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  • Do you want to be smart, interesting, and attractive?

    你想變得聰明、有趣、有魅力嗎?

  • I wanted to be known as all of those things in school, but I was constantly worried that people thought I was unattractive and awkward, so during my teenage years, I was very unconfident and shy.

    在學校裡,我希望自己能有這些優點,但我總是擔心別人覺得我不好看、笨拙,所以在青少年時期,我非常不自信,也很害羞。

  • Now, I'm someone that my younger self had always dreamed of becoming, and more, because never could I have imagined that I would be putting my face in front of thousands of strangers to judge.

    現在,我成為了年輕時的自己一直夢想成為的人,甚至更多,因為我從未想到過我會把自己的臉放在成千上萬的陌生人面前接受評判。

  • But this glow-up in all different aspects and confidence took me many, many years to get to, and because I'm the older sister in the family, I had no one to tell me what to do to make it easier.

    但這種各方面的光彩和自信是我花了很多很多年才達到的,而且因為我是家裡的姐姐,沒有人告訴我該怎麼做才能讓我更輕鬆。

  • It was a rough journey, so I'm here to help make your glow-up way easier.

    這是一段艱難的旅程,所以我在這裡可以幫助你更輕鬆地煥發光彩。

  • Today, I'm spilling the secrets that I wish I knew about becoming smarter, more attractive, and interesting.

    今天,我將向大家分享我希望自己知道的關於變得更聰明、更有魅力、更有趣的祕密。

  • Make sure to stay to the end of the video for a little twist.

    請務必留到視頻的最後看一個小轉折。

  • Let's go!

    我們走吧

  • Being smart, and also being perceived as smart, can be very advantageous.

    聰明,以及被認為聰明,都是非常有利的。

  • Well, that was kind of a dumb statement.

    好吧,這說法有點蠢。

  • Ironic.

    真諷刺

  • How can you be smarter and be perceived as smart?

    如何才能變得更聰明,並讓人覺得你很聰明?

  • The easiest way to do this, no, is not from your report card, but it's with your ability to contribute to conversations.

    要做到這一點,最簡單的方法不是從你的成績單上看,而是從你在對話中的貢獻能力上看。

  • There are several ways to do this.

    有幾種方法可以做到這一點。

  • One, listen to what people are saying instead of just hearing it.

    第一,傾聽別人的發言,而不僅僅是聽。

  • I used to be really awkward and have a hard time talking with people, so I'd seem really dumb because I would only be hearing the words they're saying passively.

    我以前真的很笨拙,很難與人交談,所以我會顯得很笨,因為我只能被動地聽到他們說的話。

  • You have my undivided attention.

    我全神貫注地看著你。

  • Instead of listening intently to their meaning and processing it so I can have something to say back.

    而不是認真傾聽他們的意思並加以處理,這樣我才能有話可回。

  • So instead of just letting the words go in one ear and out the other, and being so stressed about what to say next, Be so absorbed in the moment of their words so you can really feel how the other person feels.

    是以,與其任由對方的話語從你的耳朵裡溜走,為下一句該說什麼而緊張,不如沉浸在對方話語的瞬間,這樣你才能真正感受到對方的感受。

  • And then when you give a response that shows you're empathetic, then they think, oh, you're really smart and you're understanding.

    然後,當你的回答顯示出你的同理心時,他們就會覺得,哦,你真的很聰明,你很善解人意。

  • The second thing you can do is to learn wisdom or philosophies that can be applicable to any situation.

    第二件事是學習適用於任何情況的智慧或哲學。

  • For example, the advice on this channel is not just study tips.

    例如,本頻道的建議不僅僅是學習技巧。

  • If you think about it, most of my advice is applicable to people who just want to level up in life in general.

    仔細想想,我的大部分建議都適用於那些只想提高生活水準的人。

  • People have called me smart not because I'm some genius with a high IQ, but because I give holistic advice that reaches and helps people on a deeper level.

    人們說我聰明,並不是因為我是智商很高的天才,而是因為我提供的整體建議能在更深層次上觸及並幫助人們。

  • One way that you can learn philosophies and additional wisdom that I don't share on this channel is in my free newsletter.

    你可以從我的免費時事通訊中學習到我沒有在這個頻道上分享的哲理和其他智慧。

  • You can sign up for that in my description box.

    您可以在我的描述框中註冊。

  • An example of a newsletter I sent with wisdom is where I shared how you can achieve more with this mindset.

    我曾發送過一份充滿智慧的通訊,其中的一個例子就是我分享瞭如何用這種心態取得更大的成就。

  • If your friend is struggling with something and their words are all littered with, I can't, then tell them, instead of thinking, I can't, think, how can I blank?

    如果你的朋友正在為某件事情掙扎,而他們的言語中充斥著 "我不能",那麼請告訴他們,不要想 "我不能",而是想想 "我怎麼能一片空白呢?

  • You can also tell them that this is an abundance mindset instead of a scarcity mindset.

    你還可以告訴他們,這是一種富足心態,而不是匱乏心態。

  • And boom, the more you can give helpful advice to other people, the more they will appreciate your mind and the smarter you will be about solving your own problems.

    而且,你越是能給別人提供有益的建議,別人就越會欣賞你的頭腦,你也會更聰明地解決自己的問題。

  • The third way is to value people's internal beauty.

    第三種方法是重視人的內在美。

  • If you want to be smart and perceived as smart, that means that you want to place emphasis on what's on the inside, right?

    如果你想變得聰明,讓別人覺得你聰明,那就意味著你要重視內在的東西,對嗎?

  • So if you want other people to see what you have on the inside, then you need to genuinely value that as well instead of just looking at outside appearances.

    是以,如果你想讓別人看到你的內在,那麼你也需要真正重視這一點,而不是隻看外表。

  • When you start admiring people for who they are on the inside rather than just the clout they have, you're going to subconsciously be able to feel and think about things deeply and in a more smart way.

    當你開始欣賞別人的內在,而不僅僅是他們所擁有的影響力時,你就會下意識地以一種更聰明的方式去深刻地感受和思考問題。

  • Then automatically and naturally, your language that you use on a daily basis will reflect how you value deeper things and not shallow things.

    這樣,你日常使用的語言就會自動、自然地反映出你是如何重視更深層次的東西,而不是膚淺的東西。

  • For example, once you place emphasis and prioritize your internal skills and characteristics, you won't care as much about materialistic new clothes, the latest celebrity.

    例如,一旦你重視並優先考慮自己的內在技能和特點,你就不會那麼在乎物質上的新衣服、最新的明星。

  • So that will lead you to speak about shallow things less as well.

    是以,這也會讓你少談膚淺的東西。

  • I can tell from your comments how deeply you think about things and reading your words makes me feel, wow, that person is so smart because they took a moment to reflect and give their own perspective.

    從你的評論中,我可以看出你對事物的思考有多深,讀到你的文字,我就會覺得,哇,這個人真聰明,因為他花了一點時間來思考,並提出了自己的觀點。

  • Because I admire that, then I myself will also speak in a more smart and deep way.

    因為我欽佩,所以我自己也會說得更睿智、更深刻。

  • Another way you can gain knowledge and be able to spit those random facts is by reading more books, watching more documentaries.

    另一種獲取知識並能隨口說出這些事實的方法是多看書、多看紀錄片。

  • When you take time to consume a long piece of content with a story, then you're more likely to remember that and be able to recall that in a conversation.

    當你花時間閱讀一篇有故事的長篇內容時,你就更有可能記住它,並在對話中回憶起它。

  • Giving examples and evidence in your spoken word just like in an essay is just as important to being smart and credible.

    在口語中舉例說明和提供證據,就像在文章中一樣,對於保持聰明和可信度同樣重要。

  • You want people to value your thoughts.

    你希望人們重視你的想法。

  • They do this when you give them good advice that also makes them think.

    當你給他們好的建議,同時也讓他們思考時,他們就會這樣做。

  • Something that makes them go, wow, I've never thought of that before.

    讓他們驚歎 "哇,我以前從未想到過 "的東西。

  • That's so helpful.

    太有用了

  • Being able to respond intelligently and show how someone's words move to you like you really listened will make people think very highly of you because that's also just being a good human at the end of the day.

    能夠明智地做出迴應,並表明別人的話是如何打動你的,就像你真的聽進去了一樣,這會讓別人對你產生很高的評價,因為說到底,這也只是做一個好人。

  • How to be interesting.

    如何變得有趣

  • So I read this quote somewhere, I don't remember where, but it's boring people are bored.

    我在哪裡讀到過這樣一句話,我不記得在哪裡了,但它說的是無聊的人很無聊。

  • So if you are sitting in your chair or on your couch all day bored, ah, well, might as well go scroll on TikTok.

    所以,如果你整天坐在椅子上或沙發上百無聊賴,不妨上 TikTok 看看。

  • Might as well be told what to put in my brain through a Netflix show.

    還不如通過 Netflix 的節目來告訴我往腦子裡灌輸什麼。

  • Then you likely are a boring person.

    那麼你很可能是一個無聊的人。

  • So how have the vibes been lately?

    最近感覺如何?

  • Low key.

    低調。

  • I just feel like life's been mad cringe lately.

    我只是覺得最近的生活太瘋狂了。

  • And how's your Riz?

    你的瑞茲怎麼樣了?

  • Mid, no cap, on God.

    中,沒有帽子,在上帝身上。

  • When I'm bored, I realize, huh, I must be boring because I don't have an interest or a hobby I would love to do right now to get me not bored.

    當我感到無聊時,我會意識到,我一定很無聊,因為我現在沒有興趣或愛好讓我不無聊。

  • Thus, to be interesting, have real interests.

    是以,要想有趣,就要有真正的興趣。

  • Think about some acquaintance you have like that person, let's call them Joe.

    想想你的某個熟人,就像那個人一樣,就叫他喬吧。

  • So Joe kind of knows you.

    那麼喬算是認識你了

  • Now, if someone asked Joe, what do you know about Amy?

    現在,如果有人問喬,你對艾米瞭解多少?

  • And Joe only says, I think she's nice.

    喬只說,我覺得她人不錯。

  • Well, then I don't see him very interesting, right?

    那我看他也沒什麼意思,對吧?

  • But if I have hobbies and passions that I'm always committed to, then probably word spreads around and Joe would be like, Oh, Amy, she likes playing tennis and she loves singing.

    但是,如果我有自己的愛好和激情,並一直致力於此,那麼很可能就會流傳開來,喬就會說,哦,艾米,她喜歡打網球,喜歡唱歌。

  • I think she has a YouTube channel.

    我想她有一個 YouTube 頻道。

  • Do you see how if you find things interesting and you commit time toward it, then people are also going to find you interesting.

    你是否明白,如果你覺得事情有趣,併為此投入時間,那麼人們也會覺得你有趣。

  • So number one, have hobbies.

    所以,第一,要有愛好。

  • Not too many because you want to be able to commit a lot of energy to each one so that it's obvious that you're actually passionate about it and you have something to show for it.

    不要太多,因為你希望能在每一個項目上都投入大量精力,這樣才能讓人明顯感覺到你確實對它充滿熱情,並能有所收穫。

  • Number two, have goals.

    第二,要有目標。

  • Have aspirations in life.

    要有人生理想。

  • I find that the most boring people are when I meet them and I ask them about what they do outside of work, what they think about life, and they just always say, I don't know.

    我發現最無聊的人是當我遇到他們,我問他們工作之外做什麼,對生活有什麼看法,他們總是說,我不知道。

  • So have some way of reflecting and know what your goals are.

    是以,要有一些反思的方法,知道自己的目標是什麼。

  • Number three, build transferable skills.

    第三,培養可遷移的技能。

  • Fantastic skills that will help you in all aspects of life are writing, being able to portray your thoughts in a clear, understandable way, problem-solving skills, ability to create content, coding.

    寫作、以清晰易懂的方式表達自己的想法、解決問題的技能、創建內容的能力、編碼,這些神奇的技能將在生活的各個方面對你有所幫助。

  • Once you build your repertoire of things you're good at, you might become known for that.

    一旦你積累了自己擅長的事情,你就可能是以而聞名。

  • So someone might be like, oh, you have a coding question?

    是以,有人可能會說,哦,你有一個編碼問題?

  • Go ask Amy.

    去問問艾米

  • Oh, you're stuck on writing an essay?

    哦,你被寫作文難住了?

  • Well, let's ask Amy a quick question.

    好吧,我們來問艾米一個簡單的問題。

  • You're interesting because it shows that you love life and you want to live it to the fullest you can by improving your human capital.

    你很有趣,因為這表明你熱愛生活,並希望通過提高自己的人力資本來充分享受生活。

  • I really admire people who have skills, not because of that skill itself, but because I know that it took a lot of time and commitment to get to that skilled point, to become a master.

    我非常欽佩那些擁有技能的人,不是因為技能本身,而是因為我知道,他們需要花費大量的時間和精力才能達到熟練的地步,成為大師。

  • And to do all of those things with hobbies, goals, and skills, you need to keep the mindset to convert time in a beneficial way to yourself.

    而要想通過興趣愛好、目標和技能來做所有這些事情,你需要保持一種心態,將時間轉換成對自己有益的方式。

  • That's the headline.

    這是標題。

  • If you're converting time in a way that's beneficial to yourself, you're going to be interesting.

    如果你把時間轉換成對自己有益的方式,你就會變得有趣。

  • Attractiveness.

    吸引力。

  • Okay, so yes, attractiveness is relatively subjective, but there are some universal things that I think many people would agree that increase your attractiveness.

    好吧,是的,吸引力是相對主觀的,但有一些普遍的東西,我想很多人都會同意能增加你的吸引力。

  • Health and fitness.

    健康與健身

  • Being healthy is super attractive.

    健康是一種超級魅力。

  • That shows that you value yourself and your body.

    這表明你重視自己和自己的身體。

  • If you don't even take care of yourself, then how can you expect other people to take care of you?

    如果你連自己都照顧不好,又怎麼能指望別人來照顧你呢?

  • With fitness and treating your body like a temple, know that discipline is so attractive.

    健身和把身體當作聖殿,要知道紀律是如此有魅力。

  • I like having and building abs, not because it's some beauty standard, but because they're a visible sign of my hard work and discipline.

    我喜歡擁有和鍛鍊腹肌,不是因為它是某種美麗的標準,而是因為它們是我努力工作和自律的明顯標誌。

  • When you make a decision based on how good that is for you, that is so attractive because that shows you value yourself and so other people will too.

    當你做出的決定是基於這對你有多好時,這就非常有吸引力,因為這表明你重視自己,所以其他人也會重視你。

  • Ask yourself, how does the way you carry yourself and treat your body reflect your self-esteem?

    捫心自問,你的舉止和對待身體的方式如何反映你的自尊?

  • Number two, dress for yourself.

    第二,穿得適合自己。

  • I had a phase in middle school where I would just copy what other people are wearing because that was all the validation I needed for looking cool.

    中學時,我曾有過一個模仿別人穿著的階段,因為這就是我所需要的 "酷 "的證明。

  • You know how clothes are sometimes like a second skin?

    你知道衣服有時就像人的第二層皮膚?

  • Well, sometimes I wouldn't even feel comfortable in my own skin because the clothes wouldn't really represent what I wanted to wear.

    有時候,我甚至連穿上自己的皮膚都覺得不自在,因為衣服並不能真正代表我想穿的樣子。

  • Since it wasn't purely based on my own taste to wear that thing, the clothes were wearing me.

    因為穿那件衣服並不純粹是我自己的喜好,而是衣服在穿我。

  • I wasn't wearing the clothes.

    我沒穿衣服

  • And people can feel that lack of confidence when you're not comfortable in your own skin.

    當你感到不自在時,人們會感受到你缺乏自信。

  • So in college, I picked the pieces that I thought were so unique and cool just because I thought they were unique and cool.

    是以,在大學裡,我挑選那些我認為獨特、酷的作品,只是因為我認為它們獨特、酷。

  • And then I kind of became a trendsetter among my friends because they're like, oh, your fashion's so cool because you're so willing to try new things and just wear whatever the heck you want.

    然後我就成了我朋友中的潮流引領者,因為他們會說,哦,你的時尚太酷了,因為你很願意嘗試新事物,想穿什麼就穿什麼。

  • So dress for yourself.

    所以,穿衣要適合自己。

  • Three, set boundaries.

    三,設定界限。

  • Don't be a yes man.

    不要唯唯諾諾

  • People feel like they can push yes men around and that's not very attractive.

    人們覺得自己可以把 "是 "的男人推來推去,而這並不具有吸引力。

  • So if you actually don't want to go to that party everyone else is going to, then reject them.

    所以,如果你真的不想參加那個別人都要去的派對,那就拒絕他們。

  • Have strength and conviction in your own decisions and what you want to do.

    對自己的決定和想做的事充滿力量和信念。

  • Making choices for yourself means that you have confidence behind your own judgment.

    為自己做出選擇意味著你對自己的判斷有信心。

  • You are your own person that won't just conform to everyone else and you're not just living on autopilot.

    你是自己的人,不會隨波逐流,也不會自以為是地生活。

  • You know FOMO, fear of missing out?

    你知道 FOMO(害怕錯過)吧?

  • Well, replace that with JOMO, the joy of missing out.

    那麼,就用 JOMO("錯過的快樂")來代替吧。

  • In high school, I might miss football games because I wanted to study for my chemistry test.

    高中時,我可能會因為要複習化學考試而錯過足球比賽。

  • And guess what?

    你猜怎麼著?

  • Sticking by my own priorities not only got me better grades and better results but people will also know that you're the kind of person that stands by what you say.

    堅持自己的優先事項不僅能讓我取得更好的成績和結果,而且別人也會知道你是那種言出必行的人。

  • Four, there's a reason why confidence can literally transform a person's attractiveness regardless of what clothes they're wearing regardless of what they look like and regardless of what makeup they have on.

    四,無論穿什麼衣服,無論長相如何,無論化什麼妝,自信都能真正改變一個人的吸引力,這是有原因的。

  • I used to purposefully act more shy and unconfident because I thought that if I acted too confident then people would be like, who are you?

    我曾經故意表現得比較害羞和不自信,因為我覺得如果我表現得太自信,別人就會問,你是誰?

  • Like you have no reason to be confident and they would look down on me.

    就像你沒有理由自信,他們會看不起我一樣。

  • I believe that if people thought I was awkward and shy then being awkward and shy would affirm them and I would have nothing to lose.

    我相信,如果人們認為我笨拙、害羞,那麼笨拙、害羞就會得到他們的肯定,我也就沒有什麼可失去的了。

  • I was becoming the person that I feared I was perceived as.

    我正在變成我所擔心的那個人。

  • But those were the low points of my life where I was the biggest people pleaser ever.

    但那是我人生的谷底,我是有史以來最討人喜歡的人。

  • So this goes back to what I said earlier about valuing yourself and why confidence is so important because how can you get people to value you if you don't even value yourself?

    這又回到了我之前所說的重視自己,以及為什麼自信如此重要,因為如果你連自己都不重視,又怎麼能讓別人重視你呢?

  • I talked about how to gain confidence in my confidence video.

    我在自信視頻中談到了如何獲得自信。

  • Like one of the things is to improve your skills and competence because then you have a reason to be confident.

    其中之一就是提高自己的技能和能力,因為這樣你才有理由自信。

  • So when I realized the value I can bring to the table gradually that self-esteem grew and the way that I smiled even changed.

    是以,當我意識到自己的價值時,我的自尊心逐漸增強,甚至連微笑的方式都變了。

  • Like my smile became bigger, more natural, began to light up my whole face rather than just being this grin shape.

    就像我的笑容變得更大、更自然,開始照亮我的整張臉,而不僅僅是咧嘴笑。

  • Real attractiveness is like an aura.

    真正的吸引力就像光環。

  • You can't explain it because you can have the exact same smile from A to B but the whole vibe is just different when you have confidence in one picture and not in another.

    你無法解釋這一點,因為你可以從 A 到 B 保持完全相同的微笑,但當你在一張照片上有自信,而在另一張照片上沒有自信時,整個氛圍就是不一樣的。

  • This leads into the twist.

    這就引出了轉折。

  • You ready?

    準備好了嗎?

  • Remember how I said at the beginning of the video that I wanted to be perceived as smart, interesting, and attractive by my peers?

    還記得我在視頻開頭說過,我希望在同齡人眼中,我是一個聰明、有趣、有魅力的人嗎?

  • Well, the real glow up comes from within.

    真正的光彩來自內心。

  • You need to work on the things that make you believe that you are smart, interesting, and attractive.

    你需要努力讓自己相信自己聰明、有趣、有魅力。

  • Act in alignment with those things.

    行動要與這些目標保持一致。

  • If you want to be a straight-A student, already believe that you are a straight-A student and do the actions that person would do.

    如果你想成為一名全優生,那麼你就應該相信自己是一名全優生,並以全優生的標準來要求自己。

  • Like I said earlier, if you want to have high self-esteem, give yourself a reason to have high self-esteem.

    就像我之前說的,如果你想擁有高自尊,那就給自己一個擁有高自尊的理由。

  • Act like you're trying to compliment yourself.

    表現得好像你在誇獎自己。

  • Look at yourself in the mirror and be like, You're great because you X, Y, Z.

    看著鏡子裡的自己,說 "你很棒,因為你有 X、Y、Z"。

  • Be able to give yourself reasons and cheer yourself on like you're your biggest fan.

    要善於給自己找理由,為自己加油打氣,就像你最忠實的粉絲一樣。

  • If you can't give yourself reasons for why you're so great, then that's the first issue to fix.

    如果你不能給自己為什麼這麼棒的理由,那麼這就是首先要解決的問題。

  • You cannot ask for other people to find you worthy.

    你不能要求別人覺得你有價值。

  • You have to see your own worth first.

    你必須首先看到自己的價值。