意的關係的能力。作為成年人，我們現在可能會告訴自己，我們想要親近和屈服。當我們失去愛情
- Or perhaps our parental figure was constantly at the office or unavailable behind a locked study door.
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- You've been so unavailable.
我知道為什麼我們不得不說再見了。 就像我的手背
如何克服心理障礙！ (How To Overcome Psychological Barriers)
- but we may nevertheless feel a moment of recognition when we hear of the following: falling in love with unavailable people, ensuring our relationships always fail, underperforming at work, being very independent, addiction to alcohol, porn, exercise, work, feeling numb, hypervigilance, continuous anxiety, constant sadness, depression.
我們可能從來沒有想過這些東西是防禦機制，但當我們聽到下面這些話時，我們可能會有一瞬間的認同感。
- Falling in love with unavailable people, ensuring our relationships always fail, underperforming at work, being very independent, addiction to alcohol, porn, exercise, feeling numb, hypervigilance, continuous anxiety, constant sadness, depression.
愛上無法得到的人，確保我們的關係總是失敗，工作表現不佳，非常獨立，沉迷於酒精、色情、運動，感覺麻木，過度警覺，持續焦慮，持續悲傷，抑鬱。
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- I mostly use it when my car is unavailable due to repairs or I have lent it out to a friend.
我主要是在自己的車因維修而無法使用或借給朋友時使用它。
- I mostly use it when my car is unavailable due to repairs, or I have lent it out to a friend.
我主要是在自己的車因維修而無法使用或借給朋友時使用它。