Not creating the problems but showing the problems that were there.

它不會製造問題，但會讓原本就存在的問題浮上檯面。

When you get married, you're coming into with all your flaws.

結婚之後，你會帶著你所有的缺點進入婚姻。

In fact, marriage will bring out the worst in you.

事實上，婚姻會顯露出一個人最糟糕的一面。

You knock the rough edges off of each other.

你們會改掉對方的小缺點。

You polish each other.

會互相磨合。

There's a constructive clash.

這就是個有意義的衝突。

See, if that's the purpose of marriage, deep character change through deep friendship, then you're looking for somebody who can be your most trusted counselor and your best friend even if the person isn't yet.

你看，如果結婚的目的是透過深厚的情誼改變一個人根深蒂固的個性，那你應該找個人，一個可以成為你最信任的顧問和最要好的朋友的人，即使這個人現在還不是。

The secret of marriage is to be able to love your spouse during seasons in which you're getting very little, if any love back.

婚姻的秘訣是愛你的伴侶一輩子，即使你只得到一丁點的回饋。

You're both self-centered that's the main thing that's going to kill your marriage.

雙方太過自私自利是扼殺你們婚姻的主要原因。

So look at your self-centeredness as your enemy.

所以請視你們的自我中心為敵人。

The Christian idea is you fall in love with not just the person as he or she is but with the person he or she is becoming.

基督教的理念是你不只是在和現在你所認識的這個人談戀愛，還有他或她未來會成為的樣子。

You know, love one another as Christ loved the church and gave himself and he didn't love us because we were lovely he loved us to make us lovely and that is the pattern and the paradigm for Christian idea of marriage.

你知道嗎？愛一個人就像基督愛它的教堂並且奉獻自我；並不是因為我們完美，他才愛我們，他是為了讓我們變的更美好才給予我們愛，這就是基督教結婚理念的模式和範例。