Manipulation.

操縱。

Even the word has a scary, slimy tone to it, but have no fear, Psych2Goer.

這個字就連語調都令人毛骨悚然，但各位 Psych2Go 的粉絲不用怕。

There are measures you can take to protect yourself. Here are 10 signs you're being manipulated.

還是有些方法可以讓你自保，以下是 10 個你受到別人操縱的跡象。

Number one, they constantly make you prove yourself.

第一、他們會不斷地要你證明你自己。

They never respect your boundaries and always ask for your love and attention.

他們不尊重你的底線，一直索求你的愛和關注。

They are usually impatient, demanding and selfish.

他們通常沒耐性、態度苛刻且自私。

You often overextend yourself because you fear upsetting or letting them down.

你往往被搞得精疲力竭，因為你怕他們不開心或失望。

They never let you off the hook and guilt-trip you into doing things for them, even if it's inconvenient for your schedule.

他們從不放過你，利用你的愧疚感讓你為他們做事情，即使會對你造成不便。

Two, they communicate passive-aggressively.

第二、他們的溝通方式是「被動式攻擊」。

Manipulators are rarely ever direct with their sly and cunning behavior.

操縱者幾乎不會直接表現出奸詐狡猾的行為。

They prefer to communicate passive-aggressively and won't hesitate to talk about you behind your back.

他們喜歡被動式攻擊的溝通方式，並毫不猶豫地在背後說你的閒話。

This protects their good guy or good girl image.

這能維護他們的好好先生或好好小姐的形象。

If they also turn to a middleman to communicate for them, this shows they are afraid to confront you personally.

如果他們還找了中間人幫忙傳話，就代表他們不敢跟你當面對質。

Manipulators desire control, which means they have a hard time facing their fears because it means letting go.

操縱者渴望掌權，這說明了他們很難正視自己的恐懼，因為這代表放下掌控權。

Three, they gaslight you.

第三、他們會精神虐待你。

Gaslighting is a manipulative technique that makes you feel like you can't rely on your own memory anymore.

「精神虐待」是一種操縱手段，讓你覺得你不能再仰賴你的記憶了。

When someone gaslights you, they will pretend like they didn't say something that hurt you in the past.

某人想精神虐待你的時候，他們會假裝之前沒有用言語傷害過你。

They will often twist the truth and reinvent it, which makes you question your sanity.

他們常常會扭曲、竄改事實，讓你對自己的神智狀態產生質疑。

Gaslighting isn't just manipulative. It's a form of serious abuse that is dangerous.

精神虐待並非只是操縱。它是很危險的嚴重虐待。

To learn more about it, check out our video "10 Gaslighting Signs in an Abusive Relationship."

想知道更多相關資訊，請看《10 Gaslighting Signs in an Abusive Relationship》這部影片。

Four, they're always just joking.

第四、他們總是說「只是開玩笑」。

It might seem harmless at first, but manipulators can take their jokes too far that end up hurting you.

起初這看似無傷大雅，但操縱者會把玩笑開得太過火，最後對你造成傷害。

When you stand up for yourself and confront them about it,

當你想捍衛自己，直接與他們對質的時候，

they will try to brush it off and tell you that you're being too sensitive.

他們便用「你太敏感了」這種話來打發你。

Manipulators won't mind embarrassing you in public, either.

操縱者也不怕在大庭廣眾下讓你難堪。

This gives them an audience, and they're experts at getting others to laugh at you with their jokes.

這樣他們就有觀眾，他們最擅長利用玩笑話讓別人嘲笑你。

When you tell them to cut it out, they'll tell you that you're either making a scene or being a party pooper.

當你叫他們住口，他們就會說你大驚小怪或很掃興。

Five, they play the victim card.

第五、他們善於扮演受害者。

When the two of you fight, manipulators will always make you feel like it's your fault.

你們兩個爭吵的時候，操縱者總會讓你覺得是你的錯。

They try to play the innocent victim who is badly hurt by your words and actions.

他們會設法扮演無辜的受害者，就像被你的言語和舉動狠狠地傷害了。

Manipulators are experts at looking like helpless small creatures.

操縱者很擅長讓自己看起來像無助的小動物。

They never believe they've done anything wrong.

他們從不認為自己有錯。

As a result, you find yourself apologizing all the time because they avoid taking responsibility for their own mistakes.

所以，你會發現永遠都是你在道歉，因為他們不會為自己的過錯負任何責任。

Six, they kill you with kindness.

第六、他們用慈悲殺死你。

Manipulators will try to be the nice guy or nice girl and do favors for you that make you feel pressured to return them.

操縱者會試著當好好先生或好好小姐，幫你的忙，讓你背負著還他們人情的壓力。

On the surface, they will buy you gifts or give you compliments.

表面上，他們會送你禮物或讚美你。

But then, the next time you guys hang out, they might hint at wanting an expensive watch that's out of their budget.

但下次你們出去玩的時候，他們可能會暗示你，他們想要某支昂貴的手錶，但預算不夠。

In reality, they were only kind to you because they had other motives.

實際上，他們對你好是為了其他目的。

Seven, they make your problems feel small.

第七、他們讓你的問題顯得微不足道。

Manipulators always want the spotlight.

操縱者總是想成為目光焦點。

If you ever complain about a bad day you're having or all the difficult situations you're going through,

如果你跟他們抱怨，你今天過得不是很好，或你所遭遇的困境，

they will play the comparison game and minimize them by talking about their problems.

他們就會玩「對比遊戲」，並用他們的問題讓你的問題顯得微不足道。

For instance, if you complain about a sunburn you got, they might talk about the aches and pains they got from exercising.

舉例來說，如果你抱怨你曬傷了，他們也許就會告訴你他們運動完後身體痠痛。

Manipulators do everything they can to get the attention they want, even if it means buying your pity.

操縱者會無所不用其極，去獲得他們想要的注意力，即使他們得跟你討拍。

Eight, they emphasize their calm, cool, and collected side.

第八、他們會突顯自己冷靜、沉著的那一面。

If you express your anger and frustrations openly,

如果你公開表達你的憤怒和挫折，

manipulators might keep calm just to make you feel like you're overreacting.

操縱者可能會保持冷靜，讓你覺得你在小題大作。

This technique makes them feel superior over you because they know you look like you're being dramatic, while they stay cool and detached.

這讓他們覺得自己比你優秀，因為他們知道你看起來在大驚小怪，而他們卻冷靜、超然。

They will be dismissive of your emotions and often refuse to talk to you until you've sorted your feelings out.

他們對你的情緒不屑一顧，等你把情緒整理好了之後才願意理你。

Nine, they use emotional blackmail.

第九、他們會情緒勒索。

If they tell you that they will die or harm themselves if you leave or break up with them,

如果他們告訴你，要是你離開他們或跟他們分手，他們就會自殘或自殺，

then they are trying to gain control by threatening to hurt themselves.

那他們就是想用傷害自己來威脅你，以取得掌控。

This leaves you in a highly uncomfortable and unfair position, where you feel obligated to stay against your own will.

這讓你感到極為不舒服和不公平，讓你覺得你有義務違背自己的意願。

Not only is this toxic, but it risks their own health on the line.

這不僅荼毒了你，而是在拿他們自身的健康冒險。

It's best to contact the police before things get out of hand.

最好的辦法就是在事情失控前報警。

Ten, they take advantage of your trusting and sensitive nature.

第十、他們利用你容易相信他人和敏感的天性。

Manipulators often target insecure, sensitive, and overly trusting individuals.

操縱者常常以缺乏安全感、敏感和容易相信他人的人為目標。

If you're usually told by others that you're too nice or tend to wear your heart on your sleeve,

如果經常有人跟你說你人太好，或你的心情全寫在你的臉上，

take precaution and keep your vulnerability at bay.

那你得多留意，隱藏你的弱點。

Manipulators are skillful at spotting people pleasers, who often put their needs on hold to take care of others first.

操縱者擅於發現濫好人，那些把自己的需求放在一邊，先照顧別人的人。

Initially, it might seem like they care about you when they give you attention,

一開始，他們的關注會讓你覺得他們真的在乎你，

but later down the road, they'll start to use you for their own benefits.

但過不久，他們就開始為了自己的利益而利用你。

It's their subtle way of luring you into their trap. So watch out!

這是他們為了引誘你掉入陷阱的詭計，所以千萬要小心！

Do you think you're being manipulated? Please share your thoughts with us below.

你覺得你正在受別人操縱嗎？請在下方留言和我們分享你的看法。

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