Today, let's talk about "How to start a conversation."

今天我們來談談如何開啟聊天狀態

Okay. I'm still in Japan right now. And you know when you're in a strange place,

我還在日本

or a foreign country, you want to know a person, you have to start with a

你知道如果你在一個陌生的地方或是國外

conversation. So exactly how do you do that? In this channel, we have already

你想要認識某人

talked about how to end a conversation If you really want to get away. If you

你都是要從談話開始的

want to know more about this, you can check the video here. So in this video

但到底要怎麼做呢？

we're gonna talk about how to start a conversation either with a stranger or

在這個頻道我們已經談過如何快速結束對話離開

maybe a co-worker you've always wanted to talk to. And today we're gonna

如果你想要知道更多

cover four methods that you can use to talk to people. In each method we will

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give you two examples sentences. Maybe it's going to be very useful the next time

在這個影片裡，我們要來說說如何開始對話

when you want to meet a new person. And here we go. Method number one. Give

可能是跟陌生人

compliments. People like to hear something nice about themselves, and

或是一個你一直想要談話的同事

therefore it's a very good way for you to start a conversation with someone

今天我們會談到四個方式

When that person is happy, the conversation can keep going. Let's just

你可以用來和人對話

take a look at the two example sentences. Number One.

每一個方式裡有兩個例句

When you see someone very early in the morning or for the first time in a day, you try to

或許你下次想要認識新人的時候會很有用

notice something new or something fancy on that person. And you point it out.

我們開始吧

Especially when you say "Where did you get it?" You're inviting more information

方法一

into the conversation. So that person will start talking about where he or she

大家都喜歡聽到對於自己的好話

gets it and then you keep talking. And example number two.

所以這是一個很棒的開啟對話的方式

Usually after a meeting or after a speech, you go to that person you really

當他開心的時候

want to talk to, and then you compliment about their performance on stage. Not

對話就會持續進行了

only that, you're asking about the secrets. If that person is a very nice

我們來看這兩個例句吧

person, he or she will share how they prepared. Of course the purpose is for

第一

the conversation to keep going, and your job is done. Just remember, in this group

當你很早看到某人，或是當天第一次看到時

when you are giving compliments, be sincere.

你試著注意他身上有沒有什麼新的東西或是亮麗的東西

You cannot go too far. If you do, it'll sound really fake.

然後你提出來

(Hey, Mr. Philips. Nice suit.)

特別是當你問“你在哪裡買的？”

(Right there. That was so fake.)

你會製造更多的話題在你們的對話中

And let's move on to method number two.

那個人就會開始說他／她在哪裡買的

People like their opinions being valued. We all have the

然後你們就在聊天了

desire to be respected and that is why when you are asking for opinions, most

第二個例子

nice people would appreciate a lot, which means this conversation can keep going.

通常在一個會議或是演講之後

in a very positive way. And let's just take a look at the two example sentences here..

你走到那個你想要對話的人面前

Number one.

然後你稱讚他們在台上的表現

You are looking at something, maybe reading a book or

不只如此

reading the proceedings of the meeting, or people's report. You find something

你還問他們秘訣

that is confusing. Then you point out the problem, and you go to that person. Ask

如果那個人夠好的話

the question. Ask for opinions. For most nice people, they would try to explain

她／他就會分享他們如何準備的

things for you. And then you go to method number one, give a little bit of

當然目的是

compliments. Then you're talking. You're having a conversation. And let's take a

讓對話持續進行

look at the example sentence number two.

你就達成目標了

If you notice that person you want to talk to likes to travel, then it's a very good

但要記得

conversation piece. You go to that person, you start talking about your plan for

在這個方式中，當你稱讚對方時

your vacation. Maybe he or she has some very good ideas. While you're doing that,

要有誠意喔

you can talk about to your last vacation. You can share your future vacation plans.

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And then you are having a very pleasant

如果你這樣做，會聽起來太假

conversation. Remember, a conversation is a two-way street. Don't just listen. Don't

Hey！Philips先生，西裝真好看！

just ask questions. Sometimes you have to share a little bit. And let's move on to

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method number three.

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If you find someone you want to know about, you might have already observed a little bit.

我們繼續看第二個方法

Not in a creepy way. Don't be a stalker.

人們喜歡他們的意見被重視

You would go to that person. Ask about the interest that you share

我們都有被尊重的欲望

with each other. You might start a conversation. Let's

這就是為什麼當你問人意見時

take a look at example sentence number one.

大部分的好人都會很開心

If it is baseball season or basketball season, and you notice the person that you like to talk to also

代表的是，這個對話可以持續正向地進行

enjoys the ballgame that you do, then why not? Start asking about the result or

我們繼續來看兩個例句

your favorite teams. Maybe you share the same passion in sports. This also goes

第一

with fashion or technology. Whatever you think the other person likes, you can go

你在看某樣東西

to that person and talk about it. And let's move on to example sentence number two.

可能在讀一本書或是會議的紀錄

Sometimes it's not something that you like. It's something

或是別人的報告

that you don't like. Or someone you hate. You work in the same place. You don't

你發現令人困惑的地方

like the manager. Find the common enemy. Start talking about that person. If you

你指出問題所在

share the same opinion, then that conversation will go without any further

然後你上前去問問題

help. But be careful, you have to be very sure about what you're talking about.

詢問意見

Or you might end up making some new enemies. And let's move on to method number four.

大部分的好人

This is actually very common in America. When you

他們會試著為你解釋

ask people some controversial questions or some opinion questions, you say would

然後你使用第一個方式

you rather do this or that. You make the other person make a choice, and you find

稍微稱讚一下

out what he or she likes. Sometimes the question could be very tricky or very

你們就在對話啦

interesting. Let's just take a look at the two example questions. Number one.

你們就在聊天了

This is the kind of question that asked about personal preferences.

我們繼續看第二個例句

There is no right or wrong answers. The fun part is you will know

如果你注意到你想要談話的對象喜歡旅行

more about the person. Why not answer the question right now. If you have an answer,

這就是個很好的話題啦

put some comments down below. And question number two.

你走上前去

This is a more serious question.

你開始談論你假期的計畫

Remember, you have to make sure the person does not get offended because

或許他／她有很棒的想法

you're asking about the funeral. Again, this kind of question has no correct

你在這麼做的時候

answers. What you need to do is pick one and talk about the reason. If that person

你還可以說說你上次的旅行

is too shy for this kind of question, you might want to try to induce a little bit

你也可以分享未來的旅遊計畫

of interest. Through the process, you will have the conversation. Remember, what

然後你們就會有一個令人開心的對話了

you're asking this kind of questions, don't just ask yes/no questions. And that

但要記得

is why this "would rather question" would work a lot. Because in addition to

對話總是雙向的

choosing one of the answers, you also have to explain why. And during the

不要總是聽，或是總是問問題

explanation, you will have the conversation that you want.

有些時候你也要稍微分享一下

So these are the four methods that I introduced today that you can use to start a conversation

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with someone. Do you have any problem talking to someone? Share your comments

如果你發現了你想要更了解的人

below. Let me know. If you liked this video, make sure you click the like

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I'll see you next time. Bye.

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