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  • Hello everyone ...

  • Happiness has become the new 'Enlightenment',

  • the new Heaven,

  • an unattainable goal,

  • a Finish Line that keep receding.

  • When Spiritual Teachers, including myself,

  • emphasize the importance and the value of happiness,

  • something interesting happens -

  • people start to feel as if something has gone wrong

  • if they aren't happy -

  • that only adds unhappiness to Unhappiness.

  • There is a kind of shame that arises within us

  • when we are unhappy.

  • This is especially painful

  • when we identify with being Unhappy.

  • Some of us don't have any idea what Happiness really is

  • because we've never felt it.

  • We feel the very worst about ourselves

  • because we can't seem to get life 'right'

  • and be happy like other people can.

  • We begin to feel like we are karmically destined to suffer.

  • This issue of attaching to Happiness

  • is just a branch off of the tree

  • of trying to get life 'right'.

  • When we feel as if we are happy

  • we feel like we are getting our life right.

  • When we feel like we are unhappy

  • we feel like we are getting our life wrong.

  • So we hold the belief that we *should* be happy

  • even when we aren't happy.

  • That compounds unhappiness - it perpetuates it.

  • When we think that we *should* be happy when we're not happy

  • we start to resist our negative emotions.

  • We feel bad about them.

  • I've said it a million times before, and I'm saying it again:

  • Whatever we resist, persists ...

  • So, in thinking that we should be happy,

  • in pushing against our negative emotions

  • we stay stuck in those negative emotions.

  • When we become resistant to suffering and to our own unhappiness

  • the desire for happiness no longer feels good,

  • it feels desperate

  • because we want something we don't think we can have.

  • We want happiness but we don't think we can have it.

  • So we are focused on suffering and on unhappiness.

  • So what's the best thing we can do?

  • Give up on Happiness ...

  • This may sound odd and like a bit of a contradiction

  • coming from someone like me,

  • who has dedicated their life

  • to teaching people to reach Happiness.

  • But what you find

  • is that these contradictory ideas

  • are, in fact, complementary.

  • If you give up on Happiness

  • you are releasing resistance to suffering

  • and/or unhappiness.

  • Imagine that you lived your life

  • in a continually-flowing gale-force wind -

  • when you are resisting something

  • it's as if you're turned against that air current, face-first.

  • It's hard to breathe,

  • it's hard to move because you're pushing against

  • that strong air current,

  • it's exhausting.

  • When you stop resisting something

  • you allow the gale-force wind to blow you

  • wherever *it* wants to take you.

  • Now imagine that this gale-force wind has one prerogative

  • and that's to take you to everything that you've been asking for,

  • to take you to that which is wanted.

  • Now, do you see the benefit of going with the wind?

  • The Universe *is* this gale-force wind.

  • I'm sure you've all heard of somebody

  • who wanted a promotion for years.

  • They wanted it desperately.

  • They tried everything they could think of to get that promotion.

  • Until, one day, it became so painful to want that promotion

  • that they gave up on it

  • and, instead, they started looking for a new job.

  • And within hours or days, they got that phone call

  • telling them that they got the job.

  • Now, it's tempting to think that is an ironic, cruel joke

  • that's being played by a malevolent Universe.

  • But the reality is,

  • in the moment that the person gave up on that desire

  • they released resistance to what they did not want.

  • And releasing resistance to what you don't want

  • allows you to flow in the direction of what is wanted.

  • You can't cause yourself to un-want something.

  • So the person in this scenario didn't not-want the promotion,

  • (you can't un-want something you want)

  • so, even though they still had that desire,

  • giving up on getting it

  • allowed them to release enough resistance

  • that they got it.

  • The Universe already knows you want to be happy.

  • That is the only thing you really ever wanted anyway.

  • Everything else - that promotion,

  • that boyfriend or girlfriend,

  • that house, that car -

  • is just a means to that end,

  • which is Happiness ...

  • Not only does the Universe know that you want happiness,

  • the Universe is calling you towards it,

  • pushing you towards it ...

  • It is arranging all necessary conditions for your happiness.

  • The only way the Universe

  • can achieve more Expansion through *your* perspective

  • is if you manage to align-with and experience your own desires.

  • So, believe me,

  • the Universe will facilitate your happiness

  • every step of the way.

  • So what happens if you let yourself

  • release resistance to being unhappy?

  • What happens if you let yourself go with the wind?

  • You allow yourself to flow in the direction of what you want -

  • which is Happiness.

  • Think of this like a back-door entry to Happiness.

  • All of the various beliefs that perpetuate unhappiness

  • like they were karmically destined to suffer -

  • they turn us against that gale-force wind that is the Universe.

  • They make it so that we are in a state of resistance.

  • But sometimes,

  • the state of resistance

  • that is the most painful and does the most damage to us

  • is our desperate quest for happiness.

  • When we become desperate for something

  • that's because we have an acute awareness

  • of the absence of that thing in our life.

  • That's why the feeling of Need has been identified

  • as a feeling which comes from a space of Lack.

  • That means that you are focused on the absence

  • of whatever it is that you want

  • and you can't be focused on the lack or absence of something

  • and get what you want, at the same time -

  • it's a Vibrational contradiction.

  • Sometimes our awareness of our unhappiness,

  • and desperate desire for happiness,

  • is so strong

  • that the path of least resistance

  • is to release our attachment to Happiness altogether.

  • When Happiness ceases to be our goal

  • where we are cannot be wrong or lacking in any way

  • because you cannot compare your 'now'

  • to your imagined future happiness.

  • You cannot feel bad because you aren't there yet,

  • when there isn't anywhere to get to.

  • You cannot cause yourself to not-want Happiness

  • because you cannot cause yourself to un-want

  • something that you want.

  • But you can change your focus

  • so that you're not focusing on the Now

  • as if the Now is unwanted.

  • The best way to let go of the destination we call Happiness

  • is to fall in-love with what-Is - fall in-love with the Now.

  • The only reason that any Being suffers

  • is because they are currently believing a thought

  • that contradicts what-Is.

  • The 'should' thoughts are the best example of this.

  • If I am thinking 'I should be happy' and I'm not -

  • I'm believing a thought that contradicts what-Is.

  • I'm in resistance to Me in my current state.

  • Our stress in life is caused by arguing with what-Is.

  • Embrace the idea that what happened

  • *should* have happened and was supposed to happen.

  • Embrace the idea that nothing can go wrong -

  • that everything that happens to us

  • is actually happening *for* us.

  • The reality is, no one wants to lose their job