My name is Colin and I'm a student at Yale University studying computer science.

我叫科林，是耶魯大學電腦科學專業的學生。

And in this video, I'm gonna give you the dark confidence aesthetic that you can easily use to become more attractive as an introvert.

在這部影片中，我將為你介紹暗黑自信美學，讓內向的你輕鬆變得更有魅力。

If you look at people like James Bond, Bruce Wayne or Ryan Reynolds, they're all confident introverts.

如果你看看詹姆斯龐德、布魯斯韋恩或萊恩·雷諾斯等人，他們都是自信的內向者。

They all have this dark confidence and this mysterious charisma that's so attractive.

他們都有一種暗藏的自信和神祕的魅力，這種魅力非常吸引人。

So if you're an introvert, let me tell you right now, you can use it to your advantage.

所以，如果你是一個內向的人，讓我現在告訴你，你可以利用它來發揮你的優勢。

And in this video, I'll teach you exactly how.

在這部影片中，我將教你具體的方法。

So the first thing you want to do is change your mindset on what an introvert is.

你要做的第一件事就是改變你對內向者的看法。

Most people think that introverts are just shy people.

大多數人認為內向的人只是害羞的人。

That's completely wrong.

這是完全錯誤的。

Being an introvert simply means that you recharge your energy being alone and that you're comfortable being alone.

作為一個內向的人，這僅僅意味著你可以通過獨處來補充能量，而且你可以自在地獨處。

Guys, confidence isn't "I know they'll like me."

各位，有自信並不是「我知道他們會喜歡我」。

It's "I'm OK if they don't."

而是「如果他們不喜歡我也沒關係」。

You gotta have that self-belief and purpose where you don't have to say a lot in social interactions, but you like your actions speak for themselves.

你必須有自信和目標，在社交互動中不必說太多，但你要讓你的行動不言而喻。

You ask more questions, you listen more and you just naturally radiate that inner confidence.

你問更多的問題，你多傾聽，你就會自然地散發出內心的自信。

Also, if you're an introvert, you're probably introspective. You probably think about a lot of things while you're taking a shower or while you're walking.

另外，如果你是個內向的人，你可能會內省。 當你洗澡或走路時，你可能會想很多事情。

And most likely, you know what you want, whether that be to ace an exam in school or getting a strong aesthetic body or building a personal brand online.

最有可能的是，你知道自己想要什麼，無論是在學校考試中取得好成績，還是獲得強大的美學體質或在網路上建立個人品牌。

This is good.

這很好。

That kind of self-awareness and intelligence is just super, super attractive.

這種自我意識和智慧是超級超級吸引人的。

So if you're an introvert, you absolutely should be confident in yourself.

如果你是一個內向的人，你絕對應該對自己充滿信心。

And once you change your mindset, you'll just become much more powerful.

一旦你改變了心態，你就會變得更加強大。

So the next thing you want to do is learn some social game.

接下來你要做的就是學習社交。

Guys, being social is not an exclusive personality trait for extroverts. That is a complete lie.

各位，社交並不是外向者獨有的性格特質。 這完全是謊言。

Being social is a skill that you can learn as an introvert.

作為一個內向的人，社交是一項可以學習的技能。

So the main thing you want to do is learn how to network with people and provide value in social circles.

你要做的最主要的事情就是學會如何與人交往，並在社交圈中提供價值。

And there are three really easy and effective ways you can do this.

有三種簡單有效的方法可以做到這一點。

The first thing you want to do is compliment people without any hidden ask.

你要做的第一件事就是讚美別人，不要有任何隱藏的要求。

This is one of the best pieces of advice I got on networking.

這是我在人際交往中得到的最好的建議之一。

When you like someone's stuff, maybe it's a book they wrote or maybe it's a YouTube video they posted, tell them immediately. DM them instantly and don't ask for anything.

當你喜歡一個人的時候，也許是他寫的一本書，也許是他發佈的一個 YouTube 影片，請立即告訴他。私訊他並不要要求任何回報。

Or if you're in class and you really like your friends' outfit for the day, say to them.

或者，如果你在課堂上並且非常喜歡朋友當天的著裝，請告訴他們。

Nowadays, it's very rare to just be appreciated without a hidden ask.

如今，很少有人會在不提出隱性要求的情況下得到讚賞。

And if you do this over time, of course, has to be genuine and real, you'll have a huge social network without even trying.

如果你長時間這樣做（當然必須是真誠和真實的）你將擁有一個巨大的社交網絡，甚至無需嘗試。

Now, the second thing you want to do is become a good listener.

現在，你要做的第二件事就是成為一個好的傾聽者。

If you're an introvert, this is easier for you to do.

如果你性格內向，這對你來說更容易做到。

People like to talk about themselves and they like to be heard.

人們喜歡談論自己，也喜歡被傾聽。

So when it comes to social interactions, you want to be the type of person who asks more questions and who listen. You want to try to get in that other person's spirit.

因此，在社交互動時，你會希望成為那種多問問題、多傾聽的人。 你想嘗試進入那個人的精神世界。

So for example, when I'm on a date with a girl, I'm probably speaking 20% to 30% of the time, I'm more laid back chill and I let her invest more.

舉個例子，當我和一個女孩約會時，我可能有 20% 到 30% 的時間在說話，我會更放鬆，讓她講更多。

This is something that I don't hear a lot of people talking about, but it's so, so powerful.

我很少聽到有人談及這一點，但它卻如此強有力。

And you also get to build a deeper connection with that person where you can understand their struggles. You can understand their goals and aspirations.

而且你也可以與那個人建立更深層的聯繫，了解他們的掙扎。 你可以了解他們的目標和願望。

Also, you don't have to force any interaction or conversation, like even sometimes that tension and silence is attractive.

另外，你不必強迫任何互動或對話，就像有時緊張和沈默很有吸引力。

Now, the third thing you want to do is guard your attention.

現在，你要做的第三件事是保護你的注意力。

Yes, you want to be a good listener, but it doesn't mean that you should just listen to everyone.

是的，你想成為一個好的傾聽者，但這並不意味著你應該只傾聽每個人的聲音。

So for example, I'm very particular in where I put my energy. I place a lot of value in my personal attention because I know it's limited and valuable.

舉例來說，我非常注重我的精力投入的地方。 我非常重視我的個人注意力，因為我知道它是有限的且有價值的。

So if you're in an interaction and you don't see it going anywhere, you feel like it's a waste of your time, be willing to walk away.

因此，如果你正在進行互動，但看不到任何進展，你覺得這是浪費時間，請願意離開。

"You know what, Sarah? Honestly, it's very nice to meet you. But I don't think this is gonna work. I kind of know what I want and I don't wanna waste your time."

「你知道嗎，莎拉？說實話，很高興見到你。但我認為我們行不通。我知道自己想要什麼，我不想浪費你的時間。」

Be a little bit more nonchalant and relaxed. Just like that.

不慌不忙，放鬆一點。就是這樣。

Guys, keeping your frame is very, very powerful.

各位，保持你的框架是非常非常強大的。

You don't have to please everyone, but at the very least, be real, be authentic because that's what makes you look more mysterious and it's very attractive.

你不必取悅所有人，但至少要真實，因為這會讓你看起來更神秘，也更有吸引力。

Now, the next thing you wanna do is fix your body language.

你要做的下一件事就是修正你的肢體語言。

A couple of easy things you can do here. The first one is to be chill and non-reactive.

您可以在這裡做一些簡單的事情。 第一個是保持冷靜，不要做出反應。

The reason why James bond, for example, is very attractive is because he's witty and he controls his sense of emotions.

例如，詹姆斯龐德之所以非常有吸引力，是因為他很機智，而且他控制自己的情緒。

He has that cheeky self-assured smile that just exudes confidence and makes other people lean into him.

他有著厚臉皮自信的微笑，散發著自信，讓其他人向他靠攏。

So you want to relax yourself.

所以你想讓自己放鬆一下。

Now, the next thing you want to do is stand up straight and make sure your shoulders are relaxed.

現在，你要做的下一件事就是站直，確保肩膀放鬆。

You need to start walking like you're a man. Like you're on a mission.

你得開始像個男人一樣走路，就像你在執行任務一樣。

Now, one more thing. When you're speaking, speak clearly, maybe speak a little bit slower, and I guarantee if you follow these body language tips, you'll radiate that inner dark confidence.

現在，還有一件事，當你說話時，口齒要清晰，語速可以稍微慢一點，我保證，如果你遵循了這些肢體語言技巧，你就會散發出內在的深沉自信。

So the final thing you want to do is build abundance and mastery in a skill.

你要做的最後一件事，就是建立豐富的技能，掌握一技之長。

Guys, you don't want to fake confidence. It has to be real.

各位你們不要假裝自信。自信必須是真實的。

And the way you get real confidence is through competence.

而獲得真正自信的方式是通過能力。

It's through the ability to say, "You know what? I have an undeniable proof that I am who I say I am."

這是透過說「你知道嗎？我有不可否認的證據證明我就是我所說的那個人」的能力。

It is through having that abundance in your life.

它是通過在你的生活中擁有這種富足。

Whether that be having a body you're proud of, getting amazing grades in school or just smashing your personal goals and projects that you build that real confidence.

無論是擁有好身材，還是在學校取得優異成績，抑或是實現自己的個人目標和項目，都能讓你建立起真正的自信。

Now, you also want to build momentum.

你還要建立動力。

So how do you build momentum?

那麼，如何建立動力呢？

By far the easiest way to do this is by mastering one area of your life.

最簡單的方法就是掌握生活中的一個領域。

So for example, if you have an exam coming up and you study smart and ace your exam, you build confidence in academics.

是以，舉個例子，如果你馬上要考試了，你聰明地學習並在考試中取得了好成績，你就會在學業上建立起信心。

You build confidence in school, and naturally, when you build confidence in one area of your life, you have more confidence in other areas.

在學校裡建立起信心，自然而然，當你在生活的一個領域建立起信心時，你就會在其他領域建立起更多的信心。

Like for example, fitness. That small win will ripple your confidence in every single area of your life.

比如說，健身，這小小的勝利會讓你的自信在生活的每一個領域盪漾開來。

And of course, it comes from putting in the effort and work every single day because ladies and gentlemen, effort compounds.

當然，這也來自於每天的努力和工作，因為女士們，先生們，努力會產生效果。

It comes from committing to going to the gym three times a week consistently.

它來自於堅持每週去健身房三次。

It comes from committing to reading 10 minutes every single day. And through your everyday habits, that is where it can build abundance.

它來自於承諾每天閱讀 10 分鐘。 透過你的日常習慣，這就是它可以累積豐富的地方。

And once you build that sort of abundance, people will just naturally come to you.

一旦你建立了這種豐厚的財富，人們就會自然而然地來找你。

Success will naturally come to you. You attract success.

成功自然會向你走來。

And that's one of the most beautiful things I hope you guys can experience in your life.

這是我希望你們一生中能夠經歷的最美麗的事情之一。

So I hope you guys got lots of value from this video.

所以，我希望你們能從這段影片中獲得很多價值。

If you did, make sure to smash that like button and subscribe to be part of the family.

如果你有，請務必按讚並訂閱，成為這個大家庭的一員。

God bless the hustle.

上帝保佑我們。

We'll all gonna win one day, and I'll see you in the next one.

總有一天我們都會成功，下次再見。