Name: 39年才懂的道理！14分鐘告訴你！ (It Took Me 39 Years to Realize What I’ll Tell You in 14 Minutes)
Uploaded: 2026-01-02T18:10:29.000Z
Duration: 14 min 6 s

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What if I told you that you're not focused on the right things in life?

如果我告訴你，你其實沒有專注在人生中真正重要的事情上呢？

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What if all this time you spent trying to crack the code, asking why things happen, what it all means, where it's headed, was actually a distraction?

如果你花了這麼多時間想 crack the code，問事情為什麼會發生、這一切的意義是什麼、未來會走向哪裡，其實都是一種分心呢？

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I'm going to save you 20 years of suffering because what you're really looking for is so much simpler.

我要為你省下 20 年的痛苦，因為你真正尋找的東西其實非常簡單。

Although it's going to take me 30 years to learn.

Oscar Wilde actually had an amazing line about the punishment for knowing exactly what you want to be is that you know exactly what you want to be.

奧斯卡·王爾德其實有句很棒的話，關於知道自己確切想成為什麼樣的人，其懲罰就是你知道自己確切想成為什麼樣的人。

The real journey is in waking up every day and.

真正的旅程在於每天醒來，然後。

And figuring out more and more who you're supposed to be.

並且越來越清楚自己應該成為什麼樣的人。

I went into sales, I went into finance, I worked in startups.

我做過銷售，做過金融，也曾在新創公司工作。

Now I own a bunch of businesses and started investing in these small businesses until they were big, huge businesses.

現在我擁有很多事業，並開始投資這些小事業，直到它們變成大型、龐大的事業。

But I don't think I found my actual path until five years ago.

但我認為直到五年前我才找到我真正的人生道路。

You know, my mom used to say the grass is greener, but that's not true.

你知道，我媽以前常說綠草效應，但那不是真的。

I just kept learning and growing because the most boring journey of all would be one that's a straight line.

我只是不斷學習和成長，因為最無聊的旅程就是一條直線。

You were meant to have a bunch of curves, curveballs, a bunch of maybes and could have dones and a bunch of missed shots that later on you find out, we're so grateful you never took.

你本來就會遇到很多轉彎、變化球、很多「也許」和「本來可以」的機會，以及很多後來你會發現，慶幸自己沒去做的錯失良機。

Ten years ago, I got pushed out for the first time from a company.

十年前，我第一次被一家公司排擠。

我比較喜歡「被排擠」這個說法。

And I was heartbroken, like I had given my all to this company.

我心碎了，感覺我把所有的一切都給了這家公司。

I had made them millions and millions of dollars.

So I spent a few literal months depressed, anxious, upset, until my father told me a story.

所以我憂鬱、焦慮、不悅了好幾個月，直到我爸爸告訴我一個故事。

He said, life is often filled with nails we step on and we could spend our lives trying to figure out why it got there, who did it, whose fault it was, or we could just pull out the nail and feel it.

他說，人生常常充滿了我們踩到的釘子，我們可以花一輩子去想為什麼釘子會在那裡，是誰弄的，是誰的過錯，或者我們可以把釘子拔出來，去感受它。

So at that point, I finally realized it was the greatest gift I could ever have.

所以在那一刻，我終於意識到這是給我最好的禮物。

And that's when I first started truly betting on myself, investing in things.

那時候我才開始真正相信自己，開始投資。

I owning some of these businesses, not listening to people who told me that I wasn't good enough.

我擁有這些事業，不再聽信那些說我不夠好的人。

That's when I had my first really big personal win.

那是我第一次真正意義上的個人勝利。

所以，如果你被解僱了，我很遺憾。

You're Supposed to move through it like a river.

You want to be on a boat, not on a rock that has to stand steady and never move and never sees anything differently.

你想當一艘船，而不是一塊必須穩穩站立、永不移動、永不改變看法的岩石。

And, you know, some of us are just born with the bite in us.

而且，你知道的，有些人天生就有衝勁。

I was deep in a relationship with a person who completely lied to me.

我當時跟一個人交往得很深，他完全騙了我。

The only thing I could do or even think about doing was moving out of that city.

我唯一能做或甚至想到的事，就是搬離那個城市。

I didn't know how to walk the streets there anymore.

我再也無法在那裡走在街上了。

我意識到，那個人，是他損失了。

It inspired me to go become the person I wanted to be, that I didn't feel like another person had to choose me.

這激勵我去成為我想成為的人，我不覺得需要別人來選擇我。

You don't have to be stronger or brave or have more courage.

你不需要更堅強、更勇敢或更有膽識。

For some reason, you just got that grit in you, that consistency to push through that sick little part inside of your head that likes it when there's a fight because you want to see what you're made of.

不知道為什麼，你就是有那股毅力，那股堅持，去克服腦中那個喜歡戰鬥的病態部分，因為你想知道自己到底有多厲害。

I don't think God gives us what we deserve.

我不認為上帝給我們的是我們應得的。

我認為上帝給我們的是我們能承受的。

So whatever you got going on in front of you, just know the big guy believes you got everything you need to handle it.

所以，不管你眼前有什麼事，請知道那位偉大的存在相信你擁有處理好一切所需的條件。

But a harsh truth is, if you hang out with losers, you will become a loser.

但殘酷的真相是，如果你跟失敗者混在一起，你也會變成失敗者。

If you hang out with people who say that's not possible, you will.

如果你跟那些說「不可能」的人在一起，你也會。

You will become a person who thinks it's not possible.

你會變成一個認為「不可能」的人。

If you hang out with people who have never built anything, you will never build anything.

如果你跟從來沒有建立過任何東西的人在一起，你永遠也不會建立任何東西。

If you hang out with people who make fun of other people, they'll make fun of you next.

如果你跟愛嘲笑別人的人在一起，下一個被嘲笑的就是你。

You know, on the road to success, I lost so many friends.

你知道，在成功的路上，我失去了好多朋友。

The worst part of it is I didn't choose to lose them.

最糟的是，我不是選擇失去他們的。

Most of them I tried to pull along to invite places, but

大部分我都試著拉著他們一起去，但

for some reason, my success would trigger them.

不知道為什麼，我的成功反而會刺激到他們。

One of my oldest friends from college I now never speak to because she said I was too focused on my builder friends and didn't want to go out and drink with her anymore.

我大學時期一位最老的朋友，現在我完全不跟她說話了，因為她說我太常跟蓋房子（builder）的朋友在一起，不想再跟她出去喝酒。

She made up this whole story in her head about how she thought I thought she was less than her.

她自己腦補了一個故事，覺得我認為她不如她。

And I thought, man, I never thought that until right now.

然後我就想，天啊，我從來沒這樣想過，直到現在。

Since then, of course, she's done all the things, you know, talked badly about me to other people, and

從那之後，當然，她做了所有事情，你知道的，跟別人說我壞話，然後

I've pretty much lost that Entire friend group.

They will pretend they're happy for you, but they are not.

他們會假裝為你高興，但其實不是。

Only other winners want to see you win, but losers can become winners.

只有其他贏家才會希望你贏，但輸家也能變成贏家。

So if you've been a loser before, it's okay.

所以如果你以前是個輸家，沒關係。

But it is not your job to change other people from losers to winners.

但你的工作不是去改變別人，讓輸家變成贏家。

It's your job to become a winner yourself.

Staying around other people who want to keep you down is how you stay down forever.

繼續待在那些想把你壓垮的人身邊，就是你永遠被壓垮的方式。

Imagine trying to get healthy when you're sitting in a petri dish of disease.

想像一下，當你身處一個充滿疾病的培養皿裡，卻想讓自己變得健康。

You'll start looking like them, talking like them, acting like them.

你會開始變得跟他們一樣，說話像他們，行為也像他們。

And before you know it, you'll have the same life as them.

在你意識到之前，你就會擁有跟他們一樣的人生。

There's nothing worse than being around cynics who have achieved nothing.

沒有什麼比跟那些一事無成的憤世嫉俗者在一起更糟了。

And you know, that kind of made me think that.

Like the other day I heard this ridiculous line that stuck with me.

就像前幾天我聽到一句很荒謬但卻讓我印象深刻的話。

Do crackheads say I can't get high because I'm broke?

毒蟲會說「我因為沒錢所以不能嗨嗎？」

So don't let a crackhead work harder than you.

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