Name: 如何瞬間推翻消極的自我對話？► 只需要一個簡單的動作！ - 《五秒法則》作者梅爾・羅賓斯 Mel Robbins（中英字幕） (如何瞬间推翻消極的自我對話？► 只需要一個簡單的動作！ - 《五秒法則》作者作者梅爾・羅賓斯 Mel Robbins（中英字幕）)
Uploaded: 2025-04-22T09:06:33.000Z
Duration: 3 min 11 s

過去簡單式

So, I have this habit of every single morning, I stand in front of the mirror and I take a moment and I raised my hand and I give my reflection a high five.

所以，我有一個習慣，每天早上，我都會站在鏡子前，花一點時間，舉起手，與自己的影子擊掌。

基礎數量詞

And there is so much science behind this.

祈使句型

Let's talk about a high five for example.

That somebody did something awesome or I did something awesome.

某人做了一件了不起的事，或者我做了一件了不起的事。

And if you think about the times in your life when you've gotten a high five, it's because somebody's like,

如果你回想一下，在你的生活中，當你得到擊掌的時候，那是因為有人想：

Tom, you're amazing, Tom, get your attitude out of the can, you got this.

湯姆，你太了不起了，湯姆 拿出你的態度來，你能行的

Tom, you're gonna make this shot, Tom, we can still win, I believe in you, keep going.

湯姆，你會成功的，湯姆，我們還能贏，我相信你，繼續努力。

You have a lifetime positive association with giving other people high fives stored right here in your subconscious mind.

在你的潛意識中，你一生都在與別人擊掌。

When you raise your hand to your own reflection, it is impossible for you to think, God, I look fat, why am I an a**hole, I really screwed up my life.

當你對著自己的倒影舉起手時，你不可能會想：天哪，我看起來真胖，為什麼我是個混蛋，我的生活真是一團糟。

You can't do it because your lifetime association with this motion is all, I believe in you, I got you, I see you, I celebrate you.

你做不到，因為你一生與這項運動的聯繫就是：我相信你，我得到了你，我看到了你，我讚美你。

So researchers wanted to know, what is the most empowering way to motivate kids through a really big challenge, okay?

是以，研究人員想知道，什麼是激勵孩子們克服巨大挑戰的最有效方法？

This takes the marshmallow test to a whole another level.

You got one group of kids that are doing a challenging task and they're getting the fixed mindset praise, which we all know does not work.

有一組孩子正在完成一項具有挑戰性的任務，他們卻得到了固定思維模式的表揚，而我們都知道，這種表揚並不起作用。

Oh, Tom, you're so smart, Oh, Tom, I love your glasses, that's going to help you, Oh, Tom, you got a great smile, Oh, Tom, you know, I I just love so much about you, I know you can do this.

哦，湯姆，你真聰明；哦，湯姆，我喜歡你的眼鏡，它會幫你的忙；哦，湯姆，你笑起來真好看；哦，湯姆，你知道嗎，我太喜歡你了，我知道你能行的。

The second group gets the growth mindset kind of praise, Tom, you are such a hard worker, Tom, your perseverance is unbelievable, Tom, you just keep going.

湯姆，你真是個勤奮的人，湯姆，你的毅力令人難以置信，湯姆，你要繼續努力。

That does better, obviously, than telling you that you're smart because it makes you motivated to work hard.

這顯然比告訴你你很聰明更好，因為這會讓你有動力去努力工作。

The third group, they just got a simple high five.

第三組，他們只是簡單地擊掌。

The researchers didn't even say anything to the kids, they just walked up, gave them a high five.

研究人員甚至什麼都沒跟孩子們說，只是走過去，跟他們擊掌。

The group of kids that got a simple high five outperformed, outworked through all of the challenges, all of the other forms of praise.

那群得到簡單擊掌的孩子在所有挑戰和所有其他形式的表揚中都表現出色、出類拔萃。

Because a high five is something deeper than praise.

因為擊掌是比讚美更深層次的東西。

It fulfills your most fundamental needs as a human being.

它能滿足你作為人類最基本的需求。

When somebody high-fives you, you feel seen, you feel heard, and you feel like somebody has acknowledged.

當有人與你擊掌時，你會覺得自己被看見了，你會覺得自己被聽到了，你會覺得有人認可了你。

Try celebrating yourself five days in a row, literally, try starting your day by waking up and raising your hand and high-fiving yourself in the mirror.

試著連續五天為自己慶祝，真的，試著每天起床後對著鏡子舉手擊掌。

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