Name: 如何成為今年夏天的那個學生 (How to become THAT student THIS summer)
Uploaded: 2024-06-16T08:43:48.000Z
Duration: 14 min 48 s

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Do you want to be smart, interesting, and attractive?

你想變得聰明、有趣、有魅力嗎？

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I wanted to be known as all of those things in school, but I was constantly worried that people thought I was unattractive and awkward, so during my teenage years, I was very unconfident and shy.

在學校裡，我希望自己能有這些優點，但我總是擔心別人覺得我不好看、笨拙，所以在青少年時期，我非常不自信，也很害羞。

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Now, I'm someone that my younger self had always dreamed of becoming, and more, because never could I have imagined that I would be putting my face in front of thousands of strangers to judge.

現在，我成為了年輕時的自己一直夢想成為的人，甚至更多，因為我從未想到過我會把自己的臉放在成千上萬的陌生人面前接受評判。

But this glow-up in all different aspects and confidence took me many, many years to get to, and because I'm the older sister in the family, I had no one to tell me what to do to make it easier.

但這種各方面的光彩和自信是我花了很多很多年才達到的，而且因為我是家裡的姐姐，沒有人告訴我該怎麼做才能讓我更輕鬆。

It was a rough journey, so I'm here to help make your glow-up way easier.

這是一段艱難的旅程，所以我在這裡可以幫助你更輕鬆地煥發光彩。

Today, I'm spilling the secrets that I wish I knew about becoming smarter, more attractive, and interesting.

今天，我將向大家分享我希望自己知道的關於變得更聰明、更有魅力、更有趣的祕密。

Make sure to stay to the end of the video for a little twist.

請務必留到視頻的最後看一個小轉折。

Being smart, and also being perceived as smart, can be very advantageous.

聰明，以及被認為聰明，都是非常有利的。

How can you be smarter and be perceived as smart?

如何才能變得更聰明，並讓人覺得你很聰明？

The easiest way to do this, no, is not from your report card, but it's with your ability to contribute to conversations.

要做到這一點，最簡單的方法不是從你的成績單上看，而是從你在對話中的貢獻能力上看。

One, listen to what people are saying instead of just hearing it.

第一，傾聽別人的發言，而不僅僅是聽。

I used to be really awkward and have a hard time talking with people, so I'd seem really dumb because I would only be hearing the words they're saying passively.

我以前真的很笨拙，很難與人交談，所以我會顯得很笨，因為我只能被動地聽到他們說的話。

Instead of listening intently to their meaning and processing it so I can have something to say back.

而不是認真傾聽他們的意思並加以處理，這樣我才能有話可回。

So instead of just letting the words go in one ear and out the other, and being so stressed about what to say next, Be so absorbed in the moment of their words so you can really feel how the other person feels.

是以，與其任由對方的話語從你的耳朵裡溜走，為下一句該說什麼而緊張，不如沉浸在對方話語的瞬間，這樣你才能真正感受到對方的感受。

And then when you give a response that shows you're empathetic, then they think, oh, you're really smart and you're understanding.

然後，當你的回答顯示出你的同理心時，他們就會覺得，哦，你真的很聰明，你很善解人意。

The second thing you can do is to learn wisdom or philosophies that can be applicable to any situation.

第二件事是學習適用於任何情況的智慧或哲學。

For example, the advice on this channel is not just study tips.

例如，本頻道的建議不僅僅是學習技巧。

If you think about it, most of my advice is applicable to people who just want to level up in life in general.

仔細想想，我的大部分建議都適用於那些只想提高生活水準的人。

People have called me smart not because I'm some genius with a high IQ, but because I give holistic advice that reaches and helps people on a deeper level.

人們說我聰明，並不是因為我是智商很高的天才，而是因為我提供的整體建議能在更深層次上觸及並幫助人們。

One way that you can learn philosophies and additional wisdom that I don't share on this channel is in my free newsletter.

你可以從我的免費時事通訊中學習到我沒有在這個頻道上分享的哲理和其他智慧。

You can sign up for that in my description box.

An example of a newsletter I sent with wisdom is where I shared how you can achieve more with this mindset.

我曾發送過一份充滿智慧的通訊，其中的一個例子就是我分享瞭如何用這種心態取得更大的成就。

If your friend is struggling with something and their words are all littered with, I can't, then tell them, instead of thinking, I can't, think, how can I blank?

如果你的朋友正在為某件事情掙扎，而他們的言語中充斥著 "我不能"，那麼請告訴他們，不要想 "我不能"，而是想想 "我怎麼能一片空白呢？

You can also tell them that this is an abundance mindset instead of a scarcity mindset.

你還可以告訴他們，這是一種富足心態，而不是匱乏心態。

And boom, the more you can give helpful advice to other people, the more they will appreciate your mind and the smarter you will be about solving your own problems.

而且，你越是能給別人提供有益的建議，別人就越會欣賞你的頭腦，你也會更聰明地解決自己的問題。

The third way is to value people's internal beauty.

第三種方法是重視人的內在美。

If you want to be smart and perceived as smart, that means that you want to place emphasis on what's on the inside, right?

如果你想變得聰明，讓別人覺得你聰明，那就意味著你要重視內在的東西，對嗎？

So if you want other people to see what you have on the inside, then you need to genuinely value that as well instead of just looking at outside appearances.

是以，如果你想讓別人看到你的內在，那麼你也需要真正重視這一點，而不是隻看外表。

When you start admiring people for who they are on the inside rather than just the clout they have, you're going to subconsciously be able to feel and think about things deeply and in a more smart way.

當你開始欣賞別人的內在，而不僅僅是他們所擁有的影響力時，你就會下意識地以一種更聰明的方式去深刻地感受和思考問題。

Then automatically and naturally, your language that you use on a daily basis will reflect how you value deeper things and not shallow things.

這樣，你日常使用的語言就會自動、自然地反映出你是如何重視更深層次的東西，而不是膚淺的東西。

For example, once you place emphasis and prioritize your internal skills and characteristics, you won't care as much about materialistic new clothes, the latest celebrity.

例如，一旦你重視並優先考慮自己的內在技能和特點，你就不會那麼在乎物質上的新衣服、最新的明星。

So that will lead you to speak about shallow things less as well.

是以，這也會讓你少談膚淺的東西。

I can tell from your comments how deeply you think about things and reading your words makes me feel, wow, that person is so smart because they took a moment to reflect and give their own perspective.

從你的評論中，我可以看出你對事物的思考有多深，讀到你的文字，我就會覺得，哇，這個人真聰明，因為他花了一點時間來思考，並提出了自己的觀點。

Because I admire that, then I myself will also speak in a more smart and deep way.

因為我欽佩，所以我自己也會說得更睿智、更深刻。

Another way you can gain knowledge and be able to spit those random facts is by reading more books, watching more documentaries.

另一種獲取知識並能隨口說出這些事實的方法是多看書、多看紀錄片。

When you take time to consume a long piece of content with a story, then you're more likely to remember that and be able to recall that in a conversation.

當你花時間閱讀一篇有故事的長篇內容時，你就更有可能記住它，並在對話中回憶起它。

Giving examples and evidence in your spoken word just like in an essay is just as important to being smart and credible.

在口語中舉例說明和提供證據，就像在文章中一樣，對於保持聰明和可信度同樣重要。

They do this when you give them good advice that also makes them think.

當你給他們好的建議，同時也讓他們思考時，他們就會這樣做。

Something that makes them go, wow, I've never thought of that before.

讓他們驚歎 "哇，我以前從未想到過 "的東西。

Being able to respond intelligently and show how someone's words move to you like you really listened will make people think very highly of you because that's also just being a good human at the end of the day.

能夠明智地做出迴應，並表明別人的話是如何打動你的，就像你真的聽進去了一樣，這會讓別人對你產生很高的評價，因為說到底，這也只是做一個好人。

So I read this quote somewhere, I don't remember where, but it's boring people are bored.

我在哪裡讀到過這樣一句話，我不記得在哪裡了，但它說的是無聊的人很無聊。

So if you are sitting in your chair or on your couch all day bored, ah, well, might as well go scroll on TikTok.

所以，如果你整天坐在椅子上或沙發上百無聊賴，不妨上 TikTok 看看。

Might as well be told what to put in my brain through a Netflix show.

還不如通過 Netflix 的節目來告訴我往腦子裡灌輸什麼。

那麼你很可能是一個無聊的人。

I just feel like life's been mad cringe lately.

我只是覺得最近的生活太瘋狂了。

When I'm bored, I realize, huh, I must be boring because I don't have an interest or a hobby I would love to do right now to get me not bored.

當我感到無聊時，我會意識到，我一定很無聊，因為我現在沒有興趣或愛好讓我不無聊。

Thus, to be interesting, have real interests.

是以，要想有趣，就要有真正的興趣。

Think about some acquaintance you have like that person, let's call them Joe.

想想你的某個熟人，就像那個人一樣，就叫他喬吧。

Now, if someone asked Joe, what do you know about Amy?

現在，如果有人問喬，你對艾米瞭解多少？

Well, then I don't see him very interesting, right?

那我看他也沒什麼意思，對吧？

But if I have hobbies and passions that I'm always committed to, then probably word spreads around and Joe would be like, Oh, Amy, she likes playing tennis and she loves singing.

但是，如果我有自己的愛好和激情，並一直致力於此，那麼很可能就會流傳開來，喬就會說，哦，艾米，她喜歡打網球，喜歡唱歌。

Do you see how if you find things interesting and you commit time toward it, then people are also going to find you interesting.

你是否明白，如果你覺得事情有趣，併為此投入時間，那麼人們也會覺得你有趣。

Not too many because you want to be able to commit a lot of energy to each one so that it's obvious that you're actually passionate about it and you have something to show for it.

不要太多，因為你希望能在每一個項目上都投入大量精力，這樣才能讓人明顯感覺到你確實對它充滿熱情，並能有所收穫。

I find that the most boring people are when I meet them and I ask them about what they do outside of work, what they think about life, and they just always say, I don't know.

我發現最無聊的人是當我遇到他們，我問他們工作之外做什麼，對生活有什麼看法，他們總是說，我不知道。

So have some way of reflecting and know what your goals are.

是以，要有一些反思的方法，知道自己的目標是什麼。

Fantastic skills that will help you in all aspects of life are writing, being able to portray your thoughts in a clear, understandable way, problem-solving skills, ability to create content, coding.

寫作、以清晰易懂的方式表達自己的想法、解決問題的技能、創建內容的能力、編碼，這些神奇的技能將在生活的各個方面對你有所幫助。

Once you build your repertoire of things you're good at, you might become known for that.

一旦你積累了自己擅長的事情，你就可能是以而聞名。

So someone might be like, oh, you have a coding question?

是以，有人可能會說，哦，你有一個編碼問題？

好吧，我們來問艾米一個簡單的問題。

You're interesting because it shows that you love life and you want to live it to the fullest you can by improving your human capital.

你很有趣，因為這表明你熱愛生活，並希望通過提高自己的人力資本來充分享受生活。

I really admire people who have skills, not because of that skill itself, but because I know that it took a lot of time and commitment to get to that skilled point, to become a master.

我非常欽佩那些擁有技能的人，不是因為技能本身，而是因為我知道，他們需要花費大量的時間和精力才能達到熟練的地步，成為大師。

And to do all of those things with hobbies, goals, and skills, you need to keep the mindset to convert time in a beneficial way to yourself.

而要想通過興趣愛好、目標和技能來做所有這些事情，你需要保持一種心態，將時間轉換成對自己有益的方式。

If you're converting time in a way that's beneficial to yourself, you're going to be interesting.

如果你把時間轉換成對自己有益的方式，你就會變得有趣。

Okay, so yes, attractiveness is relatively subjective, but there are some universal things that I think many people would agree that increase your attractiveness.

好吧，是的，吸引力是相對主觀的，但有一些普遍的東西，我想很多人都會同意能增加你的吸引力。

That shows that you value yourself and your body.

這表明你重視自己和自己的身體。

If you don't even take care of yourself, then how can you expect other people to take care of you?

如果你連自己都照顧不好，又怎麼能指望別人來照顧你呢？

With fitness and treating your body like a temple, know that discipline is so attractive.

健身和把身體當作聖殿，要知道紀律是如此有魅力。

I like having and building abs, not because it's some beauty standard, but because they're a visible sign of my hard work and discipline.

我喜歡擁有和鍛鍊腹肌，不是因為它是某種美麗的標準，而是因為它們是我努力工作和自律的明顯標誌。

When you make a decision based on how good that is for you, that is so attractive because that shows you value yourself and so other people will too.

當你做出的決定是基於這對你有多好時，這就非常有吸引力，因為這表明你重視自己，所以其他人也會重視你。

Ask yourself, how does the way you carry yourself and treat your body reflect your self-esteem?

捫心自問，你的舉止和對待身體的方式如何反映你的自尊？

I had a phase in middle school where I would just copy what other people are wearing because that was all the validation I needed for looking cool.

中學時，我曾有過一個模仿別人穿著的階段，因為這就是我所需要的 "酷 "的證明。

You know how clothes are sometimes like a second skin?

你知道衣服有時就像人的第二層皮膚？

Well, sometimes I wouldn't even feel comfortable in my own skin because the clothes wouldn't really represent what I wanted to wear.

有時候，我甚至連穿上自己的皮膚都覺得不自在，因為衣服並不能真正代表我想穿的樣子。

Since it wasn't purely based on my own taste to wear that thing, the clothes were wearing me.

因為穿那件衣服並不純粹是我自己的喜好，而是衣服在穿我。

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