NOW FAST FORWARD TO TODAY, AND IT'S EXTREMELY RARE THAT I WORRY ABOUT

時間快轉到今天，我極少擔心任何事情，

ANYTHING, AND WHEN I DO,

而當我真的擔心時，

IT USUALLY LASTS ABOUT 20-30 SECONDS UNTIL I CATCH MYSELF AND STOP.

通常只會維持20至30秒左右，直到我發覺自己在擔心，便會停下來

AND CULTIVATING THAT HAS MADE MY LIFE LITERALLY A HUNDRED TIMES BETTER.

養成這習慣後，我的生活簡直好上100倍

SO I THINK IF YOU'RE LOOKING FOR WAYS TO STOP WORRYING AND STRESSING,

所以我想，如果你正在找尋停止杞人憂天和感到壓力的方法

YOU UNDERSTAND THE BENEFITS AND I DON'T REALLY HAVE TO SELL YOU ON IT...

你會懂得這麼做的好處，我也不用大費周章地去說服你

BUT JUST TO GIVE YOU A VERY SHORT SUMMARY: YOU CAN ACTUALLY START HAVING TIME TO ENJOY

用一句簡短話來概述便是：你總算可以有時間去享受生活

LIFE. YOU WON'T BE CONSTANTLY MISERABLE,

你不會一直感到很悲慘，

AND YOU WON'T BE DESTROYING YOUR HEALTH AND MAKING YOURSELF CONSTANTLY SICK.

而且你也不會賠掉你的健康，讓自己老是生病

AND I THINK THAT SOUNDS PRETTY GOOD.

聽起來很不錯吧！

SO THE TWO BOOKS THAT HAD A HUGE IMPACT ON ME

有影響我很深的兩本書

WERE ECKHART TOLLE'S THE POWER OF NOW, AND VIKTOR FRANKL'S MAN'S SEARCH FOR MEANING,

一本是艾克哈特·托勒寫的《當下的力量》，另一本是維克多·弗蘭克寫的《活出意義來》，

WHICH I RECOMMEND EVERYONE READ. BUT TODAY,

兩本我都很推薦大家看。但是今天，

I'M GOING TO TALK ABOUT FOUR OF MY FAVORITE IDEAS FROM ANOTHER GREAT BOOK,

我要談論的是另一本好書裡提到的四個我個人最喜歡的點子

DALE CARNEGIE'S HOW TO STOP WORRYING AND START LIVING.

是由戴爾·卡內基寫的《如何停止憂慮 開創人生》

SO THE FIRST BIG IDEA IS: ASK YOURSELF,

第一個點子是：捫心自問，

WHAT'S THE WORST THING THAT CAN HAPPEN?

最壞的情況會是什麼？

I REMEMBER THE FIRST YEAR IN COLLEGE CONSTANTLY WORRYING ABOUT MY GRADES.

我記得上大學的第一年，總是不斷地擔心我的成績

WHAT WAS I GOING TO DO IF I GOT A B+ INSTEAD OF AN A?

假如我拿到的是B+而不是Ａ，該怎麼辦？

WELL, SURELY MY LIFE WOULD BE OVER AND I WOULD NEVER AMOUNT TO ANYTHING IN LIFE.

想當然，我的人生會因此而完蛋，而且這輩子也不會有什麼出息了吧

LIKE, THAT WAS SERIOUSLY THE THOUGHT PROCESS GOING THROUGH MY 17 YEAR OLD HEAD.

當時17 歲的我，腦袋瓜裡真的就是這麼想的

NOW FAST FORWARD FIVE YEARS, I WAS CLEANING A FEW DAYS AGO

時間快轉到五年後，幾天前我正在打掃

AND FOUND MY DIPLOMA IN SOME WEIRD PLACE IN MY HOUSE.

意外發現躺在我家角落裡的文憑

HAVEN'T EVEN OPENED THE BOX SINCE I GOT IT, AND WILL NEVER EVEN END UP USING IT FOR THE

自從拿到手後，我都還沒打開過盒子，也認為我這輩子不會用得到了

REST OF MY LIFE.

自從拿到手後，我都還沒打開過盒子，也認為我這輩子不會用得到了

THAT IS A PERFECT EXAMPLE OF WHAT YOUR BRAIN DOES TO YOU.

這個例子正好說明了你的大腦是如何在玩弄你

IT STARTS TO FREAK OUT WITH UNCERTAINTY. IF YOU DON'T CLEARLY DEFINE THE WORST THING,

大腦碰到未知的事物便會驚慌失措。假如你無法清楚地假設最糟狀況，

YOUR BRAIN WILL FIND A WAY TO EQUATE YOU GETTING A B+

你的大腦將會像你拿到B+一樣，找到同樣的方式，

TO YOU COMPLETELY RUINING YOUR LIFE.

完全毀掉你的人生

BUT IN REALITY, THE WORST THING IS NEVER REALLY THAT BAD.

但事實上，最壞的情況並不會比想像中的糟

I GET MESSAGES ALL THE TIME FROM PEOPLE SAYING, "HEY, I'M REALLY INSPIRED BY YOUR CHANNEL."

經常有人傳訊息跟我說，「你的頻道啟發了我很多。」

"I WANT TO START MY OWN, BUT I'M EXPERIENCING A LOT OF RESISTANCE."

「我想要開創屬於自己的頻道，但似乎困難重重。」

AND HERE'S THE THING... SO DID I. YOUR BRAIN'S DEFAULT IS LITERALLY TO THINK,

不瞞你說···我也是（遇到了很多阻力）。你的大腦被設定為從字面上去思考，

"I WILL MAKE A VIDEO. PEOPLE WILL HATE IT." "EVERYONE WILL MAKE FUN OF ME."

「我會製做一部影片，然後大家會很討厭這部影片。」「每個人都會取笑我。」

"PEOPLE WILL GET ANGRY." "THEY WILL COME AND BURN DOWN MY HOUSE."

「他們會很生氣。」「他們會來放火燒我家。」

LIKE SERIOUSLY, THOSE ARE YOUR EITHER CONSCIOUS OR SUBCONSCIOUS THOUGHTS.

不騙你，那些便是你在有意識或無意識下的想法

WHAT IS THE REALITY THOUGH? THE WORST THING THAT WILL HAPPEN TO YOU

但現實情況是什麼？現實中，最有可能發生最壞的事

IN REALITY IS A NEGATIVE COMMENT. THAT IS IT.

便是負面的留言，就這樣

AND IT'S THE SAME THING WITH EVERYTHING ELSE LIKE STARTING A BUSINESS,

這種情況也會發生在其他情形像是創業，

OR GIVING A PUBLIC SPEECH. I HAVE BASICALLY NO EXPERIENCE SPEAKING IN

或是做一個公開演說。我基本上從來沒有在

FRONT OF LARGE CROWDS, SO IF I GAVE A SPEECH RIGHT NOW IT WOULD PROBABLY

大群民眾前演講的經驗。所以，如果要我馬上做一個演說，我大概會

SUCK. I MIGHT HAVE STAGE-FRIGHT, I MIGHT BE AWKWARD,

表現得很爛，我也許會怯場，也有可能覺得彆扭，

BUT I WOULD NEVER, NEVER REFUSE TO DO IT. WHY?

但我絕對、絕對不會拒絕這機會。為什麼呢？

BECAUSE WHAT'S THE WORST THING THAT CAN HAPPEN? IT'S NOT THAT THE WHOLE WORLD IS GOING TO

因為最壞的情況會是什麼呢？又不是說全世界

MAKE FUN OF ME, IT'S NOT THAT PEOPLE ARE GOING TO TRY TO KILL

都會取笑我，或是說演講完後，無論我去到哪裡，

ME EVERYWHERE I GO AFTER MY SPEECH. NO!

都會有人試著追殺我。不是這樣的！

IT'S SOME GUY IN THE CROWD WHO NEVER EVEN GOT INVITED UP ON THE STAGE

只不過就是在群眾中，幾個從來沒有被邀請上台演講過的人，

THINKING THAT MY SPEECH ISN'T THAT GREAT!! LIKE WHO CARES?!

覺得我講得很爛罷了！誰在乎啊？

SO LET ME GIVE YOU ANOTHER EXAMPLE... OUR WASHING MACHINE BROKE DOWN.

讓我再舉另一個例子給你聽：我們的洗衣機壞了

NOW, IF I WASN'T CONSCIOUS OF MY WORRYING,

假如我沒有意識到我在擔心，

I WOULD'VE GOTTEN SUPER PISSED OFF, RIGHT? THAT'S THE NORMAL REACTION TO IT.

我有可能會感到非常抓狂，對吧？算是一般人正常會有的反應

LIKE I'VE NEVER SEEN ANYONE SAYING, "OH THE WASHING MACHINE BROKE DOWN?"

我從來沒有聽過任何人說：「喔，洗衣機壞啦？」

"THAT'S GREAT. NO BIG DEAL." NO, THAT'S SUPPOSED TO PISS YOU OFF.

「太好了，沒什麼大不了的。」沒有，因為這種事情通常都會令人抓狂

NOW YOU'LL NEVER HAVE CLEAN CLOTHES AGAIN.

因為你將再也沒有乾淨的衣服可以穿了

LOOK, I SPENT THE FIRST 17 YEARS OF MY LIFE

聽著，我花了17年的時間

WASHING MY CLOTHES WITH MY HANDS WITH SOME SHITTY RUSSIAN DETERGENT.

用手洗衣服，洗衣精還是品質不好的俄國牌子

SO WHAT'S THE WORST THING THAT CAN HAPPEN? THAT I HAVE TO WASH A COUPLE OF SHIRTS

因此，最壞的情況會是什麼？就是有幾天我必須

WITH THIS AMAZING COCONUT SOAP I HAVE FOR A FEW DAYS UNTIL THE WASHING MACHINE

用手邊很好的椰子香皂來洗衣服，直到洗衣機

GETS FIXED? OR, THAT I CAN'T WEAR MY FAVORITE SHIRT,

修好為止？或是，我無法穿我最愛的襯衫，

SO NOW I HAVE TO PICK FROM THE TWENTY OTHER AWESOME SHIRTS IN MY CLOSET?

只能從衣櫥裡其他二十件好看的襯衫裡挑一件出來穿？

I MEAN, IT'S SO RIDICULOUS! ALWAYS ASK YOURSELF,

這聽起來也太荒謬了吧！總是問問你自己，

WHAT'S THE WORST THING THAT CAN HAPPEN? CLEARLY DEFINE THE WORST OUTCOME,

最壞的情況會是什麼？清楚地定義出最壞的結果，

AND YOU'LL SOON START TO REALIZE HOW RIDICULOUS MOST OF YOUR WORRIES ARE,

你則會很快發現你大部份的擔憂聽起來有多麼荒謬，

WHICH ACTUALLY LEADS US TO MY NEXT FAVORITE IDEA...

而這剛好帶領我們進入下一個我最愛的點子

THE ABSURDITY OF IT ALL.

荒謬感

SO I HAVE A FRIEND WHO'S CONSTANTLY WORRIED ABOUT EVERYTHING.

我有一位經常杞人憂天的朋友

AND HE CALLED ME, AND HE STARTED TO TELL ME ABOUT

他打電話給我，然後開始跟我說

ALL THE STUFF HE'S STRESSED OUT AND WORRIED ABOUT.

所有令他感到壓力和擔憂的事情

AND I SAID, "OKAY. LOOK. JUST STOP."

然後我說，「停一下。」

CARNEGIE TELLS A STORY OF THIS GUY IN WWII, WHO'S STUCK IN A SUBMARINE

卡內基說了一個關於有個人在第二次世界大戰時，被困在潛水艇的故事，

AND BASICALLY KNOWS THAT HE'LL BE DYING IN THE NEXT FEW HOURS.

而且他也清楚自己在幾個小時後就會死了

AND HE SITS THERE THINKING ABOUT ALL THE STUFF HE USED TO WORRY ABOUT AT HOME,

他坐在潛水艇裡想著以前在家時，那些所有令他擔憂的事情，

AND HOW ABSURD IT WAS, AND MAKES A PROMISE TO NEVER WASTE HIS LIFE

如今看來，都是些可笑荒唐的事。於是他發了一個誓，再也不要浪費人生在那些事情上，

AGAIN LIKE THAT IF HE SURVIVES.

如果他能活下來的話

NOW, THAT MIGHT BE HARD TO RESONATE WITH, SO LET ME GIVE YOU A MORE CONTEMPORARY EXAMPLE.

也許這故事不容易讓你產生共鳴，就讓我再舉另一個更現代的例子給你聽

PEOPLE ARE HAVING THEIR HEADS CHOPPED OFF EVERY SINGLE DAY.

每一天都有人被砍頭

EVERY SINGLE DAY!

每一天！

THE ONLY REASON IT'S NOT YOU IS BECAUSE YOU WERE BORN IN A CERTAIN PLACE

不是你被砍頭的唯一原因是因為你生長在某個地方，

AND THEY WEREN'T. THAT'S IT!

而他們不是，就這麼簡單

NOW GOING BACK TO MY FRIEND, I TOLD HIM,

再把話題轉回到我朋友身上，我跟他說，

"LOOK, HERE'S WHAT I WANT YOU TO DO." "EVERY DAY, YOU WILL START YOUR MORNING

「聽著，我要你這麼做。」「每天，你將會從看某個人被砍頭，

BY WATCHING SOMEBODY'S HEAD BEING CHOPPED OFF."

來開始你的每一天。」

"AND THEN YOU'LL GO ABOUT THE REST OF THE DAY."

「之後，如往常一樣，繼續過你剩下的一天。」

AND HE STARTED FREAKING OUT ABOUT HOW HE CAN'T DO THAT AND

我的朋友開始驚慌起來，說他不能照做，

HOW HE DOESN'T LIKE BLOOD AND WHATEVER...

說他不喜歡血腥等等

NOW, HERE'S THE THING. I KNOW THAT'S REALLY CRASS AND MORBID,

事實上是，我上也知道那聽起來真的很粗俗和病態，

BUT I DON'T CARE! IF YOU DON'T WORRY ABOUT STUFF,

但我不在乎！假如你不是杞人憂天那一型，

GREAT! YOU DON'T HAVE TO WATCH ANYTHING. BUT IF YOU'RE WORRIED ABOUT STUPID SHIT

太好了！你不必去看什麼被砍頭的影片。但如果你總是一直擔心一些

ALL THE TIME, YOU HAVE A DISEASE!

蠢事的話，那代表你有病！

SO YOU EITHER TREAT YOURSELF, OR NEVER ASK ABOUT HOW YOU CAN STOP WORRYING

因此，要嘛你接受治療，否則，就永遠別再問要怎麼停止擔憂，

AGAIN. EVER.

永遠不！

HERE'S WHAT I WILL GUARANTEE YOU. IF YOU START YOUR DAY BY

我能跟你保證的是，

WATCHING SOMEONE ELSE HAVE THEIR HEAD CHOPPED OFF,

如果你從看某個人被砍頭來開始你的每一天，

NOTHING AND I MEAN ABSOLUTELY NOTHING COULD POSSIBLY HAPPEN TO YOU FOR THE REST

那剩下的一天內，沒有一件事，我指完全沒有一件事，

OF THE DAY THAT YOU COULD GET PISSED OFF ABOUT

會讓你感到抓狂，

AND NOT FEEL LIKE A COMPLETE RETARD.

並把自己搞得像智障一樣

YES, WHEN YOU'VE SEEN SOMEONE'S HEAD CHOPPED OFF,

是的，當你看到某個人被砍頭後，

YOU WILL HAVE A WEIRD FEELING INSIDE YOU AS SOON AS YOU START TO COMPLAIN ABOUT

你心裡會產生奇怪的感覺，尤其是當你開始抱怨事情像是

HOW YOU DESERVE TO BE PAID MORE AT YOUR JOB, OR WHAT YOU'RE GOING TO DO NOW SINCE YOU GOT

你覺得應該要被加薪，或是你該怎麼辦，

A B+ INSTEAD OF AN A, OR HOW YOUR WASHING MACHINE IS BROKEN.

因為你拿到的是B+而不是Ａ時，或是你的洗衣機壞掉了

YOU'LL REALIZE THAT IF THAT GUY HAD BEEN GIVEN THE CHANCE TO LIVE

你將會了解到，如果那個人（被砍頭的人）有再次活下去的機會

AND WEAR THAT SAME DIRTY SHIRT FOR THE REST OF HIS LIFE

但他一輩子都得穿著同一件髒衣服，

WITHOUT EVER BEING ABLE TO WASH IT, HE WOULD HAVE BEEN THE HAPPIEST MAN ALIVE.

而且還不能洗的話，他有可能會是這世界上活得最快樂的人

REALIZE THE ABSURDITY OF IT ALL.

這下你了解什麼是荒謬感了吧

THE THIRD BIG IDEA: STAYING BUSY.

第三個點子是保持忙碌

NOW I DON'T MEAN THE AVERAGE BUSY PERSON. ACTUALLY, THOSE ARE THE PEOPLE WHO WORRY THE

我不是指那些普通的忙人。事實上，那些人是擔心最多的人

MOST. THE GUY WHO WORKS 12-HOUR DAYS,

天天工作12個小時的人，

AND THEN COMES HOME AND WATCHES FOX ALL NIGHT WORRYING ABOUT WHETHER SOME GUY CAN MARRY

回到家後，看整晚的Fox電視頻道，擔心某人是否可以

ANOTHER GUY OR ABOUT ALL THE FOREIGNERS WHO WILL COME

跟另一個人結婚，或者擔心所有外國人會來

AND TAKE HIS JOB, YOU KNOW, BECAUSE HE IS THE ONLY ONE ENTITLED

搶走他的工作，因為他認為自己是唯一有資格

TO THAT JOB.

做那份工作的人

I'M NOT TALKING ABOUT THAT KIND OF BUSY... HERE'S HOW I LIKE STAY BUSY...

我指的不是那種忙碌。我自己保持忙碌的方式有：

READ A BOOK THAT I LIKE. GO TO THE GYM WITH MY GIRLFRIEND.

看一本我喜歡的書，和女朋友一起去健身房，

PLAY AROUND ON THE PIANO AND COMPOSE. COOK AMAZING FOOD.

彈鋼琴和作曲，煮好吃的食物，

WORK ON A PROJECT I'M PASSIONATE ABOUT.

從事一樣我熱愛的項目

NOW, HERE'S WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU DO THAT... YOUR BRAIN CAN'T THINK OF TWO THINGS AT ONE

當你這麼做時，會出現這樣的情況：你的大腦無法同時思考兩件事

TIME. IT JUST DOESN'T HAVE THAT CAPABILITY.

它（大腦）就是沒有這種功能

YOU CAN TRY RIGHT NOW IF YOU WANT. YOU CAN'T THINK OF YOUR BROKEN WASHING MACHINE

不信的話，你可以現在試試。你不能一邊想著壞掉的洗衣機，

AND AT THE SAME TIME, THINK OF HOW MUCH YOU LOVE PLAYING SOCCER.

又同時想著你有多愛足球

IT'S NOT HOW YOUR BRAIN WORKS.

這樣是無效的

SO THE BEST WAY TO GET RID OF THE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS IN YOUR HEAD

所以，趕走你腦袋裡負面想法的最棒方式就是

IS TO ACTUALLY START PUTTING POSITIVE THOUGHTS IN THERE.

開始灌輸它正面積極的想法

GET BUSY WITH WHAT YOU LOVE AND YOUR BRAIN SIMPLY WON'T EVEN HAVE THE

做你喜歡的事來讓自己保持忙碌，這樣你的大腦就不會

ABILITY TO WORRY.

有餘力去擔心其他事

AND FINALLY A QUESTION THAT REALLY REALLY RESONATED WITH ME.

最後，有個問題真的、真的讓我產生了共鳴

HERE'S WHAT YOU'RE GOING TO DO IN YOUR LIFE... YOU'RE GOING TO WORK AND WORRY YOUR ENTIRE

你人生接下來要做的事是，努力工作，並且要一輩子擔心

LIFE SO YOU CAN GATHER A BUNCH OF STUFF,

這樣，你就能擁有一堆東西

LIKE YOUR HOUSE AND ALL THE STUPID SHIT IN IT.

像是房子和房子裡其他有的沒的物品

NOW... IF YOU'RE LUCKY, AFTER 50 YEARS OF ALL THAT WORRY AND STRESS,

如果你夠幸運的話，經過了50年的擔憂和壓力，

ALL YOUR STUFF MIGHT BE WORTH A MILLION DOLLARS.

所有你擁有的東西到時可能會價值一百萬美元

HERE'S THE QUESTION, WOULD YOU SELL YOUR LEGS FOR A MILLION DOLLARS?

問題來了，你會為了一百萬美元賣掉你的雙腿嗎？

LET ME ASK YOU THIS, WOULD YOU SELL YOUR LEGS FOR A BILLION DOLLARS?

讓我問你，你會為了十億美元賣掉你的雙腿嗎？

I WOULDN'T. AND YOU PROBABLY WOULDN'T EITHER.

我不會，而你大概也不會

WOULD YOU SELL YOUR ARMS FOR ANOTHER BILLION DOLLARS?

那你會為了另一個十億美元賣掉你的雙手嗎？

NO?

不會？

THERE YOU GO, YOU ALREADY HAVE SOMETHING THAT YOU VALUE

那就對了，你已經擁有你認為價值

AT TWO BILLION DOLLARS! ACTUALLY, HOPEFULLY MORE...

二十億美元的東西。事實上，希望是更多啦

BUT, YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE ALL ZEN, YOU COULD BE A GREEDY CAPITALIST LIKE ME

但是，你不必像個聖人，你也可以和我一樣當個貪心的資本家

AND UNDERSTAND THIS.

而了解這個道理

NOW HERE'S WHAT YOU'RE GOING TO DO... YOU'RE GOING TO IGNORE AND NOT UTILIZE

而你卻選擇無視於

SOMETHING WORTH TWO BILLION DOLLARS, BECAUSE YOU'RE TOO BUSY WORRYING AND STRESSING

那價值二十億美元的東西，因為你太忙著擔心和緊張

ABOUT THE THINGS THAT MIGHT AMOUNT TO 1 MILLION DOLLARS

那些最後在你生命終點時，可能會價值約一百萬美元的東西

AT THE END OF YOUR LIFE. OH, AND YOU'LL BE CONSIDERED REALLY LUCKY

還有，你應當要覺得自己真的很幸運

IF THAT HAPPENS BY THE WAY!

如果這事真的發生的話！

ALRIGHT, I DON'T KNOW IF YOU'RE SEEING HOW CRAZY THAT

好了，我不知道你是否能看得出來這有多瘋狂，

IS, BUT THAT'S KIND OF LIKE HAVING A HUGE MANSION,

但就好像擁有一座超大的房子，

A PERSONAL JET, EVERY SINGLE CAR YOU EVER WISHED FOR,

一架私人噴射機，任何一款你夢想的車子，

AND NOT USING AND ENJOYING THOSE THINGS, BECAUSE YOU'RE TOO WORRIED ABOUT ONE DAY

卻不去使用和享受它們，因為你太忙於擔心有一天，

BEING ABLE TO BUY A COROLLA. THAT IS CRAZY! ...AND SAD.

你會買不起Corolla這款車。這真的太瘋狂了！而且很可悲

YOU ALREADY HAVE EVERYTHING THAT YOU VALUE AT BILLIONS AND BILLIONS OF DOLLARS.

你已經擁有你認為價值幾十億美元的每一樣東西

SO STOP IGNORING, WASTING, AND TREATING IT LIKE SHIT FOR HOURS AND DAYS,

不要再忽略它們，浪費它們，甚至好幾天都把它們看得一文不值

SO YOU CAN WORRY AND BITCH ABOUT HOW YOUR PHONE BILL WENT UP FROM A $100 TO

（諷刺語氣）好讓你可以擔心和抱怨你的手機帳單從100美元

A $120.

漲成120美元