and I'm here today to answer questions from Twitter.

This is "Burial Support."

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@DZ1B21, "Why are the different shapes of caskets?"

Typically in the United States,

when we're talking about a receptacle to bury a dead body,

we talk about a casket.

A casket is rectangular.

Oftentimes in other parts of the world,

you're going to see what's called a coffin.

So a coffin is what we might call anthropoid shaped,

narrower at the top where the head is,

wider at the shoulders, and then narrow down at the feet.

Other countries around the world tend to use coffins,

and we use the term even colloquially

here in the United States.

So when you hear someone talk about grandma's in the coffin,

odds are good, she's in a rectangular casket.

@Lamia233, "Can you spread ashes anywhere,

or are there legal restrictions on that?"

This is such a good question,

and it's one I'm asked all the time.

Typically, a state does not really have a vested interest

on what you do with human cremated remains.

So you could scatter them essentially anywhere you like.

In my state, a family has visitation rights

where a person is scattered.

So if you scatter grandma in the bed of her garden,

you end up with visitation rights

to that flower bed in perpetuity.

You can also do other things with cremated remains.

You can have them made into jewelry,

you can buy small keepsake urns.

I've heard that you can press them into records.

There are all sorts of things that you can do with

cremated remains because they are simply,

pulverized bone dust, and they're inert carbons.

Everything that is organic in them is gone.

It's not going to feed a tree

as people commonly like to think,

but you can do with them mostly whatever you wish.

Here's a question from @PluckyDuckling.

"Are funeral pyres and Viking funerals a thing anymore?"

There is one place, Creststone in Colorado,

that does allow a funeral pyre.

So that does exist,

but you have to live in a very specific locale.

A funeral pyre as we're thinking of it here,

is usually a large pile of wood or other flammable material

that a body is set on top of,

and then the whole thing is set alight.

As far as Viking funerals, this is kind of a misnomer.

You're probably thinking of putting your loved one in a boat

with their hands on the pommel of their sword,

and pushing them out into the lake,

shooting flaming arrows at it until it goes up in flames.

Viking funerals actually weren't like that.

They were buried with their sword in boats

and all sorts of grave goods,

but the boat was dragged on land and buried intact.

Here's a question from @Signatur3.

"Why do people take photos of the dead

in a casket at funerals and post it on social media?

Please stop doing that."

Interesting thing, in most places,

the right to take a picture of the deceased

falls to the family.

So they can either allow it or disallow it.

But I agree, don't put it on social media,

that's something that should be kept

just for your own personal use.

Next up, we have a question from @Stancomb_Wills.

"Who gets to decide who gets invited to my funeral?"

The short answer is your family.

They can decide who will come,

and likewise, who is not allowed there.

Fun fact, you do not need an invitation to attend a funeral.

You can just show up.

Funeral crashing is a thing.

There was a girl that I used to know

back at one of the funeral homes I worked with.

Her first name was Bunny,

and Bunny would come to every funeral,

regardless of denomination and location,

and I am certain she didn't know that many people.

She came for those sweet, sweet scallop potatoes and ham.

Our next question is from @_Natebones.

"How come cemeteries never run outta space?"

Sometimes cemeteries do run out of space.

In larger metropolitan areas,

sometimes it's the case where families will actually

bury their loved ones on top of existing graves.

In certain other countries and in other parts of the world,

you actually just rent a grave space.

So for instance, in Germany,

your grave space is not your mom's or dad's forever,

but for a period of years, after which your rent expires,

they dig up the dead and they put them elsewhere

in a common grave usually.

Here's a question from Dr. Bum 4 fire .

"What is sky burial?"

Sky burial is a practice that takes place in Tibet or Nepal,

where bodies are actually left out and hacked apart

for condors and vultures to eat.

The way that they render a human body to just bones

is by letting animals do the work.

We have a question here from @TeaSpoon.

"Do funeral homes have busy times of the year,

or is it just dead all year?"

Fall and spring are gonna be the busier times of year.

Fall, because the weather change has something to do

with there being more deaths.

And spring is usually busier,

especially where I'm from, where it's cold

we have a normal workload, and then all sorts of burials

that we had to delay over winter.

That end stretch of winter into spring

when everything starts to melt,

the ground is simply too soggy

to even set foot in the cemetery,

let alone bring a whole line of cars and a casket.

From @KaiSchwa.

"Why are funeral homes always family owned?"

Interestingly enough, more and more,

we're seeing funeral homes get bought up

by corporate entities.

So it could be that your local funeral home,

despite being called The Smith Family Funeral Home,

is actually owned by a larger conglomerate

who might operate 5, 6, 10 funeral homes in your area.

I think you'll always find that the business

where you know the owner,

and they live in your locality and they shop at your stores,

are generally going to be more caring

and more transparent than the ones that are there

simply to turn a profit.

From @Harvey180.

"So I'm completing my organ donation form.

You can literally donate everything,

including skin, bones and tendons.

So how do funerals work,

because there will be nothing to put in the box?"

Most organ donation companies,

those procurers, they don't take everything.

They'll take the femur, they'll take some of the muscle,

they might even skin the whole thing

so it looks like one big nasty roast beef,

but then they also will provide us with a large wooden dowel

that's the exact shape of the femur.

So we can kind of rebuild the shape of the leg.

From Amy Bell,

"How do you talk to your children about death?

Would love to hear from parents

who have tackled this tough topic."

Probably my best piece of advice

for parents when they talk to kids about death,

is don't say, "It's like Grandpa fell asleep."

I think little kids can conflate the two.

I would say be honest with children about death.

Tell them the reality that that someone is no longer living.

Kids typically I think have a better handle on death,

and really, especially elementary school aged children,

I think they have a want to be involved

when they come to a funeral.

There's so many times where I see families come,

and they kind of shuffle the kids off somewhere else

and say that death is for adults.

But really death affects every single one of us.

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