The need for love and connection is drowned out by the intense grip of compulsion, isolation, and loneliness.

對愛和聯繫的需求被強烈的強迫、孤立和孤獨所淹沒。

Porn and its companion masturbation provides you with high levels of dopamine and oxytocin.

色情和與之相伴的手淫會給你帶來大量的多巴胺和催產素。

At the moment, it feels great, but once the high passes, you're still fighting with the problems you had before.

此時此刻，感覺很好，但一旦高潮過去，你仍要與之前的問題作鬥爭。

Hence, you repeat the cycle, watch porn, receive dopamine and oxytocin, post-orgasm, and then feel just as you felt before.

是以，你會重複這樣的循環：看色情片、接受多巴胺和催產素、高潮後，然後感覺和以前一樣。

This addiction often leaves you feeling empty, restless, and unsatisfied.

這種癮常常讓你感到空虛、不安和不滿足。

The emotional distress, shame, and worries that you're desperately running away from are still there.

你拼命逃避的情緒困擾、羞愧和擔憂依然存在。

If this sounds like you, we wanna remind you that you're not alone.

如果這聽起來像你，我們想提醒你，你並不孤單。

To raise awareness, reduce the stigma of porn addiction, and help those who are struggling feel heard, we made this video to explore how porn addiction can affect your dating life, which could ultimately make you feel more lonely.

為了提高人們對色情成癮的認識，減少對色情成癮的汙名化，並幫助那些在色情中掙扎的人感受到自己的心聲，我們製作了這段視頻，探討色情成癮會如何影響您的約會生活，最終可能會讓您感到更加孤獨。

By addressing the stigma, we hope more people will be open to seeking help and healing from it.

通過消除恥辱感，我們希望有更多的人願意尋求幫助並從中痊癒。

Unrealistic fantasies.

不切實際的幻想

First off, porn addiction traps you in a fantasy world that alters your perceptions and views on sex.

首先，色情上癮會讓你陷入幻想世界，改變你對性的認識和看法。

Any romantic or sexual relationship you wish to start will always be measured against the fantasy.

你想建立的任何浪漫或性關係，都要以幻想來衡量。

Additionally, porn enforces and reinforces stereotypes about gender, sexism, and sexual objectification.

此外，色情片還強化了對性別、性別歧視和性物化的成見。

These ideas and stereotypes will find a way to leak into a relationship you wish to start and can damage a potential relationship before it even has the chance to begin.

這些想法和成見會想辦法滲透到你想要開始的關係中，甚至會在潛在關係有機會開始之前就對其造成損害。

Sexual shame.

性羞恥

Another way that porn addiction harms your dating life is through sexual shame.

色情上癮對約會生活造成傷害的另一種方式是性羞恥感。

If you use porn as a form of escape from emotional distress or trauma, the feeling of unresolved helplessness that you have because of your trauma can transform into shame when you fall into porn addiction.

如果你將色情作為逃避情緒困擾或創傷的一種方式，那麼當你沉迷於色情時，因創傷而產生的無法排解的無助感就會轉化為羞恥感。

Why?

為什麼？

Because you're using porn to try to escape or get rid of a problem, and it's not working out.

因為你在用色情來逃避或擺脫問題，而這並不奏效。

As a result, you feel ashamed.

是以，你感到羞愧。

Ashamed of your reliance on porn and ashamed because you still feel sad, depressed, or whatever other emotion you try to avoid feeling.

為自己對色情的依賴感到羞愧，為自己仍然感到悲傷、抑鬱或其他任何你試圖避免的情緒感到羞愧。

These complicated and intertwined feelings become a cocktail that prevents you from starting a romantic relationship.

這些複雜交織的情感就像一杯雞尾酒，讓你無法開始一段浪漫的戀情。

This shame follows you like a dark cloud, filling your head with worries and what-ifs to the extent that it scares you into believing that a romantic relationship is not possible, primarily because of your complicated past with porn and all the feelings tied to it.

這種羞恥感就像烏雲 陰魂不散地跟著你，讓你滿腦子都是憂慮和 "如果"，以至於嚇得你相信不可能有浪漫的關係，這主要是因為你與色情有關的複雜過去以及與之相關的所有感受。

Fear of being stigmatized.

害怕被人恥笑。

Not only does porn addiction haunt your dating life, but it also interferes when you try to get closer to someone you're interested in.

色情上癮不僅會困擾你的約會生活，還會在你試圖接近你感興趣的人時造成干擾。

If you find someone you're interested in, how do you address the topic of your porn addiction?

如果你找到了你感興趣的人，你該如何談及你的色情癮？

Your fear becomes, will he accept me?

你的恐懼變成了：他會接受我嗎？

There is a stigma around porn addiction, and many people who have experienced and cured their addiction find it frightening to date because they're unsure of how to bring it up with their partners or potential partners.

色情成癮是一種恥辱，許多經歷過色情成癮並已戒除的人在約會時會感到害怕，因為他們不知道如何向伴侶或潛在伴侶提起這件事。

The fear of being stigmatized or not trusted interferes with the relationship.

害怕被汙名化或不被信任的恐懼干擾了雙方的關係。

The fear of being stigmatized prevents them from creating intimacy with their partners, thus creating an emotional distance, constrain, and even dissolve a relationship.

由於害怕被汙名化，他們無法與伴侶建立親密關係，從而造成情感上的距離、制約，甚至解除關係。

Exacerbates negative body image issues.

加劇負面的身體形象問題。

Porn addiction distorts perceptions of sex, intimacy, body image, and sexual performance.

色情成癮會扭曲人們對性、親密關係、身體形象和性能力的看法。

Studies have shown that regular consumption of porn is associated with a more negative body image, decreased self-esteem, and poor overall mental health, which can, in turn, affect your dating life.

研究表明，經常看色情片會導致身體形象更加負面、自尊心下降、整體心理健康狀況不佳，進而影響你的約會生活。

It has been shown that constant exposure to idealized images and scenarios in pornography can lead to feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt.

研究表明，經常接觸色情作品中的理想化影像和場景，會讓人產生不滿足感和自我懷疑。

For instance, individuals who spent hours watching flawless actors in unrealistic situations may feel increasingly inadequate compared to those exaggerated standards.

例如，如果一個人花了幾個小時觀看完美無瑕的演員在不切實際的情境中表演，那麼他可能會覺得與那些誇張的標準相比，自己越來越不夠格。

This negative self-perception may cause them to believe that they are unworthy of love or incapable of forming meaningful connections.

這種消極的自我認知可能會讓他們認為自己不值得被愛或無法建立有意義的聯繫。

On top of that, the fear of rejection and comparison to these unrealistic standards can deter from actively seeking out dating opportunities.

此外，害怕被拒絕，害怕與這些不切實際的標準相比較，也會讓人不敢積極尋找約會機會。

This self-sabotaging mindset may lead to withdrawal from social interactions and potential relationships, perpetuating feelings of loneliness and isolation.

這種自我破壞的心態可能會導致退出社會交往和潛在的人際關係，從而使孤獨感和孤立感長期存在。

Lack of motivation.

缺乏動力。

A lack of motivation to pursue dating opportunities can be a consequence of porn addiction as a coping mechanism.

缺乏追求約會機會的動力可能是色情上癮的一種應對機制。

Porn offers a convenient and readily available escape from feelings of loneliness, boredom, or dissatisfaction with life.

色情片為逃避孤獨、無聊或對生活不滿的情緒提供了方便快捷的途徑。

When people use porn to feel better temporarily, it can make them depend on it.

當人們用色情片來獲得暫時的好感時，這會讓他們對色情片產生依賴。

They might rely on the quick satisfaction from porn instead of dealing with their real problems or connecting with others in real life.

他們可能會依賴於色情片帶來的快速滿足感，而不是去解決實際問題或在現實生活中與他人建立聯繫。

Imagine someone who regularly turns to pornography to numb feelings of loneliness after a long day at work or during moments of boredom on the weekends.

試想一下，一個人在一天漫長的工作之後，或者在週末無聊的時候，經常用色情來麻痺自己的孤獨感。

Instead of actively seeking out social interactions or engaging in activities that could potentially lead to meeting new people, they opt for the immediate relief offered by pornography.

他們不積極尋求社交互動，也不參與有可能結識新朋友的活動，而是選擇色情製品提供的即時解脫。

Over time, this reliance on porn as a coping mechanism can diminish their motivation to actively pursue dating opportunities.

隨著時間的推移，這種依賴色情的應對機制會削弱他們積極尋求約會機會的動力。

In other words, porn offers instant gratification and a variety of options, which can make the effort of forming genuine connections with others seem less appealing by comparison.

換句話說，色情片提供了即時滿足和多種選擇，相比之下，與他人建立真正聯繫的努力就顯得不那麼吸引人了。

What's more, the shame and guilt often associated with pornography use can further contribute to a lack of motivation to pursue dating opportunities.

此外，通常與使用色情製品有關的羞恥感和負罪感會進一步導致人們缺乏追求約會機會的動力。

People may internalize feelings of unworthiness or believe that they're undeserving of love and companionship, leading them to withdraw from social interactions and isolate themselves from potential romantic prospects.

人們可能會將不值得的感覺內化，或認為自己不值得愛和陪伴，從而導致他們從社會交往中退縮，並將自己與潛在的戀愛對象隔離開來。

Did you relate to this video?

您是否看過這段視頻？

Let us know in the comments.

請在評論中告訴我們。

Porn and porn addiction are a bit of a controversial affair.

色情和色情成癮是一件頗具爭議的事情。

Some encourage it and find it appealing.

有些人鼓勵這樣做，並認為這樣做很有吸引力。

However, not many people know and understand that porn is a fantasy with costly and harmful consequences.

然而，並沒有多少人知道和了解色情是一種幻想，會帶來代價高昂和有害的後果。

It can damage more than your mental health.

它損害的不僅僅是你的心理健康。

It can also affect how you relate to others.

它還會影響你與他人的關係。

Many people consider porn harmless, but if it becomes an addiction, it can damage your life.

很多人認為色情無害，但如果色情成癮，就會損害你的生活。

If you find yourself struggling with a porn addiction, reach out to a licensed medical professional for help.

如果您發現自己在色情成癮中掙扎，請向有執照的專業醫生尋求幫助。

Also, if you found this video helpful, be sure to hit the like button and subscribe to our channel to learn more.

如果您覺得本視頻對您有幫助，請點擊 "喜歡 "按鈕並訂閱我們的頻道，瞭解更多資訊。

You deserve to be happy.

你應該得到幸福。

And remember, you matter.

記住，你很重要。