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incongruent
US /ɪnˈkɑŋɡruənt, ˌɪnkɑnˈɡruənt/
・UK /ɪn'kɒŋgrʊənt/
A1 初級
adj.形容詞不一致
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人際關係中的討好者 (People Pleasers in Relationships)
- We know what we need to do, in theory, to give our companion a repeated taste of the acceptability of their true flavour in music, pasta, friendship or existence. The problem is that we tend to get so upset when we stumble on examples of incongruent behaviour that we do precisely the opposite. We lose our tempers at their subterfuges and thereby enforce their very worst fears, that honesty never pays, that they must just lie better next time. Humour may have to be the answer. As early as we can, we need to give them a toy chameleon as a gift and send the animals as emojis with a question mark whenever they outline their wishes for the weekend or show deep enthusiasm for our career plans. We have to show that a clash in views need not be a catastrophe, that when there is genuine love, of the kind there never was at their origins, differences can be survivable, that in a functioning relationship, an argument is always better than a lie.
從理論上講，我們知道該怎麼做，才能讓我們的同伴反覆品嚐他們在音樂、麵食、友誼或生存方面的真實味道。問題是，當我們偶然發現不協調行為的例子時，我們往往會非常生氣，結果恰恰相反。我們對他們的偽裝失去了耐心，從而強化了他們最擔心的事情：誠實永遠不會有好結果，他們下次必須撒更好的謊。幽默也許就是答案。我們需要儘早給他們一個玩具變色龍作為禮物，每當他們提出週末的願望或對我們的職業規劃表現出極大的熱情時，我們就把這些動物作為帶問號的表情符號發送給他們。我們要讓他們知道，觀點衝突不一定是一場災難，只要有真愛，只要有他們
當宗教變壞並造成傷害時 (When Religions Go Bad And Cause Harm)
- And the question is, is the bathwater as we're looking at what's going on in the Middle East and we're looking what's happening in America under kind of right wing Christianity, is the bathwater so bad with these, especially two, but even three religions that we need to throw the baby out because the bathwater is so bad, meaning that these religions are so incongruent with a modern world that is built, like it's just so bad for human thriving in this modern world that we essentially should let it go.
問題是，當我們審視中東正在發生的事情，我們審視美國在基督教右翼的影響下正在發生的事情時，這些，尤其是兩個，但甚至是三個宗教的洗澡水是否如此糟糕，以至於我們需要把嬰兒扔出去，因為洗澡水太糟糕了，也就是說，這些宗教與現代世界的建設是如此不協調，就像它對人類在現代世界的繁榮如此不利，以至於我們基本上應該讓它消失。
像這樣與自己對話 3 天：重新連接你的大腦，重置你的思維 | 安德魯-休伯曼博士 (Talk to Yourself Like This for 3 Days: Rewire Your Brain & Reset Your Mind | Dr. Andrew Huberman)
- When the language you use internally is too abstract or disconnected from your actual experience, the brain flags it as incongruent and it doesn't activate the neural systems responsible for real change.
當你在內心使用的語言過於抽象或與實際經驗脫節時，大腦就會將其標記為不協調，從而無法激活負責真正改變的神經系統。