I'm going to share with you ways that you can apply in your own life today to

start to see yourself as somebody that is worthy of love and actually being

yourself welcome back to another video my name is Erin and I help people expand

their continent now in this video I'm going to be sharing with you those three

ways that you could apply in your life that can really allow you to love

yourself 100% now understand that when you love yourself 100% you then give the

opportunity for other people to love you as well now there may be some people

that love you no matter what that are unconditional with it but many times we

get a reflection of who we are being so if we don't appreciate who we are and

we're not focused on you know what we're grateful for for ourselves and many

times people will kind of be blind to it understand that when you go out into

public you are projecting your self-image out and the emotions you feel

about yourself are contagious to other people so to have magnetic energy and to

really have you know the ability for people to love you you must first love

yourself now normally it's kind of counterintuitive you would think that

until in order to love yourself it's more about taking on these new

perspectives of piling on you know these things that are good about yourself and

that can be powerful but the key is not so much on the piling on it's more about

the letting go you see the reason I say this is because love and unconditional

love is actually our natural state of being when we are born now I know that

sounds kind of weird because you know it seems so unnatural for us to love

ourselves but understand that that's based on conditioning we have been

conditioned to not love ourselves we've been conditioned to have all these rules

as to how we can love ourselves and why we should or why we should it we've had

all these magazine companies and all these advertisements that show the

perfect models of how we're supposed to be and if we're not you know we need

some type of pills we need some type of weight loss formula in order to look

exactly like them you see but that's just conditioning that's not really true

we think it's true we might think it's true we might buy into it and that's

where some of the pain might come from but love is our natural state of being I

believe that love is everyone's natural state of being that when we put labels

in our mind when we're focused on other perspectives we create barriers between

ourselves and that that causes a lot of the problems we have in the world but

get back to the core of who you are and the reason I say this is because when

you realize that your natural state of love it's less about trying and it's

more about just letting go letting go of perspectives that no longer serve

letting go of all the baggage that we may have been carrying around imagine

you've been walking around with other people's baggage other people's beliefs

of when we grew up we were picking up these packages we were walking around

with other people's beliefs and we're lugging them around on our back and it's

so tiresome to bring them everywhere we go but now what we're learning is that

we can let them go that they're not really even our beliefs they were just

things that we picked up that we thought what we identified with we thought oh

I'm supposed to pick this up I'm supposed to carry this around this is

what everyone else is doing everyone else is carrying luggage around looking

tiresome I'm supposed to do the same thing but what I'm encouraging you in

this video is that you can let that luggage go you can realize self-love is

your natural state of being and that as you start to understand this you can let

go of everything that doesn't serve now the first powerful way to really

love yourself is to forgive yourself now of course you can forgive other people

for everything they've done but let me tell and share with you the most

powerful way I found to forgive other people and to forgive even myself is

having the perspective that wherever I was in my life when I made a certain

decision that was where I was act and that was the decision I needed to make

in order to learn and come to where I'm at now so in a way you could be grateful

for where you are now even if you're like I don't love myself be grateful

that you're there because if you didn't feel this emotion you wouldn't have the

desire to move beyond it you wouldn't have the desire to bring this

unconsciousness into your awareness to then take action to move through it so

that's where a lot of power is now understand first off that people that do

things to you always do it from their own level of rationalization they have

justified what they're doing in their own head they've said this is something

that I need to do because of my current beliefs maybe they didn't say that

consciously or outloud but they set it at assert

level maybe someone stole from you maybe they took something from you and they

lied about it they did that from their own level of rationalization they in

their minds made it okay because of maybe some limiting belief or because

they didn't believe that they had the own abundance to do what they wanted to

do or because they believed that they had to bring you down to feel good about

themselves you see whatever it is it's from where they were at a lot of times

we take on the beliefs of our parents but understand our parents did the best

that they could and even if you know I had an extent mom that was very abusive

she learned that from her dad and she was just reacting that and putting that

on to me and my brother and unfortunately now she's put it on to my

half sisters who have to deal with it because they're actually related to her

you know but the idea is that that's based on her own level she's made it

okay you know her controlling this the way that she is it's okay for her to be

like that in her own mind and the moment I realized this was the moment I was

really able to forgive her because you know my dad divorced her when I was

about 15 years old so from 9 to 15 I was around her all the time you know me my

brother was always doing work outside weren't allowed to have friends we

weren't allowed to do anything really we're always in trouble for something

and she was a very angry person all of a sudden 15 comes around we're

allowed to have friends you know we're allowed to watch TV we weren't allowed

to watch TV in those years we were allowed to do things that we were

deprived of for so many years and we were all excited about it

but it took me a couple years to forgive her but what really made the game

changer for me was I realized that someone that abuses someone else has

been abused and they wouldn't even really admit that they're abusing

because they're just right that's more about their ego being right you see what

I mean so in that same perspective that is a perspective I had that really

allowed me to forgive her then also to forgive myself I didn't forgive myself

by realizing and asking the question why did this happen you know I had to trust

the process and that's what really made a big difference for me but when you

have the understanding and the awareness that people always make decisions based

on their own level of rationalization it makes it so much easier for you to let

go of any baggage you have towards someone else and realize that if you

have baggage towards someone else it's still within your own energy it's still

something you are carrying around it's the luggage on your back even though you

think it's about someone else so let go of it heal it with someone else heal it

with yourself and understand you did the that you could for where you were but

now you are grateful because now you can actually decide to go in the direction

that you prefer so forgiveness for most people is the most powerful thing you

can do because when you forgive you emotionally heal yourself and you allow

yourself to let go of those patterns so that then you can be the way that you

prefer now the second way is also very powerful and it's something I'm

currently learning about myself now it's having an understanding that we work in

the sense that our mind has certain rules as to when we can feel certain

emotions it's almost like we give ourselves permission to love ourselves

when certain things have happened you know for me I have a strong ambition to

be successful to be able to give back to people you know the more successful I

become the more resources I have to give up to other people to help other people

raise along the journey as well that's my perspective right and I realize that

sometimes I have these rules as to when I can love myself how much work do I

have to put in I have these rules of when I think other people will only love

me if I do certain things you know I probably you know I have people my

family that probably wanted me to go to college and I went to college for two or

three years but they probably wanted me to get and become like a lawyer you know

I went I did forensics debate high school I was very good at speaking I

enjoyed it I wanted to be a lawyer but then I kind of realized that I didn't

want to do that I realized that a lot of this you know a lot of lawyers that I

either knew or you've read about we're really unhappy people not all of them

but you know some of them were and I just realized that it's probably not the

thing I'm most passionate about I could have easily gone to school I could have

done really well I did well in school when I was in high school and in college

but I realized it's just not for me and I had you know people my family my uncle

was an entrepreneur who had no college education is very successful and I just

kind of you know I knew that I always wanted to be an entrepreneur right but

people my family wanted me to go to school because that was like the thing

to do right and I used to have these rules that I had to fit within the

categories in their own mind of my family members in order for them to love

me and also in order for me to love myself so it's like a self perpetual

thing but this is what I've learned recently is now that I'm you know

growing and I'm starting to become successful the idea is what I'm

focused on now is more so loving myself for the sake of loving myself I switched

the rules in my mind this person will love me if this person will love me if

two people who love me because I am being myself I love myself because I'm

being myself I don't love myself because I'm doing X Y Z in life I love myself

for being me that's the main rule that I think is so powerful that's what I

encourage you to do is to look at the rules you have as to how you can love

yourself and how other people can love you and make it simply you can love

yourself for being you that's all and you need is you to be

yourself that will allow you to realize and start to see that you don't need to

give yourself permission only when you do X Y Z and all of these things all you

have to do is be yourself get to the core of what that is understand the more

you do it the more you'll feel it just start to really have that understanding

and you will start to resonate with it more so the first two are all about

letting go now the last one is about focus now the reason I say this is

because how many people are focused on the things that they've done wrong in

the past they're focused on what could go wrong in the future but what I'm

saying is focused more in the present moment and knowing that you could feel

grateful for what you already have you see when you're grateful for what you

already have or who you already are that leaks into the past that leaks into the

future in a powerful way because with focus comes momentum and if you're

currently focused on things that you haven't done well in the past or even

you haven't done well right now what happens is that leaks because then the

thoughts that resonate with you are times in the past when things didn't go

right and when you think about the future

your hypothesize you're like theorizing or thinking and all of these things that

could go wrong based on what you focused on in the present moment so right here

in the present moment what are you grateful for about yourself you might be

grateful for the little things may be grateful that you got up today and you

did something that you said you were gonna do you checked it off the list

you may be grateful that you were being yourself in the moment you're expressing

yourself more every day you may be grateful for amazing

connections you have with your family members

whatever it is focus on that gratitude and the more you focus on it the more

you feel it and the more that will leak into the so-called past and future but

really you're just gonna get more reflection of who you are being in the

present moment so if you feel negative emotion right now from focusing on

negative aspects of yourself first off be grateful that you are aware of what

you're thinking of be grateful that you are aware of that because that's when

you can change you can't change when you're in the subconscious mind or

you're in those repetitive thought patterns so now that you know this start