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  • The next best predictor of lifetime success is conscientiousness.

  • Well so, and of the...

  • Of the two aspects of conscientiousness, say, orderliness and industriousness,

  • the better predictor is industriousness.

  • So the question is "Well, what can you do about your industriousness?"

  • And the answer to that, is... well, that's kind of rough too,

  • because there's a strong genetic component, but...

  • You CAN work on micro habits with regards to your conscientiousness, and I think the best micro habits

  • (this is partly to do with these Future Authoring program processes),

  • I think the best thing you can do with regards to your conscientiousness, is to...

  • set up some aims for yourself. Goals, that you actually value.

  • And the Future Authoring program helps people do that.

  • And basically, it does a situational analysis of- It helps you do a situational analysis of your life,

  • more than a psychological analysis, I would say.

  • And so, the questions are something like, well:

  • "Alright, you're gonna have to put some effort into your life.

  • And you need to be motivated to do that."

  • And so, what are the potential sources of motivation?

  • Well, you could think about them in the Big Five manner, you know,

  • 1) if you're extroverted, you want friends,

  • 2) if you're agreeable, you want an intimate relationship,

  • 3) if you're disagreeable, you want to win competitions,

  • 4) if you're open, you want to engage in creative activity,

  • 5) if you're high in neuroticism, you want security.

  • Okay, so those are all sources of potential motivation,

  • that you could draw on, that you could tailor to your own, you know, your own personality.

  • But then there are dimensions, that you wanna consider your life across.

  • And so, we asked people about, well...

  • "You know, if you could have your life the way you wanted it, in 3 to 5 years,

  • if you were taking care of yourself properly, you know:

  • [Dr. Peterson lists the dimensions] 1) What would you want from your friendships? 2) What would you want from your intimate relationship?

  • 3) How would you like to structure your family? 4) What do you want for your career?

  • 5) How are you going to use your time outside of your job?

  • And 6) How are you going to regulate your mental, physical- mental and physical health?

  • And maybe also 7) Your drug and alcohol use."

  • Because that's- that's a good place to auger down.

  • You know, cause alcoholism for example, wipes out, you know, 5-10% of people.

  • So, you wanna keep that under control.

  • [stutter] And then- and then- so maybe, you know, you- you-

  • You develop a vision, of what your life- what you would like your life to be,

  • And that associates, the...

  • So the goal, once the goal is established,

  • and then you break down the goal into microprocesses, that you can implement,

  • the microprocesses become rewarding, in proportion... in relation to their, uh, causal association with the goal!

  • And that tangles in your- your incentive reward system, you know.

  • We talked about the "dopaminergic incentive reward system", and that's the thing that keeps you moving forward.

  • And the way it works, is that it works better,

  • if it produces positive emotion, when it can see you moving towards a valued goal.

  • Okay well, what's the implication of that? - Better have a valued goal!

  • Because otherwise, you can't get any positive motivation working out.

  • And so, the more valuable the goal, in principle,

  • the more the microprocesses associated with that goal, start to take on a positive charge.

  • And so, what that means is, well...

  • You get up in the morning, and you're excited about the day, you're ready to go.

  • And so, as far as I can tell, what you do is: you specify your long term ideal.

  • Maybe you also specify a place you wanna stay the hell away from,

  • so that you're terrified to fail, as well as excited about succeeding,

  • cause that's also useful.

  • You specify your goal. You do that, in some sense, as a unique individual.

  • You wanna specify goals, that make you say:

  • "Oh! If that could happen, as a consequence of my efforts, it would clearly be worthwhile!"

  • Because, the question always is: Why do something?

  • Cause doing nothing is easy. You just sit there, and you don't do anything.

  • That's real easy.

  • The question is, why would you ever do anything?

  • And the answer that has to be: Because you've determined, by some means, that it's worthwhile!

  • And then, the next question might be: Well, where should you look for worthwhile things?

  • And one would be: Well, you could consult your own temperament!

  • And the other would be: Well, you kind of look at how...

  • Look at what it is, that people accrue, that's valuable, across the lifespan!

  • [stutter] Look- look what-

  • So, you do a structural analysis of the sub-components of human existence!

  • And [we] already did that!

  • You need a family, you need friends!

  • Like, you don't need to have all these things, but you better have most of them.

  • Family, friends, career, educational goals,

  • plans for, you know, time outside of work,

  • attention to your mental and physical health, et cetera!

  • You know, those are- that's what life is about!

  • And if you don't have any of those things, well... Then all you've got left, is misery and suffering!

  • So that's- that's a bad... That's a bad deal for you.

  • So.

  • So, but once you set up that goal structure, let's say,

  • and that's really, in many ways, that's what you should be doing at universities.

  • That's exactly what you should be doing - is trying to figure out: Who it is, that you're trying to be?

  • Right? And you aim at that.

  • And then use everything you learn, as a means of building that person that you wanna be, and...

  • I really mean "want to be!" I don't mean "should be", even those things- those things are gonna overlap.

  • And it's important to distinguish between those, because that's partly

  • (and this is back down to the micro-routine analysis),

  • so, if I say- Well, you gonna try to make yourself more industrious,

  • Okay, #1: Specify your damn goals.

  • Cause how are you gonna hit something, if you don't know what it is?

  • That isn't gonna happen!

  • And often people won't specify their goals too, cause they don't like to specify conditions for failure.

  • So, if you keep yourself all vague and foggy,

  • which is real easy, because that's just a matter of not doing as well,

  • then you don't know when you fail!

  • And people might say: "Well, I really don't wanna know when I fail, because that's painful!

  • So I'll keep myself blind, about when I fail!"

  • That's fine, except you'll fail all the time then!

  • Just won't know it until you failed so badly, that you're done.

  • And that can easily happen by the time you're 40.

  • So, so... I would recommend that you don't let that happen.

  • So that's willful blindness, right? You could have known!

  • But you chose not to.

  • Okay, so once you get your goal structure set up, you think:

  • Okay, if I could have this life, looks like that might be worth living".

  • Despite the fact that it's gonna be, you know, anxiety provoking and threatening,

  • and there's gonna be some suffering and loss involved, in all of that.

  • Obviously.

  • The goal is to have a vision for your life, such that -

  • - all things considered, that justifies your effort.

  • Okay, so then what do you do?

  • Well, then - then you turn down to the micro-routine.

  • It's like "Okay well, this is what I'm aiming for.

  • How does that instantiate itself, day to day, week to week, month to month?

  • And that's where something like a schedule, can be unbelievably useful.

  • Google Calendar. It's like, make a damn schedule!

  • And stick to it!

  • Okay, so what's the rule with the schedule? It's not a bloody prison!

  • That's the first thing, that people do wrong! It's like "Well I don't like to follow a schedule".

  • It's like: "Well, what kind of schedule are you setting up?"

  • "Well, I sh- I have to do this, then I have to do this, then I have to do this.

  • You know, and then I just go play video games,

  • because who wants to do all these things, that I have to do?"

  • It's like, WRONG!

  • Set the damn schedule up.

  • So that you have the day you want!

  • That's the trick! It's like "Okay, I've got tomorrow,

  • if I was gonna set it up, so it's the best possible day I could have,

  • practically speaking, what would it look like?"

  • Well, then you schedule that!

  • And obviously, there's a bit of responsibility that's gonna go along with that,

  • because if you have any sense, one of the things that you're gonna insist upon,

  • is that at the end of the day, you're not in worse shape than you were at the beginning of the day, right?

  • Cause that's a stupid day!

  • If you have a bunch of those in a row, you just dig, you know,

  • you dig yourself a hole, and then you bury yourself in it!

  • In it's like - sorry, that's just not a good strategy.

  • It's a bad strategy.

  • So, maybe 20% of your day has to be responsibility and obligation.

  • Or maybe it's more than that, depending on how far behind you are.

  • But even that, you can ask yourself:

  • "Okay well, I've got these responsibilities, I have to schedule the damn things in,

  • what's the right ratio of responsibility to reward?"

  • And you can ask yourself that, just like you'd negotiate with someone, who is working for you.

  • It's like - okay, you gotta work tomorrow.

  • Okay, so "I want you to work tomorrow".

  • And you might say: "Okay well, what are you gonna do for me,

  • that makes it likely, that I'll work for you?"

  • Well, you could ask yourself that, you know.

  • Maybe you do an hour of responsibility, and then you play a video game for 15 minutes.

  • I don't know, whatever turns your crank, man.

  • But you know, you have to negotiate with yourself, and not tyrannize yourself!

  • Like you're negotiating with someone that you care for,

  • that you would like to be productive and have a good life!

  • And and that's how you make the schedule, it's like ...

  • And then you look at the day, and you think: "Well if I had that day, that'd be good".

  • Great!

  • You know, and you're useless and horrible, so you'll probably only hit it with about 70% accuracy.

  • But that beats the hell out of zero!

  • Right? And if you hit it even with 50% accuracy,

  • another rule is: Well, aim for 51% the next week,

  • or 50.5%, for God's sake, or...

  • Because you're gonna hit that position, where things start to loop back positively, and spiral you upward!

  • And so...

  • So that's one way, that you can work on your conscientious.

  • Plan of life, you'd like to have!

  • And- and you do that partly by referring to social norms,

  • that's more or less rescuing your father from the belly of the whale,

  • but the other way you do that, is by having a little conversation with yourself, about...

  • As if you don't really know who you are. Because you know what you're like, you won't do what you're told.

  • You won't do, what you tell yourself to do.

  • You must have noticed THAT!

  • It's like, you're a bad employee, and a worse boss.

  • And both of those work... you know, for you.

  • You don't know what you wanna do, and then when you tell yourself what to do, you don't do it anyways.

  • You should fire yourself, and find someone else to be, but...

  • But, you know, my point is, is that you have to understand, that you're not your own servant, so to speak.

  • You're someone that you have to negotiate with, and that's, and y-

  • You're someone, that you want to present the opportunity of having a good life to!

  • And that's hard for people, cause they don't like themselves very much!

  • So you know, they're always like cracking the whip and then procrastinating,

  • and cracking the whip, and then procrastinating.

  • And it's like - God, it's so boring, and such a pathetic way of spending your time.

  • And you know what that's like, cause you probably waste like 6 hours a day.

  • And I think, we did an economic calculation about that a while back, right?

  • Your time is probably worth 50 bucks an hour. Something like that.

  • I mean, you're not getting paid that now, but you're young,

  • and so this is investment time,

  • and what you do now, is going to multiply its effects in the future.

  • So... so let's say it's $50 an hour, which is perfectly reasonable.

  • So if you waste 6 hours a day, and you are,

  • Then you're wasting about $2,000 a week, or about $100,000 a year.

  • So like, go ahead! But that's what it's costing you, every hour.

  • And you need to know, what your damn time is worth.

  • So, let's say it's not 50 bucks, it's 30.

  • Whatever, maybe it's a $100. It's somewhere in that range.

  • One of the things you should be asking yourself is, when you spend an hour, was that "Well,

  • would've I paid someone 50 bucks, to have had that hour?"

  • And if the answer is "no", it's like: Well, maybe you should do something else with your time.

  • And it depends on whether or not you think that your time is worth while.

  • But the funny thing about not assuming that, is if you assume your time isn't worthwhile,

  • what happens, is you don't just sit around sorta randomly, in a state of responsibility-less bliss.

  • What you do, is you suffer existentially.

  • And so... that seems like a stupid solution.

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